Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Ways to treat ourselves, our Children, our Mate


Many people, asked what they feel in their bodies, only report what’s missing.
“I’m don’t feel comfortable.”
“I’m not as relaxed as I want to be.”
“My hip is bothering me.”
“My back hurts.”

The last two remarks were a judgment of what wrong.
The question was not how they feel, but what they feel.
An answer could be: “I feel a tightness in my shoulder.” “I feel my breathing is slow and shallow and mainly in my chest.” “My neck feels slightly pinched, more on the left side than the right.”

God forbid they actually report something that feels good. “I like the warm feeling in my fingers.” “My spine feels up and over my pelvis and is playfully balancing my head.” “My muscles of my leg feel warm and full.”

This is our mind in mediocre mode.
Not on the positive.
Not on the real.

This is a good distinction to remember One: when we are talking to our children.
And Two: when we are talking to our mates.
And Three: when we are talking to ourselves.

The child is making a lot of noise.
Command: “Stop making all that racket.” ( Command plus judgment).
Judgment: “That sounds awful.”
Statement of fact: “Your voice is loud and jumping around a lot.”
Request: “Could you be more gentle and sing with your voice.”

Your mate hasn’t given you enough affection, you feel.
Complaint: “You never give me affection.”
Demand: “Be nicer to me.”
Request: “Would you please say five things you like about me.”
Turn Around : “You look great. Can I give you a hug?” ( Giving what you want to get)

Yourself:
Complaint: “You didn’t get enough done today.”
Judgment: “You never get enough done.”
Statement: “You did this and this. You wish you’d also done this.” Or, “I did this and this. I’d like to have gotten this done, too.”
Kinder statement: “I liked that about doing that. I like that about doing this.”
Connecting: “I think I’ll call Joe and ask what he liked today and tell him what I liked.”


That enough.

Monday, April 21, 2014

From Special Needs Blog: Your Child's Brain on Learning

Would you do this for me, please?
Take out your socks, and take out your cell phone, and with your feet, pick up your phone and call a number that you'd like to call.

Does this sound impossible?

It probably is.
Now.

As I say to any adult client who says "I can't do so... and so..."
I say, "Not yet."

You could learn to use your phone with your toes, but it would take learning.
You'd have to learn to move one toe separately from the other.

In your brain, you can see the toes, but in your body, probably, you can't move them separately yet.

This was once true with your fingers.
They moved as one.

And then you learned.
Call it trial and error.
Call it random movements that the brain organizes into meaning.
Call it differentiation.

Anat calls it the brain's ability to distinguish between Thing One and Thing Two.

Any time your child's brain can distinguish between Thing One ( say, her back) and Thing Two ( her shoulder, say), she has a clearer image of herself in a human body, and many many more options in movement.

And in thinking.

AND IN THINKING.

These lessons, for adults and children, sharpen our ability to distinguish differences and that ability is what intelligence is about.

As Anat has said many times in lectures at her trainings: " THE ABILITY TO PERCEIVE DIFFERENCES IS THE FUNDAMENTAL UNIT OF INTELLIGENCE."

In this chapter is the wonderful story of the little girl who didn't know she had two legs, and Anat's playful and creative way to break this little girl free into realizing she had two legs.

This week, in working with an Autistic child, whose mother had been taught a system of stifling her repetitive movements, which are called "stemming," I showed the mother how to simple place her hands on the child's knees, which were moving in and out, and simply ride along with their movement. As she did this she named what was happening, "Now your knees are out. Now your knees are in."

This did three things:

By touch and connection, and having her nervous system aware of what the child was doing, the child can begin to be aware that SHE is moving, instead of having the movement being unconscious discharge.

By having the mother along for the ride and speaking the differences, the child could begin to hear that language had a different word for In and Out, and perhaps in her body she could feel this difference.

Three: By approving rather than trying to control this action, the child could feel loved and accepted, rather than a machine that did ( for reasons that make no sense at all) SOMETHING WRONG.

The last thing a child needs, special needs or not, is to feel they are WRONG.

Think through your life and how awful that has felt when others or parents ( or even yourself) put you in that position.

Awful.

The child needs to be exploring life as much as possible.
Stemming plus accepting touch plus naming turns what can be essentially mindless release, into one more chance for learning.

What is learning?
Finding a  Thing One and a Thing Two and noticing the difference.

And how can you help you child at any moment?
Find a Thing One and a Thing Two that you can both enjoy noticing/ perceiving.

And how can you become more mindful at any moment?

Come into the present, present with gravity, with light, with sound, with breath, even with emotional feeling. Find something slightly different, and go back and forth.

The light on the tree or the house.
The sound of the birds or the sound of the cars.
The feeling of sitting learning to the right and sitting learning to the left.
The feeling of sad when you don't breath and sad when you do breath.

If you really want to help your child, you are going to have to wake up.

This is a gift.
Not a burden.

A life not awake is a wasted life in many ways.

Don't take my word for it.

Play today with as many perceptions of differences in your life and your child's as you can find and see what the difference is.

Good luck, good cheer, good learning.
Better brain.
Better brain all the time.
Good.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Resurrection: What Dies, What Lives


There's a dramatic story going down each year on a pagan day.

The day is set like this:
The first Sunday
After the first full moon ( we just had it)
After the equinox ( March 20-22, depending on the year)

So this coming Sunday is that Sunday.
It's called Easter

Does Easter have something to do with the East
with the sun rising in the East
and the day breaking in the East
and the stars and moon rising in the East

I don't know,
but I'd guess so

And it has a lot to do with a man we call Jesus,
but who
was a Jew
and was perhaps called Yeshua back in his day,

maybe

And he taught revolution:

turn within
find the Kingdom of Heaven

turn without
turn outside yourself:
Love your neighbor ( no small job by the complaints so many have about their real life neighbors)
Love your enemy

Love your enemy:
That isn't theory

That's the divorced mate you feel justified in hating because:
they had an affair
they go boring
they watched porn
they trash talked you
they drank
they hit
they neglected
they controlled

they always did something wrong, correct?

The enemy can be horrible.
I've been reading a book about Nigeria.
Half of a Yellow Sun

It's about the slaughter of the Ibbo people in Nigeria

one tribe committing genocide
ugly awful stuff
at least in part,
if not mostly set in motion by the British rulers brilliant use of divide and conquer

( Moshe Feldenkrais talks of how Jews and Arabs
co existed for centuries in Palestine until the British set them
against each other....

and the ease with which one tribe/ nationality/ religion
can be set against each other brings us back to the point

)

LOVING YOUR ENEMY IS A BIG DEAL

and Jesus preached this

and they killed him

This was just too rebellious
loving your enemy

how could divide and conquer work?
how could people stay miserable and easy to oppress?
how could people feel weak and powerless if they could forgive?

ah,
better kill this dude

so they did



and what's the resurrection:
letting go of whatever you haven't forgiven

seeing it's the other person's problem
letting it go

now is now

the kingdom of heaven
is
now

or never

dive in

now

ciao

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

The Love Game, The Wake Up Game, Are they the Same


The love game
The wake up game
ARE THEY THE SAME?

You know, around here, if you've read enough of my blogs, that this is a rhetorical question.

And it's a rhetorical question worth examining for awhile.

Because love is big.
It has kisses.
It has affection.
It has caring for.
It has all sorts of old wounds and junk coming up.
It has chanced to grow up.
It has touch.
It has sex.
It has all sorts of chances to heal old wounds and old junk coming up.

(This isn't a poem.
This is an essay being written out more or less line by line to make the possibilities more obvious, to make the richness more clear.
Maybe it makes it easy to understand.
I hope so.)

Love is very much this strange feeling of connection and caring and being willing to DO for the other person. Let's leave aside all the hooey about co-dependence and simply hone in on the kind of love like a parent has for their child.

They want what's best for the child.
If the child is normal, sometimes they drive the parent a little or a lot crazy.
If the parent is good enough, they get riled by that, and then let it go.
They over all are putting their energy into wanting what's best for the child.

Unless this relationship gets stuck
as often happens with teenagers
in power struggles.

Power struggles.
Who gets to say who does what when?
Ugh.

And let's expand that out to a couple.

We love our mate.
They drive us a little or a lot crazy sometimes.
We get riled, or maybe not, and then we go back to wanting what's best for them.
We, really, when love is what it should be, a force for unity and expansion, want what's best for the WE, the US, that is being created.

This is cool.
This is exhausting.
This goes against the me me me grain of either,
the ego
our capitalist society
our insecurities.

And so what?

Love is being uncomfortable for the sake of another.
Not as a masochist.
Not as a doormat.
But as someone who is willing to hang in there with the mess of life.
We are not the same person.
We feel unity
Sometimes.
We want to be closer and more loving
Sometimes

and that is going to require backing off from the
two traps of ruined or struggling relationships;

The "I am right, you are wrong" trap
and
the Do it My Way, and Do it when I say so.

Control.
Righteousness.

Ah, what a fine mess we can get into with another person.

And here's were the rhetorical question's answer comes to our rescue.

If love is a wake up game,
we can wake up to our wish to be right,
we can wake up to our agitation in the present,
we can wake up to our wish to run the show to make the agitation for away,
or
we can wake up to our wish to run away to avoid the agitation
and
we can wake up to our wish to blaming the other person for our buttons having been pushed
and
we can wake up to our love, in the moment, when we feel and see and hear the other person without our story

ah:
back to Byron Katie land, in a way:

Who we really are
is who we are in the present without our story blocking the way

And,
it is only our real self that can love

that is why it feels so good.
We are being what we are meant to be.

This is good.
We are good.
The other is good.

We push each other's buttons.
We stay present.

Life is good.
Love's problems are stepping stones to a quick route to enlightenment.

Really?
It could be.
It just might be.

Try it and see.

Only your experience of your present moment by moment can guide you to what is real.
With good fortune, you'll have love's messes as the motivating elixir to speed you back into this present moment.


And when we aren't there: we suffer.

Again, don't take my word for it.
Discover, feel, sense this on your own.

Good.

Monday, April 14, 2014

Monday, Special Needs Kids Blog...Connecting NOT fixing

This is from Monday's blog at SpecialNeedsChildren-ChrisElms.blogspot.com


Alas, in our wish to "help" children with special needs, we often delay their progress, and make them miserable, by insisting that they do what they cannot do.

As Anat well says: "If she could, she would; if he could, he would."

A child who can't sit, plunked into the sitting position, might look like she is sitting, but she hasn't the skills to do it on her own, and she'll know that. She'll feel frustrated.


A child who can't roll over, being forced into "tummy time" is being put where he can't move to under his own awareness and skill himself, so he can't return himself to his back, and he is nervous as heck about what he is doing trapped there,  and will develop all sorts of unnecessary tension in his middle area.

A child who can't crawl, being plunked into the crawling position and told to go for it, will collapse in frustration. She doesn't have the hundreds of prerequisite motions and learnings and body brain wirings that would give her the pieces to really "go for it."

Since a child learns it's experience, the experience of being made to do something they ( or we, for that matter) can't do, always teaches that we are incapable, or to them, it teaches that they are good at failing.


This is not what we want them to learn.

How to make a child feel better? And learn?

Let him learn in small steps, something just slightly beyond what he knows.

Teach her something fun, that allows her brain to discover the information that all rich movement requires. Anat describes the "random movement" so crucial to every child's learning. With special needs children, big chunks of normal random movement are usually unavailable.


Coming to "lessons" is an opportunity for the child to be giving a short cut sampler of the most valuable of the smaller steps and even this isn't cookie cutter. I am feeling precisely and in the moment exactly what each child is capable of learning and expanding into at that moment.

At home, you can bring every down with the essentials, slow, variation, enthusiasm, ... we'll go through them one by one.... and the point is... you, too, as parents, can create conditions for learning.

You don't teach and they learn.

In my lessons, to adults or children, I don't teach and they learn. Brains and meant to learn and to rewire themselves. The Nine Essentials maximize the chances of this happening.

And with the nine essentials, we can begin to give digestible, delightful, exciting even, food to the child's brain. Food for learning new ways to move, to think, to comprehend the world in more rich and complicated ways.

In fixing, we do the work for the child, and the child doesn't make new connections inside. And the bad feeling in the child cuts off our person to person connecting.

In connecting, we meet the child where she is at, and find fun and interesting "next step" movements, or sounds, or words, or even ideas, for her to build upon.

In this connecting mode, life is simpler for the child, because learning is what brains love to do. It's simpler for us, because we need only just one bit of new and interesting information at a time to offer our child, and almost always that information is about distinguishing a difference, or making more clear a difference, or having fun with a difference.

The Nine Essentials ( Anat likes to capitalize them, and yes, they are brilliant and important) are pathways to help your child better find these differences.

Just remember: small steps, baby steps, one little doable, interesting, fun step at time.

Make your life easier.

Make your child's life a pathway of fun, learning, delight and connection.

Breathe.

Watch your child.

Something small and fun and easy will come to you.

And then the play/ learning/ connecting is on it's way.

Cheers.

Monday, April 07, 2014

Let's ReRead Kids Beyond LImits: Brain Plasticity and Children


I'm going to get back to my weekly blog posts on my special needs children blog, 
it's at SpecialNeedsChildren-ChrisElms.blogspot.com


I'll be going through Anat's book, chapter or section by chapter or section at a time.

Here's the start



In the introduction to Kids Beyond Limits, Michael Merzenich, PhD, makes clear his profound admiration for Anat Baniel and his delight and astonishment that in her own separate way, she has come to discover BRAIN PLASTICITY (his field of expertise, he was one of the first to discover and prove this in monkeys, and then humans) as the key element to human change, especially change in special needs children.


Brain Plasticity.

Our brains can rewire.
They are meant to rewire.
They love to rewire.

Dr. Merzenich discovered this in the laboratory. Anat in her work with thousands of children over 30 years.

Dr. Merzenich makes two points of emphasis:
One: The principles that underlie the limitations of the “special needs child” are the same principles that underlie brain plasticity.
Two: Most so called “hopeless” cases, aren’t hopeless.

Then in Anat’s introduction, she gives her urgent framework. This work has transformed, again and again, the lives of many children. She wants to get the principles, what she calls the Nine Essentials, out to as many parents, caregivers and clinicians as possible.

She wants the “secret” to stop being a secret.

And it isn’t really a secret as much a waking up to the understanding that her mentor Moshe Feldenkrais, a PhD in physics and the first European teacher of Judo, brought to improving movement for adults and children.

Movement is about learning.
Movement is about awareness.
The brain is where both these happen.

“Miracles” begin to happen when we stop buying into anyone being fixed in their movement or their behavior. (This includes ourselves).

Anat then brings her story to open with the story of Elizabeth.
 ( There is a moving  7 minute PBS video of this, back when Anat was still within the Feldenkrais world, and hadn’t felt yet, because it the constraints in the Feldenkrais world), the need to create her own sperate (and more advanced, to my mind) method. The video is at Healing What the Doctors Couldn't )

She starts her story with her first meeting with Elizabeth. She didn’t plan it, but everything started with her own desire to calm the crying Elizabeth when she was first brought to Dr. Feldenkrais ( to say nothing, which she doesn’t mention in the book, of her considerable touch and awareness based skills having studied with Feldenkrais for 4 years), she discovered how profound an experience life could provide when she looked beneath Elizabeth’s real and profound limitations and saw, really saw, the person, the real and amazing person locked inside these limitations.

She then shares how much Elizabeth transformed in the first two lessons with Moshe Feldenkrais’ intentional and highly skilled touch. How Elizabeth began to wake up to herself and her body, and began to play for the first time in her life.

Fast forward to seven years old and Anat plays with a tissue, and Elizabeth learns not only how to catch, but to walk.

Brains learn.
People transform.
Beginning of the story.

And, how can we rewire our brains today?
How can we help our children?

(Read ahead in the book for answers to both.
Go to my blog (http://PoemsFromNow.com) , and search for a “Movement lesson” you like, and you can spend 5 or 10 minutes rewiring your own brain, right now.
Here’s the link straight to a series of at least 30 lessons that could delightfully help you feel easier in your body and smarter in your brain.



And if you want more on Brain Plasticity from Dr, Merzenich, here’s a TED talk Merzenich on Brain Plasticity

Friday, April 04, 2014

Back, Neck, Shoulder Pain... What the heck, Rewire the Brain

Many a person has an "issue" in their neck, shoulders, or back

They feel tight
They hurt
They feel crunchy
They can't move the way they used to move
They can't sleep
They can't participate in activities that used to bring them joy and delight

And
There are plenty of "modalities" out there that can
ease the pain
Reduce it
Relax it
Shift the energy and so on

And another way is this:
To create connections throughout our body,
Ankles, knees, hips, each vertebra
The eyes
The ribs
and the arms
and the fingers
and the toes
and the neck
and the jaw
and the spine,
each vertebra
and
the ribs, which I've said before, neglected, so often neglected
and
the lynch of all movement:
our pelvis

How can all these be woken up?
Teased into slightly more movement ?
Connected with each other?
Shown new variations and possibilities that weren't in the repertoire?
Allowed to begin to explore that way we did as a child?

Ah, that's what the Anat Baniel Method lessons
are about.

It's a long training on purpose.

It's deep and worth it
and confusing at first
and then
totally clear

tapping into the brain's love 
of learning
piggybacking on how deeply important clear
and organized movement is

letting coordination and ease
go hand in hand

skill
and ease

soft and clear

move and relax

our bodies like a cat
our brain/ bodies like a child

Relearning to learn
how we learned
to roll over
to sit up
to crawl

is obvious once you "get it"
and
it
takes three or four years to get it

Come by
Try some lessons

You'll be amazed

Thursday, April 03, 2014

INDEX of all Postings 723 so far

Life is choices:
Chose waking up


APRIL 2014

723. April 22, Tuesday: Treating Your Child, Your Mate, Yourself in Poor and Better Ways

722. April 21: Monday, From Special Needs Blog:  Your Child's Brain on Learning

721. April 17, Thursday:  Loving Your enemy. What Easter is really about

720. April 16, Wednesday: The Love Game. The Wake up Game. Are they the same? 

719. April 14, Monday: Chapter 2, CONNECTING not Fixing

718. April 7, Monday: Let's reRead Anat Baniel's book: Kids Beyond Limits

717. April 4, 2014: Backs, Necks and Shoulder Pain... What the heck... Rewire the Brain


MARCH 2014, THE MONTH OF TRANSITION

716, March 16, Sunday:  Fear and Change, Fear of Change, the Strange Plight of Being Human, and, The Strange as Freedom

715. March 11: Movement Lesson: Eyes, Neck and Back

714. MARCH 11: Freedom and Love

FEBRUARY 2014, THE MONTH OF LOVE AND LEARNING

713. Thursday, February 27:  Love in Waking = Love, Love in mindlessness = Mom + Pop

712. Monday, Feb 24: Loving the Other after Divorce, freedom

711. Tuesday, Feb 18: 10 steps to Happiness

710. Monday, Feb 17: Divorce + Love = Freedom

709. Tuesday, Feb 11: Is there Sex after Marriage?

708. Tuesday, Feb 11: Balance Two, for you, and you and you

707,  Monday, February 10: Balance and movement: a movement lesson for all



JANUARY 2014, HURRAY!

706. Thursday: Jan 30:  Movement Lesson--- Cat and Cow several ways, in both sitting and the normal yoga way of hands and knees

705. Tuesday, Jan 28: The Heart Knows what the Mind done Forgot, Love is and Ain't, part 8

704. Friday, Jan 24: Love is, Love Ain't 7

703. Friday, Jan 24: On your back, pushing down a standing foot to release back and  brighten your brain

702. Wednesday, Jan 22: Side lying, flexion extension hips shoulder brain, fun

701. Wednesday, Jan 22: Love is, Love Ain't 6

700. Tuesday, Jan 21, More moving on your side: Hips, shoulder, brain

699 Monday, Jan 20, Love is , Love Ain't, Kahlil Gibran, and the Prophet

698 Tuesday, Jan 20, Movement Lesson, Shoulder and Hip

697/ Monday, Jan 20, Love is, Love Ain't 4, Paul in Corinthians 13

696. Saturday, Jan 18: Love is, Love Ain't 3

695. Friday, Jan 17, Love is, Love Ain't, 2

694. Thursday, Jan 16: Love Is, Love Ain't, 1

693. Wednesday, January 15,  Life is Yes, Yes

692. Tuesday, January 14: Austin on a warm January night-- the bright glory of other people

691. Monday, January 13: Happiness is our choice.... why not choose it, eh?

690. Thursday, January 9: Forgetting what's not important... other people's dumb ass opinions of us

689. Monday January 6: Making Out with the wake up

688. Saturday, January 4: Mindfulness and Love

687 . Thursday, January 2: anger that stays happy--- why not, it's our life, anyway

686. Wednesday, January 1, 2014:  An ongoing meditation for those who wish to wake up this year



DECEMBER 2013

685/ Tuesday: December 31: Freedom #7{ Sufi teaching story:The King's Son and the Queen's Daughter

684. Monday, December 30: Movement #6: leaning and learning on a chair

683. Monday, December 30: Movement #5: Ease in our back by slow movement in a chair

682. Sunday, December 29: The Rules of Play, my modification of a one taste layout

681. Thursday: December 26: Waking up to this precious moment

680.  Sunday, December 22, Sunday: Sad and going deeper to the real Who are we Anyway?

679. December 20: Friday: I need your love/ you should love me.... Is that true?

678. December 19, Thursday: Wake up, Lean Down, Makes Changes, Wake up better, Lean down better, a Movement Lesson

677. December 14, Saturday: Loving Someone Who Leaves you,, Love = Freedom

676. December 13: Friday the 13th: Gratitude and Never be Anxious

675/ December 7. Saturday, Relationship #3:  " When someone leaves: what St Catherine of Siena has to say ( and me, too, at the end)

674 December 3: Freedom 3, Poem Primary Wonder, Denise Levertov:  life is yes, and yes
and you are there, too..... wow

673. December One: Movement #3: Rotation in the easy mode, lying on your left side. Pleasant. Anti-insomnia. Back heaven.

NOVEMBER 2013

672. November 30: Relationship 2< Believing the story, or Not believing the story: the two chair approach

671. November 30: Movement 2: rotation to the left in a chair

670/ November 29: Freedom, 2: Don't shop, just BE-- subversive happiness and the freedom of easy living

669, November 25: Freedom One: Is it true?

668, November 24: Relationship One: Hugs to move deeper into Love. Go slow. Listen.

667. November 23: Movement One: Toes and Noses and Eyes: Easy to start the day, easy to start 108 experiments in Movement, Relationship and Freedom

666. November 18: Why have lessons for a child... From the special needs children blog

665, November 12: Tuesday: Liking first ( not the usual "love") before sex. Kin. Kind. Slowing down. Way down 

664, November 6, Wednesday: Namaste/  Loving the Haters  

663. November 4, Monday: Revised Rules of Play



OCTOBER 2013

662. October 30: Wednesday: When Other People Lash out at you

661. October 28, Monday: Cat and Cow and Brain( Yours)

660. October 2:  Hugs not Drugs

659, October 1: Hafix, in love with God: three ways

SEPTEMBER 2013

658 sept 19 thursday" Love, a first dash splash, rash undertaking, why not?

657 sept 18 wednesday: What if I miss a day?



656 Sept 16, Monday:  Asking for what you want, beyond the edge, each day: sex and money

655/ Sept 15, Sunday: What Men Should Know: For a Woman, everything is connected

654/ Sept 14: Saturday: Falling in Love

653/ Sept 13, Friday: What women should know about men: Every time, say it like the first time

652 Sept 12 Thursday: Day one of forty:  the way of remembering
651. September 8: Sunday: Strange = Grown Up

AUGUST 2O13

650 August 29: Thursday: Talk every day, sex every day: connection no matter what

649. August 27:  Tuesday, Happiness and Freedom: You sure you want them?

648, August 17, Saturday,  Relaxation

647. August 16, Friday: Tenderness

646. August 1, Thursday: Love, Sex, OM, meditate;  yes yes yes yes



JULY 2013

645. July 31, Wednesday: at the end of the day: wake up, or go to bed

644. July 30, Tuesday: slow talk, wake up.... really

643, July 29 : Monday, slow sex, slow talk, .... really?

642. July 28: Sunday, again:  Waking UP

641. July 28, make up, Sunday:  Love and Lust

640. July 26: Friday: The taste of liberation.....truth

639. July 25, Thursday: Sex Every Day: OM

638. July 24: Wednesday:  Find your soulmate, yourself

637. July 23, Tuesday: Snakes, Boobs, Mangos

636. July 22: Monday, Forgiving for the giving yourself a break, it's not about them, really

635. July 21, Sunday: Sex can be not present, it just sucks then; Love without present, can't exist

634. July 20: Saturday:  The importance of OM

633. July 19: Friday: Sex Every Day---yuk

632. July 18: Thursday: Love dies---good

631. July 17: WEdnesday,  The Rules of Play

630/ July 16: Tuesday, When someone leaves you, you've been spared

629. July 15, Monday: The importance of death

628. July 14: Sunday, Love is in no hurry, so why should we be?

627. July 13: Saturday: where Kabir, 15th century mystic found God

626. july 12: Friday, Mira, touch as the cure for sadness

625. July 12:, Friday:   Vulnerable

624, July 11  Thursday, Sensation, Sex, sensing, making sense of life: be present

623. July 10, Wednesday, Slow Sex, Slow Food, Slowing down to Wake up in Now

622. July 9, Tuesday, Forgiveness, 3: Other people are shits/ so are we

621. July 8, Monday: Forgiveness, Part 2

620. July 7, Sunday:  Forgiveness, Part 1

619. July 6, Saturday : What does Love have to Do with It?

618. July 5: Friday: Would you like to Make Out for 10 minutes?

617, July 4, Thursday: Why not just "do it yourself," why OMing?

616. July 3, Wednesday: Sex Every Day: that's not spontaneous, eeek!

615: July 2, Tuesday: Practice makes Awake, or moves toward more Awake

614, July 1, Monday: Sex Every Day

 JUNE 2013

613. June 27, Thursday: Jealousy Sucks, and there is a way out


612 June 24 Monday:  What I wish for you, what I wish for us...


611  June 17, Monday: Dynamic vs Fixed ( fear based) Relationship: gooooood stuff, from Nicole Daedone, with some Chris additions


610. June 14, Friday: 10 things women should know about men

609. June 13, Thursday, 10 things men should know about women

608. June 12, Wed, When you want to coast...don't


607. June 11, Tuesday... Next dream...please

606. June 10: After 9 months: Orgasmic Birth (???)

605. June 5: Life on it's own terms
MAY 2013

604. May 21: Tuesday: What if connection where what mattered

603. May 20, Monday: Fear is the story, listened to and believed


602. May 9, Thursday: Where does the window open to
 

APRIL 2103

601. April 29: Monday: Good to Great, happy hooey and you

600. April 27, Saturday: the joy of going beneath, "why bother?"

599. April 26, Friday : Happy no matter what

598. /aprl 25, Thursday:  Love is beyond categories, astrology, eneagram, sexual types, and all that hooey

597. April 245, Wednesday : Backs, Necks, Shoulders, Brains, Sex

596. April 23, Tuesday: Grounded

595. April 22: Now we begin, Monday

594. April 18, Wednesday: there is always too much to do


MARCH 7 2013

593. March 31: Sunday: Jesus died so you could live in the present/ know love

592/ March 29: Friday: if you think it can't get any better or worse....

591. march 28: thursday: go ahead and die, it might be the nicest thing you did today

590. march 27: wednesday: Connection is only for the Perfect;::: Is that true?

 589, march 25, monday: Free fall

588, March 24, Sunday/glory bee, two birthdays

587. March 23, Saturday: Do it with yes and do it with fun (even, especially, if you don't want to do it)

586. March 22, Friday: the mess and the muck is the yuck, and the glory, the yes, the yes, the yes

585. March 21, Thurs, God's idea of a good fall

584. March 20: Wednes   God is around

583/ March 19, Tuesday: A gift/ the gift

582. March 13: Wednesday: Masculine and Feminine

581. March 7 : Wednesday: Connection

JANUARY 2013

580, January 3: Thursday: the full yes

579. January 2, : Wednesday: stop it already, this feeling bad about feeling bad

DECEMBER 2012

578. Wednesday, Dec 12: Wild child filthy animal and other joys

577/ Monday, Dec 10{ the hot yes at the center, the oceans, the trees, nature and OMing

576. Saturday, late, December 1, after the Living Room: Life is yes, even in/ with death

NOVEMBER 2012

575. Friday, nov 30: Fatigue as just another experience to experience as we wake up

574. Nov. 28, Wednesday:  Crazy Love, and not "getting what you want"... just yet

573. Nov 27 Tuesday: Wake UP, Turn ON. Now, Orgasm, Love

572. Nov 25: Sunday: Waking up in Bikram, fun and prophet

571. Nov. 24, Saturday: What is da meaning of Life? and is that a fair question?

570. Nov 22: Thurs, groovy quotes on art, the unconscious and choosing

569. Nove22: Thursday: Mary Oliver poem, Mindful

568. Nov 15, Thurs; WHAT'S good about Bikram

567. Nov 15, Thurs: The glory of what is, part 22: shutting quieter the inner chatter mind


566. Nov. 14, Wednesday: The Laws of Real Sex, vs the Laws of Production. mini intro to OMing.

565. NOvember 12: Monday wake up call: Surfing the new and now to heal and expand and delight in relationship

564. November 11: Sunday wake up call: Remember to Remember

563. November 8, Bipolar undo without drugs, a six step protocol

562. November 7: Great Relationship, Four Parts: Sex, Communication, Unconditional Love, a Big Job--- a great little essay

OCTOBER 2012  

561.Wednesday, October 31: Hollow wee the unseen food that is in no hurry to be eaten

560. SAturday, Oct 27: The joy of being wrong, about Bikram yoga

559. Friday, October 19: Side lying on the floor, exploring arm and knee and spine, movement lesson

558. Tuesday, October 16: I'm so wonderful, you're so wonderful, life is good/ great without the story

557/ October 14: Blind Deficit Disorder: Seeing in a Blind World

556. Tuesday , October 9: Grounded in Reality, grounded in Gravity



SEPTEMBER 2012

555. Thursday, September 27 What does "no" mean when we give it; when we get it; a mini dip into a huge discussion, actually one of the most important in life

554. Monday, September 24: Kids, Tantrums, So What: Can we be awake and help their mindfulness and differentiation increase?  (Answer: Yes)

553. Saturday, Sept 22: "Resistance" as red herring? Who knows, an exploration

552. Thursday, Sept 20, The game is a hiding place: the appearance/ attractiveness thing

551. Monday, sept 17: The five lines: sensing our moving self, and then the limbic can float in a solid place

550. Sun , sept 16:  Truth of waking vs going to higher grade bullshit

549. Sept 15, Saturday: The Key to a Good Life

548. Sept 14: Friday, Relationships are supposed to be messy/ Buddha and the heart and you

547, September 13: Thurs, Relationship: You've got it right, it things aren't right 

546. Sept 5, Wednesday: Building and wearing oneself out with a grown son: good

545. September 4, Tuesday: Six step protocol for working with mental stuff, or deep transformation, including depression and bipolar, and life crisis points

544. September 3, Monday:  Loving the all of it, Happiness is the real, unhappiness is the opportunity to get more real



AUGUST 2012

543. August 30, Thursday:  Wasting time, breaking rules, God's preferred la la

542. Aug 28, Tues,  Meditation as food for self image, and hey, no need, you're feeding a ghost

541. August 27, Monday: Life is Real when I let go of Moment rating, and more

540. August 23: Thursday: another article: special needs children, outside force vs using the miracle of brain plasticity, with a heel that "wont touch the ground"

539, August 20, Monday: Is Anger Bad, an article

538. August 13, Monday: Life can have yuk moments, and that's just the time to be present

537. August 10: Friday:  If someone rejects you, you've been spared, Byron Katie to the rescue


536. August 8, Wednesday, Sneaky Marriage, Sullen Divorce, what happens to the grass is greener then?



535. August 4, Saturday:   Life is beautiful and so what?

534. August 1: joy and learning

JULY 2012

533. July 31: Tuesday, end of month, supposedly: Love and Meditation

532. July 30, Monday: From special needs kids blog, but more: An Anat story on the power of mindful mistakes

531. July 30: Monday: The joy of now, and our habit of not joy as "energy" shifts

530/ July 29: Sunday, Laziness is next to Godliness

529/ July 28, Day 28: Who or what would we be without the story?, Q #4

528. July 27: The attachment game, and Question #3 from the Work of Byron Katie

527. July 26, Day 26: Legs and arms, plus Adyashanti gift

526. July 25: Ask again: Is it absolutely true?

525. July 24: The work starts:  Is it true?

524    July 23: A Moshe arm wrestling story, from special needs children blog

523. July 23: Twenty Three: Mindfulness #23: Belly, Eyes, Ears, Nose, etc. ... it kind a rhymes on the post

522. July 22: Twenty Two: What's the Difference?

521. July 21: Twenty One: Suffering as the ego's job: it demands to be in conflict

520. July 20: Twenty: Sending self love

519. July 19: Nineteen: Full Package, all of us mindfulness meditation


518. July 18: Eighteen: Earth, Air, Sky: a happy trio to wake into
 
517. July 17: Seventeen: Mindful walking, (and sitting, too)


516. July 16: Sixteen: Breath and Gravity: life on Earth, in the Now

515. July 15: Fifteen: "Thinking" as voices in the head. To whom we talking, and how?

514. July 14: Fourteen: Sensing five toes and the opposite finger fingers

513. July 13: Thirteen: Sounds in our head, sounds in our and others' talking

512. July 12: Twelve: "Just" Remember Yourself

511/ July 11: Eleven: Spontaneity and Compulsion

510. July 10: Ten: Feelings and feeling

509. July 9: Moving to Sonoma and some nature in our mindfulness today

508. July 8: Day 8: Laziness is Next to Godliness

507. July 7: Day 7: What about heaven?

506. July 6, second: Day Six of the Mindfulness Fest: Light and Sound and the prior awaring,  a fullness of  inward attention and a rich outward attention: this is us, alive

505. July 6, first: Life is Yes, and even 'unhappiness" can stepping stone to awareness

504. July 5: Round sounds vs "Auditory hallucinations" which are called "thinking
JUNE 2012

499. June 29, Friday, Byron Katie, 101

498 June 28, Thursday: Internet at Whole Foods, too much of the good stuff?

497. June 27, Wednesday: Sensing arms and legs and spine, and adding on the world: light, sound,  the fun of practicing awake life

496. June 25, Monday: Special Needs Children and Parents: learning as touch and variation and connection; no mistakes, just learning, or the possibility of that

495. June 24, Sunday: The being alive thing: Sensing, breathing, light sound, all ways available, the wake up joy, delight game

494. June 21-2: Coming to Love and Happiness by the door of understanding and awareness, not efforting

493. June 21: (pedantic) Love letter to an X, on being perfect and change from there

492.June 19: Each day offers

491. June 12: 7 steps for parents with children "on the spectrum"

490. June 6: Happiness is a sweet guide, and not necessary 


489. June 4, Monday: Loving What is: you get a call, what are your manners about calling back, or: loving everyone or you can't love anyone


MAY 2012 







488. May 31, Thursday: Waiting and Wanting vs Just Being, with your partner: Relationship and Enlightenment visited again

487. May 29: Tuesday: Movement lesson for neck, back, brains and happiness, and learning fun

486. May 23, Wednesday: Loving What is, even the ugh

485. May 21, Monday: Day 5, of "40 Days from Heartbreak to 'Almost Enlightenment'"

484. May 18, Friday: Love and Money and America

483. May 14: Monday: Life is Yes, and can get better and better, how 'bout that?


482. May 12: Saturday: Buddha's 4 noble truths and Relationship Enlightenment, c/a Susan Piver 

481. May 5, Saturday: What is Now, why not love it? Or: Loving What is. Or: the past is over, Rover

480. May 3: Thursday, From Stuck to Unstuck, one of life's great joys

479. May 1, Tuesday: Love, Money, Movement: A workshop and some ideas to mull



APRIL 2012


478. Monday:April 30, Special Needs Children: If they could, they would: Don't try to "make" the children do what they can't do

477. Saturday, April 28: Now, Nature and Love

476. Thursday; April 26: Heartbreak and Enlightenment: Give yourself 40 days

475. Wednesday, April 25: Loving what is and transformation "bad" communication

474. Tuesday, April 24: Relationship and Enlightenment

473. Tuesday, April 24: Appreciation, food for the soul and others: Special needs children posting, but useful to all


472.  Thursday, April 19: Slowing down the communication, see what happens, discovery


471. Monday, April 16: Brains love to learn, children, adults, special needs children, all of us

470. Tuesday, April 10: Gospel of Thomas: Seek until you find

469. Monday, April 9: special needs children, everyone's brain and variation

468/ Saturday, April 7: The past is gone, hmmmm, is that freedom, or what?

467. Thursday, April 5: Time is for beginners, breath is for finishers

466/ Wednesday, April 4: The importance of slowing into love,33

465. Tuesday< April 3; Love is losing, but nothing that is really ours

464. Tuesday, April 3: You Are What You Eat Ate





MARCH 2012

463. Wednesday, March 28: To feel sad is not bad, it's just...

462. Tuesday, March 27: Want a great relationship: Tell the truth, all of it..

461. Sunday< march 25: I am alive, you are alive, I am going to die, you are going to die. deepening the reality, improving any relationship. speaking truth.

460. Friday, March 23: Divorce and Enlightenment, the learning zone is always the way out up and in

459. March 21: x\za game of enlightenment, relax and lose, you are already her/here/ there now

458. March 20: Day Seven in Relationship Enlightenment: Now vs then in feelings. Exploring and not blaming.

457. March 19: Fund raising for Special Needs children, some concepts from the Money Miracle training.

456. March 16, Friday again, alas: Anti-aging the the love of learning, old vs new life styles, as in really old

456. March 14: The importance of forgiving ourselves

455. March 9, Friday: Love is always here, the "i love you" you are waiting for IS you, is the song of the universe, la, la

454. March 5: Day Four of Relationship Enlightenment: Important to me, Gratitude, Present in and Present Out

453. Saturday, March 2: Relationship Enlightenment, Day One: I am alive/ you are alive




FEBRUARY 2012

452. Wed, Feb 29: Feldenkrais and Love: Light upon Light

451. Wednesday Feb 29: More relationship vows

450. Monday, Feb 27: It's already here, love , enlightenment, whatcha want

449. Sunday, Feb 26: Vows for Relationship Enlightenment

448. Saturday, FEb 25: Other people love you, and forget/ or can't, oh well, love 'em

447. Friday, Februar 24, If you are Single and Want an amazing Next Relationship

446. Thursday, Feb 23: Enlightenment in Communication: Slow, listen

445. Thursday, February 23: Loneliness is a Blessing in Disguise

444. Wednesday, February 22: What to do when your Lover isn't Perfect?

443. Saturday, Feb 17: Geothe quote on decision:


442. Thursday, Feb 16: What to do when angry with your Lover?

441 Tuesday again, 2 for Valentine's Feb 14: What about love after loss: always there

440/ Tuesday, Feb ruary, 14: Where does Love Live?

439. Monday , feb 13: squoze hearts suffer, always, but only always

438. Friday Feb 10: if God is love, is Valentine's day Holy?

437. Tuesday, Feb 7: V day a week away

436. Monday, February 6 : Love free or love with a cost, which way?

435. Sunday, FEbruary 5: Super Bowl, winners and loserz

434. Saturday, February 4: Today is the last day of the end of your life

433. Friday, February 3: Love is important, yes, yes

433. Thursday: February 2: Love and Fear

432. Wednesday, Feb 1 : Valentine's inside and out




DECEMBER 2011

422. Saturday , December 31, la la, so long 2011, you've been grand:
A love poem to the world, of sorts, kind a

421. Tuesday, Dec 27: Loving the X, for your sake and any kids

420. Saturday, Dec 24: Christmas cometh, the star shines and moves, and a birth

419. Tuesday, dec 20: The importance of humor as Mom or anyone "falls apart"

418, Thursday, December 15: The importance of love

417. Wednesday, Dec 14: Special Needs Children, Perhaps compression, certainly learning differences

416. Monday, Dec 12: Love vs entrapment, via Course of Miracles

415. Friday:, Dec 9: You do not have to be good

414. Tuesday cold in Austin, down to 30's, Dec 6: If love is our subject to day

413. Monday Dec 5: piggybacking on evolution

412. Sunday, December 4: It's Sunday night and you've got the chance to feed your soul, hmmmm, will you take it, take a chance on the food of nothingness?

411. December 1: the nature of now surfing along in body and awareness






NOVEMBER 2011

410. November 28: What does love have to do with it?

409. November 27: If posture is slumpy, can mood be far behind?

408. Novem 25: Loving wha tis

407. November 24: Thanks for the ever loving Now


406. November 22: Awake or not awake in computer land?




405. November 21: Life out of the arguing lane, what are we to do when we want to ruin our relationship by "winning" the argument?

404. November 18: Awakened Friendship, hey, let's talk without falling to "sleep"


403. November 17: Life is now, new is the website at 4BrainFitness.com, weather we like it or not, veering into a poem after all

402. November 16: Movement lesson for brain, neck, back and sex (the later not obvious,
and it will help)

401. November 16: It's so simple

400. November 15: Remembrance

399. Now is wow, easy Monday, train in the distance, life is...

398. Nov 11, yeah yeah 11/11 blah blah: True story: not awake while talking

397/ Nov 8: Nature, Now, Love


396. Nov 7: What has Yes done for you today?

395. Nov 7: From today's special needs children blog

394. Nov. 4: What would your / my Mom say if she was dead and you were grieving?

393. Nov. 4: Feeling bad is good for you, if there is another You to watch

392. November 3, Marlie's birthday: Love is catching you by your big toe while you are giggling about something else; or, you are not lost, God is you, and you have you all along


OCTOBER 2011



391. October 31, happy hallow tween life and death is just one breath:
death and life is a chance to remember. remember what? You are alive


390. Oct 28. friday's for love, yes: Now Nature & Love

389. October 26 Prayer to ecological and enlightened abundance

388. October 25: time and the children and the computer bandit

387. October 22: Saturday night and the newness of you

386. Octo 21: Falling in love with the gift: we are alive, wow!

385 october 19: when is enough enough?

384. October 17: Wrists and ankles and learning and waking up, ha he ho hi

383. October 16: Mindful Suffering is Finite; Mindless can be forever

382. October 14: If love is  za ansa, what is zee question?

381. October 12: Getting bigger than fear, by coming the Reality


380. October 10: Feeling bad in the context of "hey, I'm alive, wow!"



379. October 7: Love poems from Now: Dancing is good 4




378. October 6, Love Poems from Now: Anger and Sad, not so bad with the Now now juice


377. October 5: Love Poems from Now, the Daily feast begins: What is Today?

376. October 3: Learning as natural vs being forced to do what can't do; mainly special needs children; really, all of us

375. October 1: Commit and move forward, Goethe quote, good




SEPTEMBER 2011


374. Sept 28: learning as transformation not just "better automatic robot"

373. Sept 26: Parents and the lessons, for special needs kids, it's the chance of a lifetime for the parents

372. Sept 23: Relationship and the crunch time: mindful = options, not mindful...suffering usually

371. Sept 21: The Joy of Divorce, the Novel, first scene


370 Sept 19: The Joy of Learning, helping a baby with speaking, via sound play

369. Sept 16: Happiness isn't being good, it's stopping the illusion of control

368. Sept 14 (well past midnight, but still Wed, sort of): Anger with variation

367/ September 12: short and sweet, get enthusiastic the child, about you

366. September 11, oh big deal day:  The Joy of 9/11

361. Sept 10: Slowing down to speed up the Joy of Divorce

360. September 7: Out of the Soup, into the Brain, transforming Emotional Pain

359. September 6, Subtlety: the power of less effort, the joy of noticing smaller differences






358. Sept 4, Carlos Casteneda, fun after 30 years

357. September 2: What are Brains For?





AUGUST 2011


356 August 31: Why Paint?


355. August 29: Patience as a key to joy, love and learning


354. August 28: What to do about Heat, Death, taxes and People who aren't nice to you


353. August 26: Awakened Christianity, bathwater vs baby 


352. August 24: Four Ways to Do Anything, or: The transformation always starts Now



351. Aug 22: Transformation is a big deal, in special needs children, and ourselves

350. Aug 19: More love, poems and whatnot

349/ Aug 18: Rumi and the fainting of how beautiful we are



348. August 17: New Website: the joy of divorce dot info, crisis = opportunity, thejoyofdivorce.info


347. August 15: Fingers to play, fingers to learn, special needs children, or YOU, or both


346. August 14: Love poems, of sorts


345. August 13: Unified unSuffering = freedom = options = mindful = La la yes


344. August 10, again: the pain of judging, the hell of Mindless when the Sh.. hits the f..


343. August 10: More mystical poems, do you hunger to remember how sweet and easy
it is meant to be: read slowly and feed yourself, your real Self


342. August 9: Toes for adults, toes for children


341. August 6: The Way of Love, one roadblock, the idea of "original sin"


340. August 5: Who is the real You underneath the Meanie and the Victim?


339. August 3: Three love poems to God


338. August 1 Cancer and Love, and Love Making: SEx and touch = good for you

337. August 1:  What if the OT/ PT's help hinders the child's learning and transformation?




JULY 2011


336. July 28: The Joy of Wising up/ joy of divorce, 3


335. July 27: Moshe, Osho, Katie, Gurdjieff and the Landmark thing


334. July 27: Anat's second Essential: Turn on the Learning Switch


333. July 20: Moshe and Osho and Gurdjieff and me:, and Katie: Living in the unknown
and the joy of being yourself


332. July 18: Shoulders with a brain and a purpose vs. "Range of Motion," a cool movement lesson in a chair


331. July 18: Rescue Remedy, for special needs children, possibly other "touchy" clients,
or : ourselves


330. July 15: first approximation, my new process, The Joy of Divorce


329. July 13: what to say instead of "how are you?"


328/ July 12: More thoughts on Movement with Attention, thought and feeling as part of it





327. July 11: Essential One from Anat's book: Movement with Attention

326/ July 9: The joy of life, one part: overcoming difficulties, another: sex
 








313, June 1:  Happy vs unhappy as tool for enlightenment now




302. May 2: Chapter 61 from the book A Movement Lesson Treat for those work at computers





296. April 6, Wednesday: "Swiss Army" knife movement for back: arch, twist, side bend and round: and increase clarity in ankles, hips, ribs, backs, necks, knees, feet, breathing, sleep better and MORE




288. March 2, Wed: Moshe's Contribution to Humanity: Wake up to Now, Life, Options


FEBRUARY 2011


287. Feb 27, Sunday: Movement Lesson for F, F, F and F

286. Feb 24, Thursday: Qigong part two, balance is not falling over, lengthening is reaching to heavens above and Earth below


285. Feb 23, Wednesday: Feeing, F...ing, Fighting and Feldenkrais, a beginning exploration


284. FEb 22, Tues:  A little made of qigong/ movement lesson, plus utube of Cheng man Ching tai chi beautiful form

283. Feb 16, Wed:  Eating and Waking, Hints from the Feldie "work"


282. FEb 14: Valentine's Day is about loving ourselves, mindfulness in the "tired zone."


281, Feb 12: Valentine's Extra:  Waking Up While Talking, or Toward Love with Listening, or the non-habitual is what we need if we are going to wake up


280. Feb 9: Cheng Man Ching doing Tai Chi, thoughts on this


279. Feb 2: Side bending lesson, section 41 from Tao of Now, for sale via internet silliness


JANUARY 2011


278. Jan 27: Transformation, not "fixing"


277. Jan 20: Organizing the Shoulders/ plus bonus: Grumpiness as one more Habit


276. Jan. 13: To "mess" around is to be human


275. January 7: The joy of learning: emotions as actions, too. E book for sale


274. Jan 6: First four games/ exercises/ meditations/ activities of 108 "Ways" Book


DECEMBER 2010


273. Dec 31  round and arch, a first lesson  at http://waking108.blogspot.com


272. Dec 24: the computer, even here we can wake and learn, or learn and wake


271. Dec, 22: tai chi and potency


270. Dec 21: the gift of learning in the now


269. Dec. 20: Rest and Life Potency, contradiction or living life for real?


268. Dec 16: The Mask of "Fitting in"  Why the work is necessary.


267. Dec 14: Ponderings on Anat Baniel

266. Dec 9: pain is...


265. Dec 5: EARing and Hearing and Memory and Attention


264. Dec 3: Warm wet and alive: Do not be good, via Mary Oliver poem


263. December 2: beyond the abs: what a real brain wants: a pelvis that goes all ways (think sex, think bringing an axe up and down, think throwing a baseball, serving a tennis serve)

262. December 2: a hearing, learning and enlightenment lesson




NOVEMBER 2010


261. Nov 25: thanks on the day of which


260. Nov 24: the power of "I don't know" (and a lesson still needs to tie to action,
that'll be another post, and has been past ones, look around, look around)


259. Nov 18: Cure vs Improvement, from the Case of Nora


258. Nov 9: Side to side, head, pelvis and ribs as a sweet happy team


257. Nov 5: Turning and learning again in a chair, sure, why not?


256. Nov. 1The importance of now, the scary thrill of transformation


OCTOBER 2010


255. Oct 16: Crazy, happy, wonderful: moving to Austin for the winter

SEPTMEBER 2010

254. sept 30: the love as we move in the now


253. September 1: How we learn is how we live, or why what we do is so easy


AUGUST 2010


252. Aug 20,  How to win or lose an argument, and the feet need to touch the ground to be grounded, duh? And we need to lose arguments with people we love, not so obvious, but elusively WAY true

251. Aug 17: Rolling to sit, some amazing possibilties in using our head (and rear ends)

250. August 17: The Feldenkrais Method, intro via the elusive obvious: learning, whole self, going slowly, "farting around"

249 Aug 16;  heading down, pelvising up

248. August 12: Head down in its spiral, butt up in its, and they are all one with our Us, and our spine 

247. August 10: Not knowing the next thing


246. August 9: To awake even though yapping, talking, writing

JULY 2010

245. July 29: Babies as our learning teachers. Learning means to learn


244. July 18: Freedom is the other side

243. July 17: Up and down with a slight twist

242. July 10: New Wine in New Skins: or what to do after the surgery

242. July 9: Thinking, walking: the power of variation and awakening

241. July 6, Be not good, there's more variety in doing "it" "wrong"

240. July 3: head and pelvis, two ends of an amazing stick

JUNE 2010

939. June 30Doing it right vs doing it better

938. June 29: "thinking" without words

237. June 25, Awaring our spine: a game for the day

236. JUne 22; Music and Feldie/ Anatie

235. June 14: mini lesson for shoulder and brain

234. June 13: What is the Feldenkrais Method, some variations on a theme

233. June 7: Tango as learning not "Doing it Right"

MAY 2010

232. May 19: anti aging, via improving folding, chair lesson

231. May 15: Easy standing lesson, hop hop on heels

230. May 12: Turning in sitting, some fun and learning

APRIL 2010

229. April 21: Learning and Spine joy

228. April 18: Toes and heels, a start, and meditate all day is a possibility

227. April 9: Loving the learning: toes and back and brain and yes

226. April 1: Anti-Aging and the Discovery gene rediscovered (not really about genes)

MARCH 2010

225. March 30: Rotation to the left in sitting, enjoy

224. March 9: acture, the reality of life = movement, good life = good movement = good acture

223. March 8: round and arch in standing

222. March 4: five lines, the God of learning, forward bend, actually hard/ simple

FEBRUARY 2010

221. feb 22: up and down and five lines

220. feb 20 sitting and side bending

219. Feb 3: twist while rising up from sitting with an arch and a nice meditation to boot

JANUARY 2010

218. Jan 22: head and back, arching and rounding in sitting

217. Jan 18: hopping in a couple of ways

216. jan 14: arch and rounding in a simple way

215, jan 10, belly out , belly in, 2 ways to breathe out

DECEMBER 2009

214: dec 27: down to up

213, dec 26, up to down, 4 points intro

212. dec 23: arch, round, breathing variations, in sitting

211. dec 14: lying on our side, using awareness, pelvis, hip, knee

210. December 1: Indications of activity at the sister/ mother blog, including movement lessons, all in the service of "waking up" to now

OCTOBER 2009

209. October 23: Benefits, of Anat Baniel/ Feldenkrais Method. good.

AUGUST 2009

208. August 15: Moti Nativ interview: Feldenkrais as awareness, real modern martial arts as spiritual and life learning

207. August 13. This is my life

206. August 7: Breathing, sensing, 5 lines

JULY 2009

205. July 15: the call of the heart, listened to, or not

204. july 2 the awakened life

203. july 1, how to get smarter: perceive differences

JUNE 2009

202. June 30: balancing the latest Feldyforum tempest in a teapot

201, June 23 what's the difference?

APRIL 2009

200. April 15, 2009: taxes and death

MARCH 2009

199. March 26 Thursday, How it Works, my take, part one: teamwork, hip bone connected to thigh bone and so on. Beginning lesson for parents of special needs children.

198. March 21: Spring into life, fitness in the world, not just the gym

197. March 18: Flexible Hearts

196. March 16, Mon, 2009: Update, Special Needs Children

195.March 13, Friday the: gravity and dance and sticks

194. March 3, wed, 2009: the Feldenkrais Method

FEBRUARY 2009

193. feb 18: Dancers, Musicians, Actors: get better no matter what level you're at

192. feb 14 sat valie day: Why Not be Happy?

191. feb 11 wed 2009: leaarning is fun, spelling is harder

190. Feb 4 WEd, 2009: new is now is learning if we let it


JANUARY 2009

189. Jan 28 Wednesday, Something like a resume

188. Jan 27 tues: Why came I to this work????

187, Jan 21, wed, 2009: travel learn heal love

186. Jan 15, 2009, wed, why move with awareness and learning?

185. Wednesday January 8, 2009: "Tucking the pelvis....hmmm"


DECEMBER 2008

184.Friday, dec 19: Who am I? Who are we all, really?

183, Wed dec 17, 2008: Sitting and butt elbow moving, fun

182.Dec 10: standing, learning, eyes, brain, feet, breathing easy

181. Dec. 6: What are feelings? What is thinking? The prison of our conditioning.


NOVEMBER 2008

180. Nov. 29 Saturday: Beginnings of an answer for Lynette

179. Nov. 28, friday; letter to Feldie forum, mysticism and whatnot, the Sufis,
Idries Shah, amazing books

178. November 26, Wednesday, 2008, Thanks g tomorrow: Sitting to Standing, a Learning Game, go slow, really discover

177. November 24, Monday: On back, arch, twist, send bend, flex, learn

176.November 22, Saturday: tuck, round then arch and extend and press forward into power and life

175. Nov. 19, Wed, 2008: arch and round, using back to move soil, using attention to build soul

174. November 13: five lines of our us, six shapes for our spines

173. November 7: Awakened Movement

172. skeleton, hallow ween, five lines

OCTOBER 2008

171. Oct 29: discovering movement lessons and learnings

170.Oct. 25, 2008: maximum instability, and what it means to be human

169. Oct. 23, 2008: weird ideas about "stability"

168. Oct 22: what's great, what's limiting about Yoga

167. Monday, October 20, 2008: Chris Movement Lesson #1. arching and chairs and fun

166. Sund,. Oct 12: Moshe, Gurdjieff, fun and learning in the "past"

165. Thurs. Oct 2: Mini cure for depression, and pains in the neck (both kinds)

SEPTEMBER 2008

164. Wed, sept 24: Executive Clarity: a bigger vision in healing and assisting

163. Mon, sept 22: knees please, learning and so on

162. wed, sept 17, 2008: learning to learn, fun and ease and yes

161/ Thurs sept 11, 2008: Sept 11 and the "enemy game"

160. Wed. Sept 3, 2008: Yoga Tai Chi and the Brain vs. ...

AUGUST 2008

159 Wed, aug 27, 2008: you are wonderful, what a wonderful thing, and...

158. Sunday, Aug. 17: stretching brains, not tight muscles

157. Wed. Aug. 13, 2008: Warriors and Poses, and Deeper Yoga possibilities

156. Wed, Aug. 6, 2008: Going Slowly, the gift of exploration

JULY 2008

155. Wed, July 23, 2008: The Seduction of Stretchng

154. Wed, July 16: Learning, Gravity and Rewiring the Brain

153. July 9: Joni Mitchell and the Possibilities of a life

152. July 4: freedom is ????

JUNE 2008

151. June 12: Brain plasticity made immediate and sex, vision, breathing all improved

MAY 2008

150. May 16: Learning and Loving and Sex and Health, a ramble, a short ramble

149. May 6: What is Good, and so on

APRIL 2008

148. April 19: vitality, chi, sex, variation, freedom, learning, and so on

147. April 15: the movement of life and God

146. April 9: Gurdjieff meditation, four of five lines


MARCH 2008

145: March 22: A Simple Start: hips and head

144. March 19: shoulders, the discovery channel

143. March 9: body and soul and neck and self hug and learning and loving ourselves

142. March 5: Shoulders, Yes

FEBRUARY 2008

141. Feb. 23: Organic learning and the Feldenkrais Method®

140. Feb. 19: hello again,
waking up with wake up Feldenkrais, and other stuff


139. Feb.11: Nikhila Mary Ludlow, Hand Lesson and talking about the Feldenkrais Method®

138. Feb. 3: five lines, five ringed circus called: NOW

JANUARY 2008

137. Jan. 8: Norman Doidge on Feldenkrais, or: Miracle, Yes, Yes!

136. Jan.5: Excerpt from Up, a book in progress



DECEMBER 2007

135. Dec. 31: A year of sweetness a year of...

134. Dec. 28: Meaning of Life in Three Layers: A Christmas Present to your Present

133. Dec. 18: 6 awareness days until Christmas

132. Dec. 11: Listening to Ourselves, Now, at the computer

131. Dec. 4: "Resistance" to the Feldenkrais Method (Mainly a post for practitioners) .
NOVEMEBER 2007

130. Nov. 24: What to do about our sleep?

129. Nov. 21: Learning and Becoming a Child again, sort of

128. Nov. 13: Pleasure, Ease and Learning: Group Lessons on Mondays and Wednesday

127. Nov. 12: Yoga in Feldie Land: Triangle

126. Nov. 10: Life is Real only when I am

125. Nov. 6 Moshe's high octane, body/mind/lust powered youth, via Deborah Elizabeth Lotus

124. Nov. 5 Monday Yoga, Feldie feet intro, fun
OCTOBER 2007

123. Oct. 31: Where are the Hip Joints???

122. Oct. 18: Stress, Learning and the Feldenkrais Method®

121. Oct. 16: Walking Again

120. Oct. 12: Walking, a miracle we usually take for granted

119. Oct. 11: Waking Up and Feldenkrais

118. Oct. 10: Weight Loss and Wake Up Feldenkrais

117. Oct. 6: Now Knowing: Food for a good life and a good Functional Integration Lesson
SEPTEMBER 2007

116. Sept. 28: Love, Remembering, Feldie Forum, parenting, whatnot

115. Sept. 19: Feldenkrais Method and therapy

114. Sept. 17: Take a Rest, Learn and Be Human

113, Sept. 12: Learning and Love

112. Sept. 11 The Real Terror

111. Sept. 5 Boring is as Boring Approaches
AUGUST 2007

110. Aug 29: New Life, Choice: Learning or Robot Upgrade

109. Aug 29: Feet on Ground, Eyes glued to Computer

108. Aug. 27: mindfulness, moving, healing

107. Aug. 22: Variety and Learning

106. Aug. 20: Health Backs, and the old choice:
Discovery vs. "Doing it Right"


105. Aug. 18: Happier Backs

104. Aug. 14: What Yoga and "yoga therapy" always misses...

103. Aug. 13 Yoga as if we had a
Brain, Heart and Spirit. 


102. Aug. 8: This Moment.
Or: Waking up,
in as well as through Feldenkrais


101. August 7: The Glories of Living and the Feldenkrais so called "Method"
JULY 2007

100. July 27: The Power of Feldenkrais Plus Ananda Yoga

99. July 14: yoga training, more learning, la la

98. July 4: Freedom
JUNE 2007

97. June 28: Letter to a Wonderful Parent of a Special Needs Child

96. June 18: One 11 minute "cure" for depression.

95. June 1: What is Possible? A life full of learning, change and transformation. And happiness.
MAY 2007

94. May 22: Human Beings: Designed to Learn

93. May 16: Learning, Play and Love

92. May 16: Nature, Big and Small, always amazing

91. May 2: Improve Your Brain, Get more Neurons, and Move Better: all in one process
APRIL 2007

90. April 25: Awareness and Attention 

89. April 18: Happiness Now? Heresy or Sanity? 

88. April 5: A Morning's Feast, an Introduction to Awareness Through Movement®

87. April 3: Rolfing and Feldenkrais

MARCH 2007

86. March 26: An Experiment in Learning and Fun, one rolling to sit lesson.

85. March 16: Slow Down

84. March 11: What is the Feldenkrais Method? And Wake Up Feldenkrais? New Version.

83. March 6: Going from -1 to +3 in ten minutes or less

82. March 2: The Glory of Being Human: Bones, Brains, Learning and Gravity: and, We can Change
FEBRUARY 2007

81. February 26: Learning to Turn, Learning to Learn

80. February 26: Watch the Baby 

79. February 25: Waking our Pelvis, Waking our Lives

78. February 21: Thinking and Non-Thinking, and : What Makes a Good Life???

77. Feb. 18: The Enemy Game

76. Feb. 15: The Joy of Improvement

75. February 12: To be Small or to Expand

74. February 9: Life and Love and the Really Good Lessons

73. February 7: The Waking up in Feldenkrais and in the Byron Katie Work, always from within

72. February 5: Porpoise of Life, 2: to Live

71. February 2: A Big Dream: Now and Nature and Love and Learning and Transformation, on the Earth
JANUARY 2007

70. Jan. 30: Lifting Rocks and Having a Good Time

69. Jan. 27: Change and The Anat Baniel Way

68. Jan. 24: Gurdjieff and Feldenkrais

67. Jan. 21: Jesus and Judo

66. Jan. 18: Feldenkrais and Love

65. Jan. 15: Martin Luther King, Racism, Corporatism, some Personal History

64. Jan. 12: Yoga and Feldenkrais 

63. Jan. 9: The Feldenkrais Method®, a winter presentation. 

62. Jan. 6: Cat and Cow, Yoga 3, Happiness, Mind and Body

61. Jan. 3: Doing "something" (for pelvis, spine, whole self and brain

60. Jan. 2: Doing "Nothing" is more than we might suspect
 



December 2006

59. Dec. 30: Life is Good. Now is Grand. We are...

58. Dec. 28: Posture and Acture. (Say What?)

57. Dec. 24: Christ-mas, Now Mass

56. Dec. 21: Nature's Flexibility and the Joys of Variation

55. Dec. 21 Sostice, Rain, December, Love...Ah

54. Dec. 18: Yoga as if We Had a Brain, Lesson 2, More Fun Forward Fold.

53. Dec. 15: The Delight of Life

52. Dec. 12: Yoga as if We Had A Brain, Lesson 1, Forward Fold

51. Dec. 9: Moving and Learning, the Miracle Continues

50. Dec. 8: When You Can't Do Any Old Lesson in Life, Options Useful and Less So

49. Dec. 6: Math as a Chance to Use our Brain in a New Way, the way it likes to work

48. Dec. 1: Feet, 2


Novemeber 2006

47. Nov. 22: Feet

46. Nov. 20: Feldie Fun, #5 Eyes and Tongue

45. Nov. 18: Raw Foods and Waking up

44. Nov. 16: Is it Right Yet?

43. Nov.13: Back and Shoulder and Neck Pain

42. Nov. 4: Undo Deficits, Enhance Excellence, Wake Up to the Present

October 2006
41. Oct. 31. Feldenkrais and Breathing and Grape Arbors

40.Oct. 30: Opening Two Habits: Side of Bed, Reading a Novel

39. Oct 25: Tai Chi And Feldenkrais:Two Goods make a Better.

38. Oct 24: Healing by Learning

37. Oct 22: Habits, Compulsions, Addictions

36. Oct 20: Oh shit, I'm alive

35. Oct 18. Feldenkrais and the Big Self in us All

34. Oct 17. Special Needs Children and the Joys of Transformation

33. Oct 14: Slave or Free??

32. Oct 12: Marlie, Yoga Teacher, Wonderful Person and so on

31. Oct 11: Awareness and Saving our Souls and the Earth (Is that all?)

30. Oct 9: Awareness and Unawareness

29. Oct 6: Awareness 3; Thich Nhat Hahn Meditation

28. Oct 5: The Morning Gurdjieff Meditation, Awareness, 2

27. Oct 4: Awareness, Part 1 (and Gurdjieff's "fantastic" idea)

26. Oct 3: The Big Picture, Pain and Beyond

25. Oct. 2: What is the Feldenkrais Method?

September 2006
24. Sept 30: Who's In Charge Here, (20 breaths: can we be aware that long?)

23. Sept 29: Byron Katie, WakeUp Feldenkrais and Happiness.

22. Sept 28: What is WakeUp Feldenkrais?

21. Sept 26: Presence is the End, Presence is the Means

20. Sept 21: Happiness, Slow and Fast

19. Sept 20: Slow Down, Lie Down and Learn

18. Sept 18: Feldenkrais and Happiness

17. Sept 16: Sitting to Standing, Again

16. Sept 14: Sitting to Standing and the Obvious, the Elusive

15. Sept 14: Feldie #3, a hard lesson, sort of

14. Sept 12: Waking Up

13. Sept 11: WakeUp Feldie Thts on 9-11

12. Sept 9: Let's Talk about Babies

11. Sept 8: Feldie Fun #2

10. Sept. 7: Change's Weird Requirement: We Have to Change (OhmyGod)

9. Sept 6: Awareness, Feldenkrais® and WakeUp Feldenkrais

8.5. Oldie but Goodie: Movement, Children, Living a Full Life.

8. Sept 4: Options and Habits

7.5. Another Oldie: Between the Ears, is where the "Problem" is.

7. Sept 1: Little Miss Sunshine and How We Learn from Crisis (sometimes)

August 2006
6. Aug 31: An Amazing Experiment: Happy Face, Happy Thoughts

5. Aug 30: Feldenkrais to Enhance and Deepen Yoga and Pilates

4. Aug. 29: Feldie Fun #1 

3. Aug 29: Who was Moshe Feldenkrais?

2. Aug 28: Feldenkrais and Learning

1. Aug 27: The Joy of Feldenkrais




60-135, INDEX OF POSTINGS 2007


1-59 INDEX OF POSTINGS, 2006