tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-334261942024-03-13T12:31:29.774-07:00Love, Lust and Enlightenment ..LOVE: Would you enjoy transforming to ease, humor, forgiveness and fun every time your buttons were pushed ???
<br><br>LUST: What would change for your life with sex every day? <br><br>
ENLIGHTENMENT: Do you want to live in the present, full time? HAPPINESS full time? Love full time?<br><br>
PURPOSE: What is the big difference you wish to make?
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COACHING: Free Sample Session for those who want awakened joy, purpose, love and love making? chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.comBlogger996125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-1157745512610602212020-01-23T07:00:00.000-08:002020-01-23T11:29:24.467-08:00INDEX of all Postings 938 so far<b>Life is choices:</b><br />
<b>Chose waking up</b><br />
<b>We are either mindful or mindless.</b><br />
<b>Including right now.</b><br />
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<b>Love this moment.</b><br />
<b>It is your life.</b><br />
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<b>Smile.</b><br />
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<b>MARCH 2018</b><br />
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<b>938. March 29, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/03/want-better-sex-touch-is-start-we-are.html">Touch, the start to great sex</a></b><br />
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<b>937. March 17: Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/03/dont-believe-your-own-thinking.html">Don't Believe Your Own Thinking</a></b><br />
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<b>FEBRUARY 2018</b><br />
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<b>936. February 12, Monday: <a href="https://www.blogger.com/Gratitude%20as%20Foundation%20On%20June%2020,%202015,%20I%20walked%20half%20a%20block%20down%20my%20street%20in%20Austin,%20Texas,%20to%20meet%20a%20woman%20I%20knew%20and%20admired%20and%20liked,%20but%20with%20whom%20I%20thought%20I%20had%20no%20%E2%80%9Cromantic%E2%80%9D%20expectations.%20I%20had%20met%20her%20a%20mere%20three%20months%20before,%20in%20March.%20She%20had%20moved%20to%20Austin%20in%20February.%20Now%20in%20June%20it%20was%20a%20gentle%20summer%E2%80%99s%20day,%20and%20we%20were%20going%20to%20meet%20for%20a%20lunch%20and%20%E2%80%9Cstudy%E2%80%9D%20session.%20I%20was%20writing%20a%20book%20on%20radical%20listening.%20She%20was%20smart%20and%20kind%20and%20I%20wanted%20her%20input.%20Her%20name%20was%20Carol%20Williams%20then.%20It%E2%80%99s%20Carol%20Elms%20now.%20%20We%20thought%20we%20were%20meeting%20for%20an%20hour%20and%20a%20half.%20For%20lunch%20and%20a%20bit%20of%20her%20help%20on%20a%20book%20I%20was%20writing,%20the%20precursor%20to%20this%20one.%20Twelve%20hours%20later,%20at%20one%20am,%20as%20I%20pried%20myself%20out%20the%20door,%20to%20walk%20the%20half%20block%20back%20to%20my%20home,%20we%20both%20were%20almost%20certain%20we%E2%80%99d%20met%20the%20future%20lifetime%20partner%20that%20had%20a%20day%20before%20seemed%20%E2%80%9Calmost%20impossible%E2%80%9D%20to%20find.%20I%E2%80%99d%20written%20an%20%E2%80%9Calmost%20impossible%20goal%E2%80%9D%20to%20find%20a%20fabulous%20woman%20within%20walking%20distance.%20And%20an%20%E2%80%9Calmost%20impossible%20goal%E2%80%9D%20to%20find%20a%20lifetime%20partner%20at%2070%20years%20old.%20I%20hadn%E2%80%99t%20realized%20till%20that%20night%20that%20Carol%20was%20to%20be%20the%20answer%20to%20that%20request.%20And%20even%20with%20goals%20and%20prayers,%20without%20our%20both%20being%20immersed%20in%20gratitude%20I%20don%E2%80%99t%20think%20this%20%E2%80%9Cmiracle%E2%80%9D%20would%20have%20happened.%20Why?%20%20We%20all%20thrive%20in%20gratitude%E2%80%A6%20On%20that%20night,%20and%20since%20then,%20%20the%20practice%20of%20gratitude%20was%20a%20deeply%20embedded%20part%20of%20both%20our%20lives.%20Then,%20as%20now,%20I%20was%20writing%20in%20a%20%E2%80%9Cgratitude%20journal%E2%80%9D%20at%20least%20twice,%20often%20three%20or%20four%20or%20five%20times,%20a%20day.%20Carol,%20on%20that%20miracle%20day,%20had%20a%20steady%20background%20prayer%20life,%20of%20which%20gratitude%20and%20thanks%20was%20a%20significant%20part.%20Now%20she%20has%20a%20gratitude%20journal,%20too.%20Will%20you%20soon%20get%20a%20gratitude%20journal?%20Only%20if%20you%20want%20transformation%20as%20deeply%20and%20easily%20as%20possible.%20Don%E2%80%99t%20believe%20me,%20or%20anyone.%20Test%20drive%20gratitude%20right%20now.%20Mini-game:%20Think%20of%203%20things%20you%20are%20grateful%20for.%20Does%20something%20shift?%20How%20does%20this%20work?%20%20The%20Power%20of%20Gratitude%20Gratitude%20focuses%20our%20hearts%20and%20minds%20on%20what%20we%20like%20and%20love%20in%20life,%20what%20is%20going%20well%20in%20our%20life,%20what%20we%20are%20thankful%20for%20and%20want%20more%20of.%20Instead%20of%20wasting%20time%20and%20mental%20energy%20on%20worry%20or%20complaining,%20gratitude%20allows%20us%20to%20look%20at%20life%20from%20a%20peaceful%20and%20open%20heart.%20With%20an%20eager%20heart%20alert%20to%20what%20has%20gone%20well%20in%20the%20past,%20we%20are%20primed%20to%20be%20looking%20forward%20to%20more%20%E2%80%9Cgood%20stuff%E2%80%9D%20unfolding%20each%20day.%20Gratitude%20has%20us%20focused%20on%20what%20we%20want%20more%20of%20in%20life,%20not%20what%20we%20want%20less.%20Modern%20research%20has%20shown%20what%20ancient%20wisdom%20has%20long%20suspected:%20the%20brain%20(and%20person)%20can%20be%20in%20either%20fear%20or%20gratitude.%20Carol%20and%20I%20were%20tuned%20in%20to%20what%20we%20appreciated%20about%20our%20lives.%20This%20made%20it%20far%20easier%20to%20tune%20into%20what%20we%20could%20appreciate%20in%20the%20other%20person.%20And%20then,%20twelve%20hours%20after%20I%E2%80%99d%20walked%20in%20the%20door,%20we%20dragged%20ourselves%20apart.%20%20The%20next%20day%20we%20went%20to%20an%20amazing%20Austin%20church%20together.%20Soon%20we%20were%20engaged.%20And%20the%20deeper%20%E2%80%9CYes%E2%80%9D%20came%20on%20March%205,%202016,%20the%20day%20of%20our%20marriage.%20Our%20ninth%20wedding%20vow%20(all%20of%20which%20we%20recite%20to%20each%20other%20every%20morning)%20is:%20%20We%20are%20joyfully%20creating%20a%20long%20and%20happy%20and%20healthy%20and%20enlightened%20Love,%20Friendship%20and%20Marriage%20that%20is%20getting%20better%20and%20better%20and%20better%20every%20day.%20%20Every%20day.%20Better%20and%20better%20and%20better.%20That%20usually%20happens.%20(Remember%20%E2%80%9Cimpossible%20goals?%E2%80%9D)%20Disclaimer:%20sometimes%20it%20doesn%E2%80%99t.%20And%20we%20get%20a%20chance%20to%20be%20grateful%20to%20learn,%20once%20more,%20after%20once%20more,%20after%20once%20more,%20one%20of%20the%20keys%20to%20developing%20the%20Love%20part%20of%20Love,%20Lust%20and%20Enlightenment:%20When%20it%E2%80%99s%20not%20working,%20do%20something%20else.%20Which%20is%20actually%20a%20key%20part%20of%20business%20or%20health%20or%20spiritual%20success.%20And%20humor,%20too,%20is%20key%20to%20love,%20so%20on%20days%20when%20the%20better%20and%20better%20and%20better%20isn%E2%80%99t%20working,%20this%20phrase%20can%20sometimes%20save%20our%20asses%20(pun%20intended%20with%20phrase%20coming%20up):%20%20%E2%80%98I%E2%80%99M%20AN%20ASS;%20YOU%E2%80%99RE%20AN%20ASS;%20SO%20BE%20IT,%20LET%E2%80%99S%20MOVE%20FORARD%20WITH%20SELF%20LAUGHTER%20AND%20LOVE%E2%80%9D%20%20And,%20then,%20the%20days%20that%20it%E2%80%99s%20better%20and%20better%20and%20better,%20and%20we%E2%80%A6%20We%20touch%20a%20lot.%20Kiss%20a%20lot.%20Have%20delicious%20and%20mindful%20sex%20a%20lot.%20We%20are%20getting%20better%20and%20better%20at%20converting%20growls%20into%20laughs.%20We%20are%20getting%20better%20and%20better%20and%20transforming%20complaints%20into%20ease%20and%20self%20realization%20and%20%E2%80%9Cwe%20goals.%E2%80%9D%20Delicious%20laughter.%20(Sometimes.%20See%20above.)%20And%20making%20love.%20Delicious%20lovemaking.%20More%20than%20the%20fervor%20of%20%E2%80%9Cfirst%20two%20months%E2%80%9D%20sex.%20The%20best%20of%20our%20lives.%20Once%20a%20day.%20Twice%20a%20day.%20Three%20times%20a%20day.%20She%20is%20now%2068%20to%20my%2072.%20Neither%20of%20us%20have%20ever%20had%20a%20third%20as%20much%20sex%20as%20we%20are%20having%20now.%20For%20her%20before%20it%20was%20several%20times%20a%20month,%20at%20best.%20For%20me,%20twice%20a%20week.%20And%20now:%20zowie.%20As%20if%20we%20were%20in%20our%20twenties.%20%20We%20didn%E2%80%99t%20expect%20this%20much%20bliss,%20but%20we%20sure%20aren%E2%80%99t%20complaining.%20%20And%E2%80%A6%20if%20we%20can%20do%20it,%20you%20can.%20If%20we%20can%20find%20a%20great%20love,%20so%20can%20you,%20if%20you%20are%20looking.%20If%20we%20can%20have%20the%20best%20sex%20of%20our%20lives,%20so%20can%20you,%20if%20you%20are%20willing.%20If%20we%20can%20keep%20learning%20(and%20learning%20and%20learning)%20how%20to%20transform%20good%20old%20fashioned%20%E2%80%9Cbuttons%20being%20pushed%E2%80%9D%20to%20love%20and%20ease%20and%20forgiveness,%20so%20can%20you.%20%20This%20book%20has%20twenty%20days%20worth%20of%20%E2%80%9Cgames.%E2%80%9D%20If%20you%20want%20to%20change,%20you%E2%80%99ll%20need%20to%20enjoy%20new%20actions.%20All%20these%20games%20are%20actions%20you%20can%20test%20out%20and%20see%20what%20happens.%20%20This%20book%20is%20about%20transformation,%20which%20can%20be%20a%20bullshit%20word.%20Learning%20is%20not,%20though%20I%20have%20yet%20to%20ask%20a%20teacher%20of%20all%20sort%20for%20a%20definition%20of%20%E2%80%9Clearning%E2%80%9D%20and%20gotten%20one%20this%20simple%20and%20to%20the%20point:%20Leaning%20is%20noticing%20a%20difference%20that%20makes%20a%20difference.%20In%20every%20game%20in%20this%20book,%20you%20will%20be%20noticing%20a%20difference%20between%20before%20playing%20the%20game%20and%20after%20playing.%20It%E2%80%99s%20up%20to%20you%20to%20play,%20more%20and%20more%20and%20more,%20if%20you%20want%20a%20better%20and%20better%20and%20better%20life.%20Do%20you%20want%20a%20better%20and%20better%20life,%20a%20fabulous%20sex%20life,%20a%20deepening%20love%20life,%20a%20radical%20increase%20in%20your%20ability%20to%20be%20present.%20If%20so,%20this%20book%20is%20the%20place%20for%20you.%20We%20can%20stay%20the%20same,%20or%20we%20can%20change.%20Before%20any%20more%20overview%20let%E2%80%99s%20play%20the%20first%20two%20%E2%80%9Cgames%E2%80%9D%20and%20start%20the%20transformation/%20learning%20process.%20Learning%20is%20something%20that%20has%20been%20discovered%20(brain%20plasticity)%20to%20be%20available%20all%20our%20lives,%20and%20when%20it%20happens,%20real%20shifts%20happen%20in%20your%20brain.%20Tens%20of%20thousands,%20or%20far%20more,%20neurological%20pathways%20are%20laid%20down.%20Let%E2%80%99s%20start%20re-wiring%20in%20a%20fun%20and%20beneficial%20and%20easy%20way.%20We%E2%80%99ll%20start%20with%20gratitude.%20Gratitude%20and%20Love.%20%20Day%20One:%20%20Love%20and%20Gratitude%20Game%20#1: Notice how you are feeling now. Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five. Notice how you are feeling now. If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud. My notes on the differences I noticed%E2%80%A6. If you do this with a partner, take turns saying the five things to each other, followed by a brief sharing of what difference saying aloud fine gratitudes made. Really, do it now. This is not a book to %E2%80%9Cjust read%E2%80%9D and imagine %E2%80%9Cdoing it%E2%80%9D later. This is not a book of %E2%80%9Cgood ideas%E2%80%9D for you to give your %E2%80%9Cscrewed up%E2%80%9D friends. This is a transformation manual for those who want even more amazing life. So, do it. Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so. As I%E2%80%99ve said above, you can be grateful or you can be in fear. Can you feel a shift in you when you say gratitudes aloud? Let%E2%80%99s try an even more sure fire way of shifting our energy to being a happier and more loving person. Standing. Letting ourselves feel our more full bodies. Good. Let%E2%80%99s try: Day One Love and Gratitude Game #2: Notice how you are feeling now. Stand up. If there is a window available that has a view of Nature, please go there. Or, if your life is such that walking out into Outside, to see nature, or going out to actually , Stand in Nature, so much the better. Feel your body standing up. Say aloud, five gratitudes. The same ones. New ones. If you can be watching Nature at the same time all the better. Notice any difference. If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud. My notes on the differences I noticed%E2%80%A6. As, before, if you do this with a mate, take turns. Go outside together if you can. Share the aloud gratitudes and share a bit on what difference that made. When you do this it%E2%80%99s such a nice excuse to be upright. It%E2%80%99s a nice excuse to return to our hearts. It%E2%80%99s a nice excuse to realize this: life can be pretty wonderful. And now, to begin something that I hope you institute as a new and ongoing part of your life: Writing gratitudes, daily, in a journal. Day One: Love and Gratitude Game #3: Write five Gratitudes. Notice how you feel. Get a journal, label it your %E2%80%9CGratitude Journal%E2%80%9D and write down five things you are grateful for. Write slowly. Feel your breathing coming in and out. Sense your hand and arm moving. Listen in the present to the sound of the pen moving across the paper. Feel your handwriting as part of YOU pouring out your appreciation for life. If you don%E2%80%99t have a journal, YET, grab any piece of paper and write five gratitudes. Notice how you feel now. If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by writing down five gratitudes. My notes on the differences I noticed%E2%80%A6. As, before, if you do this with a mate, take turns. Write the gratitude at the same time. Then, share aloud the difference that seemed to make. And now you are launched. There are two more games for Day One, and you needn%E2%80%99t worry, if you %E2%80%9Cget behind.%E2%80%9D As long as you are doing games each day. AND%E2%80%A6 I want you touching on day one. At least touching one hand with another, and, if you have a partner, touching one of their hands with two of yours. Change requires change, and the games are to get you into the game, so to speak.">Gratitude opens the way</a></b><br />
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<b>935. February 1, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/02/want-more-love-lust-and-enlightenment.html"> Love, Lust and Enlightenment : a starter course</a></b><br />
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<b>JANUARY 2018, NEW YEAR, HAPPY NEW YEAR</b><br />
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<b>934. January 31, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/love-and-lust-what-not-have-both.html">Love and Lust, why not have them both?</a></b><br />
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<b>933. January 26, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/awakened-couples-saving-world-waking-up.html">Awakened couples: to save the world with joy</a></b><br />
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<b>932. January 24, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/what-if-other-person-pushed-your.html">Buttons, buttons, they push our buttons.</a></b><br />
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<b>931. January 23, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/nine-weeks-to-better-love-sex-and.html">Nine Steps to Better love, sex, happiness, "enlightenment" and "saving the world"</a></b><br />
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<b>930. January 10, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/you-can-be-right-or-you-can-be-happy-2.html">To Be Happy.... a shorter version</a></b><br />
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<b>929. January 5, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/you-can-be-right-or-you-can-be-happythe.html">You can be Happy or you can be Right... the "turn around" to the rescue</a></b><br />
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<b>928. January 4, Thursday: <a href="https://www.blogger.com/Learning%20and%20Enlightenment%20And,%20more%20learning.%20%20Learning%20and%20Enlightenment%20Game%20#1: We%E2%80%99ve already done this, in a way: what is the difference in being present and not being present. Let%E2%80%99s take a very common variation of that. Feel overwhelmed. Have your mind full of the auditory hallucination / thoughts, that there is %E2%80%9Ctoo much to do.%E2%80%9D Exult in the feeling that you are going to have to rush to get even part of this done. Slow down. Don%E2%80%99t worry about the future. Take a deep breath. Stand up and let your breath get deeper and your arms raise over your head. Smile. Feel your feet on the ground. Go outside. Feel the you-ness of you, alive, right now. How is that? Learn the difference between hurried and slowing down. EXULT in the difference: Who and how you are just now, outdoors, slow and aware. Who and how you are as %E2%80%9Cthinking%E2%80%9D/ auditory hallucination/ the %E2%80%9Coverwhelm%E2%80%9D game. This is huge. This is a life lived from soul and a life lived from our programming. THIS IS A LIFE LIVED FROM SOUL VS. A LIFE LIVED FROM OUR ROBOT. Go slowly often, at least once an hour. See what happens to your life. One way to look at enlightenment is to be in a state of connection with What Is. WHAT IS changes. Life is impermanent. The Now keeps shifting. We breathe in. We breathe out. We are born. We die. We go to sleep at night. We wake up each day. Miracle. Miracle. Miracle. Miracle. Each moment is different. We can be seeing different, hearing different, feeling the sensations of our body in a new position, moment to moment. As we go about our days, and try to get things done, we are in motion, and our bodies are always in a position that loves to be held in awareness. We always have awareness. An experiment worth trying is to play the learning game with awareness. Learning and Enlightenment Game #2: Look out a window and find something that you enjoy to look at. Go %E2%80%9Cinto%E2%80%9D the looking and the enjoying. First, pay attention to the object you are seeing as primary. Now, make this shift: feel the awareness, the awareness that is aware of that object you enjoy. Notice the difference. C. LEARNING IS NOTICING THE DIFFERENCE> Go back and forth: you are what you see. %E2%80%9CSomething%E2%80%9D is this awareness that is seeing. You are what you hear. %E2%80%9CSomething%E2%80%9D is this awareness that is seeing. You are what your feet feel against the ground. %E2%80%9CSomething%E2%80%9D is this awareness of your amazing body in gravity. This seems %E2%80%9Codd.%E2%80%9D Good. We have spent our lives NOT realizing that what we are, in a certain way, awareness. You are glued to the outside show. And yet, all along, at six months old and one hundred and six, awareness is aware. Who are we really? Could be that we are this awareness. Not, %E2%80%9Chave%E2%80%9D this awareness. %E2%80%9CAre%E2%80%9D this awareness. And%E2%80%A6 as before, don%E2%80%99t believe me. Don%E2%80%99t %E2%80%9Clisten%E2%80%9D to me. Try it out. Anything you are aware of: alternate between the object of your awareness and the awareness itself. Notice that there may be no one who is %E2%80%9Chaving%E2%80%9D this awareness. We%E2%80%99ll get to that later. For now, simply feel yourself as awareness. Try this out, as it were. Learn. Learn the difference: I am what I see. Vs. I am this awareness that is seeing. I am what I hear. Vs. I am this awareness that is hearing. Play with this. Remember children and how everything is play. Play with feeling this shift in awareness of what you are, as awareness.">Learning and Enlightenment: Who are we, really?</a></b><br />
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<b>927. January, 4, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/love-and-learning-bit-of-rewrite.html">Learning and Love, noticing differences that set us free to really love</a></b><br />
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<b>DECEMBER 2017</b><br />
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<b>926, December 30!!!!!! <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/12/last-chapter-principle-8-save-world-in.html">Last Chapter, Principle 8 : Save the world in a happy, sexy, awake, discovery way</a></b><br />
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<b>925. December 28, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/12/more-love-more-lust-more-enlightenment.html">More... Move Love, More Lust, More Enlightenment , Principle #6</a></b><br />
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<b>924. December 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/12/principle-one-gratitude-plus-all-seven.html">Eight Principles to Transform Love, Lust, Enlightenment and Learning... Gratitude to start</a></b><br />
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<b>OCTOBER 2017</b><br />
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<b>923. October 29, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-trouble-with-addictions-they-work.html">The trouble with addictions: they work</a></b><br />
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<b>922. October 27, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/first-50-pages-october-27-love-lust-and.html">First Fifty Pages of the book</a>, at October 27</b><br />
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<b>921. October 27: Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/she-choses-joe-how-to-cure-heartache.html">She chooses Joe. What's the book for? First love challenge to free YOU when it goes rotten</a></b><br />
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<b>920. October 25, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/3-meditations-awareness-attention.html">3 meditations/// You = Awareness, Attention all day, Connection in the now at her clitoris</a></b><br />
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<b>919. October 24, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/lust-challenge-not-clitoris-yet-nor.html">first lust challenge: not clitoris yet, nor naked make out... touch feet as a meditation in giving and receiving. Mammals need to touch.</a></b><br />
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<b>918. October 23: Monday, <a 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What were Oscar Wilde%E2%80%99s last words? %E2%80%9CEither that wallpaper goes, or I do.%E2%80%9D This is fun. This is brilliant and%E2%80%A6 This is an ass kicker. What are your last words going to be? Oh, fuck, he%E2%80%99s not really asking that, is he? Yes I am: What are your last words going to be? This is one of life%E2%80%99s most important questions: WHAT ARE MY LAST WORDS GOING TO BE? You do know there will be a last breath, don%E2%80%99t you? This is not information that we like to have in our awareness. And life on this Earth ends. Sooner or later. For us all. Damn. Who wants to think about that? Anyone who wants a deeply meaningful life? Do you want a deeply meaningful life? Wait. Stand. Go to a window. Look out at the sky or clouds or nature. Take a deep breath. Feel your toes. Feel your heart. See nature. Now come back to the book. Stay standing or not: And, now, four ways, we are going to ask Question #1: What do you want your last words to be? First, the head. Ask your thinking mind: HEAD: what do you want your last words to be? Don%E2%80%99t rush. Wait for an answer to come. What is it? You can do this many, many times, and this, your first stab has a certain answer, or flavor of an answer, or hint of an answer. When you ask your head, what do you want your last words to be, what is your answer? Write, scribble, doodle something. Next layer, the heart. Time to shift into the present. Stand or sit. Feel yourself alive and your heart beating as a deep and absolutely necessary part of this being alive. Go more deeply into noticing that you are breathing. Sense your heart in the middle of the chest, in the middle of your breathing. Breathe a little more deeply, into your chest and your belly. Let your ribs expand and contract as you breathe. Feel your heart beating in the middle of this. Feel your emotional layer. Feel the you that feels into life, at a slower and deeper, and perhaps older layer than thinking. Ask your heart: HEART: What do you want your last words to be? Write, scribble, doodle something%E2%80%A6 Smile a bit. Stand up, if you aren%E2%80%99t already standing, and wiggle around. Walk a bit, if even in small circles. Breathe a little more fully, as if into your whole body. Feel as sensation what it%E2%80%99s like to be aware of all your toes and all your fingers. Wiggle and play with them a bit. Breathe as if into your entire arms and entire legs. Dance just a bit. Raise up your arms over your head and do something fun and rhythmical. Breathe as you dance around. If you can move either outside, or to a place where you can see outside, this will be even better, so you can feel your body and your living self for what it is: a part, a real and living and vital and amazing part, of nature. And, now, feeling as sensation, the you that is living, right now, in your body: ask your body: BODY: What do you want your last words to be? And now, walk a bit more and wiggle some more, and if you are outside, maybe go to another area, or if inside, to to another area. If you have an idea of what your %E2%80%9CSoul%E2%80%9D is, this is what we are going to be asking next. Maybe, the idea of your %E2%80%9CReal Self%E2%80%9D makes more sense. And how you get in touch with this is the work of a life devoted to discovering what is most meaningful in life. So, go as far as you can toward this %E2%80%9CSoul%E2%80%9D or toward this %E2%80%9CReal Self.%E2%80%9D Don%E2%80%99t demand any intellectual clarity on what this means. Just wing it. And ask, hey, Real Self, Soul%E2%80%A6 SOUL/ REAL SELF: %E2%80%9CWhat do you want your last words to be?%E2%80%9D Listen from a quiet place. Listen as if to a whisper from the unknown and invisible world. What do you hear, or feel, or guess? Think, mull, scribble, doodle, take a walk and investigate this. Don%E2%80%99t continue to the next part of the book until tomorrow. Enlightenment Challenge: Come into the present moment in three layers. Layer One: Follow your breathing. You are alive, right? No breathing = not alive. This will happen to us all, sooner or later, no breathing in the earthly body. Hence the Oscar Wilde inspired question: What do you want your last words to be? In the meantime, it seems fairly amazing to remember the miracle: YOU ARE ALIVE, RIGHT NOW. Look around you. The chairs, the walls, the floor, the houses, the streets, the cars. Not alive. Look around you: the trees, the air, the soil, the plants, the birds: alive. AND MOST IMPORTANT: FEEL YOUR BREATH, IN THIS MOMENT. Let it even be a little deeper. Into your ribs, filling them out in the front and back and two sides. Feel the air coming out. And breathe even more a little deeper. Feel the air coming down into your belly, as you may notice your diaphragm expanding and contracting. Don%E2%80%99t get into the anatomy too much unless you like that hooey. And DO NOTICE the here and now sensation of air filling out your belly and coming down into your lungs, and your belly coming in to help the air expel from your lungs. Smile. Enjoy this. Layer Two of Enlightenment: For many years I was in a renegade system of spiritual development known as the Gurdjieff work. You can still find this around, and sometimes it%E2%80%99s quite vital and often it has stagnated into some very high class rules. That doesn%E2%80%99t matter. The essence is this is to make everyday life, the more common and full of physical movement (like being a butcher, a baker, a candle stick maker, a weaver, a carpenter, a gardener, a laborer, an auto mechanic) the better. (This is only according to me, and I was only in this work for fifteen years, so don%E2%80%99t believe me necessarily, but SHARE THE FRUITS OF THIS AMAZING SYSTEM OF PAYING ATTENTION IN REAL LIFE.) George Ivanovich Gurdjieff was born somewhere around January 1866 in a region that mingled Greece and Turkey and Armenia. And died in Paris on October 29, 1949. His discovery, from going off on his own to search out the meaning of life from about 14 years old on (we%E2%80%99ll see this again in Moshe Feldenkrais leaving Poland at 14 to walk to Palestine on his own), was that human beings were basically %E2%80%9Casleep.%E2%80%9D Asleep to the moment. Asleep to the miracle of their lives. Asleep to their being caught in something like a robot like maze of conditioning. Asleep to being able to see that they were asleep. In this sleep, people go about terrified of disapproval and slaves to wanting outside validation. Why? There is no real person to live from. Blah, blah. You discover this for yourself. How. Set out to be present most of the time. See when you succeed and when you fail. Here%E2%80%99s the real bitch: look around you and see how almost everyone is asleep most of the time. And what was my 15 years in the %E2%80%9CGurdjieff work%E2%80%9D like? A hoot. After about four years in a %E2%80%9Cgoody goody%E2%80%9D spiritual group%E2%80%9D in Berkeley, that had lots of wonderful aspects, but was heavily biased toward solving all problems with more and more meditation, and solving all interpersonal problems by slotting others into an amazing, and semi useful and deeply addictive personality system called the Enneagram, I was set free, along with about 40 others, to do the Gurdjieff meditation. This was to sense your arms and legs. All day. And notice the light coming into your eyes. All day. And to notice the sound coming into your ears. All day. So a Gurdjieff %E2%80%9Cmeditation%E2%80%9D as a group, meant the 40 people coming together on a Sunday for 4 hours of non-talk real work: building decks, sanding floors, building sheds, put on a roof, shingling a house, painting a house, putting in a garden. And paying attention to. Arms and legs. Fingers and toes. Light coming in your eyes. Sound coming in your ears. I loved it. I%E2%80%99d gone to Caltech (the leaving of which was one of my first realizations of the importance of breaking out of the box society/ family wanted you to live in) and Stanford. ( A step down for my family, and the place where I first began to fall in love with the %E2%80%9Cnow.%E2%80%9D That story later.) And had never build decks, or had the thrill and clarity of doing real work in the real world. Berkeley at the time was chock a block full of therapists and pseudo therapists and people busy letting everyone know what their inner motivations (projection, Dad, Mom, etc, etc). To be around carpenters, where we knew if the door worked, or the window fit, or the deck was level, was a relief and a delight. I build that deck. We build that addition. And that was my life for fifteen years. Getting up. Sensing my arms and legs. Adding on sound. Adding on light. Going about real work in the day, and all sorts of other things (women were interesting as were studying and movies and dance, and leading my own %E2%80%9CGurdjieff%E2%80%9D group.) So this is your layer two: Start with breathing. And on Sensing both arms and all the fingers you have. Sensing both legs and all the toes that you have. Realizing that you are, right now, bringing light into your eyes and seeing %E2%80%A6. Noticing that you are, right now, taking in sound into your ears and brain and hearing%E2%80%A6.. Why do that? To answer the second of life%E2%80%99s really really important questions>>>>> Life%E2%80%99s Really Really Important Questions, #2 WHAT SHIFTS WHEN%E2%80%A6. This is short. Life is short. Life is precious. Why live life in a trance. Here%E2%80%99s the question. This can change everything if you take it seriously. What shifts for you when you %E2%80%9Cwake up%E2%80%9D from not being present and become present? That%E2%80%99s it. WHAT SHIFTS FOR YOU WHEN YOU %E2%80%9CWAKE UP%E2%80%9D AND COME INTO THE PRESENT MOMENT WITH YOUR AWARENESS? Study this more and more. You%E2%80%99ll be stunned. What shifts when you %E2%80%9Cwake up%E2%80%9D out of the everyday %E2%80%9Cnormal%E2%80%9D trance and come back into the present.">first 40 pages of Love Lust Enlightenment</a></b><br />
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<b>917. October 17, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/life-in-now-what-shifts.html">Life in the Now.... 3 layers, plus another of life's most important questions</a></b><br />
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<b>915. October 14, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/10/one-of-lifes-most-important-questions.html">One of Life's most important questions, another version</a></b><br />
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<b>SEPTEMBER 2017</b><br />
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<b>915. September 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/09/heartache-to-love-and-freedom-using.html">Heartbreak to Freedom, the "turn around" of Byron Katie's "work".. a true story</a></b><br />
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<b>914. September 17, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/09/sex-every-day-spirituality-mindfulness.html">Sex every day + spirituality = Heaven</a></b><br />
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<b>AUGUST 2017</b><br />
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<b>913. August 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/08/the-importance-of-non-reciprocal-sex.html">The Importance of Non-Reciprocal Sex.... YES!!</a></b><br />
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<b>912. August 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/08/sex-every-day-really-yes.html">Sex Every Day. Really? Yes. And Six other actions to a blissful, real life</a></b><br />
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<b>JULY 2017</b><br />
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<b>911: July 25, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/married-go-on-non-date-searching-for.html">Married, go on a non-date; Searching, go on a non-date</a></b><br />
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<b>910. July 24, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/forgiveness-enlightenment-sort-of.html">Forgiveness = enlightenment, sort of</a></b><br />
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<b>909/ July 21: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/dont-read-this-unless-you-want-amazing.html">Don't read this unless you want an amazing sex life-- Female Orgasm Awareness Meditation</a></b><br />
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<b>908. July 18: Tuesday: <a href="https://www.blogger.com/Week%20Three,%20Day%20Two:%20LOVE%20Listening,%20listening,%20listening%20Ask%20from%20presence%20Listen%20from%20presence%20%20Inside%20of%20Gratitude%20and%20Present%20Awareness%20That%E2%80%99s%20all:%20that%E2%80%99s%20a%20lot%20%20%20Here%E2%80%99s%20a%20fun%20game%20today.%20We%20are%20going%20to%20ask%20a%20question.%20The%20more%20it%20can%20be%20from%20curiosity%20the%20better.%20For%20example:%20when%20you%20were%20ten,%20what%20was%20most%20important%20to%20you?%20When%20you%20were%20twenty%20what%20was%20best%20in%20life%20and%20what%20was%20most%20confusing?%20Or%20even,%20the%20Big%20Dreams%20questions:%20If%20we%20could%20make%20a%20huge%20difference%20in%20healing%20the%20Earth%20and/or%20healing%20Humanity,%20what%20would%20that%20be?%20%20There%20is%20a%20set%20of%20%E2%80%9Ccontentious%E2%80%9D%20questions,%20that%20might%20not%20be%20so%20helpful.%20Like:%20%E2%80%9CLast%20night%20when%20you%20said%20that%20this%20and%20that%20was%20bothering%20you,%20did%20you%20ever%20look%20at%20that%20pattern%20as%20coming%20from%20your%20childhood?%E2%80%9D%20Even%20worse,%20%E2%80%9CWhy%20are%20you%20so%20grumpy%20all%20the%20time?%E2%80%9D%20%20So,%20you%20get%20the%20idea:%20leave%20aside%20slightly%20or%20not%20so%20slightly%20warfare%20questions.%20Ask%20something%20that%20would%20be%20interesting%20for%20your%20mate%20to%20answer.%20Ask%20something%20that%20would%20be%20interesting%20for%20you%20to%20hear.%20%20And%20do%20it%20in%20presence.%20Look%20each%20other%20in%20the%20eye.%20Say%20gratitudes%20before%20asking.%20Say%20three%20or%20four%20or%20five%20or%20more%20awarenesses%20in%20the%20present.%20Take%20a%20deep%20breath.%20Be%20quiet%20inside%20for%20awhile%20if%20no%20question%20comes%20to%20you.%20Take%20another%20deep%20breath.%20Ask%20the%20question.%20Let%20them%20answer.%20They,%20too%20say%20gratitudes%20and%20awarenesses%20before%20they%20get%20into%20the%20%E2%80%9Cmeat%E2%80%9D%20of%20the%20answer.%20Why?%20Because%20the%20framework%20of%20this%20game%20is%20curiosity%20inside%20of%20awareness%20and%20gratitude.%20It%E2%80%99s%20patience.%20We%20don%E2%80%99t%20have%20to%20rush%20anything.%20%20The%20questions%20answerer%20has%20five%20minutes,%20including%20gratitudes%20and%20awarenesses%20to%20answer.%20%20Then%20the%20switch.%20The%20one%20who%20answered,%20now%20takes%20a%20deep%20breath.%20And%20says%20gratitudes%20And%20says%20awarenesses.%20And%20then%20asks%20a%20fun%20and%20deep%20question.%20%20So%20there%20is%20always%20gratitude%20and%20awareness%20between%20the%20mental%20aspects.%20And,%20hopefully%20the%20questions%20will%20evoke%20responses%20from%20the%20whole%20person.%20%20So,%20just%20because%20we%20all%20love%20the%20games%20in%20bold%20print,%20here%20we%20go%20%20Love%20Game%20#11: Partner A: Ask a question after gratitudes and awarenesses Partner B: Answer the question after gratitudes and awareness Take five minutes to do both Switch: Partner B: Ask a friendly and evocative question after gratitudes and awarenesses Partner A: Answer the question after gratitudes and awarenesses Take five minutes to do both In all the talking, and waiting to talk, and listening: Follow your breathing Connect to gravity Connect to the inside now Connect to the outside now. Go back and forth a couple of times. This can be a lot of fun on safe car drives. It can be a relaxing way to spend an evening together. Essentially you are treating your partner like a new friend, about whom you have easy going curiosity and good will. This is good for us. This can be new for us. Give it a try not just today, but three or four times a week. I know, I know, things to do are piling up. Oh, well. They are nice things, and tomorrow, we%E2%80%99ll get a little more sexy, so that%E2%80%99s nice, too. Summary of Week Three, Day Two: LOVE Ask and answer friendly questions. Start the asking and start the answering with Gratitude Awareness in the Present Be in breath and sensing and noticing the now, as you speak and as you listen. Enjoy this new way of being.">A game of awakened asking and awakened listening, and LOVE</a></b><br />
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<b>907. July 11: Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/when-things-good-hug-when-things-bad-hug.html">When things are going well: hug. When things going shitty: hug</a></b><br />
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<b>906. July 10, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/doing-work-of-byron-katie-on-all.html">Doing the Work to dissolve and transform ALL complaints</a></b><br />
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<b>905. July 8, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/when-you-want-to-sting-back-in-your.html">LOVE is not saying anything back to "the sting"</a></b><br />
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<b>904. July 7, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/everyday-enlightenment-part-two-three.html">Enlightenment as taking a walk, and as doing nothing</a></b><br />
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<b>903. July 6, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/07/everyday-enlightenment-barefoot-smile.html">Happiness Comes from Now--- everyday enlightenment game</a></b><br />
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<b>JUNE 2017</b><br />
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<b>902. June 30, Friday: T<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/whats-best-whats-worst-would-you-love.html">ransformation in four areas,,, if that for you?</a></b><br />
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<b>901. June 28, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/how-to-wake-up-before-you-get-up.html">Waking Up before you Get up.... movement with attention in bed for happiness and anti-aging</a></b><br />
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<b>900/ Saturday, June 24, 2017: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/an-relationship-is-that-for-you.html">Do you have a B, B+ or A relationship, that would love to become an A++ relationship?</a></b><br />
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<b>899/ Monday, June 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/our-vows.html">Our Vows: Better and Better and Better. We say </a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/our-vows.html">'em almost daily.</a></b><br />
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<b>898. Friday, June 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/better-sex-better-breathing-anti-aging.html">Lust, Happiness, Anti-Aging and Your Pelvis</a></b><br />
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<b>897/ Monday, June 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/our-obligation-to-have-great-sex-and.html">Saving the Planet with Great Sex along the way</a></b><br />
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<b>896/ Friday: June 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/awareness-is-real-you-real-me.html">Awareness is the real you, the real me, weeeeee...</a></b><br />
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<b>895/ Thursday, June 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/saving-planet-as-fun-gratitude-as.html">Saving the Planet/ Gratitude to Save yourself</a></b><br />
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<b>894/ Wednesday, June 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/06/awake-is-now-awake-is-full-time.html">Waking up is always now. Waking up is full time. And fun.</a></b><br />
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<b>MAY 2017</b><br />
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<b>893/ Friday, May 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/05/gratitude-you-can-be-in-fear-or.html">Fear or gratitude: noticing the difference</a></b><br />
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<b>892. Thursday, May 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/05/goals-for-life-you-really-want.html">Enlightenment as Goals/ Choice vs Complaints/ stuck</a></b><br />
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<b>891/ Thursday May 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/05/hug-plus-awareness-like-anything-plus.html">Lust again, slow and awake: hug plus awareness</a></b><br />
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<b>890. Wednesday, May 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/05/argue-no-more-three-delightful-steps.html">Argue No More. 3 steps for deep love instead of disharmony</a></b><br />
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<b>889/ Tuesday, May 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/05/naked-make-out.html">Naked Make-Out.... Go for it</a></b><br />
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<b>APRIL 2017</b><br />
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<b>888. Wednesday April 5, : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/04/take-pause-now.html">day five, being alive:;; Pause</a></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>MARCH 2017</b><br />
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<b>887. Thursday, March 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/awakened-love-awakened-lust-everyday.html">What's Possible in Love, Lust and Enlightenment Coaching</a></b><br />
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<b>886/ Monday, March 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/gratitudes-stand-and-say-three-write.html">Gratitudes, Speaking to No-one, Writing in a Journal, getting Weird with Jumping Gratitudes (fun)</a></b><br />
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<b>885. Friday, March 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/part-of-enlightenment-four-stages-of.html">4 Stages of Forgiveness as Fun and Freedom</a></b><br />
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<b>884. Thursday, March 16:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/lust-improvement-hold-hands-and-move.html"> Lust improvement by moving the pelvis/ head "team" in a new and "weird" way...</a> Weirdness as a route to freedom. Better sex awaits slowing down. Etc.</b><br />
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<b>883/ Wednesday, March 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/one-element-of-enlightenment.html">Waking up to Now, Enlightenment as Forgiveness</a></b><br />
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<b>882. Wednesday, March 8: <a href="https://www.blogger.com/Day%20and%20Night%20One%20Gratitude:%20Aloud,%20and%20On%20Paper,%20and%20Aloud%E2%80%A8Then,%20at%20night:%20Sharing%20your%20gratitudes%20%20%20On%20June%2020,%202015,%20I%20walked%20down%20the%20street%20on%20which%20I%20lived,%20to%20meet%20a%20woman%20I%20knew%20and%20admired%20and%20liked%20for%20a%20lunch%20and%20%E2%80%9Cstudy%E2%80%9D%20session.%20I%20was%20writing%20a%20book%20on%20radical%20listening.%20She%20was%20smart%20and%20kind%20and%20I%20wanted%20her%20input.%20Her%20name%20was%20Carol%20Williams%20then.%20It%E2%80%99s%20Carol%20Elms%20now.%20%20We%20talked%20for%20the%20agreed%20upon%20hour.%20Then%20we%20%E2%80%9Cplayed%E2%80%9D%20one%20of%20the%20games%20in%20that%20book,%20an%20unfinished%20predecessor%20to%20this%20one.%20This%20game%20will%20appear,%20in%20many%20guises%20and%20forms,%20in%20this%20book.%20It%E2%80%99s%20a%20great%20game.%20It%20could%20change%20your%20life.%20%20The%20game%20was%20to%20talk%20for%20five%20minutes%20each,%20by%20timer,%20in%20turns.%20We%20talked,%20while%20the%20other%20listened.%20%20For%20one%20hour,%20for%20two%20hours,%20for%20three.%20And%20then%20we%20kept%20adding%20on,%20so%20that%20an%20hour%20and%20a%20half%20lunch%20%E2%80%9Cmeeting%E2%80%9D%20turned%20into%20a%20twelve%20hour%20non-date,%20that%20was%20the%20best%20date%20in%20the%20world,%20because%20at%20the%20end%20of%20it,%20we%20were%20pretty%20close%20to%20certain%20that%20we%E2%80%99d%20found%20a%20life%20partner%20of%20far,%20far%20higher%20caliber%20than%20we%E2%80%99d%20dared%20to%20wish%20for.%20And%20how%20did%20we%20get%20to%20know%20so%20much,%20so%20fast?%20We%20talked,%20one%20at%20a%20time,%20while%20the%20other%20listened.%20We%20watched%20(twice)%20Brene%20Brown%E2%80%99s%20TED%20talk%20on%20vulnerability.%20We%20walked%20down%20the%20road%20and%20shared%20an%20oyster%20dinner.%20(None%20of%20this%20planned,%20mind%20you,%20all%20the%20delight%20and%20surprise%20of%20one%20new%20and%20easy%20thing%20after%20another)%20We%20shared%20Bible%20verses.%20One%20of%20Carol%E2%80%99s%20that%20really%20turned%20me%20on,%20as%20a%20lover%20of%20being%20present,%20and%20the%20quietness%20that%20bring%20about,%20was%20from%20Palms:%20Be%20still%20and%20know%20I%20am%20God.%20One%20of%20mine%20was%20from%20Philippians:%20%E2%80%9CRejoice%20in%20the%20Lord%20always.%20I%20will%20say%20it%20again:%20Rejoice!%20Let%20your%20gentleness%20be%20evident%20to%20all.%20The%20Lord%20is%20near.%20Do%20not%20be%20anxious%20about%20anything,%20but%20in%20every%20situation,%20by%20prayer%20and%20petition,%20with%20thanksgiving,%20present%20your%20requests%20to%20God.%E2%80%9D%20Short%20version:%20%20Be%20happy.%20%20Let%20your%20gentleness%20be%20evident.%20The%20Lord%20is%20near.%20Don%E2%80%99t%20be%20anxious%20about%20anything%20Always%20give%20thanks,%20first%20and%20then%20Ask%20for%20what%20your%20deepest%20self%20wants.%20%20Be%20grateful%20first.%20Then%20ask.%20%20And%20so,%20now,%20this%20is%20how%20we%20start%20our%20book,%20and%20how%20everyone%20COULD%20start%20their%20days.%20With%20gratitude.%20Later,%20we%E2%80%99ll%20get%20into%20the%20importance%20of%20asking,%20from%20your%20deep%20real%20and%20highest%20self,%20for%20your%20heart%20and%20soul%E2%80%99s%20desire.%20And%20always:%20start%20with%20thanks%20and%20gratitude.%20Everyday%20is%20thanksgiving.%20Let%E2%80%99s%20start%20now.%20%20%20%20%20Why?%20Because%20the%20brain%20and%20heart%20can%20either%20be%20in%20fear%20or%20gratitude.%20Not%20both.%20People,%20you%20and%20me,%20cannot%20be%20in%20fear%20and%20love%20at%20the%20same%20time.%20People,%20you%20and%20me,%20cannot%20be%20in%20fear%20and%20happily%20open%20to%20new%20and%20wonderful%20possibilities%20coming%20into%20our%20lives.%20%20Let%E2%80%99s%20start,%20now.%20%20Day%20One:%20Let%E2%80%99s%20Practice%20LOVE%20As%20GRATITUDE%20%20In%20the%20day,%20in%20day%20one%20please%20play%20these%20three%20games:%20%20Day%20One,%20Game%20One:%20Say%20aloud%20three%20gratitudes.%20Like%20now.%20Just%20speak,%20or%20shout,%20or%20whisper%20them%20out.%20Now.%20%20%20Day%20One,%20Game%20Two:%20Write%20down,%20on%20a%20piece%20of%20paper,%20three%20gratitudes.%20They%20can%20be%20the%20same.%20They%20can%20be%20new.%20Just%20write,%20in%20handwriting,%20on%20a%20piece%20of%20paper.%20If%20you%20are%20somewhere%20with%20no%20paper,%20write%20them%20with%20your%20finger%20on%20your%20leg%20or%20in%20the%20air.%20%20Sooner%20or%20later,%20and%20better%20sooner,%20get%20yourself%20a%20GRATITUDE%20JOURNAL.%20Write%20in%20it,%20twice%20a%20day,%20morning%20and%20night.%20%20Or%20more.%20%20Day%20One,%20Game%20Three:%20Stand%20up,%20right%20now,%20and%20say%20aloud,%20three%20gratitudes.%20They%20can%20be%20the%20same.%20They%20can%20be%20new.%20Just%20stand%20up%20and%20feel%20the%20taller,%20more%20physical%20you,%20saying%20three%20gratitudes.%20%20Okay,%20that%E2%80%99s%20pretty%20easy,%20right?%20Like%20many%20things,%20DOING%20IT,%20is%20a%20lot%20less%20hard%20than%20GETTING%20AROUND%20TO%20DOING%20IT.%20So,%20if%20you%20have%20read%20the%20above%20and%20think/%20feel/%20imagine%20you%20are%20going%20to%20getting%20around%20to%20doing%20it.%20Smile.%20Pat%20yourself%20on%20the%20shoulder%20for%20being%20a%20normal%20fool.%20And%20DO%20IT%20NOW.%20%20REPEAT:%20IF%20YOU%20ARE%20THINKING%20ABOUT%20%E2%80%9CGETTING%20AROUND%E2%80%9D%20TO%20DOING%20THESE%20THREE%20GRATITUDE%20GAMES,%20DO%20THEM%20NOW.%20Now?%20Yes.%20DO%20THEM%20NOW.%20When?%20Now.%20%20Later,%20it%E2%80%99s%20time%20to%20play%20a%20little%20bit%20of%20the%20game%20that%20Carol%20and%20I%20played.%20It%E2%80%99s%20time%20to%20talk%20in%20turns.%20It%E2%80%99s%20time%20to%20practice%20talking%20to%20each%20other%20without%20being%20in%20the%20%E2%80%9Cplanning%E2%80%9D%20mode,%20and%20without%20being%20in%20the%20%E2%80%9Cissues%E2%80%9D%20realm.%20Later%20we%E2%80%99ll%20talk%20in%20the%20goals%20and%20dreams%20mode,%20and%20for%20now:%20this%20is%20the%20way%20to%20start:%20Gratitude.%20%20Okay.%20Night%20One,%20Game%20One:%20Write%20gratitudes%20together.%20%20With%20your%20good/bad/%20lousy%20partner.%20Sit%20across%20from%20each%20other.%20Have%20an%20agreement%20to%20spend%20ten%20minutes%20together.%20%20Have%20a%20gratitude%20journal.%20Each%20write%20five%20gratitudes%20in%20each%20other%E2%80%99s%20company.%20Smiling%20at%20each%20other%20as%20you%20write%20is%20permitted.%20%20Night%20One,%20Game%20Two:%20Then,%20share%20the%20%E2%80%9Cgood%20stuff%E2%80%9D%20:%20taking%20TURNS%20sharing%20gratitudes.%20%20Staying%20in%20these%20chair,%20but%20NOT%20READING%20WHAT%20YOU%20WROTE,%20take%20turns%20telling%20each%20other%20three%20gratitudes%20at%20a%20time.%20Look%20each%20other%20in%20the%20eye%20as%20you%20speak,%20which%20is%20why%20reading%20is%20a%20no,%20no.%20Go%20slowly.%20Don%E2%80%99t%20be%20perfect.%20Just%20say%20three%20gratitudes.%20Then%20listen%20to%20three%20gratitudes.%20Then%20say.%20Then%20listen.%20%20DO%20NOT%20COMMENT%20ON%20THE%20OTHER%E2%80%99S%20GRATITUDES.%20You%20may%20say%20the%20same%20ones.%20And%E2%80%A6%20no%20comments.%20%20Do%20this%20two%20times%20back%20and%20forth,%20or%20more,%20if%20you%20are%20on%20a%20roll,%20and%20do%20save%20room%20for%20one%20last%20sharing%20while%20you%20are%20standing%20in%20front%20of%20each%20other.%20Night%20one,%20Game%20Three:%20Stand,%20look%20each%20other%20in%20the%20eye,%20say%20three%20gratitudes%20in%20turns%20Stand%20Face%20each%20other%20Look%20each%20other%20in%20the%20eye%20Take%20turns%20saying%20three%20gratitudes%20Take%20a%20couple%20of%20turns%20%20That%E2%80%99s%20it%20%20Unless%20you%20don%E2%80%99t%20have%20a%20partner.%20%20Alternatives,%20if%20you%20don%E2%80%99t%20have%20a%20partner:%20Call%20up%20a%20friend%20and%20ask%20if%20they%E2%80%99d%20like%20to%20sit%20and%20write%20gratitudes.%20And%20then%20share%20gratitudes%20without%20reading.%20And%20then%20stand%20and%20share%20gratitudes.%20%20Or,%20if%20a%20person%20isn%E2%80%99t%20around.%20Or%20if%20you%E2%80%99d%20like%20to%20experience%20this%20sort%20of%20relationship:%20imagine%20you%20are%20saying%20the%20gratitudes%20to%20some%20Higher%20Power%20or%20God%20or%20Spirit%20or%20Life.%20Something/%20anything%20bigger%20than%20you.%20%20That%E2%80%99s%20all.%20That%E2%80%99s%20easy%20once%20you%20do%20it.%20Don%E2%80%99t%20be%20shy.%20God/%20Higher%20Power/%20Something%20Bigger%20than%20You,%20isn%E2%80%99t%20in%20any%20mood%20to%20have%20you%20be%20perfect.%20She/%20He/%20It%20is%20happy%20for%20the%20chance%20for%20you%20to%20say%20these%20gratitudes.%20You%20are%20happy%20for%20a%20chance%20to%20say%20these%20gratitudes.%20The%20world%20and%20the%20universe%20is%20happy%20when%20you%20are%20grateful.%20%20This%20is%20good.%20You%20are%20good.%20Good.">Gratitude 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<b>881. Friday, March 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/day-fifteen-enlightenment-as.html">Enlightenment as Forgiveness, Part One</a></b><br />
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<b>880. Friday, March 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/day-fourteen-improving-subtle-touch-and.html">Lust/ Sex improvement with hand holding and variations. Really? Yes.</a></b><br />
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<b>879/ Friday, March 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/love-as-asking-kind-open-ended-question.html">Love as asking kind and open ended questions and then shutting up</a></b><br />
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<b>878. Thursday, March 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/a-game-for-learning-as-enlightenment.html">Learning as a form of Enlightenment, Do it better vs doing it "right"</a></b><br />
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<b>876/ Thursday, March 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/three-lust-preparation-games.html">Three LUST PREPARATION games</a>. Easy. Life changing, eventually. </b><br />
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<b>875. Wednesday, March 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/do-you-want-love-lust-and-enlightenment.html">Do you want Love, Lust and Enlightenment Coaching. The simpler set of questions</a></b><br />
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<b>874. Wednesday, March 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/03/day-eight-raw-cacao-smoothie-and-day.html">Chapters 8 and 9: Raw Cacao Smoothie and Walking in Now, Nature and Love</a></b>
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<b>FEBRUARY 2017</b><br />
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<b>873. Friday, February 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/eight-questions-for-those-who-might.html">Questions for those wishing Love, Lust and (Raw) Enlightenment Coaching.</a>.. caution, just these could change your life</b><br />
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<b>872. Tuesday, February 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/happy-healthy-amazing-raw-avocado-and.html">Raw Food Happiness: Raw (Pasture Raised) Egg Yolk and Avocado</a></b><br />
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<b>871. Friday, February 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/starting-even-easier-better-sex-health.html">Simpler: Sex, Breath and Health Upgrade: Move your pelvis</a></b><br />
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<b>870. Tuesday, February 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/valentines-games-for-those-with-partner.html">A Valentine's Feast for those with and those without a partner</a></b><br />
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<b>869. Wednesday, February 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/the-wages-of-sin-are-death-sin-missing.html">The wages of sin are death? When we are sick, what is the "sin" of "missing the mark?"</a></b><br />
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<b>868. Monday, February 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/02/below-navel-day-enlightenment-in-action.html">Enlightenment in Action: Below the navel, move the pelvis... better sex and better health and relief from computeritis</a></b><br />
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<b>JANUARY 2017</b><br />
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<b>867, Tuesday, January 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/day-three-other-side-of-lust-what-are.html">The other side of "lust" -- you big Dreams/ Goals.</a></b><br />
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<b>866. Monday, January 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/day-one-and-day-two-of-transformational.html">Love Lust and Enlightenment as Transformational Practices to Leave Unhappiness Aside</a></b><br />
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<b>865. Saturday, January 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/love-lust-and-enlightenment-in-age-of.html">To not become the monster as we fight the monster: Love, Lust and Enlightenment</a></b><br />
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<b>864. Wednesday, January 25, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/our-wedding-vows.html">Our Wedding Vows, March 5, 2016</a></b><br />
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<b>863. Saturday, January 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/fabulous-sex-comes-in-month-three-of.html">Fabulous Sex is Necessary but not Sufficient for Fabulous Love</a></b><br />
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<b>862. Thursday, January 12:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/asthma-terror-health-food-fanaticism.html"> Asthma, Terror, Health Food "Fanaticism," and Heartbreak</a></b><br />
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<b>861. Monday January 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/want-to-love-wake-up-to-now.html">Wake up and have a chance at love and happiness. How? Read on</a></b><br />
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<b>860. Friday, January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2017/01/gratitude-games-for-your-new-life-love.html">Gratitude in five games-</a>- one way to start the new year</b><br />
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<b>DECEMBER 2016</b><br />
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<b>859. Wednesday, December 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/12/a-meditation-for-all-of-life-all-life.html">Waking up to Now in the Miracle of being in a Body, NOW</a></b><br />
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<b>858. Tuesday, December 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/12/awareness-in-raw-and-wonderful-now.html">Sensing Below the Navel,</a> and in the Breath/ Arm Middle, and the Eyes/ Ears and Breathing in/out top.... waking up to the body, now, your body, NOW</b><br />
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<b>857. Wednesday, December 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/12/now-nature-and-love-via-5-ways-to.html">Love Deepens Now, for life, your yourself, for Fabulous Love at the center of your life....GRATITUDE</a></b><br />
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<b>856. Friday, December 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/12/love-lust-raw-enlightenment-revised.html">This is a book about great love, no wait, this is a book about great sex, no wait... this is a book about...</a></b><br />
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<b>NOVEMBER 2016</b><br />
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<b>855. Thursday, November 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/11/love-lust-enlightenment-starting-again.html">Waking Up, Loving More</a></b><br />
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<b>854. Tuesday, November 15:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/11/love-and-enlightenment-breathing-body.html"> Love, </a></b><br />
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<b>OCTOBER 2016</b><br />
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<b>853. Wednesday October 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/10/do-you-want-to-be-happy-two-huge.html">Two choices and three games to transform your life</a></b><br />
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<b>852. Tuesday, October 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/10/a-full-time-meditation-if-you-please-10.html">Waking up with a "five lines" meditation that can be done all day, 10 fingers, 10 toes, belly eyes ears and nose</a></b><br />
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<b>SEPTEMBER 2016</b><br />
<b><br /></b><b><br /></b><b>851. Tuesday, September 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/09/delusions-that-keep-people-in-suffering.html">Delusions that keep people in suffering, a starter kit:</a></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b><br /></b><b>850. Tuesday, September 6 : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/09/to-live-in-love-and-happiness-all-days.html">Awakened Love</a>. again and again and again</b><br />
<b><br /></b><b><br /></b><b>AUGUST 2016</b><br />
<b>849. Friday, August 19:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/08/become-more-amazing.html"> Become More Amazing with Co-Active Coaching</a></b><br />
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<b>JULY 2016</b><br />
<b>848. Monday, July 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/07/who-is-book-love-lust-and-enlightenment.html">Who </a><span style="color: #0000ee;"><u>are</u></span> YOU?</b><br />
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<b>JUNE 2016</b><br />
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<b>847. Tuesday, June 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/06/love-lust-and-enlightenment-lets-get.html">Let's get started</a></b><br />
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<b>846. Wednesday, June 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/06/awakened-love-and-work-via-forgiveness.html">Awakened Love, Life and Work, via Forgiveness as a path to freedom and joy</a></b><br />
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<b>MAY 2016</b><br />
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<b>845. Saturday, May14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/05/why-our-dads-were-dickheads-open-letter.html">An open letter on how to stop suffering from dickhead Dads</a></b><br />
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<b>JANUARY 2016</b><br />
<b>844. Wednesday , January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/01/first-six-pages-of-book-recharge-your.html">Waking up in Relationship</a></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>843. Tuesday, january 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2016/01/blog-post.html">Why are we Alive?</a></b><br />
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<b>DECEMBER 2015</b><br />
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842. December 12: <b><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/12/recharging-your-relationship-day-twelve.html">Recharging your relationship.... earlier chapter 12</a></b><br />
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<b>SEPTEMBER 2015</b><br />
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<b>841, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/09/why-people-hate-christians.html">Why people hate Christians</a></b><br />
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<b>840. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/09/what-is-your-life-for.html">What is your Life for?</a></b><br />
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<b>JULY 2015</b><br />
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<b>839. Tuesday, July 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/07/the-present-loving-life-others-yourself.html">The Present, our only way to freedom.... Loving and Like and the Real Deal</a></b><br />
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<b>JUNE 2015</b><br />
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<b>838, /Friday, June 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/06/touch-in-now-wow-no-hurry-no-worry-just.html">Touch in the Now</a></b><br />
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<b>837. Wednesday, June 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/06/radical-presence-via-gurdjieff.html"> Radical Presence via the Gurdjieff Meditation "Plus"</a></b><br />
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<b>836. Wednesday June 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/06/from-love-lust-enlightenment-to-power.html">Radical Listening</a></b><br />
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<b>835. Monday, June 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/06/working-with-special-needs-children-or.html">Working with the Whole Person, Radical Listening with Special Needs Children</a></b><br />
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<b>834. Friday, June 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/06/awakened-relationship.html">Awakened Relationship, the "almost enlightenment" together game</a></b><br />
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<b>MAY 2015</b><br />
<b>833. Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/05/listening-radical-listening-shut-up-and.html">Radical Listening, or Shut up, don't interrupt, really listen</a>, </b><br />
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<b>832/ MONDAY, may 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/05/awakened-touch-toward-magical-bedroom.html">Touch, and the Magical Bedroom</a></b><br />
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<b>831. Sunday, May 3: P<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/05/pain-vs-suffering.html">ain vs Suffering</a></b><br />
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<b>830. Friday, May 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/05/the-secret-of-happiness.html"> The Secret of Happiness</a> </b><br />
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<b>APRIL 2015</b><br />
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<b>829 Saturday, april 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/be-lazy-for-better-sex-health-and-money.html"> Lazy, good for you and your sex life and anti-aging and more</a></b><br />
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<b>828/ Thursday, April 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/waking-up-again-and-again.html">Waking Up </a></b><br />
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<b>827. Wednesday, April 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/passion-purpose-play-presence-want-it.html">Passion, Play, Purpose, Presence</a> </b><br />
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<b>826. Monday, April 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/waking-up-in-talk-touch-and-life.html">Waking up in touch, talk, sex and life</a>, </b><br />
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<b>825. Saturday, April 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/listening-deeper-from-forthcoming-book.html">Listening Deeper,</a> </b><br />
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<b>824. Thursday, April 16, : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/from-book-love-lust-and-enlightenment.html">Death and Taxes, vs what you can REALLY count on</a></b><br />
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<b>823, Saturday, april 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/you-do-not-have-to-be-good.html">You do not have to be good</a>,</b><br />
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<b>822. Tuesday , April 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-turn-around.html">The Turn Around:</a> </b><br />
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<b>821. Monday, April 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/be-of-good-cheer.html">Be of Good Cheer</a></b><br />
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<b>820. Thursday, April 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/04/fear-and-enlightenment-and-talking-to.html">Fear and Enlightenment,</a></b><br />
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<b>MARCH 2015</b><br />
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<b>819. Thursday, March 26: Sensing yourself, the Gurdjieff meditation</b><br />
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<b>818. Wednesday , March 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/03/a-meditation-for-full-life-all-day-all.html">A full body, full attention, all day mediation...enlightenment in action, if you'd like</a></b><br />
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<b>817, Tuesday, March 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/03/the-passion-project.html">The Passion Project</a></b><br />
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<b>816. Wednesday, March 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/03/awareness-waits-not.html">AWARENESS waits not</a></b><br />
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<b>FEBRUARY 2015</b><br />
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<b>815. February 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/02/cheating-unhappiness2-shift-happens.html">Cheating unhappiness, 2 --- Shift happens</a></b><br />
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<b>814. February 20: C<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/02/cheating-unhappiness-1-shift-happens-if.html">heating unhappiness-1,,, Shift happens</a></b><br />
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813. February 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/02/in-dads-memory.html">In Dad's memory</a><br />
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<b>JANUARY 2015</b><br />
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<b>812. january 9, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/01/now-nature-and-love-day-one.html">Day one, now nature love....roses</a></b><br />
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<b>811. january 2: Friday::: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2015/01/humor-at-our-own-hypocracy.html">Humor at our own hypocracy</a></b><br />
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<b>DECEMBER 2014</b><br />
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<b>810. December 6, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/12/waking-up-in-love-do-it-or-love-will.html">Mindful relationship: the path to ongoing love</a></b><br />
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<b>809. December 5: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/12/maybe-last-post-was-too-narrow-two.html">Two nervous systems, a complicated world.. wildness vs calm</a></b><br />
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<b>808. December 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/12/talk-without-being-in-their-business.html">Love as Listening and Attention and letting them be in "their business"</a></b><br />
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<b>807. December 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/12/waking-up-being-present-violence.html">Violence and Aggression.... Waking Up.... Being Present.. (even a little sex)</a></b><br />
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<b>806. December 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/12/waking-up-in-relationships.html">What do YOU want in your relationship. A way to talk about it that might actually make a difference.</a></b><br />
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<b>NOVEMBER 2014</b><br />
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<b>805. November 26, Thanksgiving: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/a-gratitude-and-touching-and-liking.html"> Gratitude, love, liking and touching</a></b><br />
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<b>804. November 21, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/better-talk-and-touch-and-love-and-sex.html">Part 4 of better talk and touch and love and sex</a></b><br />
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<b>803. November 19, Wednesday""" <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/be-present-even-in-grief-its-doorway-to.html">The end of suffering, even in grief... being present</a></b><br />
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<b>802. November 18, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/now-really-like-this-now.html">Waking up, in all the moments: Ten fingers, ten toes, etc etc</a></b><br />
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<b>801. November 12: T<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/transforming-bitterness-into-love.html">ransforming Bitterness into Love</a></b><br />
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<b>800. November 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/11/pseudo-wisdom-on-wednesday-love-what-is.html">Some realizations on a Wednesday: argue with REality and suffer</a></b><br />
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<b>OCTOBER 2014</b><br />
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<b>799. October 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/10/the-truth-is-free-and-yet.html">Truth is free, and yet....</a></b><br />
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<b>SEPTEMBER 2014</b><br />
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<b>798 Sept 25, Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/love-is-everywhere-just-shut-up.html">Slow down, wake up, love is in any now that's quiet enough</a></b><br />
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<b>797 September 18, Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/dont-be-too-nice.html">Don't be too nice</a></b><br />
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<b>796. September 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/i-wish-this-for-you-i-wish-this-for-me.html">What I want for you....</a></b><br />
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<b>795. September 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/may-you-be-happy-2.html">May you BE happy, 2</a></b><br />
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<b>794. Sept 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/life-love-learning.html">What is the Anat Baniel Method? A daily game: toes, fingers, breath, light</a></b><br />
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<b>793. September 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/the-full-life-now-day-2.html">Sensing the Right Leg and Right Arm... an intense way to begin real presence</a></b><br />
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<b>792, September 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/09/being-now-vs-yammering-about-now.html">Now vs Yammering about the Now</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>AUGUST 2014</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>791. Thursday, August 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/may-you-be-happy.html">May you be Happy</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>790 Monday, August 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/become-more-amazing.html">Become More Amazing</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>789 Monday, August 18, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/shoulders.html">Shoulders</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>788 Wednesday: August 13, For the kids sake <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/forgiveness-friendship-kinship-family.html">/After Divorce, forgiveness, friendship, kinship, family...fun</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #cc0000;"><b>787. Tuesday, August 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/high-performers-to-higher.html">High Performers to Higher</a></b></span><br />
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<b>786, Monday, August 11: :.. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/08/from-special-needs-kids-blog-limitation.html">Limitation vs Possibility, The Anat Baniel Method</a>, with a short six minute video embeded</b></span><br />
<b style="color: #cc0000;">From<a href="http://specialneedschildren-chriselms.blogspot.com/"> Special Needs Kids Blog</a></b><span style="color: #cc0000;"><b><br /></b>
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</span><b>JULY 2014</b><br />
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<b>785. Monday, July 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/learning-as-game-of-variation-why-not.html">Learning as a game any two can play. Or just one</a>. From the <a href="http://specialneedschildren-chriselms.blogspot.com/">Special Needs Children blog</a></b><br />
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<b>784. Thursday, July 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/when-is-best-time-to-be-mindful.html">When is the best time to be mindful?</a></b><br />
<b><br /></b><b>783. Wednesday, July 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/love-and-broken-heart.html">Love and a Broken Heart</a></b><br />
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<b>782. Tuesday, July 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/movement-love-mindfulness-day-1-wake-up.html">Movement, Helping Breathing, a start</a></b><br />
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<b>780. Monday, July 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/anxiety-and-undoing-anxiety.html">Anxiety, and a Movement Lesson to lessen</a></b><br />
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<b>779/ Thursday, July 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/pulse-pulse.html">Pulse Pulse, it's all we got: life and love</a></b><br />
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<b>778/ July 8: Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/hello-god-this-is-god-saying-hi.html">Hello God, this is God saying Hi</a></b><br />
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<b>777. July 3: Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/the-pursuit-of-happiness.html">the pursuit of happiness</a></b><br />
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<b>776. July 2, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/deep-listening.html">Deep Listening</a></b><br />
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<b>775. July 1, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/07/love-as-small-doses-of-pleasurable.html">Small doses of positive connection, food for love, health and soul</a></b><br />
<b><span style="color: purple;">JUNE 2014</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">774. June 30, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-is_30.html">Love is</a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: purple;">773. June 29, Sunday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/feet.html">Feet as a way "out of our heads"-- all the time</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">772. June 28, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/posture-golf-flow-movement-lesson.html"> Posture, Backs, Golf, relaxation--- a movement lesson</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">771. June 27, Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/wake-f-up-f-to-wake-up.html"> Wake the f... up, f... to wake up, not the usual</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">770. June 26, Thursday.....<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/asking-and-listening.html"> be present, wait, ask</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">769. June 25, wednesday------ <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-is.html">more unconditional love</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">768, June 24, Tuesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-is.html"> Love, the unconditional version, i.e. love</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">767, June 23, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/happiness.html">Freedom, do we really want it?</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">766. June 22: Sunday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/complaining-as-love-making.html">Conflict as Food for Love</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">765. June 21: Saturday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-making.html">Love "making</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">764. June 20, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/awake.html">Awake in Sex, awake in touch</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">763. June 19, Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/forgiveness-101.html">Forgiveness, good of the Gods</a></span></b><br />
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<b>762. June 18, Wed, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/talking-about-talk.html">Talking about Talk, as in, why not improve communication?</a></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">761. June 17, Tuesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/waiting-to-come-coming-together.html">Waiting to come, coming together, nowing and learning love</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">760. June 14, Saturday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/the-learning-planet.html">the importance of mind reading</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">759. June 13 Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/slow-down-touch.html">Touch, slowing and listening</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">759. June 12 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/insomnia.html">Insomnia</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">758, June 12, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/how-can-i-love-you-better3.html">How Can I Love you better?,,, 3</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">757. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/slow-connect-discover-back-to-10-minute.html">Love and Sex Before Dinner: Making Out as Slow, Connect, Discover... and yum</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">756. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/anat-baniels-nine-essentials-my-phrases.html">Anat Baniel's Nine Essentials with my phrases after</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">755. June 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/how-can-i-love-you-more-2.html">How can I love you more? 2</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">754. June 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/how-can-i-love-you-more.html">How can I love you more?</a></span></b><br />
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<b>753. June 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/moving-up-moving-down.html">Moving Up and Down/ de slumping ourselves in a chair, movement lesson</a></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">752. June 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/awakened-relationship.html">Awakened Relationship</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">751. June 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/skipping.html">have you tried skipping lately, for fun and your brain</a>???</span></b><br />
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<b>750. June 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/the-new-you-talk-as-magic-if-you-are.html">talk as renewal and magic, if present</a></b><br />
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<b>749. June 5: 10 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/10-minute-naked-make-outtouch-before.html">minute make out</a></b><br />
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<b>748, June 4: Wednesday: Love and Sex Before Dinner, 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/ambivalence-love-and-sex-before-dinner-3.html">Ambivalence</a></b><br />
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<b>747/ June 3, Tuesday, from Love and Sex blog: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-and-sex-before-dinner-day-2.html">How to Talk in your 18 minutes... or be here now</a></b><br />
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<b>746. June 2, Monday, from kids blog: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/flexible-goals-from-kids-blog-but-worth.html">Flexible Goals, gets you there faster</a></b><br />
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<b>745. June 2: Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/06/love-and-sex-before-dinner-how-was-your.html">Love and Sex Before Dinner, 1: "How was your day"?</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>MAY 2014</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>744. May 30, Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/what-is-failure-if-we-leave-fear-and.html">"failure" as the beginning of new learning and joy</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>743. May 29, Thursday, What are other People for?</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>742. May 28, Wednesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/the-morning-meditation-gurdjieff-style.html">The Gurdjieff meditation, an all day possibility</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>741. May 27, Tuesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/the-now-waits-for-no-one-and.html">The now waits for no one, and.... can set you free</a>. You do want to be free, right?</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>740. May 27, Tuesday,<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/doing-it-better-vs-doing-it-right.html"> Doing it Better for Fun, Doing it Right for lockdown</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>739. May 26, Monday afternoon: From special needs kids blog, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/from-special-needs-blog-but-you-can-we.html">ENTHUSIASM</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>738/ May 26, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/awakened-tai-chi.html">Awakened Tai Chi, and you don't have to know tai chi</a></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #990000;"><b><br /></b></span><span style="color: #990000;"><b>737, May 23 friday, Adyashanti on the <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/from-adyashanti.html">immensity and nourishment of the unknown</a></b></span><br />
<span style="color: #990000;"><b><br /></b></span><span style="color: #990000;"><b>736. May 23, Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/new-love-new-life.html">New Love, New Life</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>735. May 20, Tuesday, morning again: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/who-am-i.html">Who am I? Is love about fixing you or know who I am?</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>734. May 19, Monday afternoon, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/subtle-one-of-anat-baniels-nine.html">special needs Monday blog, Essential 4: Subtlety </a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>733. May 19, Monday again: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/black-people-those-formerly-known-as.html">Americanah, an amazing book, do read it and thrive</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>732. May 19: Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/waking-up-love-sex-and-all-that-hooey.html">Love, sex, waking up and all that hooey</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>731. May 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/love-loss-and-magic-on-saturday-before.html">Love, Loss and Magic on a Saturday, all before sundown</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>730, May 5: <a href="https://www.blogger.com/%3Cdiv%20class=%22separator%22%20style=%22clear:%20both;%20text-align:%20center;%22%3E%20%3Ca%20href=%22https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVBoLmsMfklbNzBISTD8hEKOj34bupCjaPJ73fb5WqMMlMIbKFBAhPBa3aaV1UbA5X-EK1VCtyaN2136Oh5NB3ZWm09DMjVharxtWv_13aOtFdzmguJZG_rtBE0LZ3bjAxoatx/s1600/IMG_0763.JPG%22%20imageanchor=%221%22%20style=%22margin-left:%201em;%20margin-right:%201em;%22%3E%3Cimg%20border=%220%22%20src=%22http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-UIISpcdWUlQ/U2f5CtY0gqI/AAAAAAAADF0/HmrR0SavNvQ/s1600/IMG_0763.JPG%22%20height=%22360%22%20width=%22500%22%20/%3E%3C/a%3E%3C/div%3E%20%3Cspan%20style=%22font-family:%20Trebuchet%20MS,%20sans-serif;%22%3E%3Cbr%20/%3E%3C/span%3E%20%3Cspan%20style=%22font-family:%20Trebuchet%20MS,%20sans-serif;%22%3EGoing%20fast,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20you%20can%20only%20do%20what%20you've%20already%20done%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Crazy,%20crazy,%20the%20way%20educators,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20be%20they%20in%20schools,%20or%20well%20meaning%20OTs%20and%20PTs%20with%20special%20needs%20kids%3Cbr%20/%3E%20keep%20trying%20to%20hustle%20along%20the%20child%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20And%20it's%20so%20understandable.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20The%20child%20is%20%22behind.%22%3Cbr%20/%3E%20So%20much%20to%20learn,%20so%20get%20it%20in%20fast.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Except:%20the%20child%20doesn't%20learn.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Any%20child.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Any%20adult.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20If%20the%20teaching%20is%20too%20fast,%20it%20turns%20into%20mush%20in%20the%20would%20be%20learner's%20head.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20I%20just%20experienced%20this%20recently%20in%20a%20terrible%20Salsa%20lesson.%20After%20just%20barely%20demonstrating%20our%20next%20steps,%20the%20teacher%20put%20on%20music%20that%20a%20natural%20athlete%20could%20keep%20up%20with,%20but%20anyone%20really%20needing%20to%20learn%20would%20be%20overwhelmed%20and%20lost.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20And%20once,%20when%20a%20wonderfully%20good%20hearted%20PT%20came%20in%20to%20observe%20me%20lessons,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20she%20could%20not%20only%20see%20the%20obvious%20results,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20but%20her%20main%20comment%20was:%20%22Oh,%20my.%20I%20really%20have%20to%20slow%20down.%22%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20The%20brain%20loves%20to%20learn.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20But%20if%20something%20is%20new,%20it%20takes%20time.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20If%20a%20child%20is%20challenged,%20then%20go%20slower.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20But%20even%20with%20ourselves,%20rushing%20ourselves%20to%20learn%20faster%20than%20we%20can%20feel%20and%20stay%20present%20with,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20will%20result%20in%20either%3Cbr%20/%3E%20no%20results%3Cbr%20/%3E%20or%20faked%20learning,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20which%20instantly%20goes%20away.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20And%20there%20is%20this:%3Cbr%20/%3E%20many%20if%20not%20most%20special%20needs%20kids,%20and%20especially%20those%20on%20the%20spectrum,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20feel%20the%20world%20as%20a%20bombardment%20of%20too%20much%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Slowing%20down%20to%20one%20thing,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20done%20slowly,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20and%20their%20brain%20can%20%22catch%22%20what%20is%20happening.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Not%20only%20will%20they%20learn%20to%20make%20connections,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20because%20they%20are%20able%20to%20notice,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20but%20the%20very%20slowing%20down%20for%20them%20will%20be%20a%20kind%20of%20meditation.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Let's%20say%20that,%20but%20more%20broadly:%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Slowing%20down,%20for%20both%20you%20and%20your%20child%20will%20be%20a%20kind%20of%20meditation.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20All%20good%20spiritual%20teachers%20extoll%20us%20to%20pay%20attention%20to%20those%20we%20love%3Cbr%20/%3E%20This%20attention%3Cbr%20/%3E%20is%20the%20world%20of%20slow,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20can%20really%20be%20felt.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Attention%20and%20love%20are%20extremely%20similar,%20if%20the%20attention%20is%20approving.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20So,%20we%20can%20slow%20down,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20help%20our%20children%20move%20and%20think%20and%20even%20talk%20more%20in%20the%20moment,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20and%20help%20everyone%20get%20ahead%20more%20quickly%3Cbr%20/%3E%20by%20slowing%20down.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Anat%20recommends%20the%20Slow%20Game,%20where%20you%20take%20an%20activity%20such%20as%20putting%20a%20puzzle%20together,%3Cbr%20/%3E%20and%20challenge%20yourself%20and%20your%20child%20to%20SLOWLY%20put%20each%20piece%20in.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20This%20could%20be%20a%20fun%20variation%20with%20dressing,%20which%20often%20drives%20the%20parents%20crazy%20as%20already%20being%20%22too%20slow.%22%3Cbr%20/%3E%20But%20what%20about,%20one%20day%20when%20the%20clock%20isn't%20breathing%20down%20our%20neck,%20see%20how%20slowly%20a%20shirt%20or%20a%20sock%20or%20%C2%A0pants%20or%20a%20shoe%20can%20be%20put%20on.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20How%20slowly%20we%20can%20walk%20around%20the%20room.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20In%20nature,%20slowing%20down,%20and%20matching%20the%20clouds%20or%20some%20lazy%20breeze%20or%20slowly%20trickling%20stream,%20makes%20a%20huge%20amount%20of%20sense%20and%20will%20bring%20great%20relief%20to%20both%20you%20and%20your%20child.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20(And%20you%20can%20change%20things%20up.%20That's%20the%20next%20essential,%20variation.%20But%20for%20now,%20see%20how%20slowly%20you%20can%20do%20a%20number%20of%20things%20with%20your%20child)%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Anat%20recommends%20Slow%20Time,%20which%20is%20basically,%20you%20going%20to%20be%20with%20your%20child%20in%20a%20meditative%20and%20nor%20hurried%20manner.%20No%20judgment.%20All%20attention.%20See%20what%20you%20can%20learn%20that%20you%20may%20well%20have%20missed%20in%20the%20usual%20hurried%20world.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20This%20is%20as%20much%20for%20you,%20as%20for%20your%20child.%20This%20is%20your%20heart%20and%20soul%20being%20rewired%20as%20you%20make%20it%20easier%20for%20them%20to%20move%20and%20think%20and%20interact%20in%20the%20world%20as%20they%20rewire%20their%20brains.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Take%20a%20breath%20now.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20Slow%20can%20start%20any%20time%20now%20is.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20And%20now%20is%20always%20now%20is%20always%20now.%3Cbr%20/%3E%20%3C/span%3E%20Good.">Slow, Essential to Learning and Love, from Special Needs Kids Blog</a></b> </span><br />
<span style="color: #990000;"><br /><b>729. May 4: </b><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/meditation.html" style="font-weight: bold;">Meditation, the impermanent and the permanent</a><br /><br /><b>728/ May 3: </b><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/love-and-hate-anger-and-having-fun-with.html" style="font-weight: bold;">Love Hate and Anger, having fun with all of that</a> </span><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>727. May 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/05/autism-and-love-from-perspective-of.html">Autism and Love, from the Mindful Parenting of an Autistic child perspective</a></b><br />
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<b>APRIL 2014</b><br />
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<b>726: April 29, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/autism-and-love.html">Autism and Love, Connecting and Playing, and Going Easy</a></b><br />
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<b>725, April 25, Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/learning-from-autism-one.html">Autism and Meditation, part one</a></b><br />
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<b>724. April 24, Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/mindfulness-when-you-have-too-much-to-do.html">Waking Up, even when we are busy. Why?</a></b><br />
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<b>723. April 22, Tuesday: <a href="http://many%20people%2c%20asked%20what%20they%20feel%20in%20their%20bodies%2c%20only%20report%20what%e2%80%99s%20missing./">Treating Your Child, Your Mate, Yourself in Poor and Better Ways</a></b><br />
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<b>722. April 21: Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/from-special-needs-blog-your-childs.html">From Special Needs Blog: Your Child's Brain on Learning</a></b><br />
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<b>721. April 17, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/resurrection-what-dies-what-lives.html">Loving Your enemy. What Easter is really about</a></b><br />
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<b>720. April 16, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/the-love-game-wake-up-game-are-they-same.html">The Love Game. The Wake up Game. Are they the same?</a> </b><br />
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<b>719. April 14, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/monday-special-needs-kids.html">Chapter 2, CONNECTING not Fixing</a></b><br />
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<b>718. April 7, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/lets-reread-kids-beyond-limits-brain.html">Let's reRead Anat Baniel's book: Kids Beyond Limits</a></b><br />
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<b>717. April 4, 2014: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/04/back-neck-shoulder-pain-what-heck.html">Backs, Necks and Shoulder Pain... What the heck... Rewire the Brain</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>MARCH 2014, THE MONTH OF TRANSITION</b><br />
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<b>716, March 16, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/03/eyes-necks-and-backs.html">Fear and Change, Fear of Change, the Strange Plight of Being Human, and, The Strange as Freedom</a></b><br />
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<b>715. March 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/03/eyes-necks-and-backs.html">Movement Lesson: Eyes, Neck and Back</a></b><br />
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<b>714. MARCH 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/03/freedom-and-love.html">Freedom and Love</a></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">FEBRUARY 2014, THE MONTH OF LOVE AND LEARNING</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">713. Thursday, February 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/waking-up-and-love.html">Love in Waking = Love, Love in mindlessness = Mom + Pop</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">712. Monday, Feb 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/there-is-place-of-happy-relaxation.html">Loving the Other after Divorce, freedom</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">711. Tuesday, Feb 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/10-steps-to-happiness.html">10 steps to Happiness</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">710. Monday, Feb 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/divorce-love-freedom.html">Divorce + Love = Freedom</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">709. Tuesday, Feb 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/is-there-sex-after-marriage.html">Is there Sex after Marriage?</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">708. Tuesday, Feb 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/balance-two-for-you.html">Balance Two, for you, and you and you</a><br />
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<b>707, Monday, February 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/02/balance-movement-lesson.html">Balance and movement: a movement lesson for all</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;">JANUARY 2014, HURRAY!</span><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">706. Thursday: Jan 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/movement-for-back-hips-neck-and-brain.html">Movement Lesson--- Cat and Cow several ways, in both sitting and the normal yoga way of hands and knees</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">705. Tuesday, Jan 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-heart-knows-what-mind-has-forgotten.html">The Heart Knows what the Mind done Forgot</a>, Love is and Ain't, part 8</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">704. Friday, Jan 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint_24.html">Love is, Love Ain't 7</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">703. Friday, Jan 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/back-toes-spine-pelvis-neck-and-nose.html">On your back, pushing down a standing foot to release back and brighten your brain</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">702. Wednesday, Jan 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/side-lying-flexion-and-extension-all-in.html">Side lying, flexion extension hips shoulder brain, fun</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">701. Wednesday, Jan 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint-6.html">Love is, Love Ain't 6</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">700. Tuesday, Jan 21, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/more-moving-on-side-shoulder-hip-brain.html">More moving on your side: Hips, shoulder, brain</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">699 Monday, Jan 20, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint-5-prophet.html">Love is , Love Ain't, Kahlil Gibran, and the Prophet</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">698 Tuesday, Jan 20, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/movement-joy-hip-and-shoulder-three.html">Movement Lesson, Shoulder and Hip</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">697/ Monday, Jan 20, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint-5.html">Love is, Love Ain't 4</a>, Paul in Corinthians 13</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">696. Saturday, Jan 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint_18.html">Love is, Love Ain't 3</a></span></b><br />
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<span style="color: #990000;"><b>695. Friday, Jan 17,<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint-2.html"> </a><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint-2.html">Love is, Love Ain't, 2</a></b></span><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">694. Thursday, Jan 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/love-is-love-aint.html">Love Is, Love Ain't, 1</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">693. Wednesday, January 15, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/life-is-yes.html"> Life is Yes, Yes</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">692. Tuesday, January 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-bright-glory-of-now-austin-on-warm.html">Austin on a warm January night-- the bright glory of other people</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">691. Monday, January 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/happiness-is-choice.html">Happiness is our choice.... why not choose it, eh?</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">690. Thursday, January 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/forgetting-whats-not-important.html">Forgetting what's not important... other people's dumb ass opinions of us</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">689. Monday January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/making-out-with-life.html">Making Out with the wake up</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">688. Saturday, January 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/mindfulness-and-love.html">Mindfulness and Love</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #990000;">687 . Thursday, January 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/some-kind-of-anger-that-allows-sun-to.html">anger that stays happy--- why not, it's our life, anyway</a><br />
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<b>686. Wednesday, January 1, 2014: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2014/01/wake-up-ongoing-meditation-for-2014-all.html">An ongoing meditation for those who wish to wake up this year</a></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">DECEMBER 2013</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">685/ Tuesday: December 31: Freedom #7{ <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/the-kings-son-and-queens-daughter.html">Sufi teaching story:The King's Son and the Queen's Daughter</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">684. Monday, December 30: Movement #6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/movement-6-more-chair-fun-left-and.html">leaning and learning on a chair</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">683. Monday, December 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/movement-5-waking-up-our-back-in-chair.html">Movement #5: Ease in our back by slow movement in a chair</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">682. Sunday, December 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/rules-of-play-my-modification-of-one.html">The Rules of Play, my modification of a one taste layout</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">681. Thursday: December 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/waking-up-freedom-and-happiness.html">Waking up to this precious moment</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">680. Sunday, December 22, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/the-alchemy-of-happiness-in-sad-times.html">Sad and going deeper to the real Who are we Anyway?</a></span></b><br />
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<span style="color: lime;"><b>679. December 20: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/i-need-your-love-you-should-love-me-is.html">I need your love/ you should love me.... Is that true?</a></b></span><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">678. December 19, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/move-as-if-your-life-depended-on-it.html">Wake up, Lean Down, Makes Changes, Wake up better, Lean down better, a Movement Lesson</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">677. December 14, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/relationship-4-loving-leaver.html">Loving Someone Who Leaves you,, Love = Freedom</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">676. December 13: Friday the 13th: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/freedom-4-not-anxiety-lots-of-gratitude.html">Gratitude and Never be Anxious</a><br />
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<b>675/ December 7. Saturday, Relationship #3: " <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/relationship-3-another-poem-st.html">When someone leaves: what St Catherine of Siena</a> has to say ( and me, too, at the end)</b><br />
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<b>674 December 3: Freedom 3, Poem<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/freedom-3-poem-denise-levertov-primary.html"> Primary Wonder, Denise Levertov:</a> life is yes, and yes</b><br />
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<b>673. December One: M<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/12/movement-3-in-bed-and-easy-on-your-back.html">ovement #3: Rotation in the easy mode, lying on your left side. Pleasant.</a> Anti-insomnia. Back heaven.</b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">672. November 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/relationship-2-believing-story-or-not.html">Relationship 2< Believing the story, or Not believing the story: the two chair approach</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">671. November 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/movement-2-in-chair-rotation-for-fun-of.html">Movement 2: rotation to the left in a chair</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">670/ November 29: Freedom, 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/freedom-2.html">Don't shop, just BE-- subversive happiness and the freedom of easy living</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">669, November 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/freedom-1-is-it-true.html">Freedom One: Is it true?</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">668, November 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/hugs-relationship-1.html">Relationship One: Hugs to move deeper into Love. Go slow. Listen.</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">667. November 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/toes-and-nose-day-one-of-108.html">Movement One: Toes and Noses and Eyes: Easy to start the day, easy to start 108 experiments in Movement, Relationship and Freedom</a></span></b><br />
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<b style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #990000;">666. November 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/why-have-lessons-for-child-why-live.html">Why have lessons for a child</a>... From the special needs children blog<br />
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<b>665, November 12: Tuesday:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/liking-first-then-sex-what-is-kin-what.html"> Liking first ( not the usual "love") before sex. Kin. Kind. Slowing down. Way down</a> </b><br />
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<b>664, November 6, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/namaste-loving-haters.html">Namaste/ Loving the Haters</a> </b><br />
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<b>663. November 4, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/11/revised-rules-of-play.html">Revised Rules of Play</a></b><br />
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<b>662. October 30: Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/10/when-other-people-lash-out-at-you.html">When Other People Lash out at you</a></b><br />
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<b>661. October 28, Monday: Cat and Cow and Brain( Yours)</b><br />
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<b>660. October 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/10/hugs-not-drugs.html">Hugs not Drugs</a></b><br />
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<b>659, October 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/10/hafiz.html">Hafix, in love with God: three ways</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>658 sept 19 thursday" <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/love.html">Love, a first dash splash, rash undertaking, why not?</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>657 sept 18 wednesday: What if I miss a day?</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>656 Sept 16, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/asking-every-day-little-beyond-our.html">Asking for what you want, beyond the edge, each day: sex and money</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>655/ Sept 15, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/men-should-know-for-woman-everything-is.html">What Men Should Know: For a Woman, everything is connected</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>654/ Sept 14: Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/falling-in-love.html">Falling in Love</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>653/ Sept 13, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/what-women-should-know-about-men-say-it.html">What women should know about men: Every time, say it like the first time</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><b>652 Sept 12 Thursday: Day one of forty: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/the-way-of-remembering.html"> the way of remembering</a></b>
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<b>651. September 8: Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/09/strange-grown-up.html">Strange = Grown Up</a></b><br />
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<b>650 August 29: Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/08/connection-no-matter-what-sex-every-day.html">Talk every day, sex every day: connection no matter what</a></b><br />
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<b>649. August 27: Tuesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/08/happy-and-free-is-this-for-you-you-sure.html">Happiness and Freedom: You sure you want them?</a></b><br />
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<b>648, August 17, Saturday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/08/relaxation.html">Relaxation</a></b><br />
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<b>647. August 16, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/08/tenderness.html">Tenderness</a></b><br />
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<b>646. August 1, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/08/the-importance-of-love.html">Love, Sex, OM, meditate; yes yes yes yes</a></b><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>645. July 31, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/at-end-of-day.html">at the end of the day: wake up, or go to bed</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>644. July 30, Tuesday:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/talking-out-of-sleep-box.html"> slow talk, wake up.... really</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>643, July 29 : Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/slow-sex-slow-life-slow-talkwake-upwhy.html">slow sex, slow talk, .... really?</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>642. July 28: Sunday, again: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/waking-up.html">Waking UP</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>641. July 28, make up, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/love-and-lust.html">Love and Lust</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>640. July 26: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-taste-of-liberation.html">The taste of liberation.....truth</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>639. July 25, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/sex-every-day-om.html">Sex Every Day: OM</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>638. July 24: Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/minding-your-soul-mate-yourself.html">Find your soulmate, yourself</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>637. July 23, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/snakes-boobs-and-mangos.html">Snakes, Boobs, Mangos</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>636. July 22: Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgiving-for-giving-be-happy.html">Forgiving for the giving yourself a break, it's not about them, really</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>635. July 21, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/sex-love-can-you-have-sex-without-being.html">Sex can be not present, it just sucks then; Love without present, can't exist</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>634. July 20: Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-importance-of-om.html">The importance of OM</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>633. July 19: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/sex-every-day-yuk.html">Sex Every Day---yuk</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>632. July 18: Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/love-dies-good.html">Love dies---good</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>631. July 17: WEdnesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-rules-of-play.html">The Rules of Play</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>630/ July 16: Tuesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/when-someone-leaves-you-youve-been.html">When someone leaves you, you've been spared</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>629. July 15, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-importance-of-death.html">The importance of death</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>628. July 14: Sunday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/blog-post.html">Love is in no hurry, so why should we be?</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>627. July 13: Saturday: <a href="http://read%20to%20the%20end%20to%20see%20where%20he%20tells%20the%20learned%20to%20find%20god%20%20i%20was%20invited%20to%20any%20important%20conference%20where%20many%20learned%20men%20from%20different%20countries%20were%20all%20going%20to%20address%20the%20topic%20%20where%20is%20god/?%20%20I%20was%20wearing%20my%20best%20clothes%20and%20had%20even%20fasted%20for%20a%20week,%20hoping%20to%20sharpen%20my%20mind.%20Just%20before%20I%20was%20to%20leave%20though,%20i%20felt%20powerfully%20drawn%20to%20a%20little%20shrine%20in%20my%20bedroom,%20and%20I%20wen%20there%20and%20knelt%20to%20pray.%20%20I%20could%20not%20believe%20what%20happened%20next%22%20Kali%20threw%20here%20arms%20around%20me%20and%20started%20tearing%20at%20my%20clothes,%20then%20she%20started%20throwing%20delicious%20food%20into%20my%20mouth,%20purposely%20missing%20several%20times%20it%20seemed,%20to%20soil%20my%20pundit%20attire;%20%20and%20then%20she%20mad%20me%20perform%20many%20times%20as%20if%20I%20were%20her%20husband;%20then%20she%20said,%20%22Now,%20Kabir,%20don%27t%20be%20later%20for%20that%20big%20talk,%20and%20don%27t%20change%20your%20clothes--%20I%20like%20that%20love-stained%20look;%20maybe%20it%20will%20become%20chic!%22%20%20I%20arrived%20just%20as%20it%20was%20my%20turn%20to%20stand%20before%20this%20august%20crowd,%20and%20apologized%20for%20my%20appearance.%20%20%22So....Where%20is%20God?,%22%20the%20head%20of%20the%20conference%20asks%20me.%20%20%22WEll%20(%20well,%20I%20stammered)%20if%20you%20really%20want%20to%20know%20the%20truth%20--if%20you%20hurry--%20you%20might%20catch%20Her%20legs%20spread%20back%20at%20my%20pad.%22%20%20%20......%20Rendering%20by,%20Daniel%20Ladinsky,%20%20from%20Love%20Poems%20from%20God,%20some%2013%20mystics,%20many%20of%20whom%20think%20along%20these%20lines">where Kabir, 15th century mystic found God</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>626. july 12: Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/miras-cure-for-sadness-reach-out-and.html">Mira, touch as the cure for sadness</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>625. July 12:, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/vulnearble.html">Vulnerable</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>624, July 11 Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/sensational-sex.html">Sensation, Sex, sensing, making sense of life: be present</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>623. July 10, Wednesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/slow-food-slow-sex-waking-up-to-now-life.html">Slow Sex, Slow Food, Slowing down to Wake up in Now</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>622. July 9, Tuesday, Forgiveness, 3<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgiveness-101-other-people-are-shits.html">: Other people are shits/ so are we</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>621. July 8, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgiving-reality.html">Forgiveness, Part 2</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>620. July 7, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgiveness.html">Forgiveness, Part 1</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>619. July 6, Saturday : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/what-does-love-have-to-do-with-it.html">What does Love have to Do with It?</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>618. July 5: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/would-you-like-to-make-out-for-ten.html">Would you like to Make Out for 10 minutes? </a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>617, July 4, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/july-4th-independence-and-connection.html">Why not just "do it yourself," why OMing?</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>616. July 3, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/really-sex-every-day.html">Sex Every Day: that's not spontaneous, eeek!</a> </b><br />
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<b>615: July 2, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/practice-day-2-of-sex-every-day.html">Practice makes Awake, or moves toward more Awake</a> </b><br />
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<b>614, July 1, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/07/sex-every-day-day-1.html">Sex Every Day</a> </b><br />
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</span><span style="color: #b45f06;"><b> JUNE 2013<br />
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613. June 27, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/jealousy-and-famous.html">Jealousy Sucks, and there is a way out</a>
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612 June 24 Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/what-does-humanity-need.html">What I wish for you, what I wish for us...</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #b45f06;"><b>611 June 17, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/dyamnic-relationship-vs-fixed.html">Dynamic vs Fixed ( fear based) Relationship: gooooood stuff, from Nicole Daedone, with some Chris addition</a>s </b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">610. June 14, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/hi-there-heres-second-part-from-nicole.html">10 things women should know about men</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">609. June 13, Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/nicole-daedone-coming-to-austin-check.html">10 things men should know about women</a></span></b><br />
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<b>608. June 12, Wed, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/when-you-want-to-coast-dont.html">When you want to coast...don't</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #b45f06;"><b>607. June 11, Tuesday... <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/next-dream-please.html">Next dream...please</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #b45f06;"><b>606. June 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/yesterday-i-graduated-from-nine-months.html">After 9 months: Orgasmic Birth (???)</a></b><br />
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<b>605. June 5<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/06/life-on-its-own-terms.html">: Life on it's own terms </a></b><br />
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<b>MAY 2013<br />
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604. May 21: Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/05/what-if-connection-were-what-mattered.html">What if connection where what mattered</a><br />
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603. May 20, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/05/fear-is-just-story.html">Fear is the story, listened to and believed</a> </b><br />
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<b>602. May 9, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/05/where-does-windwo-open-to.html">Where does the window open to</a> </b><br />
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</span><b><span style="color: lime;">APRIL 2103</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">601. April 29: Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/from-good-to-great.html">Good to Great, happy hooey and you</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">600. April 27, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/why-bother.html">the joy of going beneath, "why bother?"</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">599. April 26, Friday : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/happy-no-matter-what.html">Happy no matter what</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">598. /aprl 25, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/love-is-beyond-categories-no-astrology.html">Love is beyond categories<span style="color: lime;">, astrology, eneagram, sexual types, and all that hooey</span></a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">597. April 245, Wednesday : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/backs-shoulders-necks-brains-and-sex.html">Backs, Necks, Shoulders, Brains, Sex</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">596. April 23, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/grounded.html">Grounded</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">595. April 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/now-we-begin.html">Now we begin, Monday </a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: lime;">594. April 18, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/04/there-is-always-too-much-to-do.html">there is always too much to do</a></span></b><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>MARCH 7 2013</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>593. March 31: Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/jesus-died-so-you-could-have-beginners.html">Jesus died so you could live in the present/ know love</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>592/ March 29: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/dont-think-realize.html">if you think it can't get any better or worse....</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>591. march 28: thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/go-ahead-and-die-just-dont-forget-to-go.html">go ahead and die, it might be the nicest thing you did today</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>590. march 27: wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/connection-only-for-perfect-is-that-true.html">Connection is only for the Perfect;::: Is that true?</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b> 589, march 25, monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/free-fall.html">Free fall</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>588, March 24, Sunday/<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/glory-be.html">glory bee, two birthdays</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>587. March 23, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/simplicity.html">Do it with yes and do it with fun<span style="color: #38761d;"> (even, especially, if you don't want to do it)</span></a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>586. March 22, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/saying-yes-to-crazy-down-fed-up-ie-life.html">the mess and the muck is the yuck, and the glory, the yes, the yes, the yes</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>585. March 21, Thurs, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/gods-idea-of-good-fall.html">God's idea of a good fall</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>584. March 20: Wednes <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/god-is-around.html">God is around</a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>583/ March 19, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-gift.html">A gift/ the gift</a> </b><br />
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<b>582. March 13: Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-masculine-and-feminine.html">Masculine and Feminine</a> </b><br />
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<b>581. March 7 : Wednesday:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/03/connection.html"> Connection</a> </b><br />
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</span><span style="color: blue;"><b>JANUARY 2013</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue;"><b>580, January 3: Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/01/blog-post_3.html">the full yes</a> </b><br />
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<b>579. January 2, : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2013/01/blog-post.html">Wednesday: stop it already, this feeling bad about feeling bad</a> </b><br />
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</span><b><span style="color: #22ee1d;">DECEMBER 2012</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #22ee1d;">578. Wednesday, Dec 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/12/the-animial-beast-woman-child-native.html">Wild child filthy animal and other joys</a><br /><br />577/ Monday, Dec 10{ <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/12/deep-reality-sex-children-feminine.html">the hot yes at the center, the oceans, the trees, nature and OMing</a><br /><br />
<b>576. Saturday, late, December 1, after the Living Room: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/12/life-is-yes-even-when-you-die.html">Life is yes, even in/ with death</a> </b><br />
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</span></b><span style="color: #38761d;"><b>NOVEMBER 2012</b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>575. Friday, nov 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/the-importance-of-fatigue.html">Fatigue as just another experience to experience as we wake up</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>574. Nov. 28, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/crazy-love.html"> Crazy Love, and not "getting what you want"... just yet</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>573. Nov 27 Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/wake-up-turn-on-now-orgasm-love.html">Wake UP, Turn ON. Now, Orgasm, Love</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>572. Nov 25: Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/waking-up-in-bikram.html">Waking up in Bikram, fun and prophet</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>571. Nov. 24, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/is-there-meaning-to-life.html">What is da meaning of Life? and is that a fair question?</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>570. Nov 22: Thurs, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/random-cool-quotes-from-free-will.html">groovy quotes on art, the unconscious and choosing</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>569. Nove22: Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/mindful-thanks-for-life-mary-oliver-poem.html">Mary Oliver poem, Mindful </a></b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>568. Nov 15, Thurs; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/whats-good-about-bikram.html">WHAT'S good about Bikram</a> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #38761d;"><b>567. Nov 15, Thurs: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/the-glory-of-what-is-part-22-quieting.html">The glory of what is, part 22: shutting quieter the inner chatter mind</a></b></span><br />
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566. Nov. 14, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/the-laws-of-oming-awakened-sex.html">The Laws of Real Sex, vs the Laws of Production. mini intro to OMing.</a><br />
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565. NOvember 12: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=33426194#editor/target=post;postID=3708572628432817452">Monday wake up call: Surfing the new and now to heal and expand and delight in relationship</a>
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564. November 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/remember-to-remember.html">Sunday wake up call: Remember to Remember</a>
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563. November 8, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/bipolar-without-drugs.html">Bipolar undo without drugs, a six step protocol</a> <br />
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562. November 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/11/a-great-relationship.html">Great Relationship, Four Parts: Sex, Communication, Unconditional Love, a Big Job--- a great little essay</a> <br />
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</span><b><span style="color: red;">OCTOBER 2012 </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: red;">561.Wednesday, October 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/10/hollow-ween.html">Hollow wee the unseen food that is in no hurry to be eaten</a>
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560. SAturday, Oct 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/10/the-joy-of-being-wrong-this-time-about.html">The joy of being wrong, about Bikram yoga</a>
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559. Friday, October 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/10/movement-lesson-on-side-spine-via-arm.html">Side lying on the floor, exploring arm and knee and spine, movement lesson</a><br /><br />
558. Tuesday, October 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/10/im-so-wonderful-youre-so-wonderful-life.html">I'm so wonderful, you're so wonderful, life is good/ great without the story </a>
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556. Tuesday , October 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/10/grounded-again-desire-attention.html">Grounded in Reality, grounded in Gravity</a></span></b><br />
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<b>555. Thursday, September 27 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-no-thing-when-we-say-it-when-others.html">What does "no" mean when we give it; when we get it; a mini dip into a huge discussion, actually one of the most important in life</a> </b><br />
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<b>554. Monday, September 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/kids-tantrums-having-enlightenment.html">Kids, Tantrums, So What: Can we be awake and help their mindfulness and differentiation increase? (Answer: Yes)</a> </b><br />
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<b>553. Saturday, Sept 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/resistance-as-red-herring-sort-of.html">"Resistance" as red herring? Who knows, an exploration</a> </b><br />
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<b>552. Thursday, Sept 20, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/beneath-facism-of-appearance-whats-left.html">The game is a hiding place: the appearance/ attractiveness thing</a> </b><br />
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<b>551. Monday, sept 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/beneath-limbic-happy-cat-hunting-cat.html">The five lines: sensing our moving self, and then the limbic can float in a solid place</a> </b><br />
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<b>550. Sun , sept 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/truth-vs-higher-grade-bullshit.html">Truth of waking vs going to higher grade bullshit</a> </b><br />
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<b>549. Sept 15, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-being-alive-thing.html">The Key to a Good Life</a> </b><br />
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<b>548. Sept 14: Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/supposed-to-be-uncomfortable-in.html">Relationships are supposed to be messy/ Buddha and the heart and you</a> </b><br />
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<b>547, September 13: Thurs, Relationship: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/relationship-if-youve-got-it-right.html">You've got it right, it things aren't right</a> </b>
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<b>546. Sept 5, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/work-happy-word-with-son-in-la-valley.html">Building and wearing oneself out with a grown son: good</a></b><br />
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<b>545. September 4, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/6-step-protocol-deep-change-including.html">Six step protocol for working with mental stuff, or deep transformation, including depression and bipolar, and life crisis points</a></b><br />
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<b>544. September 3, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/09/win-win.html">Loving the all of it, Happiness is the real, unhappiness is the opportunity to get more real</a> </b><br />
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<b>543. August 30, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/rules-and-rules-and-love.html">Wasting time, breaking rules, God's preferred la la</a> </b><br />
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<b>542. Aug 28, Tues, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/meditation-on-reality-or-on-self-image.html">Meditation as food for self image, and hey, no need, you're feeding a ghost</a> </b><br />
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<b>541. August 27, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/dont-think-realize-all-moments-are-equal.html">Life is Real when I let go of Moment rating, and more</a> </b><br />
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<b>540. August 23: Thursday: another article: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/special-needs-children-3-ways-to-go.html">special needs children, outside force vs using the miracle of brain plasticity, with a heel that "wont touch the ground"</a></b><br />
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<b>539, August 20, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/is-anger-bad-thing-you-ever-had-this.html">Is Anger Bad</a>, an article </b><br />
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<b>538. August 13, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/loving-down-loving-up.html">Life can have yuk moments, and that's just the time to be present</a> </b><br />
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<b>537. August 10: Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/if-someone-rejects-youla-la-how-to-love.html">If someone rejects you, you've been spared, Byron Katie to the rescue</a> </b><br />
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<b>536. August 8, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/snaeky-marriage-sullen-divorce-then-what.html">Wednesday, Sneaky Marriage, Sullen Divorce, what happens to the grass is greener then?</a><br />
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<b>535. August 4, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/life-is-beautiful-and-so-what.html">Life is beautiful and so what?</a><br />
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534. August 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/08/joy-and-learning.html">joy and learning</a>
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<b>533. July 31: Tuesday, end of month, supposedly: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/love-and-meditation.html">Love and Meditation</a> </b><br />
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<b>532. July 30, Monday: From special needs kids blog, but more: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/an-anat-baniel-story-importance-of.html">An Anat story on the power of mindful mistakes</a> </b><br />
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<b>531. July 30: Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/experiencing-all-of-it-up-and-down-of.html">The joy of now, and our habit of not joy as "energy" shifts</a> </b><br />
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<b>530/ July 29: Sunday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-29-sunday-laziness-is-next-to.html">Laziness is next to Godliness</a> </b><br />
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<b>529/ July 28, Day 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-end-of-suffering-if-we-want.html">Who or what would we be without the story?, Q #4</a> </b><br />
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<b>528. July 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-attachment-game-viewed-closely.html">The attachment game, and Question #3 from the Work of Byron Katie</a> </b><br />
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<b>527. July 26, Day 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-26-left-left-and-left-right-and.html">Legs and arms, plus Adyashanti gift</a> </b><br />
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<b>526. July 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-25-asking-story-are-you-absolutely.html">Ask again: Is it absolutely true?</a> </b><br />
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<b>525. July 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-24-work-starts-is-it-true.html">The work starts: Is it true?</a> </b><br />
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<b>524 July 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/a-moshe-story-about-little-differences.html">A Moshe arm wrestling story, from special needs children blog</a> </b><br />
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<b>523. July 23: Twenty Three: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/24-up-and-down.html">Mindfulness #23: Belly, Eyes, Ears, Nose, etc. ... it kind a rhymes on the post</a> </b><br />
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<b>522. July 22: Twenty Two: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-22-whats-difference.html">What's the Difference?</a> </b><br />
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<b>521. July 21: Twenty One: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-22-suffering-and-separate-or-at-one.html">Suffering as the ego's job: it demands to be in conflict</a> </b><br />
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<b>520. July 20: Twenty: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-20-sending-self-love.html">Sending self love</a> </b><br />
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<b>519. July 19: Nineteen:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/full-package-now-we-are-in-middle-of.html"> Full Package, all of us mindfulness meditation</a> </b><br />
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<b>518. July 18: Eighteen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-18-earth-air-sky-three-brains-all.html">Earth, Air, Sky: a happy trio to wake into</a><br /> </b></div>
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<b>517. July 17: Seventeen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/17-mindful-walking-and-sitting.html">Mindful walking, (and sitting, too)</a> </b></div>
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516. July 16: Sixteen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/16-gravity-and-breath.html">Breath and Gravity: life on Earth, in the Now</a><br />
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</b><b>515. July 15: Fifteen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/thinking-as-voices-in-our-head.html">"Thinking" as voices in the head. To whom we talking, and how?</a> </b><br />
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<b>514. July 14: Fourteen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-14-toes-of-one-foot-fingers-of.html">Sensing five toes and the opposite finger fingers</a> </b><br />
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<b>513. July 13: Thirteen: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-13-breath-voice-arms-spine-legs.html">Sounds in our head, sounds in our and others' talking</a> </b><br />
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<b>512. July 12: Twelve: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/just-remember-yourself-just.html">"Just" Remember Yourself</a> </b><br />
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<b>511/ July 11: Eleven: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/spontaniety-and-compulsion.html">Spontaneity and Compulsion</a> </b><br />
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<b>510. July 10: Ten: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/feeling-and-feeling.html">Feelings and feeling</a> </b><br />
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<b>509. July 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-9-some-story-and-nature-orientation.html">Moving to Sonoma and some nature in our mindfulness today</a> </b><br />
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<b>508. July 8: Day 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-eight-laziness-is-next-to-godliness.html">Laziness is Next to Godliness</a> </b><br />
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<b>507. July 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/mindfulness-day-7-what-about-heaven.html">Day 7: What about heaven?</a> </b><br />
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<b>506. July 6, second: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-six-let-there-be-awaring-of-light.html">Day Six of the Mindfulness Fest: Light and Sound</a> and the prior awaring, a fullness of inward attention and a rich outward attention: this is us, alive </b><br />
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<b>505. July 6, first: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/happiness-202-life-is-yes-and-can-get.html">Life is Yes, and even 'unhappiness" can stepping stone to awareness </a></b><br />
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<b>504. July 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/real-sounds-vs-auditory-hallucinations.html">Round sounds vs "Auditory hallucinations" which are called "thinking</a> </b></div>
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503. July 4: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1197543965">Spine and arms and legs and breathing, breathing a "power way," or at least a different one. Awareness equals freedom.</a><br />
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<b>502. July 3, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-3-mindful-breathing-with-our-spine.html">Spine and arms and legs and breathing, a fun up and down movement lesson, easy, easy, easy</a> </b><br />
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<b>501. July 2: Monday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/minddul-day-two-box-around-breathing-in.html">Loving the Now of arms and legs and breath</a> </b><br />
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<b>500. July 1: Sunday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/07/day-onebreathing-in-or-breathing-out.html">Mindful Day One: Breathing in, or Breathing out?</a> </b><br />
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<b>499. June 29, Friday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/byron-katie-101.html">Byron Katie, 101</a> </b><br />
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<b>498 June 28, Thursday:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/blog-post_28.html"> Internet at Whole Foods, too much of the good stuff?</a> </b><br />
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<b>497. June 27, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/sensing-moment-gurdjieff-meditation.html">Sensing arms and legs and spine, and adding on the world: light, sound, the fun of practicing awake life</a> </b><br />
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<b>496. June 25, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/love-and-learning-in-world-of-special.html">Special Needs Children and Parents: learning as touch and variation and connection; no mistakes, just learning, or the possibility of that</a> </b><br />
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<b>495. June 24, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/do-little-less-lot-more-awake.html">The being alive thing: Sensing, breathing, light sound, all ways available, the wake up joy, delight game</a> </b><br />
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<b>494. June 21-2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/blog-post_21.html">Coming to Love and Happiness by the door of understanding and awareness, not efforting</a> </b><br />
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<b>493. June 21: (pedantic) <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/love-letter-to-x-lover.html">Love letter to an X, on being perfect and change from there</a> </b><br />
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<b>492.June 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/each-day-offers.html">Each day offers</a></b><br />
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<b>491. June 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/7-steps-for-parents-of-children-on.html">7 steps for parents with children "on the spectrum"</a></b><br />
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<b>490. June 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/blog-post.html">Happiness is a sweet guide, and not necessary</a> </b><br />
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<b>489. June 4, Monday:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/06/returning-calls-or-if-you-cant-love.html"> Loving What is: you get a call, what are your manners about calling back, or: loving everyone or you can't love anyone</a><br />
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488. May 31, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/section-of-relationship-enlightenment.html">Waiting and Wanting vs Just Being, with your partner: Relationship and Enlightenment visited again</a>
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487. May 29: Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/neck-back-shoulders-brain-movement.html">Movement lesson for neck, back, brains and happiness, and learning fun</a>
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486. May 23, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/loving-what-is_23.html">Loving What is, even the ugh</a>
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485. May 21, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/day-5-of-40-days-from-heartbreak-to.html">Day 5, of "40 Days from Heartbreak to 'Almost Enlightenment'"</a>
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484. May 18, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/love-and-money-and-amercia.html">Love and Money and America</a>
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483. May 14: Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/life-is-yes-and-get-better-and-better.html">Life is Yes, and can get better and better, how 'bout that?</a></b><br />
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<b>482. May 12: Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/buddhas-4-truths-and-relationship.html">Buddha's 4 noble truths and Relationship Enlightenment, c/a Susan Piver</a>
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481. May 5, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/loving-what-is.html">What is Now, why not love it? Or: Loving What is. Or: the past is over, Rover</a>
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480. May 3: Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/stuck-to-unstuck.html">From Stuck to Unstuck, one of life's great joys</a>
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479. May 1, Tuesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/05/waking-to-now-in-money-love-movement.html">Love, Money, Movement: A workshop and some ideas to mull</a>
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478. Monday:April 30, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/monday-special-needs-children-elusive.html">Special Needs Children: If they could, they would: Don't try to "make" the children do what they can't do</a>
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477. Saturday, April 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/now-nature-and-love.html">Now, Nature and Love</a>
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476. Thursday; April 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/heartbreak-and-slowing-down.html">Heartbreak and Enlightenment: Give yourself 40 days</a>
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475. Wednesday, April 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/communication-from-pow-to-wow-by-coming.html">Loving what is and transformation "bad" communication</a>
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474. Tuesday, April 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/heartbreak-and-enlightenment-start.html">Relationship and Enlightenment</a><br />
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<b>473. Tuesday, April 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/appreciation-as-food-for-others-and-our.html">Appreciation, food for the soul and others</a>: Special needs children posting, but useful to all </b><br />
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<b>472. Thursday, April 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/deepening-present-without-slow-life-is.html">Slowing down the communication, see what happens, discovery</a></b><br />
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471. Monday, April 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/brains-love-to-learn-any-child-any.html">Brains love to learn, children, adults, special needs children, all of us</a><br />
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470. Tuesday, April 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/seek-until-you-find-gospel-of-thomas-on.html">Gospel of Thomas: Seek until you find</a><br />
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469. Monday, April 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/essential-three-variation-examples-with.html">special needs children, everyone's brain and variation</a><br />
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468/ Saturday, April 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/yesterday-is-gone-one-more-healing-game.html">The past is gone, hmmmm, is that freedom, or what?</a><br />
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467. Thursday, April 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/time-is-for-beginners-breath-is-for.html">Time is for beginners, breath is for finishers</a><br />
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466/ Wednesday, April 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/importance-of-love-33.html">The importance of slowing into love,33</a><br />
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465. Tuesday< April 3; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/love-is-easy-except-it-often-feels-like.html">Love is losing, but nothing that is really ours</a><br />
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464. Tuesday, April 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/04/you-are-what-you-eat-ate.html">You Are What You Eat Ate</a><br />
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463. Wednesday, March 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/to-feel-sad-is-not-bad-its-just.html">To feel sad is not bad, it's just...</a><br />
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462. Tuesday, March 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/another-great-photo-by-michelle-at.html">Want a great relationship: Tell the truth, all of it..</a><br />
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461. Sunday< march 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/i-am-alive-you-are-alive-deepening.html">I am alive, you are alive, I am going to die, you are going to die. deepening the reality, improving any relationship. speaking truth.</a><br />
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460. Friday, March 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/divorce-and-enlightenment.html">Divorce and Enlightenment, the learning zone is always the way out up and in</a><br />
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459. March 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/game-of-enlightenment.html">x\za game of enlightenment, relax and lose, you are already her/here/ there now</a><br />
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458. March 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/relationship-enlightenment-day-seven.html">Day Seven in Relationship Enlightenment: Now vs then in feelings. Exploring and not blaming.</a><br />
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457. March 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/fund-raisining-for-special-needs.html">Fund raising for Special Needs children, some concepts from the Money Miracle training</a>.<br />
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456. March 16, Friday again, alas: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/aging-anti-aging-reversing-clock-waking.html">Anti-aging the the love of learning, old vs new life styles, as in really old</a><br />
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456. March 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/importance-of-forgiving-ourselves.html">The importance of forgiving ourselves</a><br />
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455. March 9, Friday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/when-waiting-for-i-love-you.html">Love is always here, the "i love you" you are waiting for IS you, is the song of the universe, la, la</a><br />
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454. March 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/day-four-this-is-now-this-is-important.html">Day Four of Relationship Enlightenment: Important to me, Gratitude, Present in and Present Out</a><br />
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453. Saturday, March 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/03/day-one-relationship-enlightenment-108.html">Relationship Enlightenment, Day One: I am alive/ you are alive</a><br />
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452. Wed, Feb 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/movement-and-love-feldenkrais-and-love.html">Feldenkrais and Love: Light upon Light</a><br />
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451. Wednesday Feb 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/vows-for-relationship-enlightenment_29.html">More relationship vows</a><br />
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450. Monday, Feb 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/its-already-here-love-enlightenment-you.html">It's already here, love , enlightenment, whatcha want</a><br />
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449. Sunday, Feb 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/vows-for-relationship-enlightenment.html">Vows for Relationship Enlightenment</a><br />
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448. Saturday, FEb 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/other-people-love-us-and-sometimes-they.html">Other people love you, and forget/ or can't, oh well, love 'em</a><br />
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447. Friday, Februar 24, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/if-you-are-single-and-want-amazing-next.html">If you are Single and Want an amazing Next Relationship</a><br />
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446. Thursday, Feb 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/from-relationship-enlightenment.html">Enlightenment in Communication: Slow, listen</a><br />
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445. Thursday, February 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/loneliness-is-blessing-in-disguise.html">Loneliness is a Blessing in Disguise</a><br />
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444. Wednesday, February 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-to-do-when-your-lover-isnt-perfect.html">What to do when your Lover isn't Perfect?</a><br />
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443. Saturday, Feb 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/geothe-on-decision-quote.html">Geothe quote on decision</a>:<br />
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442. Thursday, Feb 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-to-do-when-angry-with-your-lover.html">What to do when angry with your Lover?</a><br />
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441 Tuesday again, 2 for Valentine's Feb 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-is-there-to-say-about-love.html">What about love after loss: always there</a><br />
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440/ Tuesday, Feb ruary, 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/where-does-love-live.html">Where does Love Live?</a><br />
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439. Monday , feb 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/squoze-heart-suffers-but-always.html">squoze hearts suffer, always, but only always</a><br />
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438. Friday Feb 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/if-god-is-love-is-valentines-day-holy.html">if God is love, is Valentine's day Holy?</a><br />
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437. Tuesday, Feb 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/tuesday-today-next-tuesday-valentines.html">V day a week away</a><br />
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436. Monday, February 6 : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/if-love-were-free-then-what-if-it-had.html">Love free or love with a cost, which way?</a><br />
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435. Sunday, FEbruary 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/super-bowl.html">Super Bowl, winners and loserz</a><br />
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434. Saturday, February 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/tpday-is-last-day-of-end-of-your-life.html">Today is the last day of the end of your life</a><br />
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433. Friday, February 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/love-is-important-yes-yes.html">Love is important, yes, yes</a><br />
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433. Thursday: February 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/02/love-and-fear.html">Love and Fear</a><br />
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432. Wednesday, Feb 1 : <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/valentines-treat.html">Valentine's inside and out</a><br />
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431. Friday January 27, two weeks after friday the 13th: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/this-moment-this-love-leaving-behind.html">love and letting go and the impossibility of telling how great it all is...or something like that</a><br />
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430/ Friday, Jan 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/relationship-heaven.html">Relationship Heaven</a><br />
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429. Tuesday, Jan 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/special-needs-children-lessons-to.html">Special Needs Children, lessons to "imitate" the constant learning in "normal" children</a><br />
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428. Saturday, Jan 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/early-tired-awake.html">early, tired, awake</a><br />
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427. Tuesday, Jan 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/essay-for-change-loving-god-with-or.html">God is love, maybe, so might as well love back</a><br />
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426. Tuesday January 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/god-is-and-loving-god-anything.html">God is ???? And loving God anyway</a><br />
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425. Friday, January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/loves-possible-pathways-happy-new-year.html">Love's possible pathways; love yourself if no one else around; happy new year</a><br />
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424. Friday, January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/love-is-this-moment-caressing-itself.html">Love is this moment caressing itself</a><br />
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423. Friday, January 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2012/01/today-is-friday-and.html">Letting yesterday be yesterday; doing more then impossible; loving the now and creating beauty from there</a><br />
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422. Saturday , December 31, la la, so long 2011, you've been grand:<br />
<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/love-is-big-and-why-not.html">A love poem to the world, of sorts, kind a</a><br />
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421. Tuesday, Dec 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/loving-x-especially-if-you-have-kids.html">Loving the X, for your sake and any kids</a><br />
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420. Saturday, Dec 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/christmas-cometh.html">Christmas cometh, the star shines and moves, and a birth</a><br />
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419. Tuesday, dec 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/if-your-mom-is-falling-apart-and-your.html">The importance of humor as Mom or anyone "falls apart"</a><br />
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418, Thursday, December 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/importance-of-love.html">The importance of love</a><br />
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417. Wednesday, Dec 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/special-needs-children-perhaps.html">Special Needs Children, Perhaps compression, certainly learning differences</a><br />
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416. Monday, Dec 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/special-vs-holy-relationship-course-of.html">Love vs entrapment, via Course of Miracles</a><br />
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415. Friday:, Dec 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/best-first-line-of-poem-thank-z-be-to.html">You do not have to be good</a><br />
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414. Tuesday cold in Austin, down to 30's, Dec 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/if-love.html">If love is our subject to day</a><br />
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413. Monday Dec 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/piggybacking-on-evolution.html">piggybacking on evolution</a><br />
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412. Sunday, December 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/its-sunday-night-and-you-are-all-alone.html">It's Sunday night and you've got the chance to feed your soul, hmmmm, will you take it, take a chance on the food of nothingness?<br />
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411. December 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/12/waves-of-now-for-those-of-us-away.html">the nature of now surfing along in body and awareness</a> <br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">410. November 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/what-does-love-have-to-do-with-it.html">What does love have to do with it?</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">409. November 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/if-your-posture-is-slumpy-can-your-mood.html">If posture is slumpy, can mood be far behind?</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">408. Novem 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/loving-what-is.html">Loving wha tis</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">407. November 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/thanks.html">Thanks for the ever loving Now</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #b45f06;">406. November 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/on-machine-in-mornng.html">Awake or not awake in computer land?</a><br />
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405. November 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/beyond-arguing-hey-lets-try-something.html">Life out of the arguing lane, what are we to do when we want to ruin our relationship by "winning" the argument?</a><br />
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404. November 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/what-would-awakened-frienship-look-like.html">Awakened Friendship, hey, let's talk without falling to "sleep"</a> </span></b><br />
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<b>403. November 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/embodied-relationship-awakened-movement.html">Life is now, new is the website at 4BrainFitness.com, weather we like it or not, veering into a poem after all</a> </b><br />
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<b>402. November 16: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1124566249">Movement lesson for brain, neck, back and sex (the later not obvious,</a></b><br />
<b><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/really-simple-movement-lesson-because-i.html">and it will help)</a></b><br />
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<b>401. November 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/its-so-simple.html">It's so simple</a> </b><br />
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<b>400. November 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/remembering.html">Remembrance</a> </b><br />
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<b>399. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/this-life.html">Now is wow, easy Monday, train in the distance, life is...</a> </b><br />
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<b>398. Nov 11, yeah yeah 11/11 blah blah: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/true-story-and-what-is-true-talking.html">True story: not awake while talking</a> </b><br />
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<b>397/ Nov 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/nature-now-love.html">Nature, Now, Love</a> </b><br />
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396. Nov 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/what-has-yes-done-for-you-today.html">What has Yes done for you today?</a><br />
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395. Nov 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/from-todays-special-needs-children-blog.html">From today's special needs children blog</a><br />
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394. Nov. 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/what-would-your-mother-say-if-she-were.html">What would your / my Mom say if she was dead and you were grieving?</a><br />
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393. Nov. 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/feeling-bad-is-good-for-you-if-there-is.html">Feeling bad is good for you, if there is another You to watch</a><br />
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392. November 3, Marlie's birthday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/11/poem-from-two-days-ago.html">Love is catching you by your big toe while you are giggling about something else; or, you are not lost, God is you, and you have you all along</a><br />
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391. October 31, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/death-thing.html">happy hallow tween life and death is just one breath:<br />
death and life is a chance to remember. remember what? You are alive</a><br />
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390. Oct 28. friday's for love, yes: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/now-nature-love-and-you-are-perfect.html">Now Nature & Love</a><br />
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389. October 26 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/prayer-to-enlightened-and-ecological.html">Prayer to ecological and enlightened abundance</a><br />
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388. October 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/children-are-busy-and-we-are-at.html">time and the children and the computer bandit</a><br />
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387. October 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/saturday-night.html">Saturday night and the newness of you</a><br />
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386. Octo 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/falling-into-glory-of-being-being-being.html">Falling in love with the gift: we are alive, wow!</a><br />
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385 october 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/when-is-enough-enough.html">when is enough enough?</a><br />
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384. October 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/ankles-and-wrists-movement-lesson-of.html">Wrists and ankles and learning and waking up, ha he ho hi</a><br />
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383. October 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/mindful-suffering-is-finite.html">Mindful Suffering is Finite; Mindless can be forever</a><br />
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382. October 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/love-is-answer-what-is-question.html">If love is za ansa, what is zee question?</a><br />
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381. October 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/how-now-can-fear-be.html">Getting bigger than fear, by coming the Reality</a> <br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">380. October 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/feeling-bad-in-context-of-bigger-body.html">Feeling bad in the context of "hey, I'm alive, wow!"</a><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">379. October 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/dancing-is-good-4.html">Love poems from Now: Dancing is good 4</a><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">378. October 6, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/sometimes-we-anger-sometimes-we-sad.html">Love Poems from Now: Anger and Sad, not so bad with the Now now juice</a><br />
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377. October 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/love-poems-from-now-daily-feast-begins.html">Love Poems from Now, the Daily feast begins: What is Today?</a><br />
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376. October 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/learning-vs-pushing-someone-child-to-do.html">Learning as natural vs being forced to do what can't do</a>; mainly special needs children; really, all of us<br />
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375. October 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/10/lovely-quote.html">Commit and move forward, Goethe quote, good</a> <br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">374. Sept 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/learning-as-transformation-vs-learning.html">learning as transformation not just "better automatic robot"</a><br />
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373. Sept 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/training-or-learning-why-parents-need.html">Parents and the lessons, for special needs kids, it's the chance of a lifetime for the parents</a><br />
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372. Sept 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/relationships-and-mindfulness.html">Relationship and the crunch time: mindful = options, not mindful...suffering usually</a><br />
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371. Sept 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/joy-of-divorce-novel-first-scene-ping.html">The Joy of Divorce, the Novel, first scene</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">370 Sept 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/babies-love-to-learn-help-them-along.html">The Joy of Learning, helping a baby with speaking, via sound play</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">369. Sept 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/happiness-option.html">Happiness isn't being good, it's stopping the illusion of control</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">368. Sept 14 (well past midnight, but still Wed, sort of): <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/anger-with-variation.html">Anger with variation</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">367/ September 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/shorty-but-goody-for-special-needs.html">short and sweet, get enthusiastic the child, about you</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">366. September 11, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/joy-of-911.html">oh big deal day: The Joy of 9/11</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">361. Sept 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/joy-of-divorce-via-slowing-down.html">Slowing down to speed up the Joy of Divorce </a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">360. September 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/out-of-soup-into-brain-transforming.html">Out of the Soup, into the Brain, transforming Emotional Pain</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">359. September 6, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/tansformation-via-backing-off.html">Subtlety: the power of less effort, the joy of noticing smaller differences</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #38761d;">358. Sept 4, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/carlos-again-casteneda-in-motion.html">Carlos Casteneda, fun after 30 years</a></span></b><br />
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357. September 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/09/what-are-brains-for.html">What are Brains For?</a><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>356 August 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/why-paint.html">Why Paint?</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>355. August 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/happiness-patience-loving-what-is.html">Patience as a key to joy, love and learning</a></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>354. August 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/awakened-christianity-baby-and.html">What to do about Heat, Death, taxes and People who aren't nice to you</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>353. August 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/awakened-christianity-baby-and.html">Awakened Christianity, bathwater vs baby</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>352. August 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/four-ways-to-do-anything.html">Four Ways to Do Anything, or: The transformation always starts Now</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>351. Aug 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/transformation-is-big-deal.html">Transformation is a big deal, in special needs children, and ourselves</a><br />
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350. Aug 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/hafiz-mira-love-is-everywhere.html">More love, poems and whatnot</a><br />
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349/ Aug 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/alternative-to-suffering-rumis-take.html">Rumi and the fainting of how beautiful we are</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>348. August 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/new-website-thejoyofdivorceinfo.html">New Website: the joy of divorce dot info, crisis = opportunity</a>, <a href="http://thejoyofdivorce.info/">thejoyofdivorce.info</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>347. August 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/thumb-and-little-finger-games-for-you.html">Fingers to play, fingers to learn, special needs children, or YOU</a>, or both </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>346. August 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/love-poems-to-and-from-god.html">Love poems, of sorts</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>345. August 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/ze-trans-formation-ov-suffering.html">Unified unSuffering = freedom = options = mindful = La la yes</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>344. August 10, again: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/ze-pain-of-judging-another-old-mindful.html">the pain of judging, the hell of Mindless when the Sh.. hits the f..</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>343. August 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/more-mystical-poems.html">More mystical poems</a>, do you hunger to remember how sweet and easy</b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>342. August 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/up-and-down-for-parent-toes-and-brain.html">Toes for adults, toes for children</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>341. August 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/way-of-love-mistake-of-original-sin.html">The Way of Love, one roadblock, the idea of "original sin"</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>340. August 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/who-is-real-you-underneath-voices.html">Who is the real You underneath the Meanie and the Victim?</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>339. August 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/three-god-poems.html">Three love poems to God</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>338. August 1 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/08/cancer-and-love.html">Cancer and Love, and Love Making: SEx and touch = good for you</a> </b></span></b></b></div>
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>336. July 28:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/if-you-would-just-have-been-different.html"> The Joy of Wising up/ joy of divorce, 3</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>335. July 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/more-landmark-thoughts-with-osho-katie.html">Moshe, Osho, Katie, Gurdjieff and the Landmark thing</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>334. July 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/learning-switch-anats-second-principle.html">Anat's second Essential: Turn on the Learning Switch</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>333. July 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/moshe-and-osho-and-gurdjieff-and-me.html">Moshe and Osho and Gurdjieff and me:</a>, and Katie: Living in the unknown</b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>332. July 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/shoulders-with-brain-attached-vs.html">Shoulders with a brain and a purpose vs. "Range of Motion," a cool movement lesson in a chair</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>331. July 18: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_1541583937">Rescue Remedy, for special needs children, possibly other "touchy" clients,</a></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>330. July 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/first-take-my-new-process-joy-of.html">first approximation, my new process, The Joy of Divorce</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>329. July 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/whats-new-is-your-life-whats-good.html">what to say instead of "how are you?"</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>328/ July 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/additional-thoughts-about-movement-with.html">More thoughts on Movement with Attention, thought and feeling as part of it</a> </b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>327. July 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/from-anats-book-essential-one-movement.html">Essential One from Anat's book: Movement with Attention</a><br />
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326/ July 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/potency-difficulties-sex-good-life-and.html">The joy of life, one part: overcoming difficulties, another: sex</a><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b>324. JULY 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/07/purpose-of-bad-days.html">The purpose of bad days</a></b></span></b></b></div>
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">323. June 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/slowing-down-while-moving-ahead.html">Slowing down to more quickly (and happily) move ahead</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">322. June 28 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/latest-special-needs-children-blog.html">6 pieces to an awakened life/ being better parent to special needs child</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">321. June 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/what-is-life-for.html">What is a Life For? 4 you, Now.</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">320. June 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/some-thoughts-on-health.html">Real Health, what feeds us for "real?"</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">319. June 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/living-from-and-teaching-to-what-is-not.html">Working with the What Is, not the What Isn't</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">318. June 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/big-c-great-news-change-or-die-feeling.html">The Big C, Cancer as a Fine incentive to change...or die</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">317. June 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/brain-left-and-right-movement-that.html">Cat and cow for back and brain pleasure and learning</a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">316. June 13, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/parents-of-special-needs-children-keep.html">Parents of Special Needs Children</a>: learn to sense deeply, for your sake and that of your children </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">315, June 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/when-impossible-seems-impossible.html">Hard luck case and what is a lesson, anyway?</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">314. June 2, extra: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/another-chapter-from-book-best-one-to.html">A moving the brain, connecting foot to spine Wonderful lesson</a> </span></b></span></b></b></div>
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<b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: orange;">313, June 1:</span> <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/06/being-in-action-chapter-14-from-book.html">Happy vs unhappy as tool for enlightenment now</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">312.May 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/sex-and-migraines.html">Migraines and Sex, and the Fuller Life</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">311. May 19; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/migraine-as-specific-pain-a-game-for.html">Migraines and taking choice in our attention </a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">310. May 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/pain-is-not-everywhere-so-where-else.html">Pain... is not everywhere, so let's move forward in life</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">309. May 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/tai-chi-upgrade.html">Tai Chi upgrade</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">308. May 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/variations-in-touch-ground-touch-sky.html">Variations in up and down from the ground</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">307. May 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/up-and-down-in-chair-meditation-as-we.html">Up and down in a Chair: meditation and healing</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">305.May 11, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/improving-tennis-as-chance-to-move.html">Tennis as a chance for Enlightenment,</a> Always this choice: Mindful or Mindless </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">304. May 4, Wednesday: Chapter 90 from the book: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/chapter-90-facing-enjoying-criticism.html">Listening to and loving criticism while we sort out our real from our social/ mask selves</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">303. May 3: Chapter 76 from the book <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/extra-for-tuesday-chapter-76-from-book.html">A soul treat for those who want deep inner peace</a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #134f5c;">302. May 2:</span> <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/05/monday-treat-easier-neck-smarter-brain.html">Chapter 61 from the book A Movement Lesson Treat for those work at computers</a></span></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">301. April 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/04/simple-weight-loss-diet.html">Simple, morning lunch dinner approach to 'healthy eating," my take</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">300. April 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/04/smart-fitness-smart-weight-loss-using.html">Moving ten minutes a day, small changes; diet ideas, "big changes"</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">299. April 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/04/twisting-in-sitting.html">Chapter 25 from the Tao of Now book: Twisting in Sitting</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">298, April 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/04/thinking-and-feeling-about-death.html">Feeling and Thinking about Death, dedicated to Marty</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">297. April 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/04/day-late-and-dollar-short.html">Going to the Waters of new impressions to heal</a> and refresh our souls and lives</span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">295. Mon, march 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/subset-of-monday-post-at-special-needs.html">mini movement lesson for shoulders and brains</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">294. Wed March 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/arms-and-legs-from-middle.html">brains to find the middle, lifting rocks with middle, not having rocks in the head, or ; a simple tune up wake up lesson</a><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/arms-and-legs-from-middle.html"></a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">293. march 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/importance-of-options.html">options, emotional and learning better movement</a> </span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">292/ Wed. March 16: mention of new blog <a href="http://specialneedschildren-chriselms.blogspot.com/">HTTP://SPECIALNEEDSCHILDREN-CHRISELMS.BLOGSPOT.COM</a>, </span></b></span></b></b><br />
<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=33426194&postID=2429081164828380848">plus movement lesson as most effective upgrading the whole system in a little effort, lot's of attention </a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">291. Wed, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/what-can-we-learn-right-now.html">movement at the computer, looking up and realizing there's now to life</a></span></b></span></b></b><br />
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;">290/ March 8, Tues: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/learning-awakening-game-for-tennis.html">Tennis Players: Use your brains to slow down, awake and play much easier, better, sweeter</a>: a Movement Lesson </span></b></span></b></b></div>
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<b><b><span style="color: purple;">289. March 3: Thurs , <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/landmark-forum-thoughts-with-two-links.html">some Moshe Links via comments about going to Landmark Forum intro night</a></span></b></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #274e13;">288. March 2, Wed:</span> <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/03/feldenkrais-contribution-to-humanity.html">Moshe's Contribution to Humanity: Wake up to Now, Life, Options</a> </span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">287. Feb 27, Sunday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/feeding-fing-fighting-and-feldenkrais_27.html">Movement Lesson for F, F, F and F</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">286. Feb 24, Thursday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/pictures-not-yet-oh-well-read-and-think.html">Qigong part two, balance is not falling over, lengthening is reaching to heavens above and Earth below</a> </span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">285. Feb 23, Wednesday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/feeding-fing-fighting-and-feldenkrais.html">Feeing, F...ing, Fighting and Feldenkrais, a beginning exploration</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">284. FEb 22, Tues: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/lets-make-up-our-own-chi-kung-qigong.html">A little made of qigong/ movement lesson, plus utube of Cheng man Ching tai chi beautiful form</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">283. Feb 16, Wed: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/awakened-eating-some-tips-from-feldie.html">Eating and Waking, Hints from the Feldie "work"</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">282. FEb 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/not-so-thanksgiving-or-valentines-day.html">Valentine's Day is about loving ourselves, mindfulness in the "tired zone."</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">281, Feb 12: Valentine's Extra: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/extra-posting-valentines-day-treat.html">Waking Up While Talking, or Toward Love with Listening,</a> or the non-habitual is what we need if we are going to wake up</span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">280. Feb 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/cheng-man-chings-short-shot-form-of-tai.html">Cheng Man Ching doing Tai Chi, thoughts on this</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;">279. Feb 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/02/power-outages-in-austin-rolling-black.html">Side bending lesson</a>, section 41 from Tao of Now, for sale via internet silliness</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">278. Jan 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/01/letter-to-mother-whos-tired-of-people.html">Transformation, not "fixing"</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">277. Jan 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/01/organizing-shoulders.html">Organizing the Shoulders/ plus bonus: Grumpiness as one more Habit</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">276. Jan. 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/01/to-mess-around-with-awareness.html">To "mess" around is to be human</a></span></b></span></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;">275. January 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/01/joy-of-learning-its-not-just-about.html">The joy of learning: emotions as actions, too</a>. E book for sale</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;">274. Jan 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2011/01/first-four-games-in-my-108-page-book.html">First four games/ exercises/ meditations/ activities of 108 "Ways" Book</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">273. Dec 31 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/first-posting-on-new-blog-waking-108.html"> round and arch, a first lesson</a> at <a href="http://waking108.blogspot.com/">http://waking108.blogspot.com</a> </span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">272. Dec 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/computer-as-i-sit-here-on-gray-today-is.html">the computer, even here we can wake and learn, or learn and wake</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">271. Dec, 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/tai-chi-and-life-potency.html">tai chi and potency</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">270. Dec 21:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/gift-of-now.html"> the gift of learning in the now</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">269. Dec. 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/what-about-rest-food-for-life-in-un.html">Rest and Life Potency, contradiction or living life for real?</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">268. Dec 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/mask-as-how-to-fit-in-society-from.html">The Mask of "Fitting in"</a> Why the work is necessary.</span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">267. Dec 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/possibilities-of-really-deepening-work.html">Ponderings on Anat Baniel</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">266. Dec 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/pain-is.html">pain is...</a> </span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #00cc42;"><b>265. Dec 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/ear-ing-and-hearing-and-attention-and.html">EARing and Hearing and Memory and Attention</a></b></span><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">264. Dec 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/dont-be-good-be-warm-wet-alive-in-body.html">Warm wet and alive: Do not be good, via Mary Oliver poem</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #00cc42;">263. December 2: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=33426194&postID=2453349082770476583">beyond the abs: what a real brain wants: a pelvis that goes all ways (think sex, think bringing an axe up and down, think throwing a baseball, serving a tennis serve)</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: lime;">262. December 2</span>: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/12/lesson-for-hearing-learning-living-and.html">a hearing, learning and enlightenment lesson</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">NOVEMBER 2010</span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">261. Nov 25: t<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/thanks.html">hanks on the day of which</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">260. Nov 24:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/does-this-poem-from-slowsonomacom-tell.html"> the power of "I don't know"</a> (and a lesson still needs to tie to action,</span></b></span></span></b><br />
<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">that'll be another post, and has been past ones, look around, look around)</span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">259. Nov 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/cure-vs-improvement.html">Cure vs Improvement, from the Case of Nora</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">258. Nov 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/side-to-side.html">Side to side, head, pelvis and ribs as a sweet happy team</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b>257. Nov 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/turning-and-learning-again-sure-why-not.html">Turning and learning again in a chair, sure, why not?</a></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #b80f42;">256. Nov. 1<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/11/newness-of-learning-aka-transformation.html">The importance of now, the scary thrill of transformation</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #120fa6;">OCTOBER 2010</span></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #120fa6;">255. Oct 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/10/crazy-happy-wonderful.html">Crazy, happy, wonderful: moving to Austin for the winter</a></span></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #0f6612;">SEPTMEBER 2010</span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #0f6612;">254. sept 30:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/09/importance-of-love.html"> the love as we move in the now</a></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #0f6612;">253. September 1: </span></span></b><b><span style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/09/why-what-we-do-is-easy-once-you-get-it.html">How we learn is how we live, or why what we do is so easy</a></span></b><br />
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</span><span style="color: #a60f12;">AUGUST 2010</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">252. Aug 20, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/how-to-be-happy-part-twenty-two.html">How to win or lose an argument, and the feet need to touch the ground to be grounded, duh? And we need to lose arguments with people we love, not so obvious, but elusively WAY true</a> </span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">251. Aug 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/rolling-to-sit-some-advanced-practicing.html">Rolling to sit, some amazing possibilties in using our head (and rear ends)</a> </span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">250. August 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/elusive-obvious-we-can-transform-or.html">The Feldenkrais Method, intro via the elusive obvious: learning, whole self, going slowly, "farting around"</a> </span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">249 Aug 16; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/head-and-pelvis-without-real-lesson.html">heading down, pelvising up</a></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">248. August 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/head-down-to-rise-up-from-floor-really.html">Head down in its spiral, butt up in its, and they are all one with our Us, and our spine </a></span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">247. August 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/not-knowing-what-we-are-doing-next.html">Not knowing the next thing</a> </span></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-style: italic;"><span style="color: #a60f12;">246. August 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/08/elusive-obvious.html">To awake even though yapping, talking, writing</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #120fa6;">JULY 2010</span></span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #120fa6;">245. July 29: <a href="http://www.blogger.com/">Babies as our learning teachers. Learning means to learn</a></span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #120fa6;">244. July 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/underbelly-of-golden-rule-moshe.html">Freedom is the other side</a></span></b><br />
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243. July 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/up-and-down-with-sweet-twist-to-start.html">Up and down with a slight twist</a><br />
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242. July 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/what-to-do-after-surgery-or-new-wine-in.html">New Wine in New Skins: or what to do after the surgery</a><br />
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242. July 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/thinking-as-action-life-as-options.html">Thinking, walking: the power of variation and awakening</a><br />
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241. July 6, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/be-not-good-if-you-can-stand-it.html">Be not good, there's more variety in doing "it" "wrong"</a><br />
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240. July 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/07/head-pelvis-two-ends-of-beautiful-stick.html">head and pelvis, two ends of an amazing stick</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #b80f42;">JUNE 2010<br />
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939. June 30<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/doing-it-right-vs-doing-it-better.html">Doing it right vs doing it better</a><br />
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938. June 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/thinking-without-words-eyes-and-head.html">"thinking" without words</a><br />
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237. June 25, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/everyday-awaring-every-day-awaring.html">Awaring our spine: a game for the day</a><br />
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236. JUne 22; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/music-and-feldenkrais-anat-baniel.html">Music and Feldie/ Anatie</a><br />
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235. June 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/baby-lesson-sent-to-disbelieve-try.html">mini lesson for shoulder and brain</a><br />
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234. June 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/what-is-feldenkrais-method.html">What is the Feldenkrais Method, some variations on a theme</a><br />
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233. June 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/06/tango-dance-walking-learning-and-love.html">Tango as learning not "Doing it Right"</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #0eb942;">MAY 2010<br />
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232. May 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/05/sitting-and-folding-for-fun-and.html">anti aging, via improving folding, chair lesson</a><br />
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231. May 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/05/short-and-easy-and-standing.html">Easy standing lesson, hop hop on heels</a><br />
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230. May 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/05/another-turning-in-chair-lesson-good.html">Turning in sitting, some fun and learning</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #0e19a6;">APRIL 2010<br />
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229. April 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/04/chair-lesson-for-back-ease-and-neck.html">Learning and Spine joy</a><br />
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228. April 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/04/moving-toes-and-heels-and-hey-what.html">Toes and heels, a start, and meditate all day is a possibility</a><br />
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227. April 9: Loving the learning: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/04/getting-to-toes-of-matter-joy-life-love.html">toes and back and brain and yes</a><br />
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226. April 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/04/anti-aging-what-heck-what-is-aging.html">Anti-Aging and the Discovery gene rediscovered</a> (not really about genes)<br />
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</span><span style="color: #95e142;">MARCH 2010<br />
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225. March 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/03/game-of-learning-rotation-to-left-in.html">Rotation to the left in sitting, enjoy</a><br />
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224. March 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/03/acture-friendly-and-useful-concept.html">acture, the reality of life = movement, good life = good movement = good acture</a><br />
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223. March 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/03/round-and-arch-in-standing-using-arms.html">round and arch in standing</a><br />
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222. March 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/03/easy-bending-start-and-5-lines-deep.html">five lines, the God of learning, forward bend, actually hard/ simple</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #31e1a8;">FEBRUARY 2010<br />
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221. feb 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/02/easy-wake-up-and-then-all-day-lines-or.html">up and down and five lines</a><br />
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220. feb 20 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/02/sitting-and-side-bending.html">sitting and side bending</a><br />
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219. Feb 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/02/arch-round-twist-meditate-if-you-wish.html">twist while rising up from sitting with an arch and a nice meditation to boot</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #9519a8;">JANUARY 2010<br />
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218. Jan 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/01/arch-and-round-in-sitting-head.html">head and back, arching and rounding in sitting</a><br />
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217. Jan 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/01/hopping-in-at-least-two-ways-side.html">hopping in a couple of ways</a><br />
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216. jan 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/01/round-and-arch-in-simple-way-one-more.html">arch and rounding in a simple way</a><br />
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215, jan 10, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2010/01/belly-out-belly-in-on-breathing-out.html">belly out , belly in, 2 ways to breathe out</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #317da8;">DECEMBER 2009<br />
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214: dec 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/12/up-from-down.html">down to up</a><br />
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213, dec 26, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/12/up-to-down-4-points-briefly.html">up to down, 4 points intro</a><br />
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212. dec 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/12/arch-round-breathe-learning.html">arch, round, breathing variations, in sitting</a><br />
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211. dec 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/12/lying-on-our-side-learning-spine-by.html">lying on our side, using awareness, pelvis, hip, knee</a><br />
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210. December 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/12/lots-happening-at-life-on-earth.html">Indications of activity at the sister/ mother blog, including movement lessons, all in the service of "waking up" to now</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #9519a8;">OCTOBER 2009<br />
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209. October 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/10/benefits-once-again-always-good-to.html">Benefits, of Anat Baniel/ Feldenkrais Method. good.</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #95e144;">AUGUST 2009<br />
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208. August 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/08/moti-nativ-interview-in-hebrew-enlish.html">Moti Nativ interview: Feldenkrais as awareness, real modern martial arts as spiritual and life learning</a><br />
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207. August 13. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/08/this-is-my-life.html">This is my life</a><br />
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206. August 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/08/this-is-also-on-chriselmsblogspotcom.html">Breathing, sensing, 5 lines</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #317d44;">JULY 2009<br />
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205. July 15:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/07/call-of-heart-listened-to-or-not.html"> the call of the heart, listened to, or not</a><br />
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204. july 2 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/07/awkened-life.html">the awakened life</a><br />
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203. july 1, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/07/how-to-get-smarter.html">how to get smarter: perceive differences</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #107c44;">JUNE 2009<br />
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202. June 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/06/balancing-latest-feldyforum-tempest-in.html">balancing the latest Feldyforum tempest in a teapot</a><br />
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201, June 23 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/06/whats-difference.html">what's the difference?</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #d81844;">APRIL 2009<br />
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200. April 15, 2009: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/04/taxes-and-death-and-other-possibilities.html">taxes and death</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #10e0a8;">MARCH 2009<br />
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199. March 26 Thursday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/how-method-works-part-one-teamwork-part.html">How it Works, my take, part one: teamwork</a>, hip bone connected to thigh bone and so on. Beginning lesson for parents of special needs children.<br />
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198. March 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/strength-out-of-gyms-and-into-life.html">Spring into life, fitness in the world, not just the gym</a><br />
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197. March 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/flexible-hearts.html">Flexible Hearts</a><br />
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196. March 16, Mon, 2009:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/special-needs-children-and-learning.html"> Update, Special Needs Children</a><br />
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195.March 13, Friday the: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/gravity-learning-dance-life-fun-yes.html">gravity and dance and sticks</a><br />
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194. March 3, wed, 2009: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/03/feldenkrais-method.html">the Feldenkrais Method</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #74e044;">FEBRUARY 2009<br />
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193. feb 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/02/dancers-musicians-actors-fine.html">Dancers, Musicians, Actors: get better no matter what level you're at</a><br />
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192. feb 14 sat valie day: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/02/why-not-be-happy.html">Why Not be Happy?</a><br />
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191. feb 11 wed 2009: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/02/learning-and-sweetness-of-life.html">leaarning is fun, spelling is harder</a><br />
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190. Feb 4 WEd, 2009: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/02/new-wednesday-life-is-good.html">new is now is learning if we let it</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #1018ff;">JANUARY 2009<br />
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189. Jan 28 Wednesday, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/01/something-like-resume.html">Something like a resume</a><br />
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188. Jan 27 tues: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/01/why-do-this-work.html">Why came I to this work????</a><br />
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187, Jan 21, wed, 2009:<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/01/travel-heal-learn-love-contribute.html"> travel learn heal love</a><br />
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186. Jan 15, 2009, wed, <a href="http://www2.blogger.com/posts.g?blogID=33426194">why move with awareness and learning?</a><br />
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185. Wednesday January 8, 2009: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2009/01/tucking-pelvis-under.html">"Tucking the pelvis....hmmm"</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #88cc44;">DECEMBER 2008<br />
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184.Friday, dec 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/12/who-am-i-who-are-we-all.html">Who am I? Who are we all, really?</a><br />
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183, Wed dec 17, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/12/sitting-twisting.html">Sitting and butt elbow moving, fun</a><br />
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182.Dec 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/12/standing-head-eyes-self-self.html">standing, learning, eyes, brain, feet, breathing easy</a><br />
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181. Dec. 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/12/what-are-feelings-what-is-thinking.html">What are feelings? What is thinking? The prison of our conditioning.</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #44ee88;">NOVEMBER 2008<br />
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180. Nov. 29 Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/beginnings-of-answer-for-lynette.html">Beginnings of an answer for Lynette</a><br />
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179. Nov. 28, friday; <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/mysticism-work-of-idries-shah-letter-to.html">letter to Feldie forum, mysticism and whatnot</a>, the Sufis,<br />
Idries Shah, amazing books<br />
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178. November 26, Wednesday, 2008, Thanks g tomorrow: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/sitting-to-standing.html">Sitting to Standing</a>, a Learning Game, go slow, really discover<br />
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177. November 24, Monday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/on-back-arch-flex-sidebendlearn-learn.html">On back, arch, twist, send bend, flex, learn</a><br />
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176.November 22, Saturday: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/loving-of-moving-tuck-inround-and.html">tuck, round then arch and extend and press forward into power and life</a><br />
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175. Nov. 19, Wed, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/round-and-ready-arch-and-expand.html">arch and round, using back to move soil, using attention to build soul</a><br />
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174. November 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/five-linesof-our-us-six-directions-of.html">five lines of our us, six shapes for our spines</a><br />
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173. November 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/awakened-movement.html">Awakened Movement</a><br />
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172. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/11/skeleton-halloween-five-lines-death.html">skeleton, hallow ween, five lines</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #880044;">OCTOBER 2008<br />
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171. Oct 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/ideas-for-discovering-movement.html">discovering movement lessons and learnings</a><br />
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170.Oct. 25, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/more-on-stability.html">maximum instability, and what it means to be human</a><br />
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169. Oct. 23, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/weird-ideas-about.html">weird ideas about "stability"</a><br />
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168. Oct 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/whats-great-about-yoga-whats-limiting.html">what's great, what's limiting about Yoga</a><br />
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167. Monday, October 20, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/cml-1.html">Chris Movement Lesson #1. arching and chairs and fun</a><br />
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166. Sund,. Oct 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/gurdjieff-moshe-living-and-sensing-and.html">Moshe, Gurdjieff, fun and learning in the "past"</a><br />
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165. Thurs. Oct 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/10/mini-cure-for-depression.html">Mini cure for depression, and pains in the neck (both kinds)</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: forestgreen;">SEPTEMBER 2008<br />
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164. Wed, sept 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/09/executive-clarity.html">Executive Clarity: a bigger vision in healing and assisting</a><br />
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163. Mon, sept 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/09/knees-please-go-slow-go-easy-learn-and.html">knees please, learning and so on</a><br />
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162. wed, sept 17, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/09/new-life-go-slow-learn-heal.html">learning to learn, fun and ease and yes</a><br />
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161/ Thurs sept 11, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/09/sept-11.html">Sept 11 and the "enemy game"</a><br />
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160. Wed. Sept 3, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/09/distinctions-yogatai-chi-and-brain-vs.html">Yoga Tai Chi and the Brain vs. ...</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #22ffaa;">AUGUST 2008<br />
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159 Wed, aug 27, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/08/you-are-wonderful.html">you are wonderful, what a wonderful thing, and...</a><br />
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158. Sunday, Aug. 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/08/stretching-brains-not-attacking-tight.html">stretching brains, not tight muscles</a><br />
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157. Wed. Aug. 13, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/08/pose-warrior-warrior-pose.html">Warriors and Poses, and Deeper Yoga possibilities</a><br />
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156. Wed, Aug. 6, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/08/learning-by-going-slow.html">Going Slowly, the gift of exploration</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #cc0066;">JULY 2008<br />
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155. Wed, July 23, 2008: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/07/seduction-of-stretching.html">The Seduction of Stretchng</a><br />
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154. Wed, July 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/07/learning-and-moving-on-ground-floor.html">Learning, Gravity and Rewiring the Brain</a><br />
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153. July 9: <a href="http://www2.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=33426194&postID=8077622797305507117">Joni Mitchell and the Possibilities of a life</a><br />
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152. July 4: <a href="http://www2.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=33426194&postID=2930688260517761832">freedom is ????</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #00ddcc;">JUNE 2008<br />
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151. June 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/06/nice-try-and-why-not-now.html">Brain plasticity made immediate and sex, vision, breathing all improved</a><br />
<br />
</span><span style="color: #ff00bb;">MAY 2008<br />
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150. May 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/05/healing-health-happiness-and-sex.html">Learning and Loving and Sex and Health, a ramble, a short ramble</a><br />
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149. May 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/05/what-is-good-in-life.html">What is Good, and so on</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #005533;">APRIL 2008<br />
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148. April 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/04/vitality-chi-sex-variation-love-life.html">vitality, chi, sex, variation, freedom, learning, and so on</a><br />
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147. April 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/04/following-movement-of-life.html">the movement of life and God</a><br />
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146. April 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/04/gurdjieff-meditation-four-of-five-lines.html">Gurdjieff meditation, four of five lines</a><br />
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<br />
</span><span style="color: #11cc00;">MARCH 2008<br />
<br />
145: March 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/03/simple-start.html">A Simple Start: hips and head</a><br />
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144. March 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/03/sh.html">shoulders, the discovery channel</a><br />
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143. March 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/03/body-and-soul.html">body and soul and neck and self hug and learning and loving ourselves</a><br />
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142. March 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/03/shoulders.html">Shoulders, Yes</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #00dd22;">FEBRUARY 2008<br />
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141. Feb. 23: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/02/feldenkrais-method-and-real-organic.html">Organic learning and the Feldenkrais Method®</a><br />
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140. Feb. 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/02/hello-again.html"> hello again,<br />
waking up with wake up Feldenkrais, and other stuff</a><br />
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139. Feb.11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/02/nikhila-mary-ludlow-hand-lesson-via-u.html"> Nikhila Mary Ludlow, Hand Lesson and talking about the Feldenkrais Method®</a><br />
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138. Feb. 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/02/five-lines-five-ringed-circus-called.html"> five lines, five ringed circus called: NOW</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #ee8822;">JANUARY 2008<br />
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137. Jan. 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/01/norman-dodge-doidge-on-feldenkrais.html"> Norman Doidge on Feldenkrais, or: Miracle, Yes, Yes!</a><br />
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136. Jan.5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/01/excerpt-from-up-improve-mood-posture.html"> Excerpt from Up, a book in progress</a></span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #ee8822;"><br />
</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #ee8822;"><a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2008/01/excerpt-from-up-improve-mood-posture.html"></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #660088;">DECEMBER 2007<br />
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135. Dec. 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/year-of-sweetness-and-year-of.html">A year of sweetness a year of...</a><br />
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134. Dec. 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/meaning-of-life-in-three-layers.html">Meaning of Life in Three Layers: A Christmas Present to your Present</a><br />
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133. Dec. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/6-awareness-days-left-until-christmas.html">6 awareness days until Christmas</a><br />
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132. Dec. 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/listening.html">Listening to Ourselves, Now, at the computer</a><br />
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131. Dec. 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/resistance-to-feldenkrais-method.html">"Resistance" to the Feldenkrais Method</a> (Mainly a post for practitioners) .<br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #880033;">NOVEMEBER 2007<br />
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130. Nov. 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/what-to-do-about-our-sleep.html">What to do about our sleep?</a><br />
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129. Nov. 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/learning-by-copying-or-learning-by.html">Learning and Becoming a Child again, sort of</a><br />
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128. Nov. 13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/pleasure-ease-awareness-and-learning.html">Pleasure, Ease and Learning: Group Lessons on Mondays and Wednesday</a><br />
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127. Nov. 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/triangle-in-fedlie-land.html">Yoga in Feldie Land: Triangle</a><br />
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126. Nov. 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/life-is-real-only-when-i-am.html">Life is Real only when I am</a><br />
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125. Nov. 6 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/juicy-from-deborah-elizabeth-lotus-via.html">Moshe's high octane, body/mind/lust powered youth, via Deborah Elizabeth Lotus</a><br />
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124. Nov. 5 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/11/feldie-feet-monday-yoga-brain-time.html">Monday Yoga, Feldie feet intro, fun</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #cc9900;">OCTOBER 2007<br />
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123. Oct. 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/where-are-hip-joints.html">Where are the Hip Joints???</a><br />
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122. Oct. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/stress-learning-and-feldenkrais-method.html">Stress, Learning and the Feldenkrais Method®</a><br />
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121. Oct. 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/walking-again.html">Walking Again</a><br />
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120. Oct. 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/walking-miracle-we-usually-take-for.html">Walking, a miracle we usually take for granted</a><br />
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119. Oct. 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/waking-up-and-feldenkrais.html">Waking Up and Feldenkrais</a><br />
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118. Oct. 10: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/weight-loss-and-wake-up-feldenkrais.html">Weight Loss and Wake Up Feldenkrais</a><br />
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117. Oct. 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/10/not-knowing-good-food-for-our-life.html">Now Knowing: Food for a good life and a good Functional Integration Lesson</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #00aa66;">SEPTEMBER 2007<br />
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116. Sept. 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/remembering-ourselves-love-and.html">Love, Remembering, Feldie Forum, parenting, whatnot</a><br />
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115. Sept. 19: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/feldenkrais-method-and-therapy.html">Feldenkrais Method and therapy</a><br />
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114. Sept. 17: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/take-rest.html">Take a Rest, Learn and Be Human</a><br />
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113, Sept. 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/learning-and-love.html">Learning and Love</a><br />
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112. Sept. 11 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/real-terror.html">The Real Terror</a><br />
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111. Sept. 5 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/09/waiting-for.html">Boring is as Boring Approaches</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #330066;">AUGUST 2007<br />
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110. Aug 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/new-life-learning-or-upgrading-our.html">New Life, Choice: Learning or Robot Upgrade</a><br />
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109. Aug 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/feet-on-ground-eyes-glued-to-computer.html">Feet on Ground, Eyes glued to Computer</a><br />
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108. Aug. 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/now-mindfulness-movement-healing.html">mindfulness, moving, healing</a><br />
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107. Aug. 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/variety.html">Variety and Learning</a><br />
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106. Aug. 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/healthy-backs-and-being-present-or-once.html">Health Backs, and the old choice:<br />
Discovery vs. "Doing it Right"</a><br />
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105. Aug. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/happier-backs.html">Happier Backs</a><br />
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104. Aug. 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/what-yoga-and-yoga-therapy-always.html">What Yoga and "yoga therapy" always misses...</a><br />
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103. Aug. 13 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/yoga-as-if-we-had-brain-heart-and.html">Yoga as if we had a<br />
Brain, Heart and Spirit. </a><br />
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102. Aug. 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/this-moment.html">This Moment.<br />
Or: Waking up,<br />
in as well as through Feldenkrais</a><br />
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101. August 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/08/wat-to-say-about-glories-of-feldenkrais.html">The Glories of Living and the Feldenkrais so called "Method"</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #996666;">JULY 2007<br />
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100. July 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/07/power-of-feldenkrais-plus-ananda-yoga.html">The Power of Feldenkrais Plus Ananda Yoga</a><br />
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99. July 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/07/yoga-training.html">yoga training, more learning, la la</a><br />
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98. July 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/07/freedom.html">Freedom</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #ee0011;">JUNE 2007<br />
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97. June 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/06/letter-to-wonderful-parents-of-special.html">Letter to a Wonderful Parent of a Special Needs Child</a><br />
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96. June 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/06/one-11-minute-cure-for-depression.html">One 11 minute "cure" for depression.</a><br />
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95. June 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/06/what-this-work-is-what-it-isnt-glories.html">What is Possible? A life full of learning, change and transformation. And happiness.</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #cccc00;">MAY 2007<br />
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94. May 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/05/humans-and-learning-our-core-activity.html">Human Beings: Designed to Learn</a><br />
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93. May 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/05/learning-play-and-love.html">Learning, Play and Love</a><br />
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92. May 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/05/nature-big-and-small.html">Nature, Big and Small, always amazing</a><br />
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91. May 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/05/feldenkrais-as-brain-work-and-body-get.html">Improve Your Brain, Get more Neurons, and Move Better: all in one process</a><br />
</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: #00cccc;">APRIL 2007<br />
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90. April 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/04/awareness-and-attention-and.html">Awareness and Attention </a><br />
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89. April 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/04/happiness-now.html">Happiness Now? Heresy or Sanity? </a><br />
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88. April 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/04/awareness-though-movement-some.html">A Morning's Feast, an Introduction to Awareness Through Movement®</a><br />
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87. April 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/04/feldenkrais-method-and-rolfing-or.html">Rolfing and Feldenkrais</a><br />
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<span style="color: #22cc00;">MARCH 2007<br />
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86. March 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/03/experiment-in-rolling-up-to-sit.html">An Experiment in Learning and Fun</a>, one rolling to sit lesson.<br />
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85. March 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/03/slow-down.html">Slow Down</a><br />
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84. March 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/03/new-version-what-is-feldenkrais-method.html">What is the Feldenkrais Method? And Wake Up Feldenkrais?</a> New Version.<br />
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83. March 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/03/going-from-1-to-1.html">Going from -1 to +3 in ten minutes or less</a><br />
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82. March 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/03/glory-of-being-human-bones-brains.html">The Glory of Being Human: Bones, Brains, Learning and Gravity: and, We can Change</a><br />
</span><span style="color: #ff1188;">FEBRUARY 2007<br />
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81. February 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/learning-to-turn-learning-to-learn.html">Learning to Turn, Learning to Learn</a><br />
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80. February 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/watch-baby-show-us-how-amazing-we-all.html">Watch the Baby </a><br />
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79. February 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/moving-our-pelvis-waking-our-life.html">Waking our Pelvis, Waking our Lives</a><br />
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78. February 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/thinking-and-non-thinking-and-amazing.html">Thinking and Non-Thinking, and : What Makes a Good Life???</a><br />
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77. Feb. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/terrorists.html">The Enemy Game</a><br />
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76. Feb. 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/improvement-for-joy-of-it.html">The Joy of Improvement</a><br />
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75. February 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/to-be-small-or-to-expand.html">To be Small or to Expand</a><br />
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74. February 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/life-and-love.html">Life and Love and the Really Good Lessons</a><br />
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73. February 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/byron-katie-and-feldenkrais-way.html">The Waking up in Feldenkrais and in the Byron Katie Work, always from within</a><br />
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72. February 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/porpoise-of-life-2.html">Porpoise of Life, 2: to Live</a><br />
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71. February 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/02/big-dream-land-love-earth-and-people.html">A Big Dream: Now and Nature and Love and Learning and Transformation, on the Earth</a><br />
</span><span style="color: #44dd00;">JANUARY 2007<br />
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70. Jan. 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/lifting-weights-lifting-rocks.html">Lifting Rocks and Having a Good Time</a><br />
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69. Jan. 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/how-about.html">Change and The Anat Baniel Way</a><br />
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68. Jan. 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/gurjeiff-and-feldenkrais.html">Gurdjieff and Feldenkrais</a><br />
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67. Jan. 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/jesus-and-judo.html">Jesus and Judo</a><br />
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66. Jan. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/feldenkrais-and-love.html">Feldenkrais and Love</a><br />
<br />
65. Jan. 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/martin-luther-kind-racism-corporatism.html">Martin Luther King, Racism, Corporatism, some Personal History</a><br />
<br />
64. Jan. 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/yoga-and-feldenkrais.html">Yoga and Feldenkrais </a><br />
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63. Jan. 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/feldenkrais-method.html">The Feldenkrais Method®, a winter presentation. </a><br />
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62. Jan. 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/yoga-3-cat-and-cow-for-heart-mind-and.html">Cat and Cow, Yoga 3, Happiness, Mind and Body</a><br />
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61. Jan. 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/doing-something-for-spine-pelvis-and.html">Doing "something" (for pelvis, spine, whole self and brain</a><br />
<br />
60. Jan. 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/01/doing-nothing.html">Doing "Nothing" is more than we might suspect</a></span></span></span> </span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #ee8822;"><br />
</span></b><br />
<b><span style="color: #ee8822;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: black; font-weight: normal;"><b><span style="color: #33aa99;">December 2006<br />
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59. Dec. 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/life-is-good.html">Life is Good. Now is Grand. We are...</a><br />
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58. Dec. 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/posture-and-acture.html">Posture and Acture. (Say What?)</a><br />
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57. Dec. 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.coma/2006/12/christmas-now-mass.html">Christ-mas, Now Mass</a><br />
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56. Dec. 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/natures-flexibility-sweet.html">Nature's Flexibility and the Joys of Variation</a><br />
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55. Dec. 21 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/solstice-rain-december-love-ah.html">Sostice, Rain, December, Love...Ah</a><br />
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54. Dec. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/yoga-as-if-we-had-brain-lesson-2.html">Yoga as if We Had a Brain, Lesson 2, More Fun Forward Fold.</a><br />
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53. Dec. 15: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/delight-of-life.html">The Delight of Life</a><br />
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52. Dec. 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/yoga-as-if-we-had-brain-lesson-1.html">Yoga as if We Had A Brain, Lesson 1, Forward Fold</a><br />
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51. Dec. 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/moving-and-learning-miracle-continues.html">Moving and Learning, the Miracle Continues</a><br />
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50. Dec. 8: <a href="http://www2.blogger.com/%20http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/when-you-cant-do-lesson-study-in.html">When You Can't Do Any Old Lesson in Life, Options Useful and Less So</a><br />
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49. Dec. 6: <a href="http://www2.blogger.com/%20http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/math-isnt-hard-its-chance-to-learn-how.html">Math as a Chance to Use our Brain in a New Way, the way it likes to work</a><br />
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48. Dec. 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/feet-2.html">Feet, 2</a><br />
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Novemeber 2006<br />
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47. Nov. 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/feet.html">Feet</a><br />
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46. Nov. 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/feldie-fun5-eyes-and-tongue.html">Feldie Fun, #5 Eyes and Tongue</a><br />
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45. Nov. 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/raw-foods-and-waking-up-and.html">Raw Foods and Waking up</a><br />
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44. Nov. 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/is-it-right-yet.html">Is it Right Yet?</a><br />
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43. Nov.13: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/back-and-shoulder-and-neck-pain.html">Back and Shoulder and Neck Pain</a><br />
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42. Nov. 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/11/undo-deficits-enhance-excellence-wake.html">Undo Deficits, Enhance Excellence, Wake Up to the Present</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #990099;">October 2006<br />
41. Oct. 31.<a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/feldenkrais-and-breathing-and-grape.html"> Feldenkrais and Breathing and Grape Arbors</a><br />
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40.Oct. 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/opening-two-habits-side-of-bed-reading.html">Opening Two Habits: Side of Bed, Reading a Novel</a><br />
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39. Oct 25: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/tai-chi-and-feldenkrais-two-goods-make.html">Tai Chi And Feldenkrais:Two Goods make a Better.</a><br />
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38. Oct 24: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/tues-oct-24-healing-by-learning.html">Healing by Learning</a><br />
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37. Oct 22: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/sun-oct-22-habits-compulsions.html">Habits, Compulsions, Addictions</a><br />
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36. Oct 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/fri-oct-20-oh-shit-im-alive.html">Oh shit, I'm alive</a><br />
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35. Oct 18. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/wed-oct-18-feldenkrais-and-big-self.html">Feldenkrais and the Big Self in us All</a><br />
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34. Oct 17. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/tues-oct-17-freedom-and-now.html">Special Needs Children and the Joys of Transformation</a><br />
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33. Oct 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/sat-oct-14-slave-or-free-breathing.html">Slave or Free??</a><br />
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32. Oct 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/marlie-wesner-wonderful-yoga-teacher.html">Marlie, Yoga Teacher, Wonderful Person and so on</a><br />
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31. Oct 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/oct10-awareness-and-saving-our-souls.html">Awareness and Saving our Souls and the Earth (Is that all?)</a><br />
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30. Oct 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/oct10-awareness-and-saving-our-souls.html">Awareness and Unawareness</a><br />
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29. Oct 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/fri-oct-6-thich-nhat-hahn-meditation.html">Awareness 3; Thich Nhat Hahn Meditation</a><br />
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28. Oct 5: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/thurs-oct-5-awareness-2-morning.html">The Morning Gurdjieff Meditation, Awareness, 2</a><br />
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27. Oct 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/wed-oct-4-awareness-part-1.html">Awareness, Part 1 (and Gurdjieff's "fantastic" idea)</a><br />
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26. Oct 3: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/big-picture-pain-and-beyond-with-video.html">The Big Picture, Pain and Beyond</a><br />
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25. Oct. 2: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/10/monday-oct-2-what-is-feldenkrais.html">What is the Feldenkrais Method?</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #33ee66;">September 2006<br />
24. Sept 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/sat-sept-30-whos-in-charge-here.html">Who's In Charge Here, (20 breaths: can we be aware that long?)</a><br />
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23. Sept 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/friday-sept-29-byron-katie-wakeup.html">Byron Katie, WakeUp Feldenkrais and Happiness.</a><br />
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22. Sept 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/thursday-sept-28-what-is-wakeup.html">What is WakeUp Feldenkrais?</a><br />
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21. Sept 26: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/tuesday-sept-26-presence-is-end.html">Presence is the End, Presence is the Means</a><br />
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20. Sept 21: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/thursday-sept-21-happiness-slow-and.html">Happiness, Slow and Fast</a><br />
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19. Sept 20: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/wednesday-sept-20-slow-down-lie-down.html">Slow Down, Lie Down and Learn</a><br />
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18. Sept 18: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/monday-september-18-feldenkrais-wakeup.html">Feldenkrais and Happiness</a><br />
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17. Sept 16: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/saturday-sept-16-sitting-to-standing2.html">Sitting to Standing, Again</a><br />
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16. Sept 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/saturday-sept-16-sitting-to-standing2.html">Sitting to Standing and the Obvious, the Elusive</a><br />
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15. Sept 14: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/thursday-sept-14-feldie-3-core-from.html">Feldie #3, a hard lesson, sort of</a><br />
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14. Sept 12: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/tuesday-sept-12-waking-up.html">Waking Up</a><br />
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13. Sept 11: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/monday-september-11-wakeup-feldie.html">WakeUp Feldie Thts on 9-11</a><br />
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12. Sept 9: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/saturday-sept-9-lets-talk-about-babies.html">Let's Talk about Babies</a><br />
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11. Sept 8: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/friday-sept-8-feldie-fun-2.html">Feldie Fun #2</a><br />
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10. Sept. 7: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/thursday-september-7-changes-weird.html">Change's Weird Requirement: We Have to Change (OhmyGod)</a><br />
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9. Sept 6: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/wednesday-sept-6-awareness-feldenkrais.html">Awareness, Feldenkrais® and WakeUp Feldenkrais</a><br />
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8.5. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/monday-september-4-oldie-back-again.html">Oldie but Goodie: Movement, Children, Living a Full Life.</a><br />
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8. Sept 4: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/monday-september-4-options-and-habits.html">Options and Habits</a><br />
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7.5. <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/sunday-sept-3-another-oldie-between.html">Another Oldie: Between the Ears, is where the "Problem" is.</a><br />
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7. Sept 1: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/09/friday-sept-1-little-miss-sunshine.html">Little Miss Sunshine and How We Learn from Crisis (sometimes)</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #aa0066;">August 2006<br />
6. Aug 31: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/thursday-august-31-amazing-experiment.html">An Amazing Experiment: Happy Face, Happy Thoughts</a><br />
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5. Aug 30: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/wednesday-august-30-feldenkrais-to.html">Feldenkrais to Enhance and Deepen Yoga and Pilates</a><br />
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4. Aug. 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/tuesday-august-29-feldie-fun-1.html">Feldie Fun #1 </a><br />
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3. Aug 29: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/tuesday-august-29-who-was-moshe.html">Who was Moshe Feldenkrais?</a><br />
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2. Aug 28: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/monday-august-28-feldenkrais-as.html">Feldenkrais and Learning</a><br />
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1. Aug 27: <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/08/sunday-august-27-joy-of-feldenkrais.html">The Joy of Feldenkrais</a></span></b></span></span></b><br />
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</span> </span><span style="color: #660088;">60-135, <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2007/12/index-of-postings-2007.html">INDEX OF POSTINGS 2007</a><br />
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</span><span style="color: #33aa99;">1-59 <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2006/12/index-of-2006-postings.html">INDEX OF POSTINGS</a>, 2006</span></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></b></span></b></b>chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-74128435897396668612019-07-18T09:51:00.000-07:002019-07-18T09:52:20.919-07:00What if Enlightenment were a lot more simple?<div style="font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: center; text-indent: 36px;">
<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Love</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Loving</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Loving Wha Is</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment is Now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There is no hurry to “be” enlightened because enlightened is just a word. Who wants to “be” a word?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what is enlightenment is awaking to an ongoing love of Reality an ongoing love of What Is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Blah, blah, blah.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s make it simple</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Start a series of sentences with “NOW I AM AWARE . . .”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>and then after the . . . add the phrase, ‘AND I LOVE . . .”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you are aware of a sore back, this might be a bit of a stretch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So cheat a little. (“Cheat” in the right understanding can be using your noggin to be smart and creative about something instead of the way other people’s rules, or your rules say it “should” be done.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment Game #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look around you in the present moment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Listen around you in the present moment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense and notice touch, in inner proprioception in the moment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Search for things you like or love.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then do the earlier game:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“I AM AWARE OF . . . AND I LIKE/ LOVE . . .”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go slowly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Keep finding in the present moment something you like/ love and combine awareness with liking and loving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware . . .”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“And I like/ love . . .”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What does this do for you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Can you feel a kind of lift off?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Remember: keep cheering. Scan for the simple joys and pleasures of life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware of my toes. And I love my toes.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware of my fingers. And I love my fingers.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware of smiling. And I love smiling.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware of the blue sky. And I love the blue sky.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Now I am aware of breathing and being alive. And I love breathing and being alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Enjoy your day.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">One enlightened moment of loving what is after another.</span></div>
chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-71999206301450325732019-07-04T09:41:00.001-07:002019-07-04T09:41:45.585-07:00Freedom and Freedom: July 4th awakening<div style="font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: center; text-indent: 36px;">
<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>July 4, 2019</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Freedom and Freedom</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Waking up to our real freedom</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fourth of July is either a big deal or not, AND it could be a reminder that freedom, real freedom, is our birthright.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">First level freedom - - you know, freedom from illegal search, freedom of speech and press, freedom to drive down the street and not be stopped because of your skin color, freedom to live where you want, freedom from being thrown in the clinker without being told why - - these and more and a wonderful baseline to good life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And not everyone has them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And for most white Americans, they exist, of course with greater and greater reliability to more money you have.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And,</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">leaving aside my not so subtle political ranting, let’s look at a deeper level of freedom, the freedom of our own soul, the freedom to be at peace inside, the freedom of your own inner weather.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is our birthright. This freedom is a buddy of our birthrights: happiness, awareness, love, learning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the easiest way to talk about and explore this inner weather, inner freedom is to lay out what causes the central slavery of most of humanity:</span></div>
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<li style="font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">fear of dis-approval from our own inner judgment machine ( and machine is exactly the right word: this inner attack robot is totally automatic)</span></li>
<li style="font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><span style="font-kerning: none;">believing any of our hard-luck, poor-me, victim, should/shouldn’t, life-is-unfair thinking.</span></li>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Disconnect from these three and we are in the land of freedom and happiness and learning and love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So let’s check them out, briefly, one at a time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you, gentle and becoming more wise everyday, reader, keep checking them out every time you are unhappy. Chances are one of these slaveries is grasping you by the soul, heart and balls.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fear of outer disapproval. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just notice how often this colors, or guides or constrains what we are willing to do, or not to do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And notice this reality: they can dis-approve until they are blue in the face and we don’t have to believe it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, if it’s true to some extent, we don’t have to think we are unfit as a human. We are just human. We can change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There is judging: we could have gotten up earlier and gotten a run/ walk/ meditation in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And that might be true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And there could be an intonation to the judgment: you are yuk because you didn’t get up earlier.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Nah, we can consider that benefits and disadvantages of getting up earlier to run/ walk/ meditate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can chose freedom from yuk and not agree with, or buy into the intonation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Watch this in all arguing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s vastly more crippling than we realize, not the least of which is fear of improvement because when we hear the yuk intonation we knee jerk reject the possibly useful feedback.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fear of inner disapproval. That sticky voice of : you are wrong, bad, little, terrible, etc.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Listen for something like that any time unhappiness sneaks in to know you our of a full and delightful life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And this inner disapproval is actually a subset of believing our own thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Big chunks of this book we be about shift we can make when we get lost in should and shouldn’t about the world, and ourselves and other people.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We will dive deeply into the work of Byron Katie, which to my experience is the quickest way out of first world suffering. (The suffering of people being mean, inconsiderate, or the job not working out, or sickness / death coming at the “wrong” time, vs third world suffering of being bombed, shot, rapped, stabbed.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This way offers one main thing: freedom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It offers this by learning, learning the difference between when we believe our poor-me thinking and when we either don’t believe it, or just hop out of thinking into real time, now time present reality.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s talk about this tomorrow.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For today, though, let’s stick with the real freedom of what it would be like to not believe our thinking about how the world “should” or “shouldn’t” be as it is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is enlightenment by the way: giving up our struggle to demand that reality be different than it is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">An elephant comes down the road.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We want it to be a giraffe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Impossible.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The more we think life is cruel and unfair because it isn’t a giraffe, the more we suffer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is slavery.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The more we love it being an elephant the happier we can be.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A simple example to be sure.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Harder:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A friend dies at 52.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The friend should have lived longer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No matter how much we want that to have been different, the friend is still dead.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which way is freedom?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which way is slavery?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Slavery: wanting to control what we can’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Freedom: being present to the reality of our life in the moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is big work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is enlightenment not “just” to achieve some fancy high grade word. This is enlightenment to return to our birthright: freedom, happiness, presence, delight and love. (And more, and more: great sex - - LUST - - being one. Being able NOT to be trapped in arguments - - LOVE - - is another.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Consider your life and inner weather in any and all moments: are you free and happy?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If so, good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If not, who is causing this slavery?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Could be you.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">More tomorrow.</span></div>
chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-39144664569671057632019-06-10T08:46:00.003-07:002019-06-10T08:46:56.315-07:00Starting to wake up to Now: look, listen, breathe<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: center; text-indent: 36px;">
<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Week One - - - Day Two</b></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Love, Lust and Enlightenment - - -</b></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b><br /></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Wake up to Now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Why?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>It’s your life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now: what do you see?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who is seeing that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a trick question.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Because being aware in the moment is perhaps the most important choice a person can make about their life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Huh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">BEING AWARE IN THE MOMENT IS PERHAPS THE MOST IMPORTANT CHOICE A PERSON CAN MAKE.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And guess what?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">NO WAITING! NO LINES! NO REQUIREMENTS! NO UNIFORM!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">YOU CAN ONLY COME TO THE NOW, IN THIS NOW.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND THIS NOW . . . HOLY DAMN . . . IT’S ALWAYS HERE.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back to looking : better out a window.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And come back into the joy of seeing something now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now, think about what you are seeing: what is its name, what does it remind you of, should it be better or different, should you be better or different at you look at this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And: drop that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let it go, as they say.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just see, SEE what you are seeing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No name. No commentary. No associations. No mental jabber.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just see the thing you are seeing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">(Smiling and breathing more deeply while doing this is encouraged.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just see.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who is doing that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What is doing that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t even have a name for an answer, except maybe something simple, like “I am,” or “me.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Anyway: we see.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Even if it’s just (“just”) the words in this book: notice that you are seeing them now, these little shapes with white all around them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then bounce out and SEE something in the room, or in the yard, or in the park, or outside the window.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Enjoy that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Looking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Hearing.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now add on hearing. What can you hear, right now?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sounds come in your ears.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sometimes we notice real time sounds. Often we have a batch of auditory hallucinations in our mind, called “thinking,” aka “words in our head,” and they crowd our listening.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s okay.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s the human mess.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have real brains that can do real thinking (which will come in very handy later to do what thinking does best: notice differences) and we waste them on inner chatter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So what? That’s the trap we all fall into and the cause of most human suffering in the first world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Peace?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Want peace.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s only when we get free of our words in our head, which doesn’t mean stopping thinking (hard), but not believing them, which is work, hard work, and super well worth it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back to the now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And right now, you can see what you are seeing right now and add on hearing what you are hearing now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Does that have a bit of a delight to it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Does that world seem brighter and more real?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The middle layer of our body/ mind.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Air and lungs and ribs and chest and BREATHING. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And that’s just the top layer, the head thing above the neck.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s descend to the torso area.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What’s going on there?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Air.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathing air in and breathing air out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Whether we know it or not, whatever the weather, whether we even want to or not, if we are not dead . . . we are breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How about turning the attention / awareness towards that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Can you delight in noticing right now that you are breathing?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not just notice, but delight in knowing, feeling, sensing in real time, noticing in real time the old fashioned core of life:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathing in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathing out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are always doing it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing it provides a sort of jolt to our awareness of one of life’s central truths, we are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so enjoy delighting in and noticing and deepening and softening your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">And do let it relax and come a little deeper into your belly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Five</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking (Words in your Head)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Clearing the Pathway for Love </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(and “Enlightenment”)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Being in Reality vs Being in the nonsense/ beliefs/ words</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here is some sad but true news: we are all crazy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s is some liberating and amusing news: we are all crazy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We love someone, and we obsess about how they need to change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In spite of a lifetime of evidence, we imagine we are blameless and that any trouble is “Your fault.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We call the kettle black: other people are selfish, or inconsiderate, or rude or any one of the traits that we drift (or plunge) into when we fall into our own moments of stress or forgetfulness or foolishness (or tiredness or assholeness).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Alas: We are so SURE that if so and so would just straighten up, all would be well in the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If they would just CHANGE all would be good again. Of course, that we might change our behavior or our own thinking or our own beliefs, this doesn’t occur to us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Usually.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Usually is the kicker.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We aren’t perfect. We are all assholes sometimes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The sooner and the easier and the more humorously we can catch our fall into the “you are to blame, just fix yourself” mode, the sooner we can laugh and love and be free again. <b>To NOT forgive is the swallow the rat poison and hope the other person dies.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This chapter is a chance to begin to practice this dance of jumping out of our old stuck perspective and realizing that we have the major say in our own misery.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Actually: it’s more severe than that: almost all our first world suffering (first world suffering as emotional vs third world suffering as starving or our houses being bombed or our lives in violence) is an inside job.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who makes us miserable, when we are?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are miserable because we believe our own thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ugh.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yippie.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Since we cause this suffering, we can “un-cause” it. How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stopping believing our thinking. (And by “thinking” I mean words in our head that are judging and blaming reality. Real thinking is of the try this and see what happens. Try something else and see what difference happens. In fact, we are going to use “real thinking” to compare the difference: how are we when we believe our thinking vs how are we when we don’t believe our own thinking.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sounds too simple.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Read on…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A real life story when I discovered my assholeness….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a little story about a nice “turn around” with a fourteen year old that I was certain was being the “Stupid/ bad/ selfish” one. In my stupid (and suffering) state, I was quite clear: she needed to change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This story takes place in Sonoma, around 2000, in the summer. I’d gotten over the trauma of a gal named Sally Ann running off with a man named Joe. I’d stopped believing my thinking that she was meant to stick around and argue with me. And I had stopped believing my own thinking that no one else great would show up in my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then Celeste did. A perky yoga teacher, who shared gardening and bike riding and a general love of nature with me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We grew fonder and fonder of one another, and then couldn’t restrain ourselves to two residences. So I came to spend the night with her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Off in a huff went Lara, her fourteen year old daughter. Her father and Celeste had been unhappy for many years and had been apart for almost a year, and that didn’t matter to her: she didn’t want her Mom living with her new guy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There I was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Off she went. In a huff. In the middle of the night. Big drama. Big show.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And she’s fourteen, right? She’s a pain in the ass, nasty to her Mom, the whole usual teenage thing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And me in all my wisdom, decide to get all twisted about her being “selfish.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which I could make a great case for; after all wasn’t she throwing hissy fit after hissy fit? (I.e. acting 14).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then a pleasant and slightly stunning light bulb went on: I was the selfish one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When Lara threw her hissy fits, it upset her mom, and so Celeste and I had less fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This upset MY selfish wish to have great times, all the time, with Celeste.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ha!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was a hypocrite (this has been discovered since, many times) and that was funny and a relief. She was selfish. I was selfish. So be it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And guess what? Once my mind got clear, our relationship got clear. Like this:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One day she was over visiting us and I decided to tell her my discovery about me being the “selfish” one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What teenager doesn’t want to hear an adult admit that they are an ass?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She lightened up and when I left to go to a garden I was caring for, she shouted out after me, “Goodbye, Selfish Chris.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were friends ever after, including some very interesting times when Celeste and I had amicably decided to part and Celeste super quickly found the husband that was just right for her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And me?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">First we can remember that this is such a common occurrence that there is a folk phrase: WHEN I STICK OUT ONE FINGER IN ACCUSATION, THREE FINGERS ARE POINTING BACK AT ME.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Second, we can make a game of this, of course.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Thinking Exercise #1: One finger out, three back.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of someone you’ve got a nice juicy one word condemnation for. Selfish. Lazy. Avoidant. Whatever.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be accusative: point your hand, one finger out at some imaginary them. Let yourself be all crunched in and tight breathed when you believe this story.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand straighter. Wiggle your body a little. Look at some nature if you can. And then….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>JUMP to a new spot, and pick one of the fingers that is pointing toward you. Smile and discover one way, this is you, too. If so and so is mean or selfish or inconsiderate, find one way that you are.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Alas, and then…</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>JUMP to another freedom spot, and pick another finger pointing back toward you. Smile, breathe deeply and find one more way this is you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Alas, three fingers pointing back. JUMP a third time, and feel the third finger pointing back and find, alas, one more way this is YOU TOO. Yep. YOU TOO.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You and the other: imperfect humans. Damn! or, Goody!</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now make sure you did that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s not something we usually like to do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s something we are very glad, once we’ve done it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And … and the eating crow part, the admitting our own flaw part, is usually not popular.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At first. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a not believing our own thinking game / reframe, that’a little easier to pull off, and hence can be part of our daily strategy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When: only when we are unhappy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You mean we can “un-do” our unhappiness?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out…..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking Exercise #2: Jump to Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a learning game. They all are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand on some spot that you’ll call and feel as the “blame spot.” Once there, think more consciously the blame thoughts you are already thinking about some other “bad/ imperfect/ to blame/ yucky” person in your life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>There is almost always a SHOULD or SHOULDN’T attached to your story about them.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write down the should/ shouldn’t thought.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel what happens to you when you believe this.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Jump to another spot and say aloud five gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>How do you feel now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go back to the blame/ should / shouldn’t spot, and feel how that feels.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>GET INTO IT. FEEL YOURSELF SLUMP OVER AND TIGHTEN YOUR BODY AND CRUNCH DOWN ON YOUR BREATHING WHEN YOU THINK THE BLAME/ SHOULD/ SHOULDN’T THOUGHTS.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, relax a bit.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand up straighter.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look at something real, preferably nature outside.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a deep breath.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Wiggle your body from fingers to toes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now JUMP, really, Jump to another spot, and in that spot say aloud six gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three gratitudes for life in general. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three gratitudes/ appreciations for the “bad/ yucky” person.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel what happens to your body, mind, heart, soul and breathing as you do then.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>NOTICE THE DIFFERENCE. = LEARNING.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This isn’t bullshitting.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is core to a good life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We can choose the blame spot, and ….. happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We can choose/ jump to the gratitude and appreciation spot and … happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice: this isn’t being “good.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is being smart/ wise/ kind to ourselves.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>THIS IS NOTICING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BLAME/ SHOULD/ SHOULDN’T AND GRATITUDE ON US.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>ON US.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>ON US.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve already experienced the power of gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we’ve made it explicit that learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here we are jumping to a different spot, to have a gratitude based outlook on reality.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And experiencing the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… we can always slink back, temporarily, to the grumpy/ blame spot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude, and we get one result.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Blame and should/ shouldn’t and we get another.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And some part of us can experience deeply this sad and brutal truth: where we put our attention determines our inner “weather.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: we can chose happiness or suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the mere jumping to a different view of the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A game worth playing. Any time we are miserable with a bunch of should or shouldn’t accusations in our minds.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Twice A Day?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Yes</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sex</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Divine/ Humorous “Forgiveness”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who is this book for?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Anyone who wants a great and present and sexier life as they go about changing the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And realistically, this is mainly for couples, over fifty, who have twenty to forty minutes a day free from the demands of jobs and children, to actually turn toward each other and build an immensely beautiful, fun, sexier, honest and present and blissful relationship together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And one of the things to begin to make your relationship better and better and better is to co-operate as you read this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">READ IT TOGETHER.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">ALOUD.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">ONE, TWO, THREE PAGES AT A TIME.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">PASS THE BOOK BACK AND FORTH.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">DISCUSS ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING THAT COMES UP FOR YOU AS YOU ARE READING.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There isn’t a ton of things to do. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND there are new games/ exercises/ practices “things to do” every day. These are fun. These take real time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What you put time and attention on is what is important to you. If you want a fabulous relationship you will need to play and learn and touch together a bit more each day,</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is NOT a book to read and mull over ‘getting around to’ later.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The now is our life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The now is when the games take place.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One way to do this book is a twenty day rocket ship ride to a sexier, more present, happier and healthier life. A life that is making a difference in the Big Wide World.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are fun/ challenging “games” each day. No more than three. Sometimes just one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">’Tis old wisdom and a pain in the ass, but to change…. you have to change. You do the same old thing and… same old results.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right away in days one, two and three we’ve got saying and writing gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve got rubbing your own and your partner’s hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve got laughing at how when we call another person some accusatory thing… selfish, say, or a bit grumpy… the same applies to us in small, or often large measure.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The games are about learning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How did I learn these things?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Making mistakes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good fortune in finding this and that as a way out of my mistakes. Some magic here and there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the more I applied the magic, the better things got.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Experiencing increase luck and joy when I shift from the old crappy Chris to the new one who lived in the present and touched mindfully and knew the absolute necessity of getting real about my own imperfections.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And I have learned this: we are designed to learn. And we are designed to stay stuck. We’ve got a lot more choice than we usually realize.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every “game” in this book is your chance to learn how to make choices that lead toward awakening and joy and sexiness and easy and lifelong learning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is trying out new things and noticing a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not just once and a while.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why Twice a Day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For sex and touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch is our birthright as mammals. If even a handshake or a hug, this is part of the food of a real human life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Since this book is mainly for couples over fifty, and there is a myth that sex needs to dissolve then, I’m here to tell you as one enjoying sex two, three, four times a day at 73, this is not true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This doesn’t need to be true for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex is a sweet remembrance of life at it’s most connected and pleasurable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When done slowly and mindfully.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is good for our souls and for the Earth. We need happy, connected, nourished people to make a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are ways toward this besides jumping into a friskiness you aren’t ready for yet.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Starting it day two, you’ll be holding hands. Caressing/ exploring/ massaging hands. Touching/ caressing/ exploring your partner’s face.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why Twice a Day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For Gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Without gratitude we wither.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We forget the glory of life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We fall back into fear and complaining.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Because we need to nourish love with gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why Twice a Day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For humorous forgiveness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Because one of the great obstacles to love is our habit, often very deep, of seeing the flaws and shortcomings and “you should change” aspects of our partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">These “you should change” statements appear true, and they aren’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We need to undermine this main underminer of love. We need to un-do the blame and shame game and feeling hurt and going around with resentments in our mind and heart. We need to undo resentments and blaming to get back to love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, twice a day we nourish love by going to gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day we nourish love by undermining the main underminer of love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day we connect via touch, letting the warm mammal in us do what it is meant to do: connect.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s go for days one, two and three….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Weeeeee!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One:</b> </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Improving Love right Away—</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On June 20, 2015, I walked half a block down my street in Austin, Texas, to meet a woman I knew and admired and liked, but with whom I thought I had no “romantic” expectations. I had met her a mere three months before, in March. She had moved to Austin in February. Now in June it was a gentle summer’s day, and we were going to meet for a lunch and “study” session. I was writing a book on radical listening. She was smart and kind and I wanted her input. Her name was Carol Williams then.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s Carol Elms now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We thought we were meeting for an hour and a half. For lunch and a bit of her help on a book I was writing, the precursor to this one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twelve hours later, at one am, as I pried myself out the door, to walk the half block back to my home, we both were almost certain we’d met the future lifetime partner that had a day before seemed “almost impossible” to find. I’d written an “almost impossible goal” to find a fabulous woman within walking distance. And an “almost impossible goal” to find a lifetime partner at 70 years old. Carol had been praying for a life partner. And then… the miracle seemed to be happening.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And even with goals and prayers, without our both being immersed in gratitude I don’t think this “miracle” would have happened. Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We all thrive in gratitude…</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On that night, and since then, the practice of gratitude was a deeply embedded part of both our lives. Then, as now, I was writing in a “gratitude journal” at least twice, often three or four or five times, a day. Carol, on that miracle day, had a steady background prayer life, of which gratitude and thanks was a significant part. Now she has a gratitude journal, too. Will you soon get a gratitude journal? Only if you want transformation as deeply and easily as possible.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t believe me, or anyone. Test drive gratitude right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mini-game: Think of 3 things you are grateful for. Does something shift?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How does this work?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Power of Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude focuses our hearts and minds on what we like and love in life, what is going well in our life, what we are thankful for and want more of. Instead of wasting time and mental energy on worry or complaining, gratitude allows us to look at life from a peaceful and open heart. With an eager heart alert to what has gone well in the past, we are primed to be looking forward to more “good stuff” unfolding each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Nice, eh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Modern research has shown what ancient wisdom has long suspected: the brain (and person) can be in either fear or gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were tuned in to what we appreciated about our lives. This made it far easier to tune into what we could appreciate in the other person. And then, twelve hours after I’d walked in the door, we reluctantly dragged ourselves apart amazed that we might well have found the “almost impossible.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Dear reader, let’s jump into action.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book will have a lot of “games.” They are actions you take in real time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They take time. They could/ should be fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They will change your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so, the time you give yourself playing these transformative games, is your honoring your wish for a more loving and lusty and enlightened life. To get a different life you have to do different stuff. Might as well do games as the new stuff.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like right now:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One: Love and Gratitude Game #1: SAYING GRATITUDES ALOUD</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>My notes on the differences I noticed….</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you do this with a partner, take turns saying the five things to each other, followed by a brief sharing of what difference saying aloud fine gratitudes made.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Really, do it now. This is not a book to “just read” and imagine “doing it” later. This is not a book of “good ideas” for you to give your “screwed up” friends. This is a transformation manual for those who want even more amazing life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which is you, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Therefore: if you have not yet played the game, do so: Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And notice the difference. Core to this book is an understanding of real learning. Real learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Real learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is not taking in anything by rote.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is a shift that makes a difference. And being aware of the shift.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As I’ve said above, you can be grateful or you can be in fear. Can you feel a shift in you when you say gratitudes aloud? Let’s try an even more sure fire way of shifting our energy to being a happier and more loving person. Standing. Letting ourselves feel our more full bodies as we speak gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s try again to notice a difference that makes a difference :</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One : Love and Gratitude Game #2: STANDING GRATITUDES</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand up. Best if you do this with your mate. If you have one.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say: Hey, let’s do some standing gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then do them….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If there is a window available that has a view of Nature, please go there.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or, if your life is such that walking out into Outside, to see nature, or going out to actually , Stand in Nature, so much the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your body standing up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud, five gratitudes. The same ones. New ones. If you can be watching Nature at the same time all the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice any difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>My notes on the differences I noticed….</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As, before, if you do this with a mate, take turns. Go outside together if you can. Share the aloud gratitudes and share a bit on what difference that made.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When you do this, it’s such a nice excuse to be upright. It’s a nice excuse to realize: we are in a body much bigger than the thing above our necks. It’s a nice excuse to return to our hearts. It’s a nice excuse to realize this: life can be pretty wonderful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you feel different after doing these two games?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were actively involved in this gratitude business, as I’ve said. Her prayers, were real prayers, which meant they weren’t all of the “help me” type. They had a huge chunk of “Thank You.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And as I’ve said, I was writing one, two, three times a day in a gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now it’s time for today’s third gratitude game.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write in a journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You might have a journal around, or even some half used one. Cross out the old title.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Label it the gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ll have lots and lots before you’re through.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here we go.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It can take less than a minute, once you’ve found a piece of paper.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Eventually you’ll want a journal, a gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This will be something in which to start every day for the rest of your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude Game #3</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get a paper or a journal</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write five gratitudes or more.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If a lined journal, leave a line between each line of writing</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write big and slow and feel your hand moving, and see the letters forming.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Read them over.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Good.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find yourself soon a gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">1. Write in a gratitude journal. Twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">2. Say some gratitudes aloud with someone/ anyone each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes. At least twice.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">(There is the perceived not enough time problem when we want to change. That’a fancy disguise for good old fashioned resistance.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just write your gratitudes twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just say them aloud to a partner or to nature twice a day. Near the beginning and new the end make sense. And discover what’s fun, sweet and useful and delightful and even, what’s sexy, for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Two: Touch</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We are mammals, touch is nourishing for us all</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If sex is to get better and better ordinary touch is the place to start</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Hands, faces, go slow</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mindful touch is a miracle gift to ourselves and to others</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touch</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We need touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We starve without touch. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are mammals.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you don’t have a partner, try to hug two or three people a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you can’t hug two or three people a day, hug a tree or two. Shake hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For couples, though, let’s start right away with hands:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touching Hands Game #1: One hand touches/ caresses/ explores the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set a timer. Three minutes. (Seems “long.” And, do you deserve three minutes of self-kindness?)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use your non-dominant hand as the “giving hand.” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use your dominant hand as the “receiving hand.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(E.g., if you are right handed, the left hand will caress/ touch/ explore the right hand. If left handed, your right hand will caress/ touch/ explore your left hand.)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>For three minutes, go slowly, and explore one hand with the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF SACRED AND MINDFUL SEX.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go for three minutes. Feel down to your feet as you caress. Feel your ribs and your breathing and your hands. Feel your neck and the air coming in and out of your nose.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go so slowly that noticing yourself and the other at the same time becomes your whole world.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you feel / “think” ( as the words in our heads that passes as thinking, but isn’t) you are wasting time, notice that. And come back to the present of being present to one hand with the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>When it’s over, notice the difference in the two hands.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>With a few notes, perhaps, right here…</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>PS: What is the receiving hand grateful for? What is the giving hand grateful for? You might add that to your gratitude journal.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>If you have a partner doing this with their hands at the same time, share your awarenesses.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is simple.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Except…. notice your resistance: do I have three minutes to be nice to myself?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you feel silly, to be being kind and loving to yourself?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice the gratitude of the hand receiving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice the gratitude and learning of the hand giving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be alert: how well do you think this would help your connection to your partner?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you don’t have a partner, notice how this might help you connect to a partner when you do have one. ( If you want that. )</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… if you do have a partner, this is a wonderful beginner’s step to having sex every day: You rub/ caress/ explore their hand for three minutes. They do the same for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touching your Partner’s Hand, for three minutes:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The beginnings of Mindful and Fabulous Sex</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the greatest shortfalls in normal, and often boring, and frequently avoided, sex, is that it almost entirely genital and is all supposed to be wham bam full speed almost instantly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Very little, if any, time is devoted to letting one partner be the recipient, the receiver, the you-are-being-loved one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is tragic. Non-reciprocal sex is hugely important.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Huh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Non-reciprocal sex is hugely important.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How do I know that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have sex once or more a day, and one fuel that keeps that happening is a mindful sex practice that we allow / commit ourselves to almost every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Where did I learn this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Later on the glories of Mindful Female Orgasm ( day thirteen).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now, let’s go to the bliss of being the giver and the bliss of being the receiver of a three minute hand caress/ massage/ exploration.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">the hand has not as many pleasure receptors, but it does have a huge number of wirings in our brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, to “just” receive is something we are usually extremely limited in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a way of pleasure and relaxation and telling our partner’s brains and inner being: you are important. You matter. I have time and willingness to be present to you in a very real and non-bullshit way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is good. Let’ do it…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Two: Touch game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Partners Take 3 minute turns touching/ caressing/ exploring one of the other person’s hands.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>That’s it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The giver uses two hands.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be curious and exploratory.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense your body in all three levels as you give.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Listen to what you feel as you give.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Receiver: listen not just to what you are receiving in your hand, but to what is happening at all three levels of your body.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>After the three minutes take a bit of a break with several deep deep breaths. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then go the other way, before talking.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then another break.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And then share, how was this as a giver. How was this to be the receiver.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a crucial deal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say what your body and soul wants to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say what your “I’m too busy” robot will hate to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say something the stuck in your rut you will love and hate to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The brain: one use, to stay stuck in our patterns.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The brain, best use: discover what happens new and now when you do, try, open to, explore, something new.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: you are depriving yourself of the joy of living with another person. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(Why do we live together?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, for those in a relationship who want it fabulous or more fabulous, say gratitudes as you hold hands, Let’s make our third game a combination of the first day…. gratitude… and the second day, touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch game #3:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Set a timer for two minutes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Share gratitudes back and forth, five at a time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then, for three minutes</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hold hands</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take turns saying five gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then listening to five gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back and forth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feeling the connection.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hearing the gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the difference that sharing gratitudes makes when you hold hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Crucial to this book is learning. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch makes a difference, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Bring this into your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Daily.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At least twice.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hand caressing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude sharing while hold hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There will be sexier versions of touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">These are always great to fall back onto.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How often?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it twice a day and let your souls discover.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Three: Clearing the Way for “Enlightenment:”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We are all crazy/ </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here is some sad but true news: we are all crazy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s is some liberating and amusing news: we are all crazy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We love someone, and we obsess about how they need to change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In spite of a lifetime of evidence, we imagine we are blameless and that any trouble is “Your fault.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We call the kettle black: other people are selfish, or inconsiderate, or rude or any one of the traits that we drift (or plunge) into when we fall into our own moments of stress or forgetfulness or foolishness (or tiredness or assholeness).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Alas: We are so SURE that if so and so would just straighten up, all would be well in the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If they would just CHANGE all would be good again. Of course, that we might change our behavior or our thinking or out beliefs, this doesn’t occur to us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Usually.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Usually is the kicker.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We aren’t perfect. We are all assholes sometimes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The sooner and the easier and the more humorously we can catch our fall into the “you are to blame, just fix yourself” mode, the sooner we can laugh and love and be free again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here are some games that could help, and really, it’s all about you and I and everyone on earth understanding the old maxim: <b>To not forgive is the swallow the rat poison and hope the other person dies.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So… on we go…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This chapter is a chance to begin to practice this dance of jumping out of our old stuck perspective and realizing that we have the major say in our own misery.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Actually: it’s more severe than that: almost all our first world suffering (emotional vs starving or our houses being bombed or our lives in violence) is an inside job.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who makes us miserable, when we are?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are miserable because we believe our own thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ugh.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yippie.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Since we cause this suffering, we can “un-cause” it. How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stopping believing our thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sounds too simple.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Read on…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A real life story when I discovered my assholeness….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a little story about a nice “turn around” with a fourteen year old that I was certain was being the “Stupid/ bad/ selfish” one. In my stupid (and suffering) state, I was quite clear: she needed to change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This story takes place in Sonoma, around 2000, in the summer. I’d gotten over the trauma of a gal named Sally Ann running off with a man named Joe, and had stopped believing my own thinking that no one else great would show up in my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then Celeste did. A perky yoga teacher, who shared gardening and bike riding and a general love of nature with me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We grew fonder and fonder of one another, and then couldn’t restrain ourselves to two residences. So I came to spend the night with her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Off in a huff went Lara, her fourteen year old daughter. Her father and Celeste had been unhappy for many years and had been apart for almost a year, and that didn’t matter to her: she didn’t want her Mom living with her new guy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There I was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Off she went. In a huff. In the middle of the night. Big drama. Big show.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And she’s fourteen, right? She’s a pain in the ass, nasty to her Mom, the whole usual teenage thing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And me in all my wisdom, decide to get all twisted about her being “selfish.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which I could make a great case for; after all wasn’t she throwing hissy fit after hissy fit? (I.e. acting 14).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then a pleasant and slightly stunning light bulb went on: I was the selfish one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When Lara threw her hissy fits, it upset her mom, and so Celeste and I had less fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This upset MY selfish wish to have great times, all the time, with Celeste.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ha!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was a hypocrite (this has been discovered since, many times) and that was funny and a relief. She was selfish. I was selfish. So be it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And guess what? Once my mind got clear, our relationship got clear. Like this:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One day she was over visiting us and I decided to tell her my discovery about me being the “selfish” one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What teenager doesn’t want to hear an adult admit that they are an ass?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She lightened up and when I left to go to a garden I was caring for, she shouted out after me, “Goodbye, Selfish Chris.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were friends ever after, including some very interesting times when Celeste and I had amicably decided to part and Celeste super quickly found the husband that was just right for her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And me?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">First we can remember that this is such a common occurrence that there is a folk phrase: WHEN I STICK OUT ONE FINGER IN ACCUSATION, THREE FINGERS ARE POINTING BACK AT ME.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Second, we can make a game of this, of course.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Thinking Game #1: One finger out, three back.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of someone you’ve got a nice juicy one word condemnation for. Selfish. Lazy. Avoidant. Whatever.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be accusative: point your hand, one finger out at some imaginary them. Let yourself be all crunched in and tight breathed when you believe this story.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand straighter. Wiggle your body a little. Look at some nature if you can. And then….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>JUMP to a new spot, and pick one of the fingers that is pointing toward you. Smile and discover one way, this is you, too.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>JUMP to another freedom spot, and pick another finger pointing back toward you. Smile, breathe deeply and find one more way this is you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Alas, three fingers pointing back. JUMP a third time, and feel the third finger pointing back and find, alas, one more way this is YOU TOO. Yep. YOU TOO.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You and the other: imperfect humans. Damn! or, Goody!</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now make sure you did that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s not something we usually like to do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s something we are very glad, once we’ve done it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And … and the eating crow part, the admitting our own flaw part, is usually not popular.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At first. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a not believing our own thinking game / reframe, that’a little easier to pull off, and hence can be part of our daily strategy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When: only when we are unhappy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You mean we can “un-do” our unhappiness?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out…..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking Game #2: Jump to Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a learning game. They all are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand on some spot that you’ll call and feel as the “blame spot.” Once there, think more consciously the blame thoughts you are already thinking about some other “bad/ imperfect/ to blame/ yucky” person in your life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Their is almost always a SHOULD or SHOULDN’T attached to your story about them.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>GET INTO IT. FEEL YOURSELF SLUMP OVER AND TIGHTEN YOUR BODY AND CRUNCH DOWN ON YOUR BREATHING WHEN YOU THINK THE BLAME/ SHOULD/ SHOULDN’T THOUGHTS.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, relax a bit.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand up straighter.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look at something real, preferably nature outside.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a deep breath.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Wiggle your body from fingers to toes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And then…..</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now JUMP, really, Jump to another spot, and in that spot say aloud six gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three gratitudes for life in general.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three gratitudes/ appreciations for the “bad/ yucky” person.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel what happens to your body, mind, heart, soul and breathing as you do then.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>NOTICE THE DIFFERENCE. = LEARNING.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then SLINK back to the blame spot, and have those crappy thoughts, and notice: WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE WHEN YOU choose the crappy thoughts and ….. what crappy feelings and body sensations and breathing result from your attachment to this belief system?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And take the deep breath, and wiggle and straighten to a fuller you and once more jump again to the six gratitudes. Three about life. Three about the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And feel the differences, which is to say: learn. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This isn’t bullshitting.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is core to a good life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We can choose the blame spot, and ….. happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We can choose/ jump to the gratitude and appreciation spot and … happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice: this isn’t being “good.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is being smart/ wise/ kind to ourselves.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve already experienced the power of gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we’ve made it explicit that learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here we are jumping to a different spot, to have a gratitude based outlook on reality.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And experiencing the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… we can always slink back, temporarily, to the grumpy/ blame spot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude, and we get one result.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Blame and should/ shouldn’t and we get another.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And some part of us can experience deeply this sad and brutal truth: where we put our attention determines our inner “weather.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: we can chose happiness or suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the mere jumping to a different view of the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A game worth playing. Any time we are miserable with a bunch of should or shouldn’t accusations in our minds.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This third game seems like a smokescreen.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s not really.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s just that we have so darned much trouble letting go of our “story” when we are stuck in it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Tomorrow we’ll begin a lifelong commitment to being present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Today we’ll “do” this being present from a slightly different angle: what’s left when we give up our story?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t worry about that explanation yet. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just try this:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking Game #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Pick two spots.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One: where you believe your own thinking.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: where you don’t believe your own thinking</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go to spot one. Stand there and let any “should” or “shouldn’t” belief in your mind about some other person drive you to suffering.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Jump to the “DON’T BELIEVE” spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>There simply don’t believe your own thinking. You don’t have to believe any sort of opposite or positive thinking.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Just abandon the thinking that is committed to the should or shouldn’t.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Again: try out the believing the story spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And jump again to the not believing the story spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, in one spot…. So and so should appreciate me more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the DON’T BELIEVE SPOT, being free one way of another. Neither that they should appreciate you more, nor that they shouldn’t. Just seeing the world as: this is the way it is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Please don’t fall into the platitude of “It is what it is,” which is always true, and almost always carries a resigned or cynical or pretend freedom attitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Think more like a novelist: this person doesn’t appreciate me. How would life be for me if I didn’t believe that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take the approach of curiosity. See what happens. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who am I when I believe the story?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who or what am I when I don’t believe the story?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Transformation Continues:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Day Four: Being Present</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As a way to love being in your body</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As a way to love, even more, touching your partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And being touched.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As a way to “forgive” with much more ease than usual</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Day Five: Real Learning will Set you free</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences that make a difference: touch, body fun, learning</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Day Six: Return to Nature</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As least twice a day</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The next three days are more delights to improve sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And Ways to approach life to keep it fresh and new.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And an obvious nourishment that is with us so much more than we usually realize.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Four: Enlightenment is now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>BEING PRESENT</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At any moment we can come back into the present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like now?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And Now?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is one of the miracles of now: it’s always here. No waiting. No standing in line. No required uniform, age, health status, money requirements. You are always you. Always now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What’s that like?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Experience your now, now, the you of being alive right now. What do you notice?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What difference does that make?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is one of the most significant differences we can notice in life: what happens when we shift to “waking up” to our experience of this moment in this moment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s give ourselves, right away a present of the present game that roots us in our body. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When I was young, sports and being outdoors and swimming and the usual fun of life was my unknown way of being present. By “unknown,” I mean that I wasn’t “trying” to be present, but that this just came naturally to the territory of being a child.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This, of course, is why we like to be around the young so much: they are present and they are delighted to be present and they remind us how good and easy this world can be.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Later, sex came along, and had a somewhat thrilling way of being present and of connecting to another person. It was a balance to over-studying and a life where I was pretty hooked on thinking that my thinking and my getting grades and the whole “what are you going to do with your life” game where who I really was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then, a breakthrough of a somewhat sloppy form came along, but maybe it’s the only way that could have worked for an over-intellectual lunk head like me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Walking across the plaza at Stanford one fall afternoon in 1965, a friend casually asked me: Do you want some acid?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Acid, of course, was LSD, and this was before it was either a big deal in the save the world way, or a big deal in the Bad Trips will Drive you Crazy way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, I said yes, not really sure what I was getting into.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And a couple of weeks later, with a guide who had “done” this before, we “dropped” and listened to the Loving Spoonful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And nothing happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And he said, don’t worry.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And nothing happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And he said, it’s coming.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And nothing happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then the world opened, and the music was from heaven and everything from the apartment was in heaven, and when we took a walk all the street lights and trees and plants and people walking around, everything was perfect and some beautiful part of “God,” whatever “God” was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I didn’t think about “God” in those days, before this, but that night God seemed at the core of everything and everything seemed God, and everything was beautiful and nothing could be explained and that was just fine.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And God was very much the feeling that his musical note, right now, was perfect, and this street lamp, right now, was perfect, and this cloud pattern in the sky, right now, was perfect. Everything seemed equally divine. There was no waiting for something “better” to happen.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Everything was “best.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This seemed like a whole new world. The world where everything was perfect just as it was. Later, I’ve found that every mystic of every religious stripe experiences the world this way: it’s all God, it’s all beautiful, even if so called “painful,” and it’s all perfect.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And a couple of times more, listening to Beethoven and the heaven of his music, or wandering around East Palo Alto and seeing the beauty of every rose and tree and wet weed grass.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And once, this perfection and beauty spilled into a feast of gratitude: for Beethoven, for the musicians, for the orchestra, for the recording, for the tape recorder, for the electricity coming into the tape recorder, for the dynamo in the mountains that generated the electricity, for the discovery of creating electricity</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then something else helped, another piece of luck and expansion of what the mystery of life was all about. It turned out “the now” was always here, not just in a magical drug experience. It was a book! A friend (same one who’d “tripped” with me the first time) had invited me to a study group, in which we dove into a rather intricate book on Gestalt Therapy. Some fancy theory, exciting of course, and then the “real deal:” some very straight ahead “exercises.” </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Action to take.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not just words explaining other words.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was their games as if were.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The first game was this: “For three minutes, simply start every sentence with “Now I am aware…” and finish it with the truth of what you are aware of. Skip thoughts. Skip emotional explorations. (Later on that). Just sensations and observations without commentary or judgment in the present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so let’s start today, taking advantage of this miracle of the present: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No waiting around. You can do this right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No “right place” to be. You can do this wherever you are, right now. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Awareness Game #1: “Now I am Aware.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set a timer for two minutes. (If no timer with you, you being lucky/ smart enough to be away from the Great Distraction of a smart phone… just guess two minutes)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Start a series of sentences with “Now I am aware….”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say them aloud, or very quietly if whatever place you are in demands that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>No judging or commentary, just the facts.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do it and see what happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you have a partner around, do this together, taking turns listening to each other explore the would of “now I am aware…” And then then share what you noticed doing this. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you are doing this alone, jot down here, or it an “observations journal” what you noticed and liked about doing this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You might even have a gratitude or two the occurs to you from this time in the present. If so, write them in your gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s make this a little more vital.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Most people, when they finally do get out of all their inner chatter, and actually into the present, are still mainly above the neck.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What we see and what we hear is vastly important to our species. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And …</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…. ten percent of the weight of our body is in our head. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There is more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WE ARE FULL BODIED CREATURES.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WE HAVE ARMS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">LEGS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">HANDS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">FEET</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">TOES</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">FINGERS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">SPINES</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">RIBS </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">BELLIES </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">PELVIS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">HIPS </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">KNEES</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND MORE.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There is a wonderful saying I’ve brought into my teaching and learning lexicon in the last several years.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The saying is this: NO BODY = NOBODY.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a saying from a Chinese energy system, a five thousand year old Chinese energy system that I’ll recommend in day seven as one of your ten possible “super-power liberation & happiness” pathways. This system has been brought to the West by a Western MD and surgeon, Dr Barry Morguelan, who practices in LA, lectures around the world, and teaches training seminars in Austin, Texas, detailing many aspects of this 5000 year old system. His amazing website is <a href="http://energyforsuccess.org/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">EnergyForSuccess.org</span></a>. Go there for breathing exercises, amazing blogs, interviews with people such as Tony Robins and Dave Aspery, courses you might take advantage of.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The “About” tab has some great opening introduction to how “Dr. B,” as we call him, discovered and deeper into this system. The Blogs have shortened forms of various of his three hour lectures. The products page is somewhat endless, but there is almost always a great deal on a “breathing exercise” which is a guided visualization that helps deepen and reset your “energy” to a more happy and healing and younger and effective “vibration.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s all a bit mysterious.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Oh, well.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And back to the joy of being present in our body, in this now, this moment. This real body in which we are conducting our life. Either we know we are “here,” or we don’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">NO BODY = NOBODY. Mull this over for a bit, without “thinking” about it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A sly and easy to remember reminder that when we are lost in our heads, forgetting that big list of all the body below our neck, then there is no one really home.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want to be somebody in Your Body, here is a great way to wake up to how much of us there is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The game will be to say now I am aware in three layers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Life is Being Present Game #2: Three Layers of “Now I am Aware.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set a timer for two minutes, or guess it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>State one “Now I am aware….”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And pick something below your waist:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The feet or toes. Where they are. What they feel. What is the sensation of them.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Legs, pelvis, ankle, knee, hips.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Middle layer:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>State the next, “Now I am aware…”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And pick something above your waist and below your neck.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Belly, breathing, ribs, arms, fingers, hands, stomach, spine, elbows, wrists.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sensation, shape, what they are touching, heat of cold.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(No complaining. No judging. Just the facts: My left hand is resting on my left knee and feels the material of my pants.)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Top layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now state a “Now I am aware…” that comes from the head layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Neck, skull, face, tongue, breath coming in and out your nose or mouth, smile or not, what your eyes see, your ears hear, your nose smells. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then go back down to the bottom layer, “Now I am aware….”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then the middle, “Now I am aware….”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then the top layer, “Now I am aware…”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And back again, always starting closer to the Earth, around and around, visiting and aware-ing into your life and body right now in your full and amazing fullness. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The next game turns this into a game of connection and deepening. The third pathway of liberation is TOUCH. Touch is the foundation of lust. Touch is crucial to being a mammal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch is a way to be present in one of its most simple and safe forms. If it’s simple enough.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And this is plenty simple: just holding hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With a partner: great.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With a good friend: great.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With a child or parent: great. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here is another game towards the delight of sex twice a day or more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex often gets waylaid in being so oriented to the genitals. We will actually improve this a little later with a non-reciprocal stroking of the woman’s clitoris, but even here, the goal will be for both to be aware, in the moment, of the effects of this THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE BODY.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For starters though, for making out, for hugging, for just laying in bed naked together and exulting in whatever touch is happening, the practice of awareness throughout your whole body is immense.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s start at a very simple level: touch plus awareness in three levels.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Being Present Game #3—- Touching your Partner’s Face</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Being aware of three levels</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set the timer for five minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stroke, caress, explore, massage your partner’s face for three minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Each person keep awareness:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One, at the point of contact</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: in all three layers of the body… below the waist, and in the middle layer, and at the top, the face level, where there will be a lot of awareness</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>For the one touched.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>But each person: the toucher, too, notice bottom, middle and top level as you caress/ massage/ explore</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then shift and go five minutes the other way</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Again both people noticing all three levels</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>When done, just rest and breathe a bit.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then: </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>TALK A BIT, SHARE A BIT HOW VALUABLE EVEN THIS SMALL AMOUNT OF SLOWING DOWN FEELS TO YOU AND YOUR LIFE.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This can now be one of your two touching options each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Will this lead to better sex?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Will this lead to more sex?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Will this lead us out of the misery of no body = nobody? </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>An Overview: Ten Liberation and Happiness Pathways</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One: <b>Gratitude opens the door to Love</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Two: <b>Touch begins the road to fabulous sex</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three: <b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking starts to set you Free</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Four: <b>Being Present in our Bodies, is our chance to experience the Real World</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Five: <b>Real Learning = Trying out and Noticing Differences; Brain Plasticity at almost any moment</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Six: <b>Nature is a path to God that is far more available than we usually realize</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Seven: <b>“The Energy” / Flow/ The Glory of God… this is Life at it’s Core, waiting for us</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Eight: <b>Twice a Day: Gratitude, Touch/Kiss/ Sex , Meditate… you deserve it</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Nine: Happy, Healthy Good Food: Paleo, Raw, Joy and Health</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ten: <b>Save the World</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Five: Waking up via Learning: </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Real Learning = Trying out and Noticing Differences; </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>My lucky pathway: Gurdjieff work and the Feldenkrais Method®</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Brain Plasticity at almost any moment</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try this: interlace your fingers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do it slowly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then fast.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then fast several times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice that you’ll always put the same set of fingers on top, the same thumb on top, same index finger, all the way down to the same pinkie on top. It’s either a right over left thing, or a left over right.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This may seem like a right / left hand thing, but it isn’t. I’ve met enough people of both the left and right hand persuasions who did it one way or the other to realize: somewhere along the line we pick a grove, and we just stick with it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is one function of the brain: to find a habit, and keep it up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Whatever grove you’ve created in your brain with this movement has become so well worn, that it takes some doing/ thinking/ awareness/ slowing down to create the opposite and non-habitual interlocking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This seems like perhaps a “waste” of our time, except that it’s such a simple way to physically and directly realize an obvious truth: if we want to get out of SOS (same old stuff; same old sh..), it might take some awareness and slowly down and actual discovery mentality to find a new path.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, let’s try with the hand interlacing thing….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Change Your Life by Changing your Movement Game #1</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Interlace your fingers the habitual way.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look at and feel how this is.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, take your hands apart and come together SLOWLY, and</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Interlace your fingers the non-habitual way. If the left thumb and forefinger are usually on top, do the right set.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If the right thumb and forefinger are usually on top, do the left set.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>When you have your hands in the non-habitual mode, wiggle them around together and feel how “odd” and “unusual” this feels.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Even though this feels “off,” your brain is learning by noticing the difference of this “off.” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Off” = different = new = strange.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>= Learning.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Ha ha ha.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Real learning doesn’t need you to be able to describe this difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Most physical learning is deeper and more subtle than words can ever express.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s play a game that helps make this more clear and more fun, and then I’ll share with you my good fortune at having learned the Feldenkrais Method®, from which this clarity about “learning to learn” derived.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s the game:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning to Learn by noticing differences (in movement ) game #2: Skip newly</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>First, experience the habitual: skip in the usual way, right/right and then left/ left.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do that for awhile.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile while you do it, because most likely you haven’t skipped for awhile.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, create </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>New pattern #1: Skip twice on your right foot and three times on your left.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then go back to “normal.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then back to twice right/ three times left.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>New pattern #2: Skip twice left and three times right.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Back to normal.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Back to the twice left/ three right.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>New Pattern #3: Skip three times each side</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Back to normal</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Back to three times each side</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>New pattern #4: Skip 4 left and 3 right</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Back to normal</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, 4 right and 3 left</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And you can now play with just about any pattern that comes to you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how each “wakes you up”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how fun this is.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">BEYOND NOTICING. REALIZE. THIS IS REAL LEARNING.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And realize this<b>: you now have many neurological pathways you didn’t have before you started this game.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Smile and sense your whole body and your emotional and spiritual being as well.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What difference do you notice?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what does this tell us about being human?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what does this tell us about life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we need to change to change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s what all these games are about.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, let’s go back to the baby stage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They have no crawling or walking or talking program.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s all learned.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Trying out things.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ba ba ba ma ma ma</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right hand pushes. Left hand pushes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hands touch face, hands touch feet.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rolling to belly, rolling back to the back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a simple game, and a huge game and many will be reluctant because you have to get off your chair, but so be it….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Moving in new ways to explore our brain / body/ movement game #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lay on the floor on your back.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Roll to your belly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Roll back.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do this slower and notice what you can notice about how you do this.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, with awareness, try these three ways:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Rolling from back to belly leading with your head and eyes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: Rolling from back to belly and back again leading with your ribs and shoulders.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three: Rolling from back to belly and back again leading with your pelvis and legs.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>They all work.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>They are all very different.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do this a couple of times a day and guess what else will improve?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yep.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Movement is huge to the human brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning new and more interesting movement is a way to improve skills like golf and musicianship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s also a way to move toward a younger brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is all part of the genius of what Moshe Feldenkrais created for the world, in his life from 1904 to 1984.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So. What is the Feldenkrais Method®?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When I was about 55, I was in “pretty good” shape for my age. I had not lived a sedentary life. I’d been inspirited to get involved in daily action of carpentry and garden design and garden creating (no maintenance of other people’s gardens, thanks) as part of the Gurdjieff work. This I’ll talk about more in the advanced chapter on awareness in the present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now just let me say that this “work” had given me the enthusiasm and the incentive to shift from a mainly intellectual worker to a physical one: carpentry and landscape/ garden creation. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’d loved this, loved solving real problems, loved being outside most of the day, loved working with a more full me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And aches and pains had come along with this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I remember being up on a ladder, cutting a hole in a house to put in this very fun round window, when my back went out. Before I’d heard about this, but really didn’t believe in it. Now, I could barely move.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hmm. This is a real problem.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But I’d had a suspicion of a real solution ready at hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Since this was taking place in the Bay Area, and my always having an amazing set of luck in finding the most amazing pathways to healing and awakening, I’d come across, years before, the Feldenkrais Method®, a method of slow movement that re-taught the body how to move and by discovering new and easier and more fun and less stuck pathways, almost always helped with neck, back or shoulder pain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So I skidadled down to a local class and within about four hour long “floor lessons” in a group, the slow movement and variation being such that it help back issues and neck issues and knees issues and a host of others, and my back pain was gone. This was in my early forties and I’m back to work, going slower and more clear on the hip foot shoulder back connection, and feeling better than ever.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So for years after that I’d been telling anyone with a neck, back or shoulder (or hip, or knee, almost any body issue) to “go see a Feldenkrais person.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then…….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At fifty five my girlfriend at the time, the above mentioned yoga teacher Celeste, was handed a postcard a friend of hers had received about a weekend workshop in the Feldenkrais Method®. (The luck thing: a card, second hand).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We went.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was expecting some nice body relaxation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I came home feeling as if I was twelve years old.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The workshop had been a “teaser” for a four year training.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What better could I do at that stage of my life? Sign me up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This work was far more fun and profound than I could ever have imagined. Over and over we started movements that seemed more or less impossible (bringing your foot to your face while sitting on the floor), and then slowly, not by effort, but by variation and slowing down and resting between and using awareness and learning instead of effort, again and again, we all of us, no matter what level, made huge and fun progress. (The foot to the face one is in the amazing and not so easy book by Moshe Feldenkrais called Awareness Through Movement. At the end of about a half hour of slow and varied movements, one foot comes to your face or far far nearer. Then: you IMAGINE all these movements on the other side for about ten minutes. What happens? Foot over there comes far far nearer your face. The learning ability of our body/ brain is enormous. )</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The Feldenkrais® training was four years. Not full time. Four years of eight weeks worth a year. Three weeks in the winter. Five in the summer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then I was a practitioner of one of the most amazing transformative tools on the planet. As Moshe said: “I don’t teach, and you learn.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What is learning?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing differences that make a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And who was Moshe Feldenkrais?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">An amazing man, who’d started out determined to discover life on his/ its own terms. Sick of rigid Jewish life in Poland, he’d walked to Palestine when he was fourteen, in 1918. At first alone and then more and more joined.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">He made a life there as a day laborer, going to night school, and quickly discovering his ability to tutor others in any subject.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But this was Jews vs Arabs, and the British liked to stir up the conflict.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Arabs, as part of their traditional dress, included knives in their attire. Jews didn’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This made the street conflicts rough for the Jews.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Moshe witnessed himself and his friends getting their asses kicked when they tried the level of jujitsu they had taught themselves.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">He invented a move to take advantage of the natural startle hands to the face reaction when a knife is coming toward your head. Turned this reaction into a judo-like move to disarm and better the knife welder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Included this in a book, written in Hebrew for self-defense.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Had to leave Palestine because the British weren’t fond of such books.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Went to the Sorbonne in Paris, toward a PhD in science and physics.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Met the founder of judo in Paris, showed him the book, got set up at the first European teacher of judo.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So here is Moshe, smart and studying physics with Madam Cure among others.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Physically brilliant as a judo teacher.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… he wrecks his knees being an over vigorous soccer player.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Goes to a doc.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who says, “We can operate, but there’s a fifty-fifty chance of you being crippled.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Moshe: “I’m a scientist. I can flip a coin for fifty-fifty.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">He lays down on the floor and re-discovers how someone with almost worthless knees could function well in the physical world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Discovered in his re-discoveries : ribs, toes, spine, neck, breathing, learning how to learn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On and on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">His discoveries cure him, and become obvious as highly valuable to musicians and injured folk and special needs children and anyone with brain injury, and anyone high level who wants to go to higher.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">(The Feldenkrais site: <a href="http://feldenkrais.com/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">http://Feldenkrais.com</span></a>. The site of an advanced student of his, with whom I studied another four years, <a href="http://anatbanielmethod.com/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">http://AnatBanielMethod.com</span></a>)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Our website, Carol and mine: <a href="http://becomemoreamazing.com/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">http://BecomeMoreAmazing.com</span></a> . This Feldenkrais® work is one way. Our coaching is another. Getting present to the enlightened moment of now, is another. Sex every day is another. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In fact: every pathways of this book: your ticket to become more amazing.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In his seventies, Moshe had worthless knees, the kneecaps of which could rotate almost directly to the side. And, with careful awareness he could not only walk and dance and teach, but throw far younger men in judo. Oh, well. That’s Moshe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">His gift to us all: understanding what real learning is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Create little differences.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go about them with less speed and less force and vastly more awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Increase awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Increase function.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Re-learn how to learn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If this is getting to sound theoretical: go skip again in new patterns.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Roll over noticing how different it is when you lead with your hips/ pelvis and legs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Smile.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Three: Super-Power Liberation & Happiness Pathway #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touch</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve already started touch. You held hands while saying awarenesses aloud. You did notice a difference, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Awareness is wonderful, “Now I am aware….” Fill it in, now, this now, it’s always a new now, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And notice: where did you pick to be present?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, find your partner, or a friend, and hold hands (or imagine) hold hands, and share “Now I am aware…”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What is the difference?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is life: awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning as noticing difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Alert life: we get to make a choice.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And one choice that is often ignored, and then thrown into the sex pot to make up for the neglect of the rest of our life:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We need touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We starve without touch. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are mammals.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you don’t have a partner, try to hug two or three people a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you can’t hug two or three people a day, hug a tree or two. Shake hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hug yourself. Go into a room, and feel a vibration of connectedness and imagine hugging everyone, from a feeling of abundance. Humans deserve touch. Imagine hugging from giving yourself and another person what the real mammal in you and the real mammal in them deserves.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And saving the world?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are homeless. There is climate collapse. There is racism and sexism. There is gun violence.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This can’t be ignored. And still, as we help to heal these “problems” we are mammals. We are in a present. There are other mammal/ people around us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And all around us are people who could thrive with hugs and being present. <b>Are you starting to feel and realize that life is a big story, a big challenge?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And with every kindness that calls for a partner, there is always a way to start on our own. We can use touch as a “wake up” call with one hand to another.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You don’t have to wait to be present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You don’t have to wait for kind and awakened touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hand to hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is available to us. Almost everywhere we are, if we aren’t using our hands for driving say. Even at the computer, a little short “break” from the ongoing rush, especially if we stand up and do this, can be of immense benefit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do what?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rub/ caress/ explore/ massage/ touch one of our hands with the other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can sneak in a small dose while sitting at a boring meeting, or while walking to our car.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And if you give yourselves three minutes, right now, that will be what this book is for: a chance to transform your life. By small and real actions that we call “games.” Let’s play….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touching Hands Game #1: One hand touches/ caresses/ explores the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set a timer. Three minutes. (Seems “long.” And, do you deserve three minutes of self-kindness?)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use your non-dominant hand as the “giving hand.” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use your dominant hand as the “receiving hand.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(E.g., if you are right handed, the left hand will caress/ touch/ explore the right hand. If left handed, your right hand will caress/ touch/ explore your left hand.)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>For three minutes, go slowly, and explore one hand with the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As you caress/ touch/ explore one hand with the other, be present at three levels as we learned in day two:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Bottom Level: Sense your pelvis feet and gravity.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mid- level: Feel your breathing, ribs and of course, both hands and sets of fingers</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Top- layer: Notice what you are hearing and seeing and how the air is coming in and out of your nose.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is to treat touch as sacred.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF SACRED AND MINDFUL SEX.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go for three minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you feel / “think” ( as the words in our heads that passes as thinking, but isn’t) you are wasting time, notice that. And come back to the present of being present to one hand with the other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>When it’s over, notice the difference in the two hands.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>With a few notes, perhaps, right here…</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>PS: What is the receiving hand grateful for? What is the giving hand grateful for? You might add that to your gratitude journal.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i>If you have a partner doing this with their hands at the same time, share your awarenesses.</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><i></i></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is simple.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Except…. notice your resistance: do I have three minutes to be nice to myself?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you feel silly, to be being kind and loving to yourself?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice the gratitude of the hand receiving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice the gratitude and learning of the hand giving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be alert: how well do you think this would help your connection to your partner?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you don’t have a partner, notice how this might help you connect to a partner when you do have one. ( If you want that. )</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… if you do have a partner, this is a wonderful beginner’s step to having sex every day: You rub/ caress/ explore their hand for three minutes. They do the same for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Touching your Partner’s Hand, for three minutes:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The beginnings of Mindful and Fabulous Sex</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the greatest shortfalls in normal, and often boring, and frequently avoided, sex, is that it almost entirely genital and is all supposed to be wham bam full speed almost instantly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Very little, if any, time is devoted to letting one partner be the recipient, the receiver, the you-are-being-loved one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is tragic. Non-reciprocal sex is hugely important.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Huh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Non-reciprocal sex is hugely important.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How do I know that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have sex once or more a day, and one fuel that keeps that happening is a mindful sex practice that we allow / commit ourselves to almost every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Where did I learn this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I had the immense good and bad fortune to be in a very messy group, training in Female Orgasm, that claimed to be trying for mindful sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It failed, but at least it tried.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And it had a seemingly bizarre and very powerfully wonderful practice: the man ( or one partner in a lesbian couple) would stroke, very VERY slowly and gently the clitoris of the receiving partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The “stroker” kept all their clothes on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The “receiver” took off her panties.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The “meditation” — since the goal was to be present without a goal of climax and without the “warming up” for sex after— was by a timer, 2 minute leg rub, 13 minute clitoris stroking, 2 minute calm down.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">After, you shared one moment’s awareness of sensation. You got up. You got dressed. You didn’t have sex. This didn’t take place on a bed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You and your various partners in this training, usually never had “sex” sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was a very interesting way to connect with people. Especially for someone in his late sixties. Later, this will be in our book as an unusual, but extremely beneficial game that will be a subset of the “super-power liberation and happiness” pathway of SEX EVERY DAY. But not for awhile. Let’s start very very simply. Hand caress/ touch/ massage. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Instead of the clitoris receiving, one hand receives. A big difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then again, not: the hand has not as many pleasure receptors, but it does have a huge number of wirings in our brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, to “just” receive is something we are usually extremely limited in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a way of pleasure and relaxation and telling our partner’s brains and inner being: you are important. You matter. I have time and willingness to be present to you in a very real and non-bullshit way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is good. Let’ do it…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Two: Partners Take 2 minute turns touching/ caressing/ exploring one of the other person’s hands.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>That’s it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The giver uses two hands.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be curious and exploratory.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense your body in all three levels as you give.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Listen to what you feel as you give.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Receiver: listen not just to what you are receiving in your hand, but to what is happening at all three levels of your body.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>After the two minutes take a bit of a break with several deep deep breaths. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then go the other way, before talking.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then another break.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And then share, how was this as a giver. How was this to be the receiver.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a crucial deal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say what your body and soul wants to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say what your “I’m too busy” robot will hate to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to say something the stuck in your rut you will love and hate to hear: do this every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The brain: one use, to stay stuck in our patterns.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The brain, best use: discover what happens new and now when you do, try, open to, explore, something new.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Make it the second most important daily exercise.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The first most important DAILY exercise: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you are alone, write gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you have a partner, hold hands and share gratitudes. And write them, too.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What’s the crucial deal?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People will think, feel and act as if the six minutes this hand to hand caress/ explore/ massage and then share is “too much.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They will be too busy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: no time for love making.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: you don’t really like each other that much. (Well, it’s usually more than that: you are afraid to like/ love/ adore/ hunger for each other again)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which means: you are depriving yourself of the joy of living with another person. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(Why do we live together?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, for those in a relationship who want it fabulous or more fabulous, say gratitudes as you hold hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then rub your partner’s hand. And they rub yours.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That may take all of ten minutes. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice the difference that ten minutes makes in your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you live alone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write in your gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rub your own hand.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Take a walk and say aloud awareness in the three levels.</span></div>
chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-77063749789747695652018-03-17T12:40:00.000-07:002018-03-17T12:40:00.188-07:00Don't Believe your own ThinkingThe new blog is a sub set of BecomeMoreAmazing.com<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day Three: Super Power Liberation Pathway Number Three:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love, Lust and Liberation by….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here is some sad but true news: we are all crazy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, wait a minute: this is liberating and happy news: we are all crazy. Huh? Read on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Look at this craziness: We say we love someone, and then we obsess in our thoughts about how THEY are the cause of our unhappiness and how THEY should change. ( I love you just the way you are. Now, change.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or how about this, as even more dead ahead crazy: WE WANT THE PAST TO HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have you ever heard a more sure losing bet? Our whining has the power the rewind and rewrite the past we so often think, or “think” it should be called, in those moments when we are crazy, and believe our thinking and make ourselves unhappy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is either sad or funny: how much of human emotional suffering comes from demanding in our own idiotic way this impossibility: that the past have been different.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s jump and leave those crazinesses behind in two ways. Big surprise from what we’ve done so far: in one game we’ll jump into gratitude, and in the other game we’ll jump into the present of the present. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Own Thinking Game #1: Jump to Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Find some crappy thoughts you are having about “someone”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand on some spot that you’ll call and feel as the “blame spot.” Once there, think more consciously the blame thoughts you are already thinking about the other person. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Allow your body to crunch in.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Deliberately go over and over the thoughts.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice the crappy feelings that accompany the thoughts.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now: the transition set-up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, stand up straighter, and look out at the world (get out of your head) and take a deep breath.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, the shift:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now JUMP, really, Jump to another spot, and in that spot take another deep breath. Lengthen and play with your arms a little. Look around and see some things you like. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And..say aloud six gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three about life in general.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three about this so-called “bad” person who did whatever to push your buttons.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE: Now, slink back to the original blame spot, and feel the pain of that. Go into believing the blame thoughts again. Notice the difference. Learn.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE: And jump again to the gratitude spot. Again, three gratitudes aloud for life in general and three appreciations/ gratitudes about the other person.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And feel the differences, which is to say: learn. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And from each gratitude spot, look back at the blame spot and see how diminished and sad it appears.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve already experienced the power of gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we’ve made it explicit that learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here we are jumping to two different spots, to have a gratitude based outlook on reality.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And experiencing the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… we can always slink back, temporarily, to the grumpy/ blame spot. Knowing that we have two alternatives, at least is an immense relief. Right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For the next game, we’ll jump again, and this time we will once more jump back and forth and compare the two choices. This time we’ll jump from the impossible belief: the past should have been different, to the miracle space: we are alive right now, what is our three layered awareness right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Freedom from Crazy Thinking Game #2: The Past “Should” have been different vs. Jump to the Now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand in a sad spot, and take some belief in your head about some past situation that “should” have been different.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Grunt and groan and see if you have the power to change the past.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Crunch down and feel weak and notice how whining inside doesn’t move the past a bit.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE. Jump.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>To a new spot. Breathe deeply. And feel the breathing in your middle layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Wiggle your toes and feel you bottom layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile and feel the smile and look at the world with your eyes and hear it with your ears.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now systematically, say a “Now I am aware…”, twice, of the bottom layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, “now I am aware…,” twice, of the middle layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Finally, “Now I am aware…,” twice of the top layer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Delight in being present.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE. Then, slink back to the “Past should have been different” belief pattern.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See, once more, how crappy and powerless this feels.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice the difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Realize that this is a choice.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE. Make the other choice.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Jump to the Present of the Present Spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Again, work your delighted awareness through the three layers:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Bottom: toes, ankles, feet, legs, knees, hips, pelvis, balance, movement, toes</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Middle: ribs, breath, belly, spine, arms, hands, fingers</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Top: neck, skull, face, smell, sight, sound, smile, hair.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel the fullness of life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>From this fullness look back at the false belief (otherwise known as a LIE) that the past should have been different.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stay in the present of the present spot and realize, with humor the silliness of the other spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then, go find your partner and hold hands and take a walk.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, go take a walk on your own.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Delight in gratitude and the present. YOU MIGHT EVEN SHARE PRESENT AWARENESS AND GRATITUDE WITH THEM AS YOU WALK.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">HMMM.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s enough for day three.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As daily activities, saying gratitudes while holding hands: a pretty great idea.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Saying present awareness in three layers while holding hands a pretty great idea.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Taking a jump to gratitude or the present whenever you are unhappy and want to EXPERIENCE THE DIFFERENCE of an unhappiness free life ( otherwise known as happy): a pretty good idea, don’t you think?</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude as Foundation</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On June 20, 2015, I walked half a block down my street in Austin, Texas, to meet a woman I knew and admired and liked, but with whom I thought I had no “romantic” expectations. I had met her a mere three months before, in March. She had moved to Austin in February. Now in June it was a gentle summer’s day, and we were going to meet for a lunch and “study” session. I was writing a book on radical listening. She was smart and kind and I wanted her input. Her name was Carol Williams then.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s Carol Elms now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We thought we were meeting for an hour and a half. For lunch and a bit of her help on a book I was writing, the precursor to this one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twelve hours later, at one am, as I pried myself out the door, to walk the half block back to my home, we both were almost certain we’d met the future lifetime partner that had a day before seemed “almost impossible” to find. I’d written an “almost impossible goal” to find a fabulous woman within walking distance. And an “almost impossible goal” to find a lifetime partner at 70 years old. I hadn’t realized till that night that Carol was to be the answer to that request.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And even with goals and prayers, without our both being immersed in gratitude I don’t think this “miracle” would have happened. Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We all thrive in gratitude…</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On that night, and since then, the practice of gratitude was a deeply embedded part of both our lives. Then, as now, I was writing in a “gratitude journal” at least twice, often three or four or five times, a day. Carol, on that miracle day, had a steady background prayer life, of which gratitude and thanks was a significant part. Now she has a gratitude journal, too. Will you soon get a gratitude journal? Only if you want transformation as deeply and easily as possible.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t believe me, or anyone. Test drive gratitude right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mini-game: Think of 3 things you are grateful for. Does something shift?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How does this work?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Power of Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude focuses our hearts and minds on what we like and love in life, what is going well in our life, what we are thankful for and want more of. Instead of wasting time and mental energy on worry or complaining, gratitude allows us to look at life from a peaceful and open heart. With an eager heart alert to what has gone well in the past, we are primed to be looking forward to more “good stuff” unfolding each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude has us focused on what we want more of in life, not what we want less.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Modern research has shown what ancient wisdom has long suspected: the brain (and person) can be in either fear or gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were tuned in to what we appreciated about our lives. This made it far easier to tune into what we could appreciate in the other person. And then, twelve hours after I’d walked in the door, we dragged ourselves apart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The next day we went to an amazing Austin church together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Soon we were engaged.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the deeper “Yes” came on March 5, 2016, the day of our marriage. Our ninth wedding vow (all of which we recite to each other every morning) is: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We are joyfully creating a long and happy and healthy and enlightened Love, Friendship and Marriage that is getting better and better and better every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day. Better and better and better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That usually happens. (Remember “impossible goals?”)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Disclaimer: sometimes it doesn’t. And we get a chance to be grateful to learn, once more, after once more, after once more, one of the keys to developing the Love part of Love, Lust and Enlightenment: When it’s not working, do something else.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which is actually a key part of business or health or spiritual success.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And humor, too, is key to love, so on days when the better and better and better isn’t working, this phrase can sometimes save our asses (pun intended with phrase coming up): </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">‘I’M AN ASS; YOU’RE AN ASS; SO BE IT, LET’S MOVE FORARD WITH SELF LAUGHTER AND LOVE” </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, then, the days that it’s better and better and better, and we…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We touch a lot. Kiss a lot. Have delicious and mindful sex a lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better at converting growls into laughs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better and transforming complaints into ease and self realization and “we goals.” <b>Delicious laughter. </b>(Sometimes. See above.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And making love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Delicious lovemaking.</b> More than the fervor of “first two months” sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The best of our lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Once a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She is now 68 to my 72. Neither of us have ever had a third as much sex as we are having now. For her before it was several times a month, at best. For me, twice a week.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now: zowie. As if we were in our twenties. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We didn’t expect this much bliss, but we sure aren’t complaining.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… if we can do it, you can.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If we can find a great love, so can you, if you are looking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If we can have the best sex of our lives, so can you, if you are willing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If we can keep learning (and learning and learning) how to transform good old fashioned “buttons being pushed” to love and ease and forgiveness, so can you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book has twenty days worth of “games.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want to change, you’ll need to enjoy new actions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All these games are actions you can test out and see what happens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is about transformation, which can be a bullshit word.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is not, though I have yet to ask a teacher of all sort for a definition of “learning” and gotten one this simple and to the point:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Leaning is noticing a difference that makes a difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In every game in this book, you will be noticing a difference between before playing the game and after playing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s up to you to play, more and more and more, if you want a better and better and better life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you want a better and better life, a fabulous sex life, a deepening love life, a radical increase in your ability to be present. If so, this book is the place for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can stay the same, or we can change. Before any more overview let’s play the first two “games” and start the transformation/ learning process.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning is something that has been discovered (brain plasticity) to be available all our lives, and when it happens, real shifts happen in your brain. Tens of thousands, or far more, neurological pathways are laid down.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s start re-wiring in a fun and beneficial and easy way. We’ll start with gratitude. Gratitude and Love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One: </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>My notes on the differences I noticed….</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you do this with a partner, take turns saying the five things to each other, followed by a brief sharing of what difference saying aloud fine gratitudes made.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Really, do it now. This is not a book to “just read” and imagine “doing it” later. This is not a book of “good ideas” for you to give your “screwed up” friends. This is a transformation manual for those who want even more amazing life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As I’ve said above, you can be grateful or you can be in fear. Can you feel a shift in you when you say gratitudes aloud? Let’s try an even more sure fire way of shifting our energy to being a happier and more loving person. Standing. Letting ourselves feel our more full bodies.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s try:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If there is a window available that has a view of Nature, please go there.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or, if your life is such that walking out into Outside, to see nature, or going out to actually , Stand in Nature, so much the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your body standing up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud, five gratitudes. The same ones. New ones. If you can be watching Nature at the same time all the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice any difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by saying five gratitudes aloud.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>My notes on the differences I noticed….</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As, before, if you do this with a mate, take turns. Go outside together if you can. Share the aloud gratitudes and share a bit on what difference that made.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When you do this it’s such a nice excuse to be upright. It’s a nice excuse to return to our hearts. It’s a nice excuse to realize this: life can be pretty wonderful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, to begin something that I hope you institute as a new and ongoing part of your life: Writing gratitudes, daily, in a journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Day One:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #3: Write five Gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get a journal, label it your “Gratitude Journal” and write down five things you are grateful for.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your breathing coming in and out. Sense your hand and arm moving. Listen in the present to the sound of the pen moving across the paper.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your handwriting as part of YOU pouring out your appreciation for life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you don’t have a journal, YET, grab any piece of paper and write five gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you feel now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you are alone, jot down here a few reminder sentences on what shifted by writing down five gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>My notes on the differences I noticed….</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As, before, if you do this with a mate, take turns. Write the gratitude at the same time. Then, share aloud the difference that seemed to make.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now you are launched.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are two more games for Day One, and you needn’t worry, if you “get behind.” As long as you are doing games each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND… I want you touching on day one. At least touching one hand with another, and, if you have a partner, touching one of their hands with two of yours.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Change requires change, and the games are to get you into the game, so to speak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>a Delightful, Juicy, and Present Life</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Saving the World” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Nine “Liberation Pathways”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Nine Weeks</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Chris Elms</b></span><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"><b>, M.A.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none; text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://becomemoreamazing.com/"><b>LoveLustEnlightenment.com</b></a></span><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b> </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b> Copyright—— 2018</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do you want an Awakened Relationship?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People find another person, and things are great, or pretty good. Then things come into some sort of drifting status quo. Sex stays pretty good, and friendship disappears. Or friendship gets comfortable and sex disappears. Very few couples live in the thrill of enlightenment as a simple way of being in which you are happy almost all the time, and are present almost all the time, and have a commitment to the Big Picture, to “Saving the Earth.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the earth needs saving, just look at all the poverty and war and racism and ecological destruction and vast income inequity and sexism: tis a mess. And loneliness. And meaninglessness. And deep harrowing struggles for so many. Yes, the Earth needs saving, but without the anguish that usually goes along with this. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>My goal is 10,000 Awakened Couples, who are happily engaged in Love, and Lust and Enlightenment. And “Saving the Earth.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To make it simple, here’s the base line of Awakened Relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love: Ease and fun and communication every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love: Ready ways to forgiveness and humor when buttons get pushed, or the shit hits the fan.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust: Sex, both reciprocal and non-reciprocal every day. Mindful sex.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment: Happy and in the present almost full time.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment: Committed to the Big Picture and happily, mindfully “Saving the Earth.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This books is for anyone, in a couple or wanting to be, who wants all five aspects to Awakened Love. You might be in a boring or okay relationship. You might be in a troubled one. You might be alone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want this wonderful Awakened Relationship world, this book is for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are nine weeks worth of focusing on pathways of liberation. There will be “games” for you to play almost immediately. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You can play one right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Wake Up Game:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a breath down to your belly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense your pelvis’ connection to the chair. If you are standing, sense your feet and the ground or the floor. If sitting sense one or both feet against the floor or ground. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Breathe again, a little deeper. Smile a little bigger.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel yourself ali</b>ve.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What difference did that make? You don’t need to know this in words, and can you feel the difference? Noticing differences is what real learning is about, real learning that is not rote, but that actually changes the neural pathways. This book is about rewiring your brain and heart and life. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>GRATITUDE and an OVERVIEW</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On June 20, 2015, I walked half a block down my street in Austin, Texas, to meet a woman I knew and admired and liked, but with whom I thought I had no “romantic” expectations. I had met her a mere three months before, in March. She had moved to Austin in February. Now in June it was a gentle summer’s day, and we were going to meet for a lunch and “study” session. I was writing a book on radical listening. She was smart and kind and I wanted her input. Her name was Carol Williams then.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s Carol Elms now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We thought we were meeting for an hour and a half. For lunch and a bit of her help on a book I was writing, the precursor to this one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twelve hours later, at one am, as I pried myself out the door, to walk the half block back to my home, we both were almost certain we’d met the future lifetime partner that had a day before seemed “almost impossible” to find. I’d written an “impossible goal” to find a fabulous woman within walking distance. I hadn’t realized till that night that Carol was to be the answer to that request.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Goals are important, crucial, yes. Carol had been praying for a life time partner. But goals written or prayed from a heart of grumpiness and fear are more like whining. Goals from the fertile fields of gratitude are more like singing as you plant a fertile field.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is for those who want a fabulous relationship at the center of a fabulous, awakened, sexy life. A life that is making a huge difference in the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is this you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If yes, read on…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We all thrive in gratitude…</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On that night, and since then, the practice of gratitude was a deeply embedded part of both our lives. Then, as now, I was writing in a “gratitude journal” at least twice, often three or four or five times, a day. Carol, on that miracle day, had a steady background prayer life, of which gratitude and thanks was a significant part. Now she has a gratitude journal, too. By the middle of week one, (or sooner) so will you. If you want a fabulous life. (Oh, darn: basic law: if you want to change, you have to change).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, of course, Carol and I keep being grateful that our gratitude helped paved the way for our miracle. And every day we are grateful for the fun and sexual delight and waking into the present moment that is our new life. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What are you grateful for? Think of three things. Does something shift?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Power of Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude focuses our hearts and minds on what we like and love in life, what is going well in our life, what we are thankful for and want more of. Instead of wasting time and mental energy on worry or complaining, gratitude allows us to look at life from a peaceful and open heart. With an eager heart alert to what has gone well in the past, we are primed to be looking forward to more “good stuff” unfolding each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude has us focused on what we want more of in life, not what we want less.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Modern research has shown what ancient wisdom has long suspected: the brain (and person) can be in either fear or gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were tuned in to what we appreciated about our lives. This made it far easier to tune into what we could appreciate in the other person. We played a communication game that I will give you soon as part of chapter two, the Being Present chapter. In this game, you take turns talking a specific amount to a timer (3, 4, 5 minutes). In this time, no interrupting is permitted. We took five minutes each. We had the goal of being present in both talking and listening.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This game will change your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For us, in gratitude and in the presence of talking and listening without interruption, this “game” allowed one hour to expand into two, into three, into four for us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And as we listened, since our lives were coming from gratitude, and being present, we could discover who we were with. It wasn’t about explaining ourselves. It was about mutually discovering each other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Way too many “dates” are like job interviews, where the people push their “qualities” back and forth, as if resumes. Instead, if they were present and curious, they could be delighting in finding out about a new human being on this planet earth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On our “non-date” Carol and I kept discovering and discovering and discovering. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Vulnerable, out to dinner, Bible verses, what’s happening?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then it was time for “have you ever watched the Brene Brown TED talk on vulnerability?” “No.” And watching it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Say something vulnerable.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“You are starting to look a lot like the level of person I never thought I could find.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">More of that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Walking to dinner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Holding hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back to watch the TED talk again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I asked her favorite verses from the Bible, since it had become clear in our talking that in quite different ways (deep Christianity for her, a mythical Buddhism meets Christianity for me) we were both intensely committed to a spiritual path.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of hers was “Be Still and Know I am God.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To me this meant: Bingo. That’s what meditation is about. I’ve found someone with whom I can meditate. (We now have sex usually twice a day. We now meditate usually twice a day. Going deep in two ways. Yum).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of mine was Philippians 4:4: “Be happy (rejoice) in everything. Be anxious in nothing. Lift up your thanks and then your petitions.” (Give your gratitudes, and then your requests/ goals… Always be in a state of equanimity).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There was more talk.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I told her, to her shock, I was going to a wonderful Austin church the next day, with music that sometimes bordered on Broadway musical and sermons that were about real Christian themes, not the narrow minded stuff of many modern churches. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We kissed a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We held ourselves back. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I pried myself away and got out the door at one, am.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were both pretty sure we’d found the “impossible” mate/ lifetime partner that we’d suspected might not be out there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And yet, here we were, half a block apart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I showed up the next morning, at eight with my way cool Restored New Testament (Willis Barnstone, check it out) in hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve been together since.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That was June 21, 2015, our day of “Yes.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then the deeper “Yes” came on March 5, 2016, the day of our marriage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We had and have nine wedding vows, all of which we recite together each morning. The ninth is: <b>We are joyfully creating a long and happy and healthy and enlightened Love, Friendship and Marriage that is getting better and better and better every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day. Better and better and better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That usually happens. (Remember “impossible goals?”) </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We touch a lot. Kiss a lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better at converting growls into laughs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better and transforming complaints into ease and self realization and “we goals.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And making love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Delicious lovemaking. More than the fervor of “first two months” sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The best of our lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Once a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She is now 68 to my 72. Neither of us have ever had a third as much sex as we are having now. For her before it was several times a month, at best. For me, twice a week.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now: zowie. As if we were in our twenties. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We didn’t expect this much bliss, but we sure aren’t complaining.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><i>If this better sex, better friendship, better love, along with mindfulness and health and happiness and awakening to ways of joyfully “saving the world,” is what you want… read on.</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….<b>This isn’t a sex manual. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Though — and anticipation is one part of great sex, sometimes— we’ll have some deeply turned on and amazing “games” for you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sex is the dessert to an amazing life</b>. If you are alone and deserted now, many of the games in this book will help you find really great friends, friends with whom awakening and real communication can take place.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of those great friends might turn out to be the lover and spouse that you are looking for.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Along the way, you can be present and happy with yourself and with others. If so, you will be living a real life and pulling toward you real people. Without being present and happy (and having purpose) it’s all the random crap shoot of most “NORMAL” life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is for those who want far, far above the Random Crap ShooT of “NORMAL” life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is for those who want <b>Love, Lust and Enlightenment. </b>There are nine weeks worth of using a specific “Liberation Pathway” in Love, and in Lust and in Enlightenment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One: Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: Being Present</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three: Real Learning as Noticing Differences/ No Body = Nobody</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Four: Writing Goals from your Real self</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Five: Don’t believe your own thinking/ “I’m an ass, you’re an ass, so what?”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Six: Real Health, Real Food, Connect with Nature</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Seven: Connect with the “Energy”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Eight: Be Yourself, everything else is taken</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Nine: Be happily and mindfully engaged in “Saving the World”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And in each week, there will be games for each pathway combined with Love, combined with Lust, combined with Enlightenment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, let’s start week one, with Love and Gratitude, and Lust and Gratitude and Enlightenment and Gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let the fun, and learning, and transformation begin.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Week One: Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Really, do it now. This is not a book to “just read” and imagine “doing it” later. This is not a book of “good ideas” for you to give your “screwed up” friends. This is a transformation manual for those who want even more amazing life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As I’ve said above, you can be grateful or you can be in fear. Can you feel a shift in you when you say gratitudes aloud? Let’s try an even more sure fire way of shifting our energy to being a happier and more loving person. Standing. Letting ourselves feel our more full bodies.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s try:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice how you are feeling now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If there is a window available that has a view of Nature, please go there.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or, if your life is such that walking out into Outside, to see nature, or going out to actually , Stand in Nature, so much the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your body standing up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud, five gratitudes. The same ones. New ones. If you can be watching Nature at the same time all the better.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice any difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When you do this it’s such a nice excuse to be upright. It’s a nice excuse to return to our hearts. It’s a nice excuse to realize this: life can be pretty wonderful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, to begin something that I hope you institute as a new and ongoing part of your life: Writing gratitudes, daily, in a journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #3: Write five Gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get a journal, label it your “Gratitude Journal” and write down five things you are grateful for.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your breathing and your hand and arm moving.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your handwriting as part of YOU pouring out your appreciation for life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you don’t have a journal, YET, grab any piece of paper and write five gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every time I reread this sentence in a rewrite, or a read through, I actually do it. I wander off to the last place I left my gratitude journal (there is a chair it usually lives near, with a nice window full of light nearby and a happy houseplant close, too). I write five more gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, off I go, again, to write five more, right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you haven’t done it yet, right now, write now, write five gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It makes a difference, moving your hand across the page. Doing this in the old human way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It feels good, as movement.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It heal good, as heart restorative.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Having any problem? Write gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In a gratitude journal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which you can go back and read.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Any time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Gratitude, </b>Week One Gratitude and Transformation Games Continue</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How should you space out your games?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Should you do at least one every day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes to the second question.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You figure it out, to the first.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And let’s get our lust rising. Perhaps that’s not the best way to say it: let’s cultivate our natural human wish for touch and connection.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Everyone in the human game is a mammal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Mammals are warm blooded.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touch is paramount to a healthy life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then there is sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not everyone has a partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And everyone can find someone who needs a hug. They might not be willing to be hugged, but they can be asked: Would you like a hug? Could we hug? </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, the old fashioned way: open up your arms and see if they join you in a hug.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, the way of a lady who was enlightened without trying to be enlightened, and lost all her fear. Whenever she wanted a hug, no matter where she was, she’d go up to the nearest person and ask: Can I have a hug?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They always said yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now, let the game of hugging be something you look forward to increasing in your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now on to lust, as a pathway that can improve sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The following game doesn’t need a sexual partner, but it does require someone willing to be touched and willing to touch. If you have no one like this in your life, write a goal to find several such people. Keep an eye and an intuitive radar out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And here’s the game. It seems kind of light weight if you are hungering for better sex, right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And it might seem heavy weight if there is no one you are touching in a gentle way in your life. (Hint: many of us have nieces and nephews, with whom this might be an incredible game, for both parties.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And heave weight or light weight, here’s an important aspect of sex and connection that is radically missed: We need periods, preferably daily, of non-reciprocal sex. Which is to say, one simply receives, not having to “put out” anything for this delight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On the way to non-reciprocal sex, we’ll have non-reciprocal kissing, where each person lays down and the others kisses them for several minutes, while they just soak it in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On the way to non-reciprocal kissing, let’s play this game, where the gratitude is in the pure nourishing of being touched.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Taking turns rubbing/ caressing / exploring another hand</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Find a partner.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get an agreement to spend six minutes of touch and learning.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>First: two minutes of rubbing one hand of the partner.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One person uses both their hands to touch, to rub, to massage, to caress, to explore one of the other person’s hands.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>At the end of being touched, the person spends one minute sharing how the two hands, the touched and the un-touched hands, feel different. And sharing anything else about the experience.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then going the other way.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The receiver is now the giver/ massagers/ caresser/ explorer for two minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then that person who received shares for one minute: differences between touched and untouched hands, what the effect and feeling of the experience.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Again, if you are chomping at the bit for a hotter sex life, this may seem a diversion.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Until you do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You will quickly discover two things:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How great it is to receive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How great it is to give.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice that in this game the enlightenment part of life, as in Being Present, is deeply engaged.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, this shouldn’t have to be said, but if you talked at all, either while giving or getting, do it again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Non-verbal touch is non-verbal communication. This is vastly important to human well being. (Remember the hugs. Go get a couple today.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, gasp, that’s going to be your other lust and gratitude game this week:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To ask for or offer three hugs a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And connect them to gratitude. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like this:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Gratitude Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Ask for, or offer, 3 hugs a day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>After the hug, either express your gratitude to the other person.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or,</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go write your gratitude in your gratitude journal.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As, an advanced version of this, you could offer hugs as congratulations and/ or gratitude to others.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, even more advanced, though it might not seem like such at first, ask for hugging as an experiment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People are WAY too stuck in how everything has been in the past, stuck in their habits, deeply trapped in fear of the new.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Simply to begin to offer interaction in a new way as a learning possibility is to change your life and that of any partner willing to try a hug as an experimenting in “What happens when we hug?”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, you’ve got love and gratitude, as saying aloud gratitudes or saying aloud from standing, or writing gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ve got non-reciprocal hand touching.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ve got hugs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What more for week one?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Honoring the central miracle: You are alive. Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude and Enlightenment Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a deep breath.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your belly expand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your pelvis on something, or your feet on something.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look out a window.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice nature.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Realize: I am alive. Right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience the miracle of this.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile a bit. Feel grateful.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See how long you can hang out in experiencing the joyful miracle of being alive right now, and knowing you are alive right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude and Enlightenment Game #2</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand, and go to a window, or go outside.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Interlace your fingers and lengthen your arms and hands toward the sky.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Turn your palms upwards.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Breathe deeply into your belly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Shift your weight slightly from left to right foot to left to right. Slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice the difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile and look at some blue sky.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice the difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel and realize: this is me, alive, right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience the you-ness of you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience gratitude for the alive miracle of you, right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is something probably worth doing at least every other hour, if not every hour.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude and Enlightenment Game #3: Take a Walk.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And on this walk, experience your weight shifting right foot to left to right.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience your eyes seeing various aspects of the world.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience your breath coming in and out.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience yourself as alive and experiencing life, right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel the wonder of that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Good.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is you, alive, right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the miracle not experienced by so much of the world and the universe: the chairs and walls and books and computers and shoes and windows and floors around you, to say nothing of most of what exists in the vastness of space and the universe. All those asteroids and stars, bright and brilliant and whatnot, and do they delight in being alive? I don’t know, and I think not, especially in the way you can, right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now, you are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Always right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Miracle?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You tell me. You tell yourself. You tell the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You can have love without lust. Sex can be ho hum. Or almost dutiful. Or a hit and miss thing that has to be fueled by going to the movie, or a glass of wine.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Even then, it is usually almost dreamlike, a feeling a returning to an amazing, and forgotten world.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"Why don't we do this more often" the passionate couple think.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And then forget about it for another week.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And there are far worse, couples who are reluctant to have sex. The partner has gotten fat, or mean, or has slipped into tragic habits (drinking, watching TV, overeating). Which aren't really tragic, but they certainly do make a person boring, don't they?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This is why the word Enlightenment is part of the bigger way of approaching all this. Someone watching TV or drinking is more or less "killing time" with their life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Which happens when you or I or anyone falls into the automatic life of sleep and habit that the world gears and trains us for.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What does that have to do with love without lust?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">An awake person realizes that the body wants to touch. A person with love, realizes their body wants to get deliciously close to their partner.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">An awake person remembers the sweetness of sex and returns often, for delight, renewal and connection.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Simple version: love is better, much better with sex as an almost daily nourishment.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And going the other way: sex every day without love could keep people kind of young and perky, and from what I've seen, usually leads to a restless prowl into the messy worlds of polygamy. Not that this is a morally "bad" way to live.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And, this is messy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've never seen the theoretically wonderful world of sharing and non-jealousy actually happen.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And, if you want to be awake in the world, and stay healthy, and be of benefit to the "Saving the World" necessity, you don't really have time for all the anguished back and forth emotional "processing" (attacking and complaining and half-assed psychology, usually) that all Open Love situations seem to require.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And, what if, just what if, you had sex daily and didn't really love the person?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Seems to me, you'd grow to love the person.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And maybe not. If you were afraid to talk to them, or even more important, afraid to listen to them, love could stagnate.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, you'd be getting your dessert and no dinner.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sounds like starvation would come soon.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What do you think?</span>chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-28506282384588786232018-01-30T12:08:00.002-08:002018-01-30T12:08:20.011-08:00What is an Awakened Relationship//// first 10 pages<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People find another person, and things are great, or pretty good. Then things come into some sort of drifting status quo. Sex stays pretty good, and friendship disappears. Or friendship gets comfortable and sex disappears. Very few couples live in the thrill of enlightenment as a simple way of being in which you are happy almost all the time, and are present almost all the time, and have a commitment to the Big Picture, to “Saving the Earth.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the earth needs saving, just look at all the poverty and war and racism and ecological destruction and vast income inequity and sexism: tis a mess. And loneliness. And meaninglessness. And deep harrowing struggles for so many. Yes, the Earth needs saving, but without the anguish that usually goes along with this. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>My goal is 10,000 Awakened Couples, who are happily engaged in Love, and Lust and Enlightenment. And “Saving the Earth.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To make it simple, here’s the base line of Awakened Relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love: Ease and fun and communication every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love: Ready ways to forgiveness and humor when buttons get pushed, or the shit hits the fan.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust: Sex, both reciprocal and non-reciprocal every day. Mindful sex.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment: Happy and in the present almost full time.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment: Committed to the Big Picture and happily, mindfully “Saving the Earth.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This books is for anyone, in a couple or wanting to be, who wants all five aspects to Awakened Love. You might be in a boring or okay relationship. You might be in a troubled one. You might be alone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want this wonderful Awakened Relationship world, this book is for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are nine weeks worth of focusing on pathways of liberation. There will be “games” for you to play almost immediately. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You can play one right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Wake Up Game:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a breath down to your belly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense your pelvis’ connection to the chair. If you are standing, sense your feet and the ground or the floor. If sitting sense one or both feet against the floor or ground. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Breathe again, a little deeper. Smile a little bigger.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel yourself ali</b>ve.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The first three weeks will concentrate on three liberations pathways —Gratitude, Being Present, Writing Goals from the Real you—that helped a miracle take place in my life, and that of Carol. Who is Carol? Read on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Week One: GRATITUDE</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On June 20, 2015, I walked half a block down my street in Austin, Texas, to meet a woman I knew and admired and liked, but with whom I thought I had no “romantic” expectations. I had met her a mere three months before, in March. She had moved to Austin in February. Now in June it was a gentle summer’s day, and we were going to meet for a lunch and “study” session. I was writing a book on radical listening. She was smart and kind and I wanted her input. Her name was Carol Williams then.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s Carol Elms now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We thought we were meeting for an hour and a half. For lunch and a bit of her help on a book I was writing, the precursor to this one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twelve hours later, at one am, as I pried myself out the door, to walk the half block back to my home, we both were almost certain we’d met the future lifetime partner that had a day before seemed “almost impossible” to find. I’d written an “impossible goal” to find a fabulous woman within walking distance. I hadn’t realized till that night that Carol was to be the answer to that request.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Goals are important, crucial, yes. Carol had been praying for a life time partner. But goals written or prayed from a heart of grumpiness and fear are more like whining. Goals from the fertile fields of gratitude are more like singing as you plant a fertile field.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is for those who want a fabulous relationship at the center of a fabulous, awakened, sexy life. A life that is making a huge difference in the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is this you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If yes, read on…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We all thrive in gratitude…</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On that night, and since then, the practice of gratitude was a deeply embedded part of both our lives. Then, as now, I was writing in a “gratitude journal” at least twice, often three or four or five times, a day. Carol, on that miracle day, had a steady background prayer life, of which gratitude and thanks was a significant part. Now she has a gratitude journal, too. By the middle of week one, (or sooner) so will you. If you want a fabulous life. (Oh, darn: basic law: if you want to change, you have to change).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, of course, Carol and I keep being grateful that our gratitude helped paved the way for our miracle. And every day we are grateful for the fun and sexual delight and waking into the present moment that is our new life. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What are you grateful for? Think of three things. Does something shift?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Power of Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude focuses our hearts and minds on what we like and love in life, what is going well in our life, what we are thankful for and want more of. Instead of wasting time and mental energy on worry or complaining, gratitude allows us to look at life from a peaceful and open heart. With an eager heart alert to what has gone well in the past, we are primed to be looking forward to more “good stuff” unfolding each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude has us focused on what we want more of in life, not what we want less.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Modern research has shown what ancient wisdom has long suspected: the brain (and person) can be in either fear or gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were tuned in to what we appreciated about our lives. This made it far easier to tune into what we could appreciate in the other person. We played a communication game that I will give you soon as part of chapter two, the Being Present chapter. In this game, you take turns talking a specific amount to a timer (3, 4, 5 minutes). In this time, no interrupting is permitted. We took five minutes each. We had the goal of being present in both talking and listening.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This game will change your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For us, in gratitude and in the presence of talking and listening without interruption, this “game” allowed one hour to expand into two, into three, into four for us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And as we listened, since our lives were coming from gratitude, and being present, we could discover who we were with. It wasn’t about explaining ourselves. It was about mutually discovering each other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Way too many “dates” are like job interviews, where the people push their “qualities” back and forth. Instead, if they were present and curious, they could be delighting in finding out about a new human being on this planet earth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We keep discovering and discovering and discovering. Then it was time for “have you ever watched the Brene Brown TED talk on vulnerability?” “No.” And watching it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Say something vulnerable.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“You are starting to look a lot like the level of person I never thought I could find.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">More of that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Walking to dinner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Holding hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back to watch the TED talk again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I asked her favorite verses from the Bible, since it had become clear in our talking that in quite different ways (deep Christianity for her, a mythical Buddhism meets Christianity for me) we were both intensely committed to a spiritual path.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of hers was “Be Still and Know I am God.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To me this meant: Bingo. That’s what meditation is about. I’ve found someone with whom I can meditate. (We now have sex usually twice a day. We now meditate usually twice a day. Going deep in two ways. Yum).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of mine was Philippians 4:4: “Be happy (rejoice) in everything. Be anxious in nothing. Lift up your thanks and then your petitions.” (Give your gratitudes, and then your requests/ goals… Always be in a state of equanimity).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There was more talk.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I told her, to her shock, I was going to a wonderful Austin church the next day, with music that sometimes bordered on Broadway musical and sermons that were about real Christian themes, not the narrow minded stuff of many modern churches. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We kissed a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We held ourselves back. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I pried myself away and got out the door at one, am.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were both pretty sure we’d found the “impossible” mate/ lifetime partner that we’d suspected might not be out there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And yet, here we were, half a block apart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I showed up the next morning, at eight with my way cool Restored New Testament (Willis Barnstone, check it out) in hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ve been together since.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That was June 21, 2015, our day of “Yes.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then the deeper “Yes” came on March 5, 2016, the day of our marriage.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We had and have nine wedding vows, all of which we recite together each morning. The ninth is: <b>We are joyfully creating a long and happy and healthy and enlightened Love, Friendship and Marriage that is getting better and better and better every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That usually happens. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We touch a lot. Kiss a lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better at converting growls into laughs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are getting better and better and transforming complaints into ease and self realization and “we goals.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And making love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Delicious lovemaking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The best of our lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Once a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Twice a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She is now 68 to my 72. Neither of us have ever had a third as much sex as we are having now. For her before it was several times a month, at best. For me, twice a week.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now: zowie. As if we were in our twenties. If this, along with mindfulness and health and happiness and awakening to ways of joyfully “saving the world,” is what you want… read on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….This isn’t a sex manual.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex is the dessert to an amazing life. If you are alone and deserted now, many of the games in this book will help you find really great friends, friends with whom awakening and real communication can take place.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of those great friends might turn out to be the lover and spouse that you are looking for.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Along the way, you can be present and happy with yourself and with others. If so, you will be living a real life and pulling toward you real people. Without being present and happy (and having purpose) it’s all the random crap shoot of most life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This book is for those who want far, far above the Random Crap Shoot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For those who want <b>Love, Lust and Enlightenment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, for the beginning of your week one playwork, let us start our gratitude games:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Really, do it now. This is not a book to “just read” and imagine “doing it” later. This is not a book of “good ideas” for you to give your “screwed up” friends. This is a transformation manual for those who want even more amazing life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #2: Write five Gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get a journal, label it your “Gratitude Journal” and write down five things you are grateful for.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write slowly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your breathing and your hand and arm moving.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your handwriting as part of YOU pouring out your appreciation for life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>If you don’t have a journal, YET, grab any piece of paper and write five gratitudes.</b></span></div>
chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-88015830240906906212018-01-26T09:01:00.000-08:002018-01-26T09:03:18.418-08:00Awakened Couples/ Saving the World/ Waking up + Having Purpose<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The world is a mess.<br />
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Climate change. Racism. Insane politics. Starvation in Africa. Ecological collapse around the corner.<br />
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And: who is to help this?<br />
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And if it's us, how are we to help this and stay happy and enjoying deeply pleasurable relationship along the way?<br />
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Gratitude is certainly one part.<br />
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Being present, for sure, without that, we are lost to life and steady prey to all old and crappy programming<br />
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Loving what is, and not believing our "words in our head" is another.<br />
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Writing goals instead of worry and complaint, is another.<br />
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That's why I'm writing the book.<br />
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Let me know what you'd want to improve in love, in lust, in enlightenment, in "saving the world"<br />
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It's not that hard, and it's huge: the general trance is one with no meaning, and no presence.<br />
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We need a life of meaning.<br />
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We are wasting our life if we are not present.<br />
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Let's have some fun shifting to both, and more. (See a couple of days ago for a <a href="http://wakeup-feldenkrais.blogspot.com/2018/01/nine-weeks-to-better-love-sex-and.html">list of nine</a>)<br />
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Cheers<br />
Chrischris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-17642945495279735602018-01-24T13:51:00.005-08:002018-01-24T13:53:59.770-08:00What if the other person pushed your buttons and you woke up?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><i>Dancing at the wedding.</i>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sometimes we act as if the other person pushing our buttons is the worst thing in the world.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">How dare they?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We want to be loved and appreciated full time?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We are so wonderful, shouldn't they treat us wonderfully?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sometimes they are in a bad mood, or we are a jerk and they react back in jerky ways. Or they have bad habits and know they can push our buttons?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or, they have bad parents who taught them how to push buttons?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Doesn't matter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">People are jerks.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And,,,,, news flash.... so are we.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">So, what's the secret?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">There are many, and the first is to realize that our buttons are OUR BUTTONS.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Then, have a sense of humor about their crime. Almost always, if they are being selfish, we have plenty of instances. If they are failing to appreciate, this is something we are slipping up on, too.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">And then, there is the wonderful two chair version of questions three and four in the <a href="http://thework.com/"> the Work of Byron Katie.</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Sit in one chair, with a pencil and paper. Write down the "should" belief you have about your mean/ awful/ inconsiderate partner. Then write a list of how you feel and act when you believe that.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Now, switch to another chair. Look at the should belief and don't believe it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">If only for a few seconds.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">What happens to you?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or, look at the belief and then stop looking. And stop thinking. Simple and profoundly be present.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Without the thoughts, who and how are you?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">There is more.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The trick though is this: do we want to blame and feel "right" and feel bad.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or, do we want to laugh at ourselves and realize that it is our belief in the story, not the story, that is "pushing our buttons."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">No new news, we push our own buttons.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Except that it's always new news when we forget and then realize it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Welcome to the world of imperfection.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Welcome to the world of waking up..</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Cheers,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Chris</span>chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-81597982322580981912018-01-23T11:19:00.001-08:002018-01-23T11:19:52.244-08:00Nine Weeks to Better Love, Sex, and "Almost" EnlightenmentHere are the steps/ weeks/ stages.<br />
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Each one of itself is quite fine.<br />
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We can all enjoy upgrading ourselves in any of these areas, don't you think?<br />
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chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-21797434428649565522018-01-10T11:40:00.001-08:002018-01-10T11:40:25.346-08:00You can be right, or you can be happy, 2<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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ONE: CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY<br />
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This is something we can do.<br />
Often when we've had good food, good fun, or good sex (or good work) this is easier.<br />
And still, even in the "hard" times, the grumpy times, we can just say, "Screw it," to the voices and habits that want us to feel bad.<br />
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TWO: SEE THE THINKING LURKING BEHIND OUR UNHAPPINESS<br />
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Almost all unhappiness has a thinking behind it that is poisoned with either "should" or "shouldn't."<br />
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At it's simplest level, much of this has to do with the rough idea: "If so and so (usually the mate, or even more, the ex-mate) would just change/ shape up/ be different, then everything would be okay."<br />
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And the trick here is to explore what this does for you.<br />
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THREE: LEARNING IS NOTICING A DIFFERENCE THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE<br />
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This is a short game today.<br />
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It's question three of the <a href="http://thework.com/">work of Byron Katie.</a><br />
How do you react when you hold this thinking.<br />
Go ahead. Take a certain chair. Have it be the Belief chair.<br />
Sit in it and believe the thought.<br />
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Notice: What are your feelings, and body sensations. Mull over: how do you live your life as a result of this?<br />
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Now, the difference.<br />
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Sit in another chair.<br />
Ask yourself question #4 of the Byron Katie work: Who are what am I without that thought?<br />
Feel and notice what life is like without that thought.<br />
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Keep learning:<br />
Go back and forth between chair 3 and chair 4. Feel and notice the difference.<br />
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FOUR: YOU DON'T HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR STORY<br />
Just keep learning the difference between believing it and not believing it.<br />
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Your life will make the change when you are ready.<br />
You don't have to decide.<br />
It will be decided from within.<br />
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FIVE: LEARN THE DIFFERENCE:<br />
Who is creating the unhappiness: the other person and the way they need to shape up, or you, by believing this story?<br />
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SIX: ENJOY THE POWER OF THIS<br />
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Good.<br />
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<br />chris elmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14693928904474520561noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33426194.post-83262560439469438252018-01-05T10:03:00.002-08:002018-01-05T10:03:36.542-08:00You can be Right or you can be Happy....The Turn Around to the rescue<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: center; text-indent: 36px;">
<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Liberation Pathway #4:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“I’m an ass. You’re an ass. Let’s get on with it.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t believe your own thinking.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“I’m imperfect and you’re imperfect and that’s perfect.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You can be Right or you can be Happy</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are starting to wake up to this sad and funny truth, right: One of the best ways to be miserable is to get into the messy and stuck place where we and SURE that if the other person would just “shape up” then everything would be fine.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, of course, “shape up” means act and think just the way we want them to. It often includes that they capitulate and admit they are wrong, and bow down in contrition to our being right.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can suffer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or we can do something different.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a very fun game to do something different.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I’m an ass/ You’re an ass Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The next time you get in an argument with a friend or your mate or anybody, ask:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Can we do the generic argument?”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If they say, Yes, ask them to copy everything you say.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As they do, the conversation will go like this:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person A: “I’m right and you’re wrong.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person B: “I’m right and you’re wrong.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person A: “No, no, you’ve got it backward. I am right and you are wrong.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person B: “No, no, you’ve got it backward. I am right and you are wrong.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person A: “You’ll be so much happier once you admit that you are wrong, and I’m the one that is right.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Person B: “You’ll be so much happier once you admit that you are wrong, and I’m the one that is right.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This can be a lot of fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hopefully for both people a light bulb will go off: this is what is really going on underneath the arguing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Old Saying: YOU CAN BE RIGHT OR YOU CAN BE HAPPY.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"> Core to happiness, and core to waking up: realize that what we think is “right” is our opinion. Not the truth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And realize that sticking to that opinion (being right) is making us miserable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Our unhappiness is almost always rooted in crappy thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Usually poor me/ selfish/ afraid/ angry/ I’m right and you’re wrong/ you need to change thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which kind of crappy thinking doesn’t matter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What matters, is that it is not true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Something else is true, and weirdly enough what is often true, is the upside down/ opposite/ <b>turn around</b> of what we thought was true before.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let me share a story about a girlfriend of seven years awhile back who had the effrontery to move on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With crappy thinking I was able to suffer greatly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then I tried the “turn around,” and my suffering transformed to love and liberation. And happiness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Why am I writing this book?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One reason: to spare you some of the suffering that comes with love when it goes awry.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And it goes awry a lot, does it not?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Here’s a case study, with Sally Ann and I, circa 1999….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were supposedly in love, and yet the main thing we did was argue and fight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ll call her Sally Ann, and I’d met her seven years earlier, when I was building a fence in her landlord’s backyard. She was younger than me and in grad school at Berkeley, getting her masters in landscape architecture, and she was an earthy sort, and lonely, and smart, and we both loved design and gardens, and in short time, each other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We had a blast and lived together in two places in Berkeley until she finished her master’s degree. About the same time my son had finished high school and his “gap year” of traveling, and was off to college.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Time to leave the city. We were both ready for the country paradise. Whoopie!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Time to frolic and grow miraculous food and gardens in the country. Time for love and flowers and nature all to blossom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sally Ann and I visualized a paradise cottage in the country, creek to one side, forests at another edge, open fields nearby. We found one that met all these wishes on the outskirts of Sonoma the town, in Sonoma the country, in California the state.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heaven for awhile. ( We didn’t visualize a stable landlady. We didn’t visualize harmonious love. Alas…)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We made our own paradise garden. We ate outside almost every meal we were together, right at the edge of an oak forest, with a seasonal creek nearby, and a four acre open field on the other side of the cottage. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We raised tomatoes and herbs to sell at the farmer’s market.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We made love. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We fought.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we fought.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we fought.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Trouble in paradise.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There is a fun and annoyingly accurate assessment for relationships : if F, standing for fighting, is greater than F, standing for sex, you are in trouble.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We got more and more in trouble.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have you ever been there? The fighting F greater than the sexy F?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were fighting a couple of times a day. We were F…ing a couple of times a week.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We supposedly loved each other and fight fight fight. It got to that ridiculous stage were we were arguing about who had started yesterday’s argument and so on and so on, until we can’t even remember what the original disagreement was all about.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have you ever been there? Argue, argue. Are you there now, sometimes. It’s hell, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love gone wrong can be one of the greatest hells on earth. Love, seen through to its depths (which is almost always discovering OUR contribution to the mess, and OUR need for real transformation), can be the most immediate and concrete path to real spiritual growth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s a major reason for this book: to show you some paths to trade in the mess of love for the use and delight of love as a path of spiritual transformation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">… back to Sally Ann and Chris in hell. F way more than F, in the paradise country town of Sonoma in the glorious county of Sonoma.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then she solved the problem.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ended the fighting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No more F and no more F.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She ran off with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She ran off with Joe, charming Joe, Joe who was a lot like me, except that he could act out his adoration for Sally Ann instead of fight with her. Joe who was a lot like me except he could be in love with her instead of in conflict. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They had a wonderful F to F ratio, thank you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And how did I respond? Did I find refuge in the present (which I had been studying and “practicing” and dedicating myself to for at least twenty years prior to this)?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Did I soar on the wings of liberation and non-attachment?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I did the usual.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heartbreak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Bitterness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feeling the victim, betrayed, sad, depressed, worried, angry at Joe and Sally Ann.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And angry at myself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why angry at myself? The obvious evidence: my side of the arguing had been not so wonderful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heartbreak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Victimhood.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Poor me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating the “bad” other person.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating the “bad/ failure” me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ve felt it, sometime?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are feeling it still now? If so, I’m sorry. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering sucks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And a lot of divorces and breakups are swamped in these shitty feelings, and a lot of people still carry them around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not pretty.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which sucks. If a relationship done right can be one of the most wonderful, blissful and quickest paths toward spiritual advancement, the opposite is something most of us have suffered: a relationship gone wrong can be the depths of hell on Earth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Suffering sucks.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Relationship suffering deeply, painfully sucks.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And there are ways out of it. I’ll offer one way, starting right now, with the breakthrough I discovered way back in 1999.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The discovery was to do the “turn around.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The Turn Around, the turn Around, the Turn Around.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This “turn around” is a subset of something called “the work of Byron Katie.” </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who is Byron Katie? Very short version: She’s a woman who came to enlightenment via the path of alcoholism, obesity, chain smoking, yelling at her family and deep depression. She wasn’t trying for enlightenment. She was hating her life and hating her suffering and wanted it to end.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And it did. Her suffering ended. Not her life, A brand new amazingly real and useful life began.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She “woke up” one day, in 1986, in a halfway house in the dusty backwater desert town of Barstow, California. She was laying on the floor because she felt unworthy of a bed. A cockroach walked across her leg. All her suffering vanished when she “woke up” to the world just as it was, the world without ANY of her judgments about the world. No judgments meant no suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She was free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Life was almost entirely laughter and delight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With very brief returns of the “old world,” in which an old thought of complaint and judgment and non-forgiveness would cause her delight to tumble, which hurt. From the heights of bliss, back to “normal” human suffering: this was all the more painful for how huge a contrast this now was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And she realized that her occasional bout of pain, was the normal lot of most human beings. When she looked out at normal humanity, she saw everyone outside of her continuing to suffering from their own thoughts beliefs and judgments.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, she invented a method to “undo” the thoughts / beliefs/ judgments that are at the root of almost all suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This wasn’t about positive thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This wasn’t about affirmation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was a great “un-doing,” which you’ll become familiar with as the book progresses.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now, we only need here to look at a valuable and almost immediately useful subset of her “work.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which you are welcome to dive into more fully at <a href="http://thework.com/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">http://thework.com</span></a>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now though, let me continue to share the Sally Ann and Joe and Chris story, and how part of “the work” led me to one of the great freedoms and clarities of my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, there I was, alone and bitter and out of the famous present and miserable. And over there, a few miles away was Sally Ann off having a great F to F ratio with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Time to do the work. The work of Byron Katie.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the <b>“turn around”</b> part of the Byron Katie work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s bizarrely simple:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You take your judgment, formulate it as a “should” or “shouldn’t” commandment, and you write it down:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should listen to me more.” (It’s always about me/ me/ me, isn’t it?)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you reverse the sentence: “I should listen to so and so more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should appreciate me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turns around…. “I should appreciate so and so more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Beliefs that we have been torturing ourselves with for years are highly fertile fields for the turn around:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“My father shouldn’t have criticized me so much.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And even if he started it, even if he was “worse,” the turn around has tons of wisdom, “I shouldn’t have criticized my father so much for criticizing me.” More on this later, as a way out of years and years of feeling bad about my wonderful and imperfect dad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now, though, I’m going to share how I rescued myself from my suffering with Sally Ann, and then offer you this as a way to transform your own life with this “turn around.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With Sally Ann the breakthrough came by turning around this belief, “Sally Ann should love me more.” Oh, did I suffer when I believed that. But… ta da… the work of Byron Katie and the turn around to the rescue…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This turn around seemed true enough at an intellectual level: “I should love Sally Ann more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I kind of nodded my head, yes, yes,</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then, for some reason I let this sink down, and a heart-rooted lightening bolt went off. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Kapowie!! </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I really SHOULD love Sally Ann more!!!</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I had loved Sally Ann. A lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Part of me still did.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And when I went to that part, the whole world opened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being happy she was with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She wanted to be with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Joe made her happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her more meant waking up to this reality: I loved that she was happy. With Joe. With Geronimo. It didn’t matter: loving her meant wanting her to be happy and being happy that she was happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being happy that she was living the life she wanted to live.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being heart fully happy for her that she was free of our fighting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant: loving her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This set me free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This opened my heart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This allowed me to beam with happiness when I thought about her and Joe. I could be happy for her even when I saw her and Joe happily wandering the small town together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was freedom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was, in a strange way, enlightenment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….. could you sweet audience, use something like this to transform your life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And will I show you a way to do this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and “Don’t Believe Your Thinking” Game, #2</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>All you do is take a Should or a Shouldn’t about someone who is bothering you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Your mate.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Your ex-mate.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The friend you are furious at.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write a short “should” or “shouldn’t” sentence.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>John should appreciate me more.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>My Dad shouldn’t have criticized me so much.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sit, or stand in a particular place and believe this fully and see what this does to you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Even let your body contort and whither a bit from the pain.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Shift to another chair or stand in another place.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Turn around” the statement:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I should appreciate John more.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I shouldn’t have criticized my Dad so much.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Find at least three ways that the turn around is true.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yeah, yeah, you aren’t going to like it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">At first.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Until the humor sets in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then you’re going to love it, like I did realizing that I was the one who should love Sally Ann more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why three ways?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Because when I explained this to a fellow student in my certification coach for Co-Active Coaching, she said it reminded her of her time in the Israeli military (all youth between 18 and 21 spend two or three years in the military). Everyone was trained that when they had the finger of accusation pointed out, three fingers were pointed back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, find three ways that the turn around is true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then life gets amusing and humbling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what happened to me after Sally Ann.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sooner or later the thinking that “I’ll never find anyone as great” proved untrue and Celeste came along.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And with Celeste a very fun story of the turn around as a tool for one word accusations came true. (Accusations like: He is so mean. She is so petty. He is grumpy. She is in denial.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s the story about “selfish.” The one finger I was pointing out and realized that three were pointing back at me. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Selfish Chris wakes up</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Celeste was a vitally healthy and earth loving yoga teacher I never would have met if I hadn’t said “Yes” to someone who asked me to join her going to yoga.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Prelude: Meeting Celeste by saying, “Yes.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was working a couple hours a day being the lead creator and garden maker of what is now the Sonoma Garden Park. Five acres of food and flower and pathways and a straw bale barn and a lot of beauty. In the early days of the garden, before it reached a certain critical mass of beauty, very few people came to help me except young folks doing “community service” for some crime of youth, almost always alcohol or pot related.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And one day, a gal whom I’d begged to come help when she worked in the local health food store, was there. Because she’d gone off to college and studied community gardens and remembered my whining and had come to help for the morning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We did a lot of weeding and I actually helped her with an issue with her sister using this “work of Byron Katie.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then it was time for her to leave, the hot time of the day, around noon. She asked if I wanted to join her going to yoga.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I had never ever considered yoga. This was 2000 before yoga was the rage everywhere, and I thought it was only for women who wanted to be pretzels. But, this woman had helped, and had listened to a chance to change doing the Byron Katie work, and I’d had some good luck before saying Yes, so I said yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I went to the class, and this woman and I were the only students.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The teacher was Celeste.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who appeared not to be my type. But who was a great yoga teacher and I realized that I was a bit more stiff than I had thought I was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So I kept going to Celeste’s classes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we started to talk.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And ride bikes together (I had a truck, but preferred the bike in the small town of Sonoma, where nothing was more than about a mile apart).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then she came out to the garden, and I was wondering if she was girl friend potential, which could be discovered by how well she liked to garden. I put a pick in her hand and she went happy with delight to put it to use.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Okay, that test passed and we spent more time in the garden.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We read some short stories together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We got fond of each other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then we got more than fond.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then we decided to live together and I moved in with her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Trouble with Celeste’s Daughter “selfish” Lara</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This did not go over well with her daughter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The night I moved in with Celeste, hers feisty teenage daughter, Lara, got very angry with her mother for choosing to start living with me. She moved out in a snit and went to live with her father.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She was short and nasty with her mother on the phone. A teenage girl. A pain in the ass. Which is to say, normal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And I didn’t take it as normal. I was Mr. Righteous. I knew what was wrong with her. She was “selfish.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I huffed and puffed and complained and felt righteous and angry and bad about this and then….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then the good old turn around kicked me in the butt and brought to me a sense of humor. And friendship, it turned out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who is the Real “Selfish” One?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I realized that my major beef with her “selfish” behavior, was that it shook up Celeste and made her less delightful to be with. So it was my selfishness that wanted Lara to be different and less difficult. So her mother would be more fun for ME!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It wasn’t about Lara, it was about me. The “selfish” daughter “should” calm down, so I, in MY selfishness, could have a better time with Celeste.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When I realized this, it wasn’t a light bulb of love going off, the way it had with Sally Ann, but a light bulb of honesty and the blessed relief of humor. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The freedom of real realization. Realization about myself, not Lara realization: She’s selfish. I’m selfish. We’re the same.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One day Lara was visiting her Mom and I, and I told her this, how I’d realized my big beef about her being selfish was really about my being selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She seemed to love this honesty from an adult.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And when I left to go somewhere, she said to me, in great good humor, “Good-bye, selfish Chris.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s play the one finger out, three fingers back game with this one word accusations …..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t Believe Your Thinking Love Game #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of someone you have a slight “beef” with</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of three things wrong with them</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write these down in a short, judgmental form:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So and so is mean.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So and so is selfish.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So and so in grumpy</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And… guess where it goes next, fellow ass?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Right>>>></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I am mean.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I am selfish</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I am grumpy.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>With whatever words you had to label and judge so and so.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And, gasp again, find three examples of each.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">PS</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are probably going to want to avoid this. One more thing to “get around to.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Me, too. I don’t want to do this now, as I’ve been doing all the games throughout the book.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And hey, I’m going to get a pen and journal and do it now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I didn’t want to do it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I did it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, it was pretty instructive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How was it for you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Once more: if you are too important, too busy, to do the games, because you imagine you don’t need them, and these is good information for the unfortunate souls who aren’t you, wise up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are all imperfect.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">One of the great gifts of our own imperfect minds is that we can learn, somewhat bizarrely, EXACTLY what we need to work on in ourselves by discovering/ noticing/ getting honest about whatever is bothering us in other people.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning and Enlightenment</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, more learning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning and Enlightenment Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We’ve already done this, in a way: what is the difference in being present and not being present.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Let’s take a very common variation of that.</b></span></div>
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<li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><b></b><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel overwhelmed. Have your mind full of the auditory hallucination / thoughts, that there is “too much to do.” Exult in the feeling that you are going to have to rush to get even part of this done.</b></span></li>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>How is that?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learn the difference between hurried and slowing down.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>EXULT in the difference:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who and how you are just now, outdoors, slow and aware.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who and how you are as “thinking”/ auditory hallucination/ the “overwhelm” game. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is huge. This is a life lived from soul and a life lived from our programming.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">THIS IS A LIFE LIVED FROM SOUL VS. A LIFE LIVED FROM OUR ROBOT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go slowly often,<b> at least once an hour</b>. See what happens to your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One way to look at enlightenment is to be in a state of connection with What Is. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WHAT IS changes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Life is impermanent.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The Now keeps shifting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We breathe in. We breathe out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are born.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We die.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We go to sleep at night.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We wake up each day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Each moment is different.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can be seeing different, hearing different, feeling the sensations of our body in a new position, moment to moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As we go about our days, and try to get things done, we are in motion, and our bodies are always in a position that loves to be held in awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We always have awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">An experiment worth trying is to play the learning game with awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning and Enlightenment Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><b></b><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now, make this shift: feel the awareness, the awareness that is aware of that object you enjoy.</b></span></li>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice the difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>C. LEARNING IS NOTICING THE DIFFERENCE> Go back and forth: you are what you see. “Something” is this awareness that is seeing. You are what you hear. “Something” is this awareness that is seeing. You are what your feet feel against the ground. “Something” is this awareness of your amazing body in gravity.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This seems “odd.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have spent our lives NOT realizing that what we are, in a certain way, awareness. You are glued to the outside show.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And yet, all along, at six months old and one hundred and six, awareness is aware. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who are we really?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Could be that we are this awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not, “have” this awareness. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Are” this awareness. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And… as before, don’t believe me. Don’t “listen” to me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Anything you are aware of: alternate between the object of your awareness and the awareness itself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice that there may be no one who is “having” this awareness. We’ll get to that later.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now, simply feel yourself as awareness. Try this out, as it were.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learn. Learn the difference: I am what I see. Vs. I am this awareness that is seeing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I am what I hear. Vs. I am this awareness that is hearing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Play with this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Remember children and how everything is play.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Play with feeling this shift in awareness of what you are, as awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Learning</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And back to love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love, without which life is really not living.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And love, where we run into the “minor problem” (joke, this is HUGE) that we still have buttons and our mate still has buttons, and unless we have everything locked into place, we are going to disturb them and they are going to disturb us. Which is to say: if we are zombie/ robots, we might have an “orderly” life that avoids all problems. But how dull, eh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So let’s play a couple of variations that could make a HUGE difference in the “problem” of people being different.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which, when you think about it, is a chance for people to REALLY learn to love, because loving a copy of yourself is pretty weak. (To say nothing of most people basically hating themselves, which makes loving a carbon copy weak.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This game is really up to you to invent, and here are a couple of great starts:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Learning Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><b></b><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The standard lie: Allow yourself to experience this way of seeing one of your conflicts with your mate and/ or anyone.<br />
1) “It’s all their problem.” <br />
2) “If they’d just change, everything would be alright/ okay/ better/ fixed.”<br />
You know the drill. This is the bullshit we always fall for. </b></span></li>
<li style="-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: Verdana; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;"><b></b><span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Hang out here. Stand or sit in the “their fault” chair or place. Experience how much pain you feel. Actually let your body cramp in and your breathing clamp down and grit your teeth and tighten fists, or whatever your body/ emotions feel like in this state.<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Yes. This is hell/ hard/ uncommon.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And, do it anyway. Think of just ONE thing you can do to help the situation.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Step to another spot or sit in another chair. Imagine doing that thing. Feel in your body and heart and soul how you feel different if YOU do something new.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel and shape your body.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>D. LEARNING IS NOTICING THE DIFFERENCE</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go back and forth between the “your fault” chair or spot and what you feel in body and soul and emotion there, and the “I can do at least one thing different” chair or spot.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Keep noticing the difference.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>E. ACTION. If you are feeling brave, go do the thing.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See, feel, notice, learn from what happens when YOU do something difference instead of waiting around for the other person to “shape up.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This may sound like Ann Landers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So what?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The goal isn’t to get you/ me/ anyone to wake up to the obvious: we are part of the problem. Though that’s a nice “side effect.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The goal is learning: these are very, very different ways of looking at the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">See, feel and know that so they are available to you. The more honest we can get with how painful it is for US to be in the “you’re the one to blame” chair or spot, the more we have a chance of living a free and loving life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is what we want, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Happiness vs unhappiness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Power vs powerlessness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning vs stuck-ness</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good. Play this game any time you are unhappy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Huh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">PLAY THIS GAME ANY TIME YOU ARE UNHAPPY.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, let’s do kind of the same thing again:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Learning Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Again, have a chair or a spot that is the “poor me” spot. Really get into feeling this in your body.</b></span></div>
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Go to another spot or chair. Feel the difference when you are clear on a “we goal.”</b></span></li>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The “we goal” is what you want for both of you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>C. Go back and forth between, poor me and what you want for poor of you. Different thinking, different heart, different spot, different feeling and sensations in your notice.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice, notice, notice.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learn, learn, learn.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, in one stance: “You are too busy to spend time with me.” Feel all the poor me bullshit in this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Vs. the “we goal”: I’d love to have quality time together, relaxed and enjoying each other’s company. Feel the truth and love and possibilities in this one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is beginning to wake up to what love is: wanting the best for the other person. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you are in love with, or in relationship with another person, you want this. The “we goal” is the heart’s honest wish for the both of you to be connected and caring and loving and happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All people have goals to that effect.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Maybe not consciously. But they are down there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Think of how powerful Dicken’s Christmas Tale is over and over and over and Scrooge wakes up to the self in him who cares and loves.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hmmm. Might be a good idea to get some “we goals” together, eh? Somewhat like wedding vows.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can be miserable in the “me, me, me” world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The world of the baby: I want what I want when I want it. Which is now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or we can wake up and wish the best for both of us. All of us.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love can be a bigger world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“We goals” are one way to that bigger goal.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Try it out for awhile and see what happens.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Principle #8: Save the World</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Make a Huge Difference</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>While staying happy and sexy and learning and growing and delighting in every moment of the way.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The world is a mess.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turn on the TV. Look at the papers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice all the recent natural disasters brought about by climate change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Witness the government officials ignorant of this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Witness the poverty and racism and wars raging. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Witness all the latest messes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People are having a hard time being kind and fair and loving to each other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The world is having a hard time being kind and fair to all its humans.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We as a species might as well be considered at war with Nature, which seems a bit crazy, since we ultimately spring from nature.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A mess.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A mess.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what are we going to do?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Save the World Game #1</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of one area you’d like to make a difference</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do any small step toward that today.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is silly, and we often just plain believe the story we tell ourselves: “No time.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we can trust our email to bring us, almost instantly, an opportunity.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I rarely look at my email, and needed a break from a couple hours of writing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So I opened it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Move.On had an inspiring and wonderful video about the successes of progressive and good hearted people this year, and the work still to be done. They had a box to click to donate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So I did.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not much, and as it was part of hundreds of thousands of others, I do hope and believe that will be part of the world I’m trying to be a happy revolutionary in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, it’s time to bid you adieu.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ll play three more games and then you are off on the adventure of a lifetime.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have more sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be awake in the present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Get healthier. (next book, raw plus smart eating plus love lust and enlightenment)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stay horny.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Save the world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Save the World Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What do you love?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>How can you help more people experience that?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Talk, in four minute turns, about this</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>With your mate, with a friend, with a stranger.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is about connecting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And exploring.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The world is a mess.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Those who have “the answers” often make things worse. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Those willing to listen and explore, often make things better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Save the World Game #1</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Have the clitoris stroking sex at least once a day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Have some other kind of sex at least once a day, preferably in the early am.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>When you rest, or fall back to sleep after this, feel:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>and wonder:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What can I/ we do to create a more wonderful world for everyone.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See what happens if you explore from the state of connection and bliss.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This seems ridiculous in a way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Silliness is next to godliness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And this isn’t even silly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s honoring the miracle of sexual pleasure with which God/ Nature/ the Universe made humans.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go ahead.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You can expand this way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment and Saving the World Game #1</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Meditate every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>For 10-30 minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go into the awareness that is aware.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>AWARE your thinking but doesn’t believe your thinking (or disbelieve, but just is aware of) </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>AWARE of your feelings, but doesn’t believe your feelings (or disbelief, but just is aware of)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>AWARE of your sensations, but doesn’t think they are a big deal, nor believe they are nothing. They are your body, right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>No body = nobody. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you aren’t home to your body, you aren’t home to you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And the key is</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile and be AWARE</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>From here, either come out with an idea of how to create more good in the world.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or come out refreshed</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or come out frustrated from having spent the time believing instead of awaring.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is life.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write for five minutes after meditation.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Don’t think about what you are going to write in meditation.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See what comes to you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Good.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Time to do one or two or any of the games.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m going to go meditate for ten minutes and write for five.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then take a walk and sense my arms and legs and love nature.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">What are you going to do?</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Principle Six: More Love</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love More. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sex More. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Awaken More. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Expand into your real and more amazing Self.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You could easily expand and fill out your life now with almost any of the prior principles.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This one is to remind us that life is limitless.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And that any day we don’t improve in a few ways, is not the life as big and joyful and wonderful as we want.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol and I were recently at a retreat led by Adyashanti, an American born Zen teacher in his early fifties. The spot was beautiful, Asilomar, on the Monterry coast of California. The month was December and the theme was the Jesus story as guiding myth to discover what heart centered enlightenment might look like.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the breakthrough moments was the mentioning of how Anthony DeMello, whom Adyashanti calls an enlightened Jesuit priest, would start all his seminars and weekend retreats by letting the audience know: “I’m an ass and you’re an ass. If we can start from there, we can get somewhere.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s a great place to go for humor, clarity and truth any time you and your loved one start to spat.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Another high point of the retreat was when during the dialogue period one woman stood up and said she’d deeply enjoyed a recent course he’d given online about Love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In particular, she thanked him for the exercise of saying, silently to ourselves, before we talk to anyone, “I love you.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This sounded pretty great to me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Combined with a recent blog by the Chinese master known as Dr. B (from “the energy”, see <a href="http://energyforsuccess.org/"><span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">http://energyforsuccess.org</span></a> ) on inclusion, this gives you, me and anyone a hugely more open and wonderful chance of connecting with and relating to people.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The inclusion blog states that you don’t have to believe old tired programming that says others don’t want to connect with and/or talk to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Assume the goal and vibration of inclusion and move forward. See what happens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s combine the two:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More Love Game for Talking to People #1: Inclusion</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>When you are around people, notice any tendencies to think they are different or somehow don’t want to talk with you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Assume instead that you might enjoy each other.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Encourage in yourself the vibration of “inclusion.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel something like “the energy” in your heart.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take a breath down to your belly.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go talk to them.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See what happens.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is written during the Christmas season.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This worked with all sorts of people the programming (which dr B calls “the matrix”) said wouldn’t be open to conversation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Many wonderful conversations and connections happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now let’s add the suggestion of Adyashanti:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love More and Others, Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>When around others</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As you either “just” see them around you</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or, are about to talking to them,</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say to yourself, “I love you”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And then see what happens</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What will happen for you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is putting your heart first. Go ahead and love everyone. The creeps, the saints, the normal, and the exceptional, the dull and the exciting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“I love you.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Say it to yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go up to them. Add in the inclusion vibration.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How will that work?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love More and Your Partner, Game #3 : Dread >>Willing>>Looking Forward to</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is “hard”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So what?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Think of something you are “dreading” that your partner do again.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do the “work of Byron Katie” on how they “shouldn’t” do that</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Shift to saying: I am willing for them to do that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do the work of Byron Katie again. Really feel the difference: when you believe that they shouldn’t. And who you are without believing that story.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now shift to saying: I am looking forward to ……., whatever it was that you dreaded</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is weird</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is magnificently liberating.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it and see what happens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">These three games , inclusion, and “I love you,” and “I am looking forward to….”(whatever used to scare you/ that you dread), can send your life into an ease and delight </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">There are surely more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That will be another book. Or two.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now Lust.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is going to be a bit raunchy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Skip if you want your spiritual development and joy to be less than blissful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s have some fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Opening to More Life Game #1: </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stroking the Clitoris for 15 minutes</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is for a couple that involves a woman.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The receiver is a woman.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Who takes off her panties. And leaves on the rest of her clothes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The stroker is a man or a woman, who straddles this receiver in a certain way.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See the illustration.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The stroker looks toward the clitoris.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The receiver has her legs butterflied out.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The stroker gently rubs the thighs of the receiver for two minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The stroker puts coconut oil on their right thumb and one of their left fingers.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The thumb goes in the outer edge of the lower part of the vagina.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The left hand finger, very slowly and very gently strokes the clitoris for 13 minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gentle.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Slow.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mindful of the point of contact.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mindful of the pleasure you feel through the stroking finger.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The receiver stays mindful of the spot being stroked.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feeling the pleasure.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Moment by moment.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>No goal for either person.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Just the pleasure and sensation of now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, after 13 minutes, two minutes of slowing down.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then, clothes on and hugging.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or clothes on and cuddle and take a nap.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or clothes on and take a walk.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Clothes on and anything besides “normal sex.” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do this every day.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is complicated, and easy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just pay attention, in the moment, without a goal of climax. Pay attention to the spot on the human body with the most pleasure receptors.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The stroker, stroking gently the clitoris, will feel warmth and electricity and more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The strokee, feeling this, will feel…… A lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s say a few non-proven by studies possibilities:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Easier menopause.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Radical increase in oxytocin and well being.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Re-opening to sexuality</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Re-orienting of how to go about sexuality</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Realization that sex can be a meditation</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Realization that life is a pleasurable meditation</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As always, don’t believe me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And see.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How often?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Whether you have “normal” sex or not.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have this sex, the sex that concentrate of female orgasm as pleasure in the real moment, and not as climax.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Every day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice stroking softly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice being present in intimate touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice NOT having a climax goal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice the small and real point of real connection in the real moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learn, feel, realize the connection at a deep and non-verbal level that comes from this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Enjoy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Another lust game: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More Lust Game #2</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Listening to Your Heart</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Have a goals journal</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get silent and still</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write gratitudes first in the gratitude journal</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>From the present and gratitude, do a few “source energy” exercises </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>From the energy and gratitude and being present, ask you heart</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Heart, what are your great wishes”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Listen.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write them down. On the left side of the page. Or on the left page with the right page left open.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Or the right side, or right page, write one small action step that could take you closer to achieving this goal.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This could be seen as using “the energy” in one of the ways its meant to be used. ( Another is simple reverence for the glory of Life. Another is bliss and gratitude at the miracle of being alive.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is giving the “energy” somewhere to go.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Giving your vitality somewhere to point.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Giving your optimism a place to play and work and move toward.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Reminding you that life is a game and a treat and all challenges are a change to change and grow and expand and evolve.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And with the evolve vibration, let’s slip up and over to “enlightenment” games.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">More enlightenment is more or less a nonsense idea.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so what…. it points the way to a feeling of the generosity of life being echoed by the generosity of your participation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More Enlightenment Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love What “It” Doesn’t Like</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>As you go about your day, pay attention to your AVERSIONS</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use the work of Byron Katie,</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>or becoming present</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>or ongoing joy of life to</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>make the shift:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love that thing, person, news, whatever the “it,” the conditioned and programmed and “matrix” part of you dislikes</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is very much like the looking forward to what you dread action.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Except that it gives you something moment by moment to use as a “wake up.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The part of us that dislikes, unless it is a very pure dislike, for example, hatred of a child being mistreated, is usually very narrow and selfish and programmed and stupid.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To wake up to the painful feeling of dislike is the start.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To “turn it around” in this full and radical way causes us to wake up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Wake up to what?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Wake up to this definition of enlightenment</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More enlightenment game # one million:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love What Is.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>That’s all.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You’ve got an upset stomach: love it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You’ve got cancer: love it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You don’t know how to cure it: love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You are willing to look in spite of the IDK (I don’t know): love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>You get contradictory and even bad advice: love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Some people avoid you: love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Some people over advise you: love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And so on.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I don’t know what to write next.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You don’t know how to do this:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The nice thing about What Is, is</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One: It’s always changing</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Two: It’s always here, right now</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three: You always have the choice:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love it</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fight it</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ignore it</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Pretend to be “okay” with it</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Always now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Always changing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Always chuck full of your own variation of the What Is of life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your life as a novel, movie, play, TV show.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And if you don’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try the two spot or two chair method:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One spot or chair: Don’t love/ resist/ complain about your life</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The other spot or chair: Love your life</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More enlightenment #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If things aren’t the way you want them, write a goal.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Problem solve.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Get in the energy.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go for some creative and new way to solve/ change / shift the problem.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>See it all as learning.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning is noticing differences:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What can you do , feel, think, breathe, be aware of differently.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So that new learning can be happening.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>In your brain, heart and soul</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>and Body</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a bit far out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So is Love, Lust and Enlightenment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want the normal self help crap, go find it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is all of you, having great sex and great relationship and great success and great fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want it, be amazing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s who you are meant to be.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Play this or ANY game in the book.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>One: Be Grateful</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be grateful in Heart (Love) and Body (Lust) and Soul/ Spirit (Enlightenment)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: Be Present.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The life we have is only now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>To miss the present is to miss the miracle : we are alive, right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And: if we are not mindful (as in awareness, not thinking mind) we are mindless (as if we are robots following programming)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>NOT MINDFUL = MINDLESS</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Mindless = stuck in the level of our programming.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If we had perfect parents, following our unconscious programming will work: otherwise, we’d better “wake up”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three: Connect to real Learning</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Learning is noticing a difference that makes a difference</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Brain plasticity is real, and open to all</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Almost all other uses of “thinking” are a diversion from real life</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Four: Be peaceful / “Don’t Believe your Thinking” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The truth will set us free to return to Peace</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Our thoughts/ beliefs/ opinions are usually not true</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I’m imperfect / you’re imperfect/ that’s perfect/</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>I’M AN ASS, YOU’RE AN ASS, LET’S HAVE A LAUGH</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Five: Connect to the (Divine) Life (Source) Energy</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Seven: Be Happy</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Undo “unhappiness” and what is left? Happiness </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We are naturally happy</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Eight: “ Save the Earth” and help Heal Humanity</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Have a Huge/ Big Purpose to your Life</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>That is done from joy and freedom</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>No fear, guilt or anger</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Joyous revolutionaries, with great sex every day</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>4. Be Peaceful/ The truth will set us free/</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>5. Reach for and connect with the (Divine) Life Energy/</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write Goals from “the energy” and your Real Self</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>7. Be Happy (full time, even “bad times”)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>8. “Save the World” / Have a Huge Purpose</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: large;">Principle One: Gratitude</span><br />
The mind/ brain/ heart can be in gratitude or fear/ but not both</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Find Gratitude in Your Heart (Love)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b> and in your Body (Lust) </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>and in your Awareness of the Miracle of Life (Enlightenment)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Grateful for Carol and I.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">On June 20, 2015, I walked down the street on which I lived, to meet a woman I knew and admired and liked, but with whom I thought I had no “romantic” expectations. We were going to meet for a lunch and “study” session. I was writing a book on radical listening. She was smart and kind and I wanted her input. Her name was Carol Williams then.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s Carol Elms now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the glories of my life on that day when I walked unexpectedly into a new and wonderful life was my practice of Gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I had a gratitude journal, in which I was writing three to five times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Writing gratitudes does many things for you, and was doing them for me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It focuses you on what you love about and appreciate about life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">By doing so, it keeps your attention on what you WANT in life, not on the complaints and Don’t Wants that so many lose their attention in. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude has been proven to help shift our brains. These wonderful brains of ours have been shown scientifically to be able to be in either gratitude or in fear.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But not both.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So when I walked a half a block down to the house that is now Carol and my house, I wasn’t in fear.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was focused on what I love and like and was grateful in life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Carol, for her part, a a vigorous prayer life. She wanted to discover the deep and real parts of Christianity, and communing several times a day about her deepest wishes and her thankfulness and gratitude was a big part of her life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She was sixty-six. I was seventy. We both had plenty of reasons to believe that chances of finding a life partner were pretty slim. If not impossible. So, neither of us were counting on, nor even expecting a miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were going to have lunch together and talk about my book.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We weren’t counting on a miracle, but gratitude had us both ready and able to let it unfold.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The one and a half hour lunch meeting turned into a twelve hour “non-date,” at the end of which, I just barely dragged myself away (and she just barely let me) and we were pretty darn sure we’d meet the love mate that we’d almost, but not quite, feared wasn’t out there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we had our secret fuel: we were in gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So fear didn’t win.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The miracle did.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now it’s your turn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: large;">Gratitude and Love</span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One reason I am writing this book is out of gratitude for my teachers, and for my Life, and for the Deep/ Holy Spirit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I have had wondrous joys and learnings in my life and would love you to have access to the same.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love comes from the heart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I love the idea and the FEELING of writing this book for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I love the miracle of several years ago walking down the street on which I lived and meeting a woman who would, within a year, become my life, even though I was seventy at the time and she was sixty-eight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I am deeply grateful I was engaged in “energy” practices and involved in being deeply present, and was writing a book, the precursor to this one, in which there was a communications game that gave Carol and I a chance to get to know each other better and better and better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You will be given “energy practices” later, and an access to a somewhat amazing source of this energy, and you will be given, as principle #2, the incentive to base your life around being in the present moment, and you will be given, again as part of principle #2, a similar communications game, based on listening and speaking from the present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For now though, let’s play our first Awakening Game.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for. Feel your heart as you say these five.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Really, do it now. This is not a book to “just read” and imagine “doing it” later.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Say aloud five things you are grateful for, and be as present to your body and your voice and your heart as you can be while you do so.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a book for those who feel the stirring to live an awakened life. The word “Enlightenment” is in the title, and I’m assuming that this word calls to something in you that deeply values not only being in the magic of the present moment, but has at least tasted what a life that was lived from our Real Self, rather than our conditioned self, would be like.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude is an avenue to our real selves.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Brain research has shown that we can be either grateful or afraid, but not both.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With fear we almost always are slave to our conditioning, which, if you had parents anywhere as lousy as mine, isn’t very good news.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With gratitude we can be grateful even for those lousy parents, and as the book progresses, forgiveness and it’s fundamental component (not believing our thinking) will be part of the principles to set us free for a life a great happiness, sexiness, love and purpose.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude helps your heart remember one of the key elements of this life: the miracle that we are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This return to gratitude cannot be done too much. When the wheels of fate, and the Gods of Love, and the energy of the Universe conspired for Carol and I to fall in love, two old farts who had almost given up on the possibility of finding someone as wonderful as we were, and willing to put up with and adore us in spite of the less perfect side, a huge part of my life was the writing of gratitudes at least four times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, let’s get another sense, our arms and our handwriting, involved in gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Love and Gratitude Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write down at least four things you are grateful for.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel again your heart area as you write.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If you have a journal you can start as your daily gratitude journal start in there. If you only have a spare piece of paper or the back of scrap mail, start there.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>But now, like this now, right now, write now, write four gratitudes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Sense your hand as you write.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Follow your breathing as you write.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Have a smile on your face as you write.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Write now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How did that go?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is going to be part of how you live your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or, a good time to quit the book. If you wish to read and not do, then this won’t work for you: to change we actually have to do things.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Although, sometimes the “doing” things, will be to “Do Nothing” as we take a walk and sense our arms and legs, or to sit in silence and find the awareness at our center. Or find four minutes every hour to “be still and know I am God.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All of which are a switch out of the same old same old.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you aren’t at least a little discontent with what happens when your conditioned self runs your life, this book is totally not for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And if you are slightly to hugely discontent, and willing to dream of a fantastic future for yourself, as a spiritual being, as a lover, as a human being living and loving and learning in a body, as a person who is meant to make a HUGE difference on this planet, then this is a good book to hang out in for half an hour a day or so.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For how many days?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Until you are done.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then, probably, go back to the beginning and do it again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Too much trouble?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For sex every day?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For forgiving the annoying/ wonderful partner and your parents and yourself?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For almost full time happiness?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You decide.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This really is a book for those who want to transform, to become the even more amazing people they want to be.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of the principles will be to have big goals and to write them down, and before we can do that, we need to have ourselves rooted in the present and in gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: large;">Gratitude and Lust:</span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The book title is with Lust, So you have been clued in: this enlightenment is not above the world, not above the sensual pleasures of normal life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’m even hoping that you are wanting a healthier sex life, which includes at least three things:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex fairly often, like daily or more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex as a mediation, so it’s not the usual thrashing around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex as variety, with lots of time for “non-reciprocal” sex, so each of you has plenty of chance to surrender and receive without the usual conditioned program about performance.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One of my huge gratitudes is not only did the love of my life move into town half a block away, not only did we meet and talk in the present and talk and listen and talk and listen, and share Bible verses and deep philosophy and fall in love, but that as “old timers” we are together both having the best sex of our lives, better than we did in our twenties and thirties.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So the enlightenment of this book is a sexy, sensuous kind.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is kind of obvious, and many, many of us life a life where this is forgotten: we live in a body.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have feet and legs and toes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have arms and hands and fingers.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fingers can touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can hold hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have genitals. They can touch.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We can touch genitals with fingers, with tongues, with mouths.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Lots of possibilities.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And where shall we start gratitude and lust.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude and Lust Game #1: Stand up.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Put your arms above your head.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>If possible stand outside or near a window with a view of outside.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Wiggle your arms around.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Jump up and down and side to side a bit.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel ALL of your fingers.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your breathing.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel ALL of your toes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Keep smiling.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do this for a little longer than seems “sensible.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel the gratitude/ “kick”/ joy of being alive.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Smile even more if you wish.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not write now, but right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I know, I know, it’s so much easier to just read and imagine doing this later, to put this in the “get around to-it” bin.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And don’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Wiggle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sense all toes and all fingers and smile and know you are in a body and alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a big deal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Can you feel gratitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For being alive in a body?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For all of your fingers?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For all of your toes?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For the fun of wiggling around?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Gratitude and Lust Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stroke your right hand with your left.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel the left hand and how it is touching your other hand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then switch attention, feel the right hand and how it is being touched.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Try some variation: faster/ slower</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And longer/ shorter</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And harder/ softer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel gratitude from the point of view of the stroking/ caressing/ exploring hand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel gratitude from the point of view of the receiving and being stroked/ caressed/ explored hand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Isn’t it great to touch and be in a body?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This will come in handy later with a certain very, very gentle stroking of the clitoris (for those in a relationship with a woman), this variation of softer/ firmer and the variation of longer and shorter and the variation of faster and slower.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Really.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand and do it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Stand and breath and smile and do it.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do this again, but switching teams.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The right hand caresses/ explores and the left hand receives.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Very much enjoy this as one gives and one has the pleasure of simply receiving.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Again, feel gratitude in the giving hand and gratitude in the receiving hand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Let the variation be part of both hand’s fun and pleasure and gratitude.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b></b></span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What does this have to do with gratitude?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">People love to be touched.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not everyone has a partner. Or a partner who wants to “play” or has time to play. (If they don’t this could be an interesting conversation, but maybe first get more practice in learning to listen from the present.) BUT IF YOU DO HAVE A PARTNER THAT WILL “PLAY,” LET’S CARESS ANOTHER PERSON’S HAND.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE SENSE OF TOUCH. AND FOR THIS PERSON’S WILLINGNESS TO BE OUR TOUCH PARTNER</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, if you do have a partner, then go ahead and play the next game.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Lust and Gratitude Game #3</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One partner present one hand to be the receiver.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The other partner use both hands to caress and stroke and explore this hand.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Use the variations listed above and more.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Faster/ slower.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Firmer/ softer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Longer/ shorter.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>And more.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be grateful to receive.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be grateful to give.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Set a timer.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Do this for three minutes.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Then switch.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel again, from the other side, the gratitude of giving and the gratitude of getting.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And why should you listen to me?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t listen to me, as in believe me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Listen like this: “I wonder what will happen if I try these games out?”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Give yourself the gift of exploration.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which will lead to an expansion of who and how you are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And in life we really only have two choices: to expand, or to contract.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>(Have you been doing the exercises? All along, if you have been reading them and not doing, look carefully at yourself as someone “too important”— which means too trapped into their head and the verbal world— to actually ACT in the world and a new and interesting way.)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b><span style="font-size: large;">Enlightenment and Gratitude</span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is bizarrely obvious and it’s the most missed part of human existence as far as I can tell.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are in the miracle called life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are not a rock, not a car, not a horse, not a house, not a dog.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are a human being.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment and Gratitude Game #1:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Realize that you are alive.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel the wonder of that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is either immediately obvious or not.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Some of those reading may be in some of mess. Splitting with their mate. Life not making sense. Stuck in some addiction and whatnot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The list goes on and on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And guess what?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Gratitude is the way out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go back to writing and saying gratitudes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go back to wiggling around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try this if straight ahead gratitude for your existence doesn’t grab you:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment and Gratitude Game #2:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Go outside.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Look at the sky or a tree or a hill or a cloud or a squirrel or a bird, or a leaf or a rock.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Anything that makes you happy.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel that you can be aware of that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel yourself as an awareness.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel this awareness AS YOU.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enjoy that.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel gratitude for the awareness you are.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This sounds like I may be pushing something on you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I am.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Except, like everything in this book, it’s about your discovery, not your belief.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the only thing we really have: OUR EXPERIENCE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">EVERYTHING ELSE IS PAST OR FUTURE OR COMMENTARY.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To delight in our experience in the present moment we need to come there, which brings us to our second principle, the good old fashioned: Wake Up to Now principle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">(And, there are goals, and purpose and big dreams, but all along, if we aren’t present it doesn’t matter how grand the goals are, we are lost to being alive in the now. Which is when we are alive.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment and Gratitude Game #3:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Experience your experience right now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This now.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Notice it changing and changing and changing.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>So what?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Be present to your present.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel gratitude for that ability, that gift, that miracle.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So many of us have great gaps in our days, or our weeks, or even our years, when we don’t really know we are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">Notice what happens for you when you return to this central truth of life: WE ARE ALIVE, RIGHT NOW.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>The trouble with addictions </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>They work</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s the hard thing: addictions work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Many people are trapped in these states :</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feeling unloved</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feeling unworthy</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Anxious</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Afraid</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Confused</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Angry</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Angry and guilty about their anger</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Angry at themselves</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Disappointed in themselves</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Basically: unhappy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All these pretty much sucked. And all can be “un-done” (not cured, they are actually states we “do” to ourselves. The way out is to “un-do” our doing. All unhappiness is an inside job.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then addictions come along, and dammed if they don’t seem to cover up and “as if” erase the above states and feelings.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They can be addictions that are pretty widely recognized as addiction: heroin, cocaine, speed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They can be addictions that work pretty well to move people through the “normal” (and miserable) world: over-work, excessive exercise.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They can be addictions that are so widely accepted as to be relatively unseen: sugar, white carbs. Some would say grains. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Alcohol has a gigantic organization devoted to coming free from addiction and is widely served at all social events.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Pot is legalized here and there and can cause people to relax and deal with harsh pain, and can enable people to drift through their lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then sex: with a partner, as part of love and mindfulness and great connection, you can hardly have too much sex, if you can also do your work and eat between all the bliss. With unloved partners, or randomly, or out of loneliness, or with many partners, basically all the usual mindless forms of sex, doing a lot of this type is surely an addiction.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And they all work:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’re lonely or afraid or confused and you get stoned or eat a ton of ice cream or get drunk or screw a lot or run ten miles and the “problem” seems to go away.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so the solution, as I see it, isn’t to fight the addiction, though laying off is kind of useful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The solution is to deal with our loneliness or fear or confusion or feeling inadequate and get basically happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Happy and present people are high on life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I know, I know, most people who say that make you want to puke, and it is the actually state of happy children and happy animals and even happy adults.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How to get high on life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is not that what this book is about?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Love gets you high and connected and moves us into the profoundest meanings of why we are alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Lust as mindful sex allow our bliss to come from connection, and we get some exercise to boot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Enlightenment is being present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is about being happy full time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is about “saving the Earth”/ being of service to a bigger cause.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So enjoy the book.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a minor story about myself and an addiction: I was smoking pot a lot, like several times a day, in my early twenties.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was before “just say no” and all the moral anti-drug things.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But I did realize that I seemed to be in a rut.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, as a curiosity goal, I decided to see what happened if I quit for two weeks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What happened was I realized, at first almost with desperation, that every time I got bored, I wanted pot. (I didn’t mention the Internet as an addiction: this can be the modern drug of choice to avoid “boredom,” which I’m discovering is a code word for fear of being present). Boredom and I craved pot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I didn’t smoke, but hung out with the boredom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And got more and more annoyed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I did not want a crutch to deal with my boredom. I figured that that was my job.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So I quit, but for a few returns. I don’t think pot is evil.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I do think it’s a crutch. For me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And people these days could just as easily give up Facebook for two weeks and see what happens.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Anyway: happy life with or without addictions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The wise place to look to me seems to be the hole that addictions are filling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then “un-do” however you are “doing” that hole to yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Cheers</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;"><b>Heartbreak / Turnaround/ Freedom</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were supposedly in love, and the main thing we did was argue and fight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We’ll call her Sally Ann, and I’d met her seven years earlier, when I was building a fence in her landlord’s backyard. We met in Berkeley, fell in love, visualized a paradise cottage in the country, and found one on the outskirts of Sonoma the town, in Sonoma the country, in California the state.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heaven for awhile.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We made our own paradise garden. We ate outside almost every meal we were together. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We raised tomatoes and herbs to sell at the farmer’s market.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We fought.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we fought. And we fought.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s a simple couples metric: if F, as in fighting, is more often than F, as in lovemaking, you are in trouble. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We were in trouble. And then Sally Ann solved that. She ran off with Joe. With whom F vs F was just wonderful, thank you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And how did I take this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Did I find refuge in the present? No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Did I soar on the wings of liberation and non-attachment? No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I did the usual.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heartbreak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Bitterness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feeling the victim, betrayed, sad, depressed, worried, angry at Joe and Sally Ann.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And angry at myself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The obvious evidence: my side of the arguing had been not so wonderful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Heartbreak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Victimhood.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Poor me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating the “bad” other person.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating the “bad/ failure” me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hating life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ve felt it, sometime?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are feeling it still now? If so, I’m sorry. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering sucks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And a lot of divorces and breakups are swamped in these shitty feelings, and a lot of people still carry them around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not pretty.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which sucks. If a relationship done right can be one of the most wonderful, blissful and quickest paths toward spiritual advancement, the opposite is something most of us have suffered: a relationship gone wrong can be the depths of hell on Earth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And there are ways out of it. I’ll offer one way, starting right now, with the breakthrough I discovered way back in 1999.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The discovery was to do the “turn around.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The Turn Around, the turn around, the turn around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This “turn around” is a subset of something called “the work of Byron Katie.” </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who is Byron Katie? Very short version: She’s a woman who came to enlightenment via the path of alcoholism, obesity, chain smoking, yelling at her family and deep depression. She wasn’t trying for enlightenment. She was hating her life and hating her suffering and wanted it to end.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And it did. Her suffering ended. Not her life, A brand new amazingly real and useful life began.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She “woke up” one day, in 1986, in a halfway house in the dusty backwater desert town of Barstow, California. She was laying on the floor because she felt unworthy of a bed. A cockroach walked across her leg. All her suffering vanished when she “woke up” to the world just as it was, the world without ANY of her judgments about the world. No judgments meant no suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She was free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Life was mainly laughter and delight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Occasionally an old thought would cause her delight to tumble, which hurt. And, when she looked out at normal humanity, she saw everyone outside of her continuing to suffering from their own thoughts beliefs and judgments.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, she invented a method to “undo” the thoughts / beliefs/ judgments that are at the root of almost all suffering.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which is to say, Byron Katie discovered a path out of all emotional suffering. Big claim. It is. One of my offerings beyond this talk is a three hour intensive to release all the resentments and unforgiven places in your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s expensive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s a money back guarantee.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s entirely of the “work” of Byron Katie, which is work, but the kind of “work” where three hours can equal a couple of years of therapy. And you can do it for free, on your own at http://thework.com.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And right now, you don’t need the website or any intensive because I’m going to show you how I got out of the hell of heartbreak and blame and victimhood and Sally Ann hatred and myself hatred.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, there I was, with Sally Ann off having a great F to F ratio with Joe, and poor bitter me all alone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Time to do the work. The work of Byron Katie.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’d met Byron Katie a number of times in Marin, an easy drive from Sonoma, and had been suffering so deeply, I was all in to try her method. You know those periods: you are finally so fed up with suffering that you are actually ready to do something besides the same old stuff that hasn’t worked before.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So… I dove into the work of Byron Katie. Every day. More than one time a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One part of her method, her “work,” had a spectacular liberation for me in the suffering I was creating inside myself and blaming on Sally Ann and her running off with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the “turn around” part of the Byron Katie work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s bizarrely simple:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You take your judgment, and you write it down:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“You are mean.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you reverse it. “I am mean.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“You are inconsiderate.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turn around… “I am inconsiderate.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Maybe not full time, but the one we feel is the enemy isn’t full time bad either.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The other way the turn around works is in “should” judgments we love to hound the world with.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like this…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should listen to be more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And you reverse the sentence: “I should listen to so and so more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should appreciate me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turns around…. “I should appreciate so and so more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Beliefs that we have been torturing ourselves with for years are highly fertile fields for the turn around:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“My father shouldn’t have criticized me so much.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And even if he started it, even if he was “worse,” the turn around has tons of wisdom, “I shouldn’t have criticized my father so much for criticizing me.” More on this later, as a way out of years and years of feeling bad about my wonderful and imperfect dad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now, though, I’m going to show you how I rescued myself from my suffering with Sally Ann, and then show you how you can begin to transform your own life with this “turn around.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With Sally Ann, I had one of the great breakthroughs of my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And this breakthrough came by turning around this belief, that when I believed it was wracking my heart and soul apart. The belief was one of those should ones:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"> “Sally Ann should love me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The turn around seemed true enough at an intellectual level: “I should love Sally Ann more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I kind of nodded my head, yes, yes,</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then, for some reason I let this sink down, and a heart-rooted lightening bolt went off.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I had loved Sally Ann. A lot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Part of me still did.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And when I went to that part, the whole world opened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being happy she was with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She wanted to be with Joe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Joe made her happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her more meant waking up to this reality: I loved that she was happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being happy that she was living the life she wanted to live.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant being honestly and heart fully happy for her that she was free of our fighting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Loving her meant: loving her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This set me free.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This opened my heart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This allowed me to beam with happiness when I thought about her and Joe. I could be happy for her even when I saw her and Joe happily wandering the small town together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was freedom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was, in a strange way, enlightenment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….. could you sweet audience, use something like this to transform your life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And will I show you a way to do this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Life on Earth can be at its most painful when love goes awry.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Life on Earth can be at its most heavenly when love returns to being real love.</b> This I want for you: More heaven. Less hell. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What else do I want for you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Some of the reasons I’m writing this book. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Less pain.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>More sizzle, sex and delight.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Saving the world.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Awakened friends.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here are three reasons I’m writing this book, to spare, to share, to save.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One: SPARE YOU MY SUFFERING</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Two: SHARE MY DISCOVERIES</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three: SAVE THE WORLD WITH HAPPY/ AWAKENED COUPLES. LOTS OF THEM…. 10,000.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Well, maybe there’s four. Because it can be lonely being in the world of now, and everyone else is running in their predetermined loops. And people who are present can show up as authentic and creative. And fun.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Four: BUILD A COMMUNITY OF HAPPY AND AWAKENED FRIENDS.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And I could maybe go to five. Let’s not.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s have four reasons. Like this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hers was: “Be still and know I’m God.” This got me very excited about a woman who wanted to to find the peace and awareness at the center of life, when we shut down all the words.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Mine was: “Love your enemies.” Sounds great. I sort of pulled it off in the Sally Ann case. And over and over and over, love requires the turn around, and even more work than that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The more I can give you work to go to when love gets messy, the more you might be able to spare yourself love’s pains.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">a. <b>Sex</b> one, two, three times a day (The upside down of figuring the Love part of Love Lust and Enlightenment was “handled,” has been the discovery that a couple of supposedly “old” farts, of 72 and 68 (in 2017) can be having the best sex of their lives. )<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">b. A way of <b>forgiveness</b> that is more fun than duty (that old old adage from the Bible: “Love your enemies.” Hard, and you’ve had a hint of it with the turn around. There’s more. It’s work, and it’s wonderful work. I want you to have this, if you wish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">c. A “<b>meditation</b>” that can be <b>full time</b>, and makes life much more alive (From Caltech and Stanford to mindfulness carpenter. What prompted this delightful shift?)<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>d. A clarity on what “learning” is</b> that can change ANY stuck point (Look around you. How many two legged chairs do you see?)<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">e. A clarity on happiness that can set you free to be what you want to be…. come on, admit it…. happy full time (which can mean being happy while you are angry, or sad, for awhile, until the happiness wins because…. you wake up to the miracle) ((Still working on this, even with sex three times a day. Even with the glory of now when I remember to be now. Happiness is who we are until we forget. I’d love you to at least get better at happiness. And better. And better.)<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">f. A clarity on <b>the central miracle of life</b>…. You are alive. Right now. This fucking moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">With the sub-reason, selfish in the best way: to have a bunch of partners in living in the now, in seeing the world freshly every day, every moment. A batch of people who understand the vast difference between a life in the now, and the usual life of playing out our programming.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To help with these I’ll be offering Love Challenges, and Lust Challenges and Enlightenment Challenges. Take them or not. If you do, bless you, your life may transform in the wonderful ways that your heart really wants.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As Einstein said: “Show me someone who has never made a mistake and I will show you someone who has never learned anything.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, now it’s time for the First Challenge of the book.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The First LOVE Challenge: Awakened Love as the Turn Around</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s your love challenge. Your chance to learn from my mistake. We’ll take what I did the liberate myself from the pain I was causing myself via Sally Ann’s departure. And expand it to create a chance for your love to heal, deepen and expand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s a little brutal, but it works. And after the initial annoyance of realizing the mess of our own hearts, it can bring a great sense of humor.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And relief.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And freedom.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And….love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s the exercise….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">TURN AROUND CHALLENGE, PART ONE:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write down a “should” or “shouldn’t” statement about your mate. No mate? Write one about your ex-mate, or a parent.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Make it short.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should love me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so shouldn’t interrupt.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so should listen better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“So and so shouldn’t be so angry.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Look at the judgment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the burn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel how “wronged” you are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now, stand up, wiggle a bit and then sit down and write the turn around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s take a “should” we all love and I’ll model it with Carol, the “should” of “You should listen to me more.” We can always fall into demanding that our loved ones listen better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Step one: I write it down.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Carol should listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Okay you…..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write a should or a shouldn’t.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WRITE YOUR SHOULD/ SHOULDN’T JUDGMENT RIGHT HERE…..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>One : First turn</b> around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just switch the people.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Carol should listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Switching the people: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“I should listen to Carol better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ah. Let me ponder that. Let me realize the truth of that. Lots and lots of truth there. I can come up with many examples of the truth of that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your turn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Switch the medicine around. Write the sentence with you as the one who needs to change. Or COULD change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here…. write it..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WRITE THE TURNED AROUND SENTENCE HERE.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And ponder, and even write about the truth of what happens when you switch the people around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stand up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take a deep breath.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sit again, and now to the second part of turning around the “should.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two: Second turn around.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Point the finger at your inner self as a turn around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like this. “Carol should listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turning it around to the inner me. “I should listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I can ponder the wisdom of that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your turn:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WRITE THE TURN AROUND WHERE YOU ARE THE ONE WHO SHOULD BE TREATING YOURSELF BETTER.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You should appreciate me more >>>>> I should appreciate me more. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You should respect me more >>>>> I should respect me more)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WRITE YOUR INNER VERSION HERE:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ponder that a bit. When you’ve seen the truth of that, wiggle a bit, and then….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three: And now the third turn around. The seeing the BIG picture turn around.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is even “harder.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Oh, well.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a book for those who want transformation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Is that you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If so, read and do the work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the third one, “should" becomes “shouldn’t” and vice-versa.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Like this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Carol should listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Carol shouldn’t listen to me better.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why? Because in this turn around I’m looking for all the examples of how I’m full of shit with my complaining.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I am looking for all the ways that she DOES LISTEN TO ME, ALREADY.<br />
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">REALLY?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">YES.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your turn:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WRITE THE THIRD TURN AROUND AND FIND THE WAYS THAT THE MATE OR EX-MATE DOES ALREADY DO WHAT YOU ARE COMPLAINING THEY DON’T.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Even if you can only find a little, this little bit will be hugely useful in helping to break the chains of righteousness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why three different turns arounds?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One, because each one is invaluable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Two, because it’s the version I’ve seen most lately with Byron Katie helping people transform.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three, because it fits with this old adage: One finger pointing out means three pointing back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I was practicing presenting this with a friend I’ve only met over the phone. She’d been in the Israeli army. As part of getting along with the everyone who has to be in the Army, they give training in the old adage: “If you have one finger pointing out in accusation, there are three fingers pointing back at you.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do this now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Point one finger out, with the usual hand shape. Notice the three fingers pointing back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">DO IT. POINT THE DARN FINGER OUT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">FEEL/ SEE/ NOTICE/ NEVER FORGET: THREE FINGERS POINTING BACK.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">REALLY…. DO IT!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the beginning of love that can heal with truth and humor. You start to see that all their “sins” are your sin, too.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As someone humorous and wise said: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“I’m imperfect and you’re imperfect and that’s perfect.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“I’m imperfect and you’re imperfect and that’s perfect.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A brief review of the Sally Ann mistake with all three turn arounds:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Sally Ann should love me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One: “Sally Ann should love me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turns around to….<b>“I should love Sally Ann more.”</b> </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’ve already shared how this changed and liberated my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Two: “I should love Sally Ann more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turn around to: <b>“I should love myself more.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ah, cut out the middleman and stop whining for love from her. How can I love myself more?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Three: “Sally Ann should love me more.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>“Sally Ann shouldn’t love me more.”</b> She already loved me. Just because she went off with Joe didn’t mean she didn’t love me. It meant she didn’t want to live and fight with me anymore.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In fact, she set us both free of our fighting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She set herself free to be happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She set me free to learn what real love was. Real love vs clinging and complaining and “it’s all about me” love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which…. isn’t love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, it turned out, as it almost always does, she set me free to find someone better. For me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And in this new finding, the next wonderful girlfriend of my life, we have an example of the turn around in it’s “the flaw is in me as well as you form.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Huh?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The love challenge as turn around, part two:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Take only one word that is “wrong” with the other. </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then find three ways that that finger points back to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write one BAD BAD (one word) FAULT OF YOUR BELOVED. OR YOUR EX.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Mean.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Moody.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then, the brutal/ humorous part to it:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find three ways that YOU TOO are selfish. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or mean.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Or moody.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go ahead. Write the word down. Three times. Each time, follow it with an arrow that says, ME, TOO. And jot a note on where and how the “me, too,” is (dang) true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And after you do that…. a story.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A friendly story about “Selfish.”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Before Carol and I struck gold in 2015, and after I was free of the pain and slavery and heartbreak of hating Sally Ann for running off with Joe, I found a wonderful woman, Celeste, we’ll call her. A beautiful yoga teacher and deeply spiritual being with whom I was not destined to spend the rest of my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we had a great eight years. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In Sonoma.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Including five months during which we knew and publicly proclaimed that we were non-aggressively parting ways.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Which is a pathway I recommend to all: part in love and friendship if you are not meant to be together forever. We weren’t in conflict as much as needing and recognizing the need in ourselves and each other for different paths for our lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But that’s for later. For now, listen to the learning I had when I did the turn around about “selfish”……</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And at the beginning of our the relationship between Celeste and me, Celeste’s feisty teenage daughter, Lara, got very angry with her mother for choosing to start living with me. She moved out in a snit and went to live with her father.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She was short and nasty with her mother on the phone. A teenage girl. A pain in the ass. Which is to say, normal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And I didn’t take it as normal. I was Mr. Righteous. I knew what was wrong with her. She was “selfish.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I huffed and puffed and complained and felt righteous and angry and bad about this and then….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then the good old turn around kicked me in the butt and brought to me a sense of humor. And friendship, it turned out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I realized that my major beef with her “selfish” behavior, was that it shook up Celeste and made her less delightful to be with. So it was my selfishness that wanted Lara to be different and less difficult. So her mother would be more fun for ME!</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It wasn’t about Lara, it was about me. The “selfish” daughter “should” calm down, so I, in MY selfishness, could have a better time with Celeste.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When I realized this, it wasn’t a light bulb of love going off, the way it had with Sally Ann, but a light bulb of honesty and the blessed relief of humor. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The freedom of real realization. Realization about myself, not Lara realization: She’s selfish. I’m selfish. We’re the same.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One day she was visiting her Mom and I, and I told her this, how I’d realized my big beef about her being selfish was really about my being selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">She seemed to love this honesty from an adult.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And when I left to go somewhere, she said to me, in great good humor, “Good-bye, selfish Chris.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And we had become friends, which we were for quite awhile, both when her Mom and I were together and a bit after Celeste and I amicably parted ways.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, this is the second half of your first love challenge.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write down some single word “flaw” of your mate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Selfish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Grumpy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Mean.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Negligent.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">DO IT AGAIN. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">NOW.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">ONE WORD THAT YOU LOVE TO PIN ON YOUR MATE. OR EX-MATE. WRITE IT DOWN.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And simply follow that with three fingers pointing back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find three ways that you are selfish. Or grumpy. Or mean. Or negligent. OR WHATEVER ELSE YOUR WORD IS.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s always true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">It’s annoying and then can lead to the freedom of “<b>I’m imperfect and you’re imperfect and that’s perfect.” </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be honest.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be aware.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be honest.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Have a sense of humor. You might even chuckle or laugh at yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Welcome to the human race.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be happy to see that “I’m imperfect and you’re imperfect and that’s perfect.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Be happy to be in the same mess that the judged one is in.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the liberation of all this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel how this opens your heart and mind back to being able to love.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s your first love challenge. Two parts:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Turn around a should phrase three ways:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Change to people.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Bring it back to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">See the possibilities of it isn’t even true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take one word and turn it around to see three ways you are the same selfish or mean or inconsiderate person that you are ranting/ complaining/ twisted about.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>My promise in the first 50 pages of this book:</b></span></div>
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<b>A Love Challenge in two parts</b></div>
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<b>A Lust Challenge in two parts</b></div>
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<b>an Enlightenment Challenge in two parts</b></div>
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<b>plus</b></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Two core life questions.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>plus</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A concrete and immediate definition of “Learning”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a book for me to share and spare and save, as I’ve said.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND TO MAKE SURE THIS ISN’T ONE OF THOSE BOOKS YOU NEED TO WADE THROUGH HUNDREDS OF PAGES TO FIND SOMETHING TO CHANGE AND “WAKE UP” YOUR LIFE </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I promise you these seven offerings in the first fifty (50) pages. Take one. Take them all. You will change, if you are open for that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>3</b> (three) life shifting <b>Challenges</b>, sometimes in two parts, like the Love Challenge. Alongside the Love Challenge will be a Lust Challenge and an Enlightenment Challenge.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>2</b> (two) ass-kicking, transformational <b>Questions</b>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>1</b> (one) ass-kicking, transformational <b>Definition</b>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let’s set up the first ass-kicking, life changing question with one of the wittiest quotes of one of the wittiest people who ever lived: Oscar Wilde.</span></div>
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The Wall Paper Stays…… Question #1</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What were Oscar Wilde’s last words?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">“Either that wallpaper goes, or I do.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is fun. This is brilliant and…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is an ass kicker.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What are your last words going to be?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Oh, fuck, he’s not really asking that, is he?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes I am:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What are your last words going to be?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>This is one of life’s most important questions:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>WHAT ARE MY LAST WORDS GOING TO BE?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You do know there will be a last breath, don’t you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is not information that we like to have in our awareness. And life on this Earth ends. Sooner or later. For us all. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Damn.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Who wants to think about that? Anyone who wants a deeply meaningful life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you want a deeply meaningful life?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Wait. Stand. Go to a window. Look out at the sky or clouds or nature. Take a deep breath. Feel your toes. Feel your heart. See nature.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now come back to the book. Stay standing or not: And, now, four ways, we are going to ask Question #1: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What do you want your last words to be?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">First, the head.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ask your thinking mind: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>HEAD: what do you want your last words to be?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t rush.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Wait for an answer to come.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What is it?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You can do this many, many times, and this, your first stab has a certain answer, or flavor of an answer, or hint of an answer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When you ask your head, what do you want your last words to be, what is your answer?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write, scribble, doodle something.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Next layer, the <b>heart</b>. Time to shift into the present. Stand or sit. Feel yourself alive and your heart beating as a deep and absolutely necessary part of this being alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go more deeply into noticing that you are breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sense your heart in the middle of the chest, in the middle of your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathe a little more deeply, into your chest and your belly. Let your ribs expand and contract as you breathe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Feel your heart beating in the middle of this.</b> </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel your emotional layer. Feel the you that feels into life, at a slower and deeper, and perhaps older layer than thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ask your heart:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>HEART: What do you want your last words to be?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Write, scribble, doodle something…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Smile a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Stand up, if you aren’t already standing, and wiggle around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Walk a bit, if even in small circles.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathe a little more fully, as if into your whole body. Feel as sensation what it’s like to be aware of all your toes and all your fingers. Wiggle and play with them a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Breathe as if into your entire arms and entire legs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Dance just a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Raise up your arms over your head and do something fun and rhythmical. Breathe as you dance around.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you can move either outside, or to a place where you can see outside, this will be even better, so you can feel your body and your living self for what it is: a part, a real and living and vital and amazing part, of nature.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And, now, feeling as sensation, the you that is living, right now, in your body: ask your body: </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>BODY: What do you want your last words to be?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And now, walk a bit more and wiggle some more, and if you are outside, maybe go to another area, or if inside, to to another area.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you have an idea of what your “Soul” is, this is what we are going to be asking next.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Maybe, the idea of your “Real Self” makes more sense.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And how you get in touch with this is the work of a life devoted to discovering what is most meaningful in life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So, go as far as you can toward this “Soul” or toward this “Real Self.” Don’t demand any intellectual clarity on what this means. Just wing it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And ask, hey, Real Self, Soul…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>SOUL/ REAL SELF: “What do you want your last words to be?”</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Listen from a quiet place. Listen as if to a whisper from the unknown and invisible world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What do you hear, or feel, or guess?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Think, mull, scribble, doodle, take a walk and investigate this. Don’t continue to the next part of the book until tomorrow.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Enlightenment Challenge:</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Come into the present moment as breathing.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Coming into the present as breathing plus ……”Gurdjieff” meditation</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Layer One:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Follow your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You are alive, right?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No breathing = not alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This will happen to us all, sooner or later, no breathing in the earthly body.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Hence the Oscar Wilde inspired question: What do you want your last words to be?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the meantime, it seems fairly amazing to remember the miracle: YOU ARE ALIVE, RIGHT NOW.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Look around you. The chairs, the walls, the floor, the houses, the streets, the cars. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Look around you: the trees, the air, the soil, the plants, the birds: alive.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">AND MOST IMPORTANT: FEEL YOUR BREATH, IN THIS MOMENT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Let it even be a little deeper.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Into your ribs, filling them out in the front and back and two sides.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the air coming out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And breathe even more a little deeper.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the air coming down into your belly, as you may notice your diaphragm expanding and contracting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t get into the anatomy too much unless you like that hooey. And DO NOTICE the here and now sensation of air filling out your belly and coming down into your lungs, and your belly coming in to help the air expel from your lungs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Smile.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Enjoy this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Layer Two of Enlightenment:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">For many years I was in a renegade system of spiritual development known as the Gurdjieff work. You can still find this around, and sometimes it’s quite vital and often it has stagnated into some very high class rules.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That doesn’t matter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The essence is this is to make everyday life, the more common and full of physical movement (like being a butcher, a baker, a candle stick maker, a weaver, a carpenter, a gardener, a laborer, an auto mechanic) the better. (This is only according to me, and I was only in this work for fifteen years, so don’t believe me necessarily, but SHARE THE FRUITS OF THIS AMAZING SYSTEM OF PAYING ATTENTION IN REAL LIFE.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">George Ivanovich Gurdjieff was born somewhere around January 1866 in a region that mingled Greece and Turkey and Armenia. And died in Paris on October 29, 1949.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">His discovery, from going off on his own to search out the meaning of life from about 14 years old on (we’ll see this again in Moshe Feldenkrais leaving Poland at 14 to walk to Palestine on his own), was that human beings were basically “asleep.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Asleep to the moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Asleep to the miracle of their lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Asleep to their being caught in something like a robot like maze of conditioning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Asleep to being able to see that they were asleep.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In this sleep, people go about terrified of disapproval and slaves to wanting outside validation. Why? There is no real person to live from.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Blah, blah.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You discover this for yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">How.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Set out to be present most of the time. See when you succeed and when you fail. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Here’s the real bitch: look around you and see how almost everyone is asleep most of the time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what was my 15 years in the “Gurdjieff work” like?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A hoot.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">After about four years in a “goody goody” spiritual group” in Berkeley, that had lots of wonderful aspects, but was heavily biased toward solving all problems with more and more meditation, and solving all interpersonal problems by slotting others into an amazing, and semi useful and deeply addictive personality system called the Enneagram, I was set free, along with about 40 others, to do the Gurdjieff meditation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was to sense your arms and legs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And notice the light coming into your eyes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And to notice the sound coming into your ears.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">All day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So a Gurdjieff “meditation” as a group, meant the 40 people coming together on a Sunday for 4 hours of non-talk real work: building decks, sanding floors, building sheds, put on a roof, shingling a house, painting a house, putting in a garden.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And paying attention to.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Arms and legs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Fingers and toes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Light coming in your eyes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sound coming in your ears.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I loved it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’d gone to Caltech (the leaving of which was one of my first realizations of the importance of breaking out of the box society/ family wanted you to live in) and Stanford. ( A step down for my family, and the place where I first began to fall in love with the “now.” That story later.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And had never build decks, or had the thrill and clarity of doing real work in the real world.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Berkeley at the time was chock a block full of therapists and pseudo therapists and people busy letting everyone know what their inner motivations (projection, Dad, Mom, etc, etc).</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To be around carpenters, where we knew if the door worked, or the window fit, or the deck was level, was a relief and a delight.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I build that deck.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We build that addition.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And that was my life for fifteen years. Getting up. Sensing my arms and legs. Adding on sound.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Adding on light.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Going about real work in the day, and all sorts of other things (women were interesting as were studying and movies and dance, and leading my own “Gurdjieff” group.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">So this is your layer two:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Start with breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And on</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sensing both arms and all the fingers you have.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sensing both legs and all the toes that you have.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Realizing that you are, right now, bringing light into your eyes and seeing ….</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Noticing that you are, right now, taking in sound into your ears and brain and hearing…..</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why do that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To answer the second of life’s really really important questions>>>>></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Life’s Really Really Important Questions, #2</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>WHAT SHIFTS WHEN….</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is short. Life is short.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Life is precious.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Most of us live, most of the time, in a trance. Expecting to wake up sometime later when “real life” will begin.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And…</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is not a rehearsal.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Why live in a trance when this very moment we will never ever get back?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a trance busting question, and it’s extremely practical:</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">What shifts for you when you “wake up” from not being present and become present?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">WHAT SHIFTS FOR YOU WHEN YOU “WAKE UP” AND COME INTO THE PRESENT MOMENT WITH YOUR AWARENESS?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Study this more and more.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">You’ll be stunned.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What shifts when you “wake up” out of the everyday “normal” trance and come back into the present.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>The First Lust Challenge</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>We are mammals</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Let’s touch</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Life is happening each day, and no matter how many hours we spend in a car, or on a computer, we are mammals. Our skin needs to touch the skin of other mammals.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Even shaking hands is a start.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If we are European, we might reach forward and touch people as we talk, especially women talking to women.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If we are normal kids we are always getting in trouble, or having fun, bumping into our friends.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And when we have a mate, there is sex.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex is much, much more than PIV.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I stands for “in.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I learned this a couple of years ago, when I was the second oldest person in a group devoted to sexual awakening via putting attention and value on female orgasm.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do you want to hear about that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Maybe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The goal was to have a form of sexual connection that wasn’t “sex” per se. The goal was meditation, in being present in each moment. And not striving for the over lauded climax.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The goal was connection in the moment at the point of greatest pleasure in the human body.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The head of the female clitoris. 8000 pleasure receptors in that little bee bee/ pea/ grain. They very in size.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">They are always packed with pleasure receptors.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In this group, somewhat of a cult, but deeply dedicated to moving men out of stalemate and stalking and porn and masturbation, and committed even more to the stance that women needed a time and place to simply and deeply receive pleasure and attention and being present without having to “put out” or plan the reward later for her partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is the secret of a great sex life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Do I have a great sex life? At 72? With a 68 year old wife? Who until we met never really had the thrill of great sex. And me, pretty sure, that sex would be a pleasant memory after 65 or so?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">We have a great sex life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Several times a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Always some non-reciprocal sex. Sometimes PIV once or twice or three times a day. But always some juicy meditation in the pleasure of life when connecting, in the moment, to the pleasure spots.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the goal: to connect. To allow the other to receive. To be present and not “try” for results. To be thrilled with the pleasure of the moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what is your lust challenge?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sex once a day.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Start the finger with coconut oil gently stroking the clitoris for 15 minutes as a meditation?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Kissing?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Not yet.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">A ten minute naked make out will be the second lust challenge. But for now, I want to give something you could do with a friend. It would have to be a pretty good friend, but still, touch is touch and everyone needs it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Being present is life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Everyone needs that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Touching and being present is what great sex is about. Let’s start from the bottom up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Your feet.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Being touched by your friends hands.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In turns.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">As a meditation on giving. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And receiving.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And being present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice giving attention and pleasure in five minute chunks.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice creating “learning” as part of this pleasure.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Practice noticing and talking about the present while you practice this taking turns touching.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Alright, alright, what is the simple level Lust Challenge?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Simple Level Lust Challenge,</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Spend 20 minutes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">In the first ten minutes, take five minute turns rubbing and caressing each others’ bare feet.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Spend time making sure to play with the toes one at a time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you can move the toes with a slight, gently loving pull that allows you to feel all the way up to their hip (or even their neck, but only by SLOW and GENTLE and PLAYFUL pulling), so much the better.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Five minutes each way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Get used to giving as a meditation, be present to your touch and what you are feeling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Get used to getting as a meditation, be present to your partner’s touch and what is happening in all parts of your body as a result of this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Especially sense your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Especially sense everything from the waist down.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Ten more minutes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take turns again. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And add on speaking your awareness. Each say four or five sensations (not emotions, not thought) you are feeling in the moment. The giver will share their present moment sensations for four or five times. The receiver with share their present moment sensations for four or five times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then trade and go five minutes the other way, again, bouncing back and forth in your verbal sharing of the sensations.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No sex afterwards for at least an hour.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Is sex good for you?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Yes</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you treat sex as a chance to :</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Slow down</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To be present</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To get out of your head</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To create pleasure for your partner</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To discover connection</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To deepen connection</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To invigorate your body</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">To calm your nervous system, while upgrading it at the same time</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then sex is a grand chance for you to be happier and more connected and present.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Did I say happier?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Yes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And will rubbing feet lead to this?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Find out</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>What is LEARNING?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>A Simple Definition that can make a difference, right away</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">When I went off and did all this fun carpentry and landscaping, all this delightful work in the outdoors and the real world, all this meditation and action, there were times I wasn’t as slow and present as I wished to be. Like cutting a hole in the side of a house forty feet up on a ladder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Back going out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Shoulder issues.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Neck issues.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This was the bay area, and it was easy, for someone with my seemingly endless good luck on finding pathways of great potential, to run across the Feldenkrais Method.® This was small and slow and attentive movements, usually laying on the floor in a group of ten people or so, with lots of rests, and lots of delightful variations.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And the result: pain almost always disappeared.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And so I’d go to classes here, classes there and always recommend Feldenkrais® to anyone in pain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then I met Celeste. And was semi-retired and creating a large public garden for education and delight and food (permaculture, another of the amazing systems I found), and usually out of pain, and feeling “pretty good” for my mid-fifties. And somehow, a friend of hers got a postcard invite to a weekend exploration of this method, and couldn’t go. I’d been yakking to Celeste about how great this was, so we decided to give it a try.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I’d expected a nice weekend.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">I hadn’t expected to come out feeling like I was 12 again.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">That’s what happened.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This seemed the anti-aging miracle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">The weekend was also a “sneak preview” for a 4 year, 8 weeks a year training program. I had inherited a small amount of money. This seemed the way to spend the end of my life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sign me up.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And then, sign us up, once I realized that this changed so many things I didn’t want to have to come home and explain to Celeste, who was vastly flexible already, but who could experience even in the first weekend, shifts in her brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And what were these shifts?</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Learning.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Real learning, of a style very much like how we learned to roll over and crawl and sit up and walk as babies. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">By experiment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">By trying this and trying that.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And that’s not learning. You need variation to learn, but you need an awake brain.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">But the awareness can be very small and this small awareness is what sets up new neurological pathways.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">LEARNING IS THE NOTICING OF DIFFERENCES THAT MAKE A DIFFERENCE.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Don’t believe this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Try it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Take a deep breath and sit as comfortably as you can right now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Raise one shoulder just slightly and then raise the other.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Pick one shoulder to improve. If one is in severe pain, don’t pick it. Slight pain, fine.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Start with a closer noticing: one at a time raise both shoulders and note the starting feel in effort and in range.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">GO SLOWLY.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">GO GENTLY. YOU ARE LOOKING FOR AN EASY RANGE WITH NO EFFORT.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now go to the picked shoulder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just raise and lower it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice this difference: the difference between your shoulder blade, going up and down, and your ribs, which stay behind.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Go very slowly. Feel this with your other hand.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And your brain. </span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a huge part of human ability.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rest a bit.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now, hunch over and pull in your stomach and raise and lower this same shoulder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel how this is different. Again slow and gentle.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rest again, and push your belly forward and arch your back.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now raise and lower your shoulder a few gentle slow times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rest and sit straight-isa and look to the left.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Raise and lower slowly and gently and feel the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rest and look to the right.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Raise and lower slowly and gently and feel the difference.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then, one last time, with no arch or rounding of your back, nor looking right or left, and yes, noticing even more clearly the difference between your shoulder blade and your back raise and lower your shoulder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Rest.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Feel the difference in the two shoulders.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Three Meditations</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Awareness (of Awareness)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Attention (arms, legs, eyes, ears)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Connection (one fingertip, coconut oil & the Clitoris)</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Meditation #1: Awareness as Who you Really are</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Is that true?</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;"><b>Find out.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">This is a closed eye meditation at first.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you want to increase love, do this looking at your partner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Sit somewhere more or less upright.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Commit to some increment of five minutes, 5, 10, 15 and so on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Start with your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Become aware of your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then become aware of the awareness that is aware of your breathing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Then stay somewhat quiet inside and see where your attention goes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you have “thoughts,” notice that you notice them with your awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Become aware of the awareness that is aware of thinking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">If you go to emotional feelings, notice that you can notice them with your awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Notice that your awareness is NOT words. It has no opinion or judgment about your emotions. Those judgments and opinions are more thoughts. Become aware of the thoughts and realize that the awareness that is aware of thought has no opinion or judgment about thoughts.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">One way to see this is that being in the “now” is to live in a world without words. Words are always pulled in from out of the now. So an awareness of thoughts, or feeling, or physical sensations, is just that, in the present, an awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No commentary.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No opinion.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">No demand that it shift.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Just awareness.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">Keep hanging out in awareness and see if you can find where it lives.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">See if you can find out anything else that has always been with you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">See if you can find out anything else that is more fundamentally you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-kerning: none;">And enjoy.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-font-kerning: none;">This awareness, free of commentary and words and opinions and judgments, is a great vacation.</span></div>
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