if you are a participant in FeldyForum,
for practitioners and trainees,
you are subject to a lot of people
putting forth their ideas, opinions,
feedbacks, attacks, counter attacks,
apologies, demands for apologies,
self serving nonsense, self serving wisdom,
axe grinding, strutting and posturing,
positioning
and whatnot
oh, well:
what would it be like,
i wonder
if people took a
breath before they wrote each
sentence
no, not just took a breath
but took a breath,
and knew they were breathing,
and what the heck:
since we're feldies:
took a breath, knew we were breathing
and sensed the five lines
say
you aren't a feldie
what does this have to do
with you?
well,
i was talking to a mother
yesterday
who was honest enough to admit
the parent thing is really hard
all i could offer
immediately
was Freud's observation
that parenting is the impossible task,
and my idea
that the only cure
for parenting's difficulties
is to be present
as if in continuous meditation
i gave an example from the
people who work with Thich Nhat Hahn:
when the phone rings,
before picking up:
two conscious breaths.
my idea:
when the kids do one of the
fifty things that
get the chain yanking,
take two conscious breaths
before doing, or saying anything
as per the Feldenkrais
method of learning:
take some time
between idea of acting
and acting
and scan for options
and what does that have to do
with love:
well if love
wasn't going to be the immediate
habitual reaction,
taking a couple of breaths before we act,
might allow
a loving
(i.e. one that is concerned at least as much
with the other as ourselves)
reaction
ah,
breath,
slowing
down,
waking up,
love,
kids,
feldenworld,
learning,
nature,
so much good
stuff
to have in
our lives
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