Thursday, April 23, 2015

Waking Up ( Again, and again)


Waking Up, again ( and again)

Have you ever caught yourself, just about you were about so say some jerky and reactive thing to your loved one, and stopped?
Stopped and taken a breath.
Stopped and looked at the other person.
Stopped and came back to the present of yourself in the moment in your body in this now.
And realized:
One: I’ve done this before, and it’s always turned to shit
Two: This is a person I love and what I’m about to say is not loving
Three: I was asleep when I wanted to say that.
Four: Now that I’m present, I have a choice.

Three is the trick, the life saver, the game changer, the path from a life of slavery to a life of freedom.
We can blather about unconditional love, and if we can’t shut our traps when the reactive stuff is about to come, we will forever be lost to this world of real love.
Conditional love is not love.
Awake, we can move toward unconditional love. And only awake.

Mindful.
Mindless.
Them’s the choices. Mindful we can stop, sense ourselves in the moment, see our partner and say something true: “I’m afraid.” “I’m lonely.” “I wish we could really connect”
Mindless we have to say something that is “wrong” with them.
Or chatter about ourselves and ignore them.

Either way: no real connection.
No real connection means no real love.

Mindful.
Mindless.
Mindless means no one is home to run our show and so it’s back to the programmed self, which is usually Ma and Pa and the decisions we made to protect ourselves when we were young.

Oh, well.

This can all sound heavy handed and yet, there is an easy way out.
The same simple stuff we started with in the first game. With the addition of sensing yourself specifically in your arms and legs and connection to gravity and breathing.

Looking your partner in the eye. Feeling your own breathing. Feeling your own ten fingers, ten toes, belly, eyes, ears & nose.  Saying simple truth.
Seems stupid maybe.
Seems boring.
And, great practice is staying value free in talking to our love.
“I feel my feet on the ground.” “I see your eyes blinking.” “I see your chest rising and falling as you breathe.” “I sense my chest rising and falling as I breathe.”
Simple. Stupid.
Real.
I am alive.
You are alive.
That’s the central plum of our existence. Realized with a love one, life becomes one of “love making” every time you sit down and say real things together.

And it’s practice, practice reigning talk in from it’s usual function which is the relief of excess.
Excess food, out as poop.
Excess air, out as outbreath.
Excess thinking , out as talking.

How to be present while talking.
Hard.
Fun.
Amazing.

And this is for the brave ones, willing to sit down each day and connect in talk and touch.

Let’s try in the simple way once more.

Talking:
Set the timer for 3 minutes as you sit near and look each other in the eye.
Partner A: talks for those 3 minutes.
Either about what they notice in themselves, or what they notice in the other.
Be informed by
Ten fingers ( and hands and arms)
Ten toes ( and feet and legs)
Belly ( and breath and pelvis)
Eyes,
Ears,
Nose ( breathing and reminder: top of the spine).

Smile.
Pause.
Enjoy silent as well as present-talk connection.

Do this twice each way.

Pause for 6 breaths between each turn.
Take a little walk before the touching part.

Touch
2 two minute turns each way.

One : stroke the partner’s hand and arm, reporting in the present on what you notice
Two: as you stroke your partner’s hand and arm, they report in the present on what they notice


Share at the end how that was for each of you, both ways.

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Passion, Purpose, Play, Presence..... Want it All?



Passion, Purpose, Play, Presence

Many relationships start in passion. Hallelujah!
This is fun, exhilarating, exciting, gives hope, floods the system with ocytocin, gets each person to realize they aren’t alone in the universe.
And more.
Presence happens. At least in the bed. They get our of their head. The moment feels good enough to be present.
Play happens. Silliness sneaks in, and games are played.
This is good.

And, then, sad face…. Passion fades.
There is not a purpose agreed to be present, and in the talking part of the relationship an inevitable shift takes place, from loving the other to ego function kicking back in.
In the love part, this other person is different and that’s fascinating. Like children, excited with the new and the unknown, when we are new lovers we are thrilled at the differences.
And then the ego function ( there being no such thing as “ego,” it’s just the pattern of conditioning wrapped around self-image and the me-me-me principle) kicks in and the different is wrong.
Ego function wants others to think, feel, act, smell, be like them. Eat like them. Be unhappy like them. Complain like them. Hate the same people they hate.
And so on.
 A boring way to live, to be sure, and it’s the lot of 99% of humanity.

Presence fades even from sex. Or maybe not, but sex becomes a relief valve, not a playground.

And purpose that never was there goes a couple of ways:
Arguing.
Creating harmony within boredom.
Creating some business together.
Having kids.

Kids gives a purpose and is the one area in life where many people can actually live more in love than in ego function.

So now the couple, though the passion is slipping and presence is there only in some of the slipping passion, at least has play time with the kids.
And they have a purpose. Kids are almost impossible, even the best ones, so the couple has to talk things through, listen to each other, discover solutions.
Many couples fight over how to raise children.
They don’t have a purpose of listening to another point of view.
Ah, here comes the divorce. ( Mine was that. Many years ago. Alas. We make mistakes. We learn)

And what would an awakened relationship be doing so that passion, purpose, play and presence could be there in the beginning, middle and end?

One, start from purpose and presence.
Notice all the exercises/ games in this book are about being present as you talk and present as you touch.
Start the sex in touch.
Start the foreplay in honest and present talk..

Two, have these purposes.
To be present. Always.
To be kind. Always.
To see any button being pushed as an opportunity to work on oneself.
Because, this is an overriding purpose: to learn unconditional love.
Which is a subset of enlightenment, and mutual enlightenment is a purpose of the awakened relationship.

And from that, awakened passion is an eyes open, slow, communicative, requesting and listening and not in a rush thing.
And it’s great.
And it gets better and better.

Play comes, kids or no, because life without being driven by the ego function can continually be fascinated by this very different being with whom intimacy is growing and growing and growing.

Fun.
If you’ve read the book this far and done the games, you are well on the way.
Keep it up.


Yes

Monday, April 20, 2015

Waking Up in talk, touch and life



Waking Up

Waking up is fun.
Waking up is a pain in the ass.
Waking up is hard.
Waking up is the only way to be sane.
Waking up makes you a freak.
Waking up makes you free.
No one will understand you.
You will understand everyone.
You could be lonely.
You could be blissfully at one with everyone.
You could be in free fall.
You could be totally grounded.

Waking up’s fun.
Waking up’s your chance.
Waking up’s life.

And this book is about sex every day and talking every day and enlightenment.
And we haven’t talked about the famous genitals.
And we aren’t going to.

It’s all kissing and touching.
And sensing yourself.
And listening to your own body.
And listening to their response as you kiss and touch.

And feeling the point of contact.
And giving requests.
And getting requests.

See how this could come in handy when you get under the covers and get into the hurly burly?
Life in the sexual arena is usually a rush to the finish, and asleep and fraught with the peril of making sure this and that happens.
No one slows down.
No one makes requests.
No one says: now I feel this, now I’m doing that.

It’s all the animal thrashing.
Fun in a way. And definitely a good way to blow off extra steam and create the next generation, and create some oxytocin.
And ultimately: a waste.

Sex without being awake is a waste.
Talk without being awake is a waste.

Keep kissing.
Keep touching.
Keep talking.

It’s your life. Do you want it with the lights on, or the lights off? With the heart open? Or the heart closed?


Your choice.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

listening deeper, from the forthcoming book: Love, Lust and Enlightenment


Listening Deeper

We hear the words. If we are lucky, we hear them fully in the ONLY LISTENING mode, where we are not busy having auditory hallucinations (aka “thinking”) about what we are going to say in response.
We hear the words on a good day.
And what else is being said?
What are they feeling?
What are we feeling about what they are saying and about what they are feeling?
What are their body sensations?
What are our body sensations about what we are hearing and what we are feeling and what they are feeling and what they are sensing in their bodies?

Don’t try to untangle that all.
It’s simple:
Head.
Heart.
Body.

All three are listening and one level all the time.
All three are communicating at one level all the time.

Most of us have a ways to go in getting these subtle messages inside ourselves and inside our partner.
Oh well.

What a great new thing to learn.

Partner A:
Talk for two minutes.

Partner B:
I heard you say this in words. Did I miss anything?

Go back and forth until it’s a yes.

Partner B, continuing:
This is my guess about what you were feeling when you were talking

Partner A, shares how close or far that was

Partner B, continuing.
This is how I am feeling in my body right now….
This is my guess about how you are feeling in your body right now…

Go back and forth and see what you can learn from each other about this. Remember COAL
Curious
Open
Aware
Loving

See what happens.
Take lots of three breath pauses.
Do this both ways.

Several times, if you have time.

Touch today

Kiss the hand and arm:
2 minutes: just do it
2 minutes: pay attention to your guess of their feelings and sensations
2 minutes: all the above plus your feelings and sensations

Do both ways

Compare the 3 modes in both giving and getting

Cheers

Chris

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Death and Taxes.. vs, what you can REALLY count on


From the book: Love, Lust and Enlightenment: Falling deeply in love, coming off a "verge of divorce," and becoming "almost enlightened" to boot.
Call for a free pdf of the first four chapters.



Death and Taxes
(And… What you can REALLY count on)


I am alive. You are alive.
Someday I’m going to die.
Someday you are going to die.

So be it. Ho hum.
What’s new?

And yes! What good news!

And why, pray tell, is this “good news?”

Because there is only one thing that we can REALLY count on (two really), and that is this moment.
And good news about the now is that this moment is right here, right now, even this now.
No, wait, especially, this now.
This now.
This now.
This now.

No waiting.
Not planning.
No needing the right uniform, age, health, mood, thoughts, feelings.
The now doesn’t demand you be happy, nor smart, nor at your best form.
It is only what it is: your experience in this moment.
Your awareness that allows you to experiencd your experience.
No, not allows, as if it is separate. How about this: you are this awareness, and you can wake up to being awareness, to the experience of being awareness.
Can wake up only one time.
Now

Good.
And the other “thing” (quality, delight, aspect of life) that we can count on is LOVE.
Really?
Yes.
In the now, with no words in our head to tell us the we or the other or the world is not “good enough,” all that’s left is love.
Don’t take my word for it.
Don’t “try” to love the world, the other, yourself.

Experience what’s left in the now without the opinion about the now.

See/ feel/ know for yourself.

So, that’s it, plus a little super important note after the talking exercise.

Talk today:
Take 5 minute turns.
Talk about one third about your sensations in the Now.
Talk about one third about your feelings (as emotions) in the now. With no “because.”
“I am angry.” “I am sad.” “I am curious.” “I am happy.”
All those, and many many more with no “because” afterwards.
Talk about one third about what is important to you in life.

Pause three to ten breaths after the timer goes off and the other person talks for five minutes.

If you have timer, do this twice each way.


This is more important that food or exercise.

Touch today
Kiss the partners arm for 2 3 minute turns
One: without requests
Two : with requests.

Both ways.
Pause to breathe in between.

Share the difference, both giving and getting



The “because” thing.
Skip it
Today, now, the rest of your life. ( Except when you want to go inside and reclaim your demons… that’s another day)
If you say, “I am angry.”  It’s true. It’s about you, or your closest take on this “emotion” inside you.
“I am angry because you don’t appreciate me enough” is the old slavery:
Complaint/ demand/ victim/ blame/ avoidance of responsibility.
Call it what you may, it’s a lie: You are the one making you angry = freedom to love.
The other person is the one making you angry= slavery.

Easy as that.

Anger is fine. Do push ups. Chop wood. Clean the kitchen. Even make love (slowly, with now-ing, which will get you into reality). Make money. Take a walk. (Don’t run. Running in emotional states is almost always running away from yourself)

Anger is fine.
Anger because of…. Is bullshit.

We always have choice.

All we need is to be present enough to realize that there is a real you inside who can make that choice.



Good.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Love as Choice


Part of a chapter of a forthcoming book: Love, Lust & Enlightenment: A beginners guide to waking up in this lifetime in the arms of your lover



Love as Choice

Put your attention, please, in your right hand. Sense the flesh, the bones, all the fingertips.
Enjoy this miracle, your right hand.
Now, please, shift your attention to the other miracle on the other side: your left hand. Sense its fingertips and bones and blood and sinews and flesh.
Ah, enjoy that miracle too.
Now shift your attention, please, back to the right hand. And now, please, to the left hand.
And here’s one of life’s central questions: Who is doing that?
Who is shifting the attention from one hand to the other?
Who is awaring the hands one at a time and then shifting the attention from one to the other?

Is it your name doing that? Your age? Your job? Your childhood history? Your school career? Your place of birth or residence? Is it you gender moving the attention and being aware of what each hand is like in the moment?

No, no, and lots of no.

So: Who is awaring the hands when your attention is there.
You are.
You are.

Not your thinking, not your feelings, not even your brain.
You.
You are moving your attention.

This is the central human freedom. You can be concentrating on the deep indignity of your partner burning your eggs, and shift your attention to the awaring of your breath, and their breath, and your connection to gravity, and that they are alive and your are alive, and where does the indignity go?
Gone.
Out of our heads and into our experience, and we can always get back to love.
ALWAYS.

We are the one who can chose to move our attention.
And much as has been written about affirmations, I think they suck, because they are fighting fire with fire, more thinking trying to fight thinking

When in trouble, stop thinking. Come to the present. Get in your experience.

Shift your attention around.

Saturday, April 11, 2015

You do not have to be good


You Do Not Have to Be Good
You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.

Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting --

over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

~ Mary Oliver ~

You do not have to be good.


You do not have to be good.
You only have to allow the soft warm animal of your heart and body and mind and soul love what they love.

What do they love?
Being alive.

What do they love?
Discovering the mysteries of field and meadow and leaf and stream and sunshine and smile and love ( and money, ha).

You only have to fly, harsh and exciting of wing flap and heart soar, into the clear blue skis, over the bright golden meadows, the white snowy peaks, the churning turquoise oceans, the dark gleaming pebbles the sparkling ecstatic streams.
Soar, fly, take it all in.
It’s all yours.
Life.

You are part of the family of things and the family means a loved one and some friends. You don’t have to have children, but you do need to give birth of something wild and soaring and mysterious.
Like a baby
Like a poem.
Like a crazy ass book, a paintng, a song, your own dance of that day, your own amazing communication, a symphony, a new thought. A quietness of the mind and soul.
Give birth to yourself, the emptiness dancing that is who you really are.

And, yes, yes, you can create your own business, but a business for the soaring of it, and the love for life and your partner and your colleagues, and employees, and mainly for the world who is going to delight in your helping them soaring over the golden green blue sparkling earth.

The world is ours to love.
You do not have to be good because you are really good, you are made that way, before you eat the apple of “this is good, and this is bad.”
Adam and Eve. You do not have to be good Eve. Be yourself and you are the whole of the universe. You don’t have to worry about what the serpent thinks is right, You don’t have to worry about what God thinks is right.
Hug that man, Eve, and dance in the garden.

And so today: let’s hug.
And talk.
At the same time.

You do not have to be good at being present. You do not have to be good at hugging.

And naturally, you will do fine. Just fine. Wonderfully.

It’s all easy, this life and loving thing, if we don’t worry about what other people think (which is usually what “good” is, something like the lowest common denominator of repressed behavior to not scare the most unhappy person in the room with our happiness).
What other people about you think is almost always a reliable indicator of their pathology, and only rarely has anything much to do with you.
You trigger them. They tell you to be good, which, as said above means: don’t scare me by showing me how happy I could be if I stopped worshipping my chains.
And finally, it’s easy, this life and loving thing, if we don’t worry about what our opinion of how we “should be” thinks about us.
If we just live.

And this isn’t hedonism.
Though with your mate, sensual pleasure is one of the best ways in the world to create mutual warmth and nourishing.

Not hedonism, no. This is soft easy pleasant touch, yes.
And talk.

Let the soft warm you in your heart and hands and legs and lips and bellies and all over, and the soft warm you in your mind without words and the soft warm you of your soul merging with another be your guide.

At least some of the day.

Like Now.

Hug your partner, standing.
Hug for awhile, at least two minutes without saying anything.
Then take turns of a minute to two minutes ( don’t time it, just guess) of saying exactly what you are feeling.
In your touch: I feel my fingers stroking your hair. In your reception: I feel your fingers caressing my hair.
Go slowly. Do things. Slow things.
Notice them.
Include gravity.
Include breath.
Include everything.
Share back and forth your present experience.

What comes next?

You discover.

Tuesday, April 07, 2015

INDEX of all Postings 828 so far

Life is choices:
Chose waking up

APRIL 2015

288/ Thursday, April 23: Waking Up ( Again, and again, and again)from the forthcoming book--- Love, Lust and Enlightenment

287. Wednesday, April 22:   Passion, Play, Purpose, Presence DO YOU WANT IT ALL? from the forthcoming book--- Love, Lust and Enlightenment

286. Monday, April 20: Waking up in touch, talk, sex and lifefrom the forthcoming book--- Love, Lust and Enlightenment

285. Saturday, April 18:  Listening Deeper, from the forthcoming book--- Love, Lust and Enlightenment

284. Thursday, April 16, : Death and Taxes, vs what you can REALLY count on

823, Saturday, april 11: You do not have to be goodFrom the Forthcoming Book: Love, Lust and Enlightenment

822. Tuesday , April 7:  The Turn Around:  From the Forthcoming Book: Love, Lust and Enlightenment

821. Monday, April 6: Be of Good Cheer: From the Forthcoming book: Love, Lust & Enlightenment 

820. Thursday, April 2:  Fear and Enlightenment,  from the Forthcoming book: Love, Lust and Enlightenment

MARCH 2015

819. Thursday, March 26: Sensing yourself, the Gurdjieff meditation

818. Wednesday , March 18: A full body, full attention, all day mediation...enlightenment in action, if you'd like

817,  Tuesday, March 17:  The Passion Project

816. Wednesday, March 11: AWARENESS waits not

FEBRUARY 2015

815. February 21:  Cheating unhappiness, 2 --- Shift happens

814. February 20:    Cheating unhappiness-1,,, Shift happens

813. February 11:  In Dad's memory


JANUARY 2015

812. january 9, Friday:  Day one, now nature love....roses

811. january 2: Friday::: Humor at our own hypocracy

DECEMBER 2014

810. December 6, Saturday:  Mindful relationship: the path to ongoing love

809. December 5: Friday:  Two nervous systems, a complicated world.. wildness vs calm

808. December 3:  Love as Listening and Attention and letting them be in "their business"

807. December 2: Violence and Aggression.... Waking Up.... Being Present.. (even a little sex)

806. December 1: What do YOU want in your relationship. A way to talk about it that might actually make a difference.

NOVEMBER 2014

805. November 26, Thanksgiving:  Gratitude, love, liking and touching

804. November 21, Friday: Part 4 of better talk and touch and love and sex

803. November 19, Wednesday""" The end of suffering, even in grief... being present

802. November 18, Tuesday:  Waking up, in all the moments:  Ten fingers, ten toes, etc etc

801. November 12: Transforming Bitterness into Love

800. November 5: Some realizations on  a Wednesday: argue with REality and suffer

OCTOBER 2014

799. October 30: Truth is free, and yet....

SEPTEMBER 2014

798 Sept 25, Thursday, Slow down, wake up, love is in any now that's quiet enough

797 September 18,  Thursday,  Don't be too nice

796. September 16: What I want for you....

795. September 15: May you BE happy, 2

794. Sept 10: What is the Anat Baniel Method?  A daily game: toes, fingers, breath, light

793. September 9:  Sensing the Right Leg and Right Arm... an intense way to begin real presence

792, September 8: Now vs Yammering about the Now

AUGUST 2014

791. Thursday, August 28: May you be Happy

790 Monday, August 25: Become More Amazing

789 Monday, August 18,  Shoulders

788 Wednesday:  August 13, For the kids sake /After Divorce, forgiveness, friendship, kinship, family...fun

787. Tuesday, August 12: High Performers to Higher

786, Monday, August 11:  :.. Limitation vs Possibility, The Anat Baniel Method, with a short six minute video embeded

From Special Needs Kids Blog



JULY

785. Monday, July 28:  Learning as a game any two can play. Or just one. From the Special Needs Children blog

784. Thursday, July 24: When is the best time to be mindful?

783. Wednesday, July 23:  Love and a Broken Heart

782. Tuesday, July 22: Movement, Helping Breathing, a start

780. Monday, July 14: Anxiety, and a Movement Lesson to lessen

779/ Thursday, July 10:  Pulse Pulse, it's all we got:  life and love

778/ July 8: Tuesday:  Hello God, this is God saying Hi

777. July 3: Thursday, the pursuit of happiness

776. July 2, Wednesday:  Deep Listening

775. July 1, Tuesday: Small doses of positive connection, food for love, health and soul
JUNE 2014

774. June 30, Monday: Love is
773. June 29, Sunday,    Feet as a way "out of our heads"-- all the time

772. June 28, Saturday:  Posture, Backs, Golf, relaxation--- a movement lesson

771. June 27, Friday,  Wake the f... up, f... to wake up, not the usual

770. June 26, Thursday..... be present, wait, ask

769. June 25, wednesday------ more unconditional love

768, June 24, Tuesday,   Love, the unconditional version,  i.e. love

767, June 23, Monday:  Freedom, do we really want it?

766. June 22: Sunday, Conflict as Food for Love

765. June 21: Saturday, Love "making

764. June 20, Friday: Awake in Sex, awake in touch

763. June 19, Thursday, Forgiveness, good of the Gods

762. June 18, Wed,  Talking about Talk, as in, why not improve communication?

761. June 17, Tuesday, Waiting to come, coming together, nowing and learning love

760. June 14, Saturday, the importance of mind reading

759. June 13 Friday, Touch, slowing and listening

759. June 12 Insomnia

758, June 12, Thursday: How Can I Love you better?,,, 3

757. Love and Sex Before Dinner: Making Out as Slow, Connect, Discover... and yum

756. Anat Baniel's Nine Essentials with my phrases after

755. June 10: How can I love you more? 2

754. June 9: How can I love you more?

753. June 9: Moving Up and Down/ de slumping ourselves in a chair, movement lesson

752. June 8: Awakened Relationship

751. June 7: have you tried skipping lately, for fun and your brain???

750. June 6:  talk as renewal and magic, if present

749. June 5: 10 minute make out

748, June 4: Wednesday: Love and Sex Before Dinner, 3: Ambivalence

747/ June 3, Tuesday, from Love and Sex blog:  How to Talk in your 18 minutes... or be here now

746. June 2, Monday, from kids blog:  Flexible Goals, gets you there faster

745. June 2:  Monday, Love and Sex Before Dinner, 1: "How was your day"?


MAY 2014

744. May 30, Friday, "failure" as the beginning of new learning and joy

743. May 29, Thursday, What are other People for?

742. May 28, Wednesday,  The Gurdjieff meditation, an all day possibility

741. May 27, Tuesday, The now waits for no one, and.... can set you free. You do want to be free, right?

740. May 27, Tuesday, Doing it Better for Fun, Doing it Right for lockdown

739. May 26, Monday afternoon: From special needs kids blog, ENTHUSIASM

738/ May 26, Monday:  Awakened Tai Chi,  and you don't have to know tai chi

737, May 23 friday, Adyashanti on the immensity and nourishment of the unknown

736. May 23, Friday,   New Love, New Life

735. May 20, Tuesday, morning again: Who am I?  Is love about fixing you or know who I am?


734. May 19, Monday afternoon, special needs Monday blog, Essential 4: Subtlety 

733. May 19, Monday again:  Americanah, an amazing book, do read it and thrive

732. May 19: Monday, Love, sex, waking up and all that hooey

731. May 17: Love, Loss and Magic on a Saturday, all before sundown

730, May 5: Slow, Essential to Learning and Love, from Special Needs Kids Blog 

729. May 4: Meditation, the impermanent and the permanent

728/ May 3: Love Hate and Anger, having fun with all of that 


727. May 1: Autism and Love, from the Mindful Parenting of an Autistic child perspective


APRIL 2014

726: April 29, Tuesday: Autism and Love, Connecting and Playing, and Going Easy

725, April 25, Friday, Autism and Meditation, part one

724. April 24, Thursday, Waking Up, even when we are busy. Why?

723. April 22, Tuesday: Treating Your Child, Your Mate, Yourself in Poor and Better Ways

722. April 21: Monday, From Special Needs Blog:  Your Child's Brain on Learning

721. April 17, Thursday:  Loving Your enemy. What Easter is really about

720. April 16, Wednesday: The Love Game. The Wake up Game. Are they the same? 

719. April 14, Monday: Chapter 2, CONNECTING not Fixing

718. April 7, Monday: Let's reRead Anat Baniel's book: Kids Beyond Limits

717. April 4, 2014: Backs, Necks and Shoulder Pain... What the heck... Rewire the Brain


MARCH 2014, THE MONTH OF TRANSITION

716, March 16, Sunday:  Fear and Change, Fear of Change, the Strange Plight of Being Human, and, The Strange as Freedom

715. March 11: Movement Lesson: Eyes, Neck and Back

714. MARCH 11: Freedom and Love

FEBRUARY 2014, THE MONTH OF LOVE AND LEARNING

713. Thursday, February 27:  Love in Waking = Love, Love in mindlessness = Mom + Pop

712. Monday, Feb 24: Loving the Other after Divorce, freedom

711. Tuesday, Feb 18: 10 steps to Happiness

710. Monday, Feb 17: Divorce + Love = Freedom

709. Tuesday, Feb 11: Is there Sex after Marriage?

708. Tuesday, Feb 11: Balance Two, for you, and you and you

707,  Monday, February 10: Balance and movement: a movement lesson for all



JANUARY 2014, HURRAY!

706. Thursday: Jan 30:  Movement Lesson--- Cat and Cow several ways, in both sitting and the normal yoga way of hands and knees

705. Tuesday, Jan 28: The Heart Knows what the Mind done Forgot, Love is and Ain't, part 8

704. Friday, Jan 24: Love is, Love Ain't 7

703. Friday, Jan 24: On your back, pushing down a standing foot to release back and  brighten your brain

702. Wednesday, Jan 22: Side lying, flexion extension hips shoulder brain, fun

701. Wednesday, Jan 22: Love is, Love Ain't 6

700. Tuesday, Jan 21, More moving on your side: Hips, shoulder, brain

699 Monday, Jan 20, Love is , Love Ain't, Kahlil Gibran, and the Prophet

698 Tuesday, Jan 20, Movement Lesson, Shoulder and Hip

697/ Monday, Jan 20, Love is, Love Ain't 4, Paul in Corinthians 13

696. Saturday, Jan 18: Love is, Love Ain't 3

695. Friday, Jan 17, Love is, Love Ain't, 2

694. Thursday, Jan 16: Love Is, Love Ain't, 1

693. Wednesday, January 15,  Life is Yes, Yes

692. Tuesday, January 14: Austin on a warm January night-- the bright glory of other people

691. Monday, January 13: Happiness is our choice.... why not choose it, eh?

690. Thursday, January 9: Forgetting what's not important... other people's dumb ass opinions of us

689. Monday January 6: Making Out with the wake up

688. Saturday, January 4: Mindfulness and Love

687 . Thursday, January 2: anger that stays happy--- why not, it's our life, anyway

686. Wednesday, January 1, 2014:  An ongoing meditation for those who wish to wake up this year



DECEMBER 2013

685/ Tuesday: December 31: Freedom #7{ Sufi teaching story:The King's Son and the Queen's Daughter

684. Monday, December 30: Movement #6: leaning and learning on a chair

683. Monday, December 30: Movement #5: Ease in our back by slow movement in a chair

682. Sunday, December 29: The Rules of Play, my modification of a one taste layout

681. Thursday: December 26: Waking up to this precious moment

680.  Sunday, December 22, Sunday: Sad and going deeper to the real Who are we Anyway?

679. December 20: Friday: I need your love/ you should love me.... Is that true?

678. December 19, Thursday: Wake up, Lean Down, Makes Changes, Wake up better, Lean down better, a Movement Lesson

677. December 14, Saturday: Loving Someone Who Leaves you,, Love = Freedom

676. December 13: Friday the 13th: Gratitude and Never be Anxious

675/ December 7. Saturday, Relationship #3:  " When someone leaves: what St Catherine of Siena has to say ( and me, too, at the end)

674 December 3: Freedom 3, Poem Primary Wonder, Denise Levertov:  life is yes, and yes
and you are there, too..... wow

673. December One: Movement #3: Rotation in the easy mode, lying on your left side. Pleasant. Anti-insomnia. Back heaven.

NOVEMBER 2013

672. November 30: Relationship 2< Believing the story, or Not believing the story: the two chair approach

671. November 30: Movement 2: rotation to the left in a chair

670/ November 29: Freedom, 2: Don't shop, just BE-- subversive happiness and the freedom of easy living

669, November 25: Freedom One: Is it true?

668, November 24: Relationship One: Hugs to move deeper into Love. Go slow. Listen.

667. November 23: Movement One: Toes and Noses and Eyes: Easy to start the day, easy to start 108 experiments in Movement, Relationship and Freedom

666. November 18: Why have lessons for a child... From the special needs children blog

665, November 12: Tuesday: Liking first ( not the usual "love") before sex. Kin. Kind. Slowing down. Way down 

664, November 6, Wednesday: Namaste/  Loving the Haters  

663. November 4, Monday: Revised Rules of Play



OCTOBER 2013

662. October 30: Wednesday: When Other People Lash out at you

661. October 28, Monday: Cat and Cow and Brain( Yours)

660. October 2:  Hugs not Drugs

659, October 1: Hafix, in love with God: three ways

SEPTEMBER 2013

658 sept 19 thursday" Love, a first dash splash, rash undertaking, why not?

657 sept 18 wednesday: What if I miss a day?



656 Sept 16, Monday:  Asking for what you want, beyond the edge, each day: sex and money

655/ Sept 15, Sunday: What Men Should Know: For a Woman, everything is connected

654/ Sept 14: Saturday: Falling in Love

653/ Sept 13, Friday: What women should know about men: Every time, say it like the first time

652 Sept 12 Thursday: Day one of forty:  the way of remembering
651. September 8: Sunday: Strange = Grown Up

AUGUST 2O13

650 August 29: Thursday: Talk every day, sex every day: connection no matter what

649. August 27:  Tuesday, Happiness and Freedom: You sure you want them?

648, August 17, Saturday,  Relaxation

647. August 16, Friday: Tenderness

646. August 1, Thursday: Love, Sex, OM, meditate;  yes yes yes yes



JULY 2013

645. July 31, Wednesday: at the end of the day: wake up, or go to bed

644. July 30, Tuesday: slow talk, wake up.... really

643, July 29 : Monday, slow sex, slow talk, .... really?

642. July 28: Sunday, again:  Waking UP

641. July 28, make up, Sunday:  Love and Lust

640. July 26: Friday: The taste of liberation.....truth

639. July 25, Thursday: Sex Every Day: OM

638. July 24: Wednesday:  Find your soulmate, yourself

637. July 23, Tuesday: Snakes, Boobs, Mangos

636. July 22: Monday, Forgiving for the giving yourself a break, it's not about them, really

635. July 21, Sunday: Sex can be not present, it just sucks then; Love without present, can't exist

634. July 20: Saturday:  The importance of OM

633. July 19: Friday: Sex Every Day---yuk

632. July 18: Thursday: Love dies---good

631. July 17: WEdnesday,  The Rules of Play

630/ July 16: Tuesday, When someone leaves you, you've been spared

629. July 15, Monday: The importance of death

628. July 14: Sunday, Love is in no hurry, so why should we be?

627. July 13: Saturday: where Kabir, 15th century mystic found God

626. july 12: Friday, Mira, touch as the cure for sadness

625. July 12:, Friday:   Vulnerable

624, July 11  Thursday, Sensation, Sex, sensing, making sense of life: be present

623. July 10, Wednesday, Slow Sex, Slow Food, Slowing down to Wake up in Now

622. July 9, Tuesday, Forgiveness, 3: Other people are shits/ so are we

621. July 8, Monday: Forgiveness, Part 2

620. July 7, Sunday:  Forgiveness, Part 1

619. July 6, Saturday : What does Love have to Do with It?

618. July 5: Friday: Would you like to Make Out for 10 minutes?

617, July 4, Thursday: Why not just "do it yourself," why OMing?

616. July 3, Wednesday: Sex Every Day: that's not spontaneous, eeek!

615: July 2, Tuesday: Practice makes Awake, or moves toward more Awake

614, July 1, Monday: Sex Every Day

 JUNE 2013

613. June 27, Thursday: Jealousy Sucks, and there is a way out


612 June 24 Monday:  What I wish for you, what I wish for us...


611  June 17, Monday: Dynamic vs Fixed ( fear based) Relationship: gooooood stuff, from Nicole Daedone, with some Chris additions


610. June 14, Friday: 10 things women should know about men

609. June 13, Thursday, 10 things men should know about women

608. June 12, Wed, When you want to coast...don't


607. June 11, Tuesday... Next dream...please

606. June 10: After 9 months: Orgasmic Birth (???)

605. June 5: Life on it's own terms
MAY 2013

604. May 21: Tuesday: What if connection where what mattered

603. May 20, Monday: Fear is the story, listened to and believed


602. May 9, Thursday: Where does the window open to
 

APRIL 2103

601. April 29: Monday: Good to Great, happy hooey and you

600. April 27, Saturday: the joy of going beneath, "why bother?"

599. April 26, Friday : Happy no matter what

598. /aprl 25, Thursday:  Love is beyond categories, astrology, eneagram, sexual types, and all that hooey

597. April 245, Wednesday : Backs, Necks, Shoulders, Brains, Sex

596. April 23, Tuesday: Grounded

595. April 22: Now we begin, Monday

594. April 18, Wednesday: there is always too much to do


MARCH 7 2013

593. March 31: Sunday: Jesus died so you could live in the present/ know love

592/ March 29: Friday: if you think it can't get any better or worse....

591. march 28: thursday: go ahead and die, it might be the nicest thing you did today

590. march 27: wednesday: Connection is only for the Perfect;::: Is that true?

 589, march 25, monday: Free fall

588, March 24, Sunday/glory bee, two birthdays

587. March 23, Saturday: Do it with yes and do it with fun (even, especially, if you don't want to do it)

586. March 22, Friday: the mess and the muck is the yuck, and the glory, the yes, the yes, the yes

585. March 21, Thurs, God's idea of a good fall

584. March 20: Wednes   God is around

583/ March 19, Tuesday: A gift/ the gift

582. March 13: Wednesday: Masculine and Feminine

581. March 7 : Wednesday: Connection

JANUARY 2013

580, January 3: Thursday: the full yes

579. January 2, : Wednesday: stop it already, this feeling bad about feeling bad

DECEMBER 2012

578. Wednesday, Dec 12: Wild child filthy animal and other joys

577/ Monday, Dec 10{ the hot yes at the center, the oceans, the trees, nature and OMing

576. Saturday, late, December 1, after the Living Room: Life is yes, even in/ with death

NOVEMBER 2012

575. Friday, nov 30: Fatigue as just another experience to experience as we wake up

574. Nov. 28, Wednesday:  Crazy Love, and not "getting what you want"... just yet

573. Nov 27 Tuesday: Wake UP, Turn ON. Now, Orgasm, Love

572. Nov 25: Sunday: Waking up in Bikram, fun and prophet

571. Nov. 24, Saturday: What is da meaning of Life? and is that a fair question?

570. Nov 22: Thurs, groovy quotes on art, the unconscious and choosing

569. Nove22: Thursday: Mary Oliver poem, Mindful

568. Nov 15, Thurs; WHAT'S good about Bikram

567. Nov 15, Thurs: The glory of what is, part 22: shutting quieter the inner chatter mind


566. Nov. 14, Wednesday: The Laws of Real Sex, vs the Laws of Production. mini intro to OMing.

565. NOvember 12: Monday wake up call: Surfing the new and now to heal and expand and delight in relationship

564. November 11: Sunday wake up call: Remember to Remember

563. November 8, Bipolar undo without drugs, a six step protocol

562. November 7: Great Relationship, Four Parts: Sex, Communication, Unconditional Love, a Big Job--- a great little essay

OCTOBER 2012  

561.Wednesday, October 31: Hollow wee the unseen food that is in no hurry to be eaten

560. SAturday, Oct 27: The joy of being wrong, about Bikram yoga

559. Friday, October 19: Side lying on the floor, exploring arm and knee and spine, movement lesson

558. Tuesday, October 16: I'm so wonderful, you're so wonderful, life is good/ great without the story

557/ October 14: Blind Deficit Disorder: Seeing in a Blind World

556. Tuesday , October 9: Grounded in Reality, grounded in Gravity



SEPTEMBER 2012

555. Thursday, September 27 What does "no" mean when we give it; when we get it; a mini dip into a huge discussion, actually one of the most important in life

554. Monday, September 24: Kids, Tantrums, So What: Can we be awake and help their mindfulness and differentiation increase?  (Answer: Yes)

553. Saturday, Sept 22: "Resistance" as red herring? Who knows, an exploration

552. Thursday, Sept 20, The game is a hiding place: the appearance/ attractiveness thing

551. Monday, sept 17: The five lines: sensing our moving self, and then the limbic can float in a solid place

550. Sun , sept 16:  Truth of waking vs going to higher grade bullshit

549. Sept 15, Saturday: The Key to a Good Life

548. Sept 14: Friday, Relationships are supposed to be messy/ Buddha and the heart and you

547, September 13: Thurs, Relationship: You've got it right, it things aren't right 

546. Sept 5, Wednesday: Building and wearing oneself out with a grown son: good

545. September 4, Tuesday: Six step protocol for working with mental stuff, or deep transformation, including depression and bipolar, and life crisis points

544. September 3, Monday:  Loving the all of it, Happiness is the real, unhappiness is the opportunity to get more real



AUGUST 2012

543. August 30, Thursday:  Wasting time, breaking rules, God's preferred la la

542. Aug 28, Tues,  Meditation as food for self image, and hey, no need, you're feeding a ghost

541. August 27, Monday: Life is Real when I let go of Moment rating, and more

540. August 23: Thursday: another article: special needs children, outside force vs using the miracle of brain plasticity, with a heel that "wont touch the ground"

539, August 20, Monday: Is Anger Bad, an article

538. August 13, Monday: Life can have yuk moments, and that's just the time to be present

537. August 10: Friday:  If someone rejects you, you've been spared, Byron Katie to the rescue


536. August 8, Wednesday, Sneaky Marriage, Sullen Divorce, what happens to the grass is greener then?



535. August 4, Saturday:   Life is beautiful and so what?

534. August 1: joy and learning

JULY 2012

533. July 31: Tuesday, end of month, supposedly: Love and Meditation

532. July 30, Monday: From special needs kids blog, but more: An Anat story on the power of mindful mistakes

531. July 30: Monday: The joy of now, and our habit of not joy as "energy" shifts

530/ July 29: Sunday, Laziness is next to Godliness

529/ July 28, Day 28: Who or what would we be without the story?, Q #4

528. July 27: The attachment game, and Question #3 from the Work of Byron Katie

527. July 26, Day 26: Legs and arms, plus Adyashanti gift

526. July 25: Ask again: Is it absolutely true?

525. July 24: The work starts:  Is it true?

524    July 23: A Moshe arm wrestling story, from special needs children blog

523. July 23: Twenty Three: Mindfulness #23: Belly, Eyes, Ears, Nose, etc. ... it kind a rhymes on the post

522. July 22: Twenty Two: What's the Difference?

521. July 21: Twenty One: Suffering as the ego's job: it demands to be in conflict

520. July 20: Twenty: Sending self love

519. July 19: Nineteen: Full Package, all of us mindfulness meditation


518. July 18: Eighteen: Earth, Air, Sky: a happy trio to wake into
 
517. July 17: Seventeen: Mindful walking, (and sitting, too)


516. July 16: Sixteen: Breath and Gravity: life on Earth, in the Now

515. July 15: Fifteen: "Thinking" as voices in the head. To whom we talking, and how?

514. July 14: Fourteen: Sensing five toes and the opposite finger fingers

513. July 13: Thirteen: Sounds in our head, sounds in our and others' talking

512. July 12: Twelve: "Just" Remember Yourself

511/ July 11: Eleven: Spontaneity and Compulsion

510. July 10: Ten: Feelings and feeling

509. July 9: Moving to Sonoma and some nature in our mindfulness today

508. July 8: Day 8: Laziness is Next to Godliness

507. July 7: Day 7: What about heaven?

506. July 6, second: Day Six of the Mindfulness Fest: Light and Sound and the prior awaring,  a fullness of  inward attention and a rich outward attention: this is us, alive

505. July 6, first: Life is Yes, and even 'unhappiness" can stepping stone to awareness

504. July 5: Round sounds vs "Auditory hallucinations" which are called "thinking
JUNE 2012

499. June 29, Friday, Byron Katie, 101

498 June 28, Thursday: Internet at Whole Foods, too much of the good stuff?

497. June 27, Wednesday: Sensing arms and legs and spine, and adding on the world: light, sound,  the fun of practicing awake life

496. June 25, Monday: Special Needs Children and Parents: learning as touch and variation and connection; no mistakes, just learning, or the possibility of that

495. June 24, Sunday: The being alive thing: Sensing, breathing, light sound, all ways available, the wake up joy, delight game

494. June 21-2: Coming to Love and Happiness by the door of understanding and awareness, not efforting

493. June 21: (pedantic) Love letter to an X, on being perfect and change from there

492.June 19: Each day offers

491. June 12: 7 steps for parents with children "on the spectrum"

490. June 6: Happiness is a sweet guide, and not necessary 


489. June 4, Monday: Loving What is: you get a call, what are your manners about calling back, or: loving everyone or you can't love anyone


MAY 2012 







488. May 31, Thursday: Waiting and Wanting vs Just Being, with your partner: Relationship and Enlightenment visited again

487. May 29: Tuesday: Movement lesson for neck, back, brains and happiness, and learning fun

486. May 23, Wednesday: Loving What is, even the ugh

485. May 21, Monday: Day 5, of "40 Days from Heartbreak to 'Almost Enlightenment'"

484. May 18, Friday: Love and Money and America

483. May 14: Monday: Life is Yes, and can get better and better, how 'bout that?


482. May 12: Saturday: Buddha's 4 noble truths and Relationship Enlightenment, c/a Susan Piver 

481. May 5, Saturday: What is Now, why not love it? Or: Loving What is. Or: the past is over, Rover

480. May 3: Thursday, From Stuck to Unstuck, one of life's great joys

479. May 1, Tuesday: Love, Money, Movement: A workshop and some ideas to mull



APRIL 2012


478. Monday:April 30, Special Needs Children: If they could, they would: Don't try to "make" the children do what they can't do

477. Saturday, April 28: Now, Nature and Love

476. Thursday; April 26: Heartbreak and Enlightenment: Give yourself 40 days

475. Wednesday, April 25: Loving what is and transformation "bad" communication

474. Tuesday, April 24: Relationship and Enlightenment

473. Tuesday, April 24: Appreciation, food for the soul and others: Special needs children posting, but useful to all


472.  Thursday, April 19: Slowing down the communication, see what happens, discovery


471. Monday, April 16: Brains love to learn, children, adults, special needs children, all of us

470. Tuesday, April 10: Gospel of Thomas: Seek until you find

469. Monday, April 9: special needs children, everyone's brain and variation

468/ Saturday, April 7: The past is gone, hmmmm, is that freedom, or what?

467. Thursday, April 5: Time is for beginners, breath is for finishers

466/ Wednesday, April 4: The importance of slowing into love,33

465. Tuesday< April 3; Love is losing, but nothing that is really ours

464. Tuesday, April 3: You Are What You Eat Ate





MARCH 2012

463. Wednesday, March 28: To feel sad is not bad, it's just...

462. Tuesday, March 27: Want a great relationship: Tell the truth, all of it..

461. Sunday< march 25: I am alive, you are alive, I am going to die, you are going to die. deepening the reality, improving any relationship. speaking truth.

460. Friday, March 23: Divorce and Enlightenment, the learning zone is always the way out up and in

459. March 21: x\za game of enlightenment, relax and lose, you are already her/here/ there now

458. March 20: Day Seven in Relationship Enlightenment: Now vs then in feelings. Exploring and not blaming.

457. March 19: Fund raising for Special Needs children, some concepts from the Money Miracle training.

456. March 16, Friday again, alas: Anti-aging the the love of learning, old vs new life styles, as in really old

456. March 14: The importance of forgiving ourselves

455. March 9, Friday: Love is always here, the "i love you" you are waiting for IS you, is the song of the universe, la, la

454. March 5: Day Four of Relationship Enlightenment: Important to me, Gratitude, Present in and Present Out

453. Saturday, March 2: Relationship Enlightenment, Day One: I am alive/ you are alive




FEBRUARY 2012

452. Wed, Feb 29: Feldenkrais and Love: Light upon Light

451. Wednesday Feb 29: More relationship vows

450. Monday, Feb 27: It's already here, love , enlightenment, whatcha want

449. Sunday, Feb 26: Vows for Relationship Enlightenment

448. Saturday, FEb 25: Other people love you, and forget/ or can't, oh well, love 'em

447. Friday, Februar 24, If you are Single and Want an amazing Next Relationship

446. Thursday, Feb 23: Enlightenment in Communication: Slow, listen

445. Thursday, February 23: Loneliness is a Blessing in Disguise

444. Wednesday, February 22: What to do when your Lover isn't Perfect?

443. Saturday, Feb 17: Geothe quote on decision:


442. Thursday, Feb 16: What to do when angry with your Lover?

441 Tuesday again, 2 for Valentine's Feb 14: What about love after loss: always there

440/ Tuesday, Feb ruary, 14: Where does Love Live?

439. Monday , feb 13: squoze hearts suffer, always, but only always

438. Friday Feb 10: if God is love, is Valentine's day Holy?

437. Tuesday, Feb 7: V day a week away

436. Monday, February 6 : Love free or love with a cost, which way?

435. Sunday, FEbruary 5: Super Bowl, winners and loserz

434. Saturday, February 4: Today is the last day of the end of your life

433. Friday, February 3: Love is important, yes, yes

433. Thursday: February 2: Love and Fear

432. Wednesday, Feb 1 : Valentine's inside and out




DECEMBER 2011

422. Saturday , December 31, la la, so long 2011, you've been grand:
A love poem to the world, of sorts, kind a

421. Tuesday, Dec 27: Loving the X, for your sake and any kids

420. Saturday, Dec 24: Christmas cometh, the star shines and moves, and a birth

419. Tuesday, dec 20: The importance of humor as Mom or anyone "falls apart"

418, Thursday, December 15: The importance of love

417. Wednesday, Dec 14: Special Needs Children, Perhaps compression, certainly learning differences

416. Monday, Dec 12: Love vs entrapment, via Course of Miracles

415. Friday:, Dec 9: You do not have to be good

414. Tuesday cold in Austin, down to 30's, Dec 6: If love is our subject to day

413. Monday Dec 5: piggybacking on evolution

412. Sunday, December 4: It's Sunday night and you've got the chance to feed your soul, hmmmm, will you take it, take a chance on the food of nothingness?

411. December 1: the nature of now surfing along in body and awareness






NOVEMBER 2011

410. November 28: What does love have to do with it?

409. November 27: If posture is slumpy, can mood be far behind?

408. Novem 25: Loving wha tis

407. November 24: Thanks for the ever loving Now


406. November 22: Awake or not awake in computer land?




405. November 21: Life out of the arguing lane, what are we to do when we want to ruin our relationship by "winning" the argument?

404. November 18: Awakened Friendship, hey, let's talk without falling to "sleep"


403. November 17: Life is now, new is the website at 4BrainFitness.com, weather we like it or not, veering into a poem after all

402. November 16: Movement lesson for brain, neck, back and sex (the later not obvious,
and it will help)

401. November 16: It's so simple

400. November 15: Remembrance

399. Now is wow, easy Monday, train in the distance, life is...

398. Nov 11, yeah yeah 11/11 blah blah: True story: not awake while talking

397/ Nov 8: Nature, Now, Love


396. Nov 7: What has Yes done for you today?

395. Nov 7: From today's special needs children blog

394. Nov. 4: What would your / my Mom say if she was dead and you were grieving?

393. Nov. 4: Feeling bad is good for you, if there is another You to watch

392. November 3, Marlie's birthday: Love is catching you by your big toe while you are giggling about something else; or, you are not lost, God is you, and you have you all along


OCTOBER 2011



391. October 31, happy hallow tween life and death is just one breath:
death and life is a chance to remember. remember what? You are alive


390. Oct 28. friday's for love, yes: Now Nature & Love

389. October 26 Prayer to ecological and enlightened abundance

388. October 25: time and the children and the computer bandit

387. October 22: Saturday night and the newness of you

386. Octo 21: Falling in love with the gift: we are alive, wow!

385 october 19: when is enough enough?

384. October 17: Wrists and ankles and learning and waking up, ha he ho hi

383. October 16: Mindful Suffering is Finite; Mindless can be forever

382. October 14: If love is  za ansa, what is zee question?

381. October 12: Getting bigger than fear, by coming the Reality


380. October 10: Feeling bad in the context of "hey, I'm alive, wow!"



379. October 7: Love poems from Now: Dancing is good 4




378. October 6, Love Poems from Now: Anger and Sad, not so bad with the Now now juice


377. October 5: Love Poems from Now, the Daily feast begins: What is Today?

376. October 3: Learning as natural vs being forced to do what can't do; mainly special needs children; really, all of us

375. October 1: Commit and move forward, Goethe quote, good




SEPTEMBER 2011


374. Sept 28: learning as transformation not just "better automatic robot"

373. Sept 26: Parents and the lessons, for special needs kids, it's the chance of a lifetime for the parents

372. Sept 23: Relationship and the crunch time: mindful = options, not mindful...suffering usually

371. Sept 21: The Joy of Divorce, the Novel, first scene


370 Sept 19: The Joy of Learning, helping a baby with speaking, via sound play

369. Sept 16: Happiness isn't being good, it's stopping the illusion of control

368. Sept 14 (well past midnight, but still Wed, sort of): Anger with variation

367/ September 12: short and sweet, get enthusiastic the child, about you

366. September 11, oh big deal day:  The Joy of 9/11

361. Sept 10: Slowing down to speed up the Joy of Divorce

360. September 7: Out of the Soup, into the Brain, transforming Emotional Pain

359. September 6, Subtlety: the power of less effort, the joy of noticing smaller differences






358. Sept 4, Carlos Casteneda, fun after 30 years

357. September 2: What are Brains For?





AUGUST 2011


356 August 31: Why Paint?


355. August 29: Patience as a key to joy, love and learning


354. August 28: What to do about Heat, Death, taxes and People who aren't nice to you


353. August 26: Awakened Christianity, bathwater vs baby 


352. August 24: Four Ways to Do Anything, or: The transformation always starts Now



351. Aug 22: Transformation is a big deal, in special needs children, and ourselves

350. Aug 19: More love, poems and whatnot

349/ Aug 18: Rumi and the fainting of how beautiful we are



348. August 17: New Website: the joy of divorce dot info, crisis = opportunity, thejoyofdivorce.info


347. August 15: Fingers to play, fingers to learn, special needs children, or YOU, or both


346. August 14: Love poems, of sorts


345. August 13: Unified unSuffering = freedom = options = mindful = La la yes


344. August 10, again: the pain of judging, the hell of Mindless when the Sh.. hits the f..


343. August 10: More mystical poems, do you hunger to remember how sweet and easy
it is meant to be: read slowly and feed yourself, your real Self


342. August 9: Toes for adults, toes for children


341. August 6: The Way of Love, one roadblock, the idea of "original sin"


340. August 5: Who is the real You underneath the Meanie and the Victim?


339. August 3: Three love poems to God


338. August 1 Cancer and Love, and Love Making: SEx and touch = good for you

337. August 1:  What if the OT/ PT's help hinders the child's learning and transformation?




JULY 2011


336. July 28: The Joy of Wising up/ joy of divorce, 3


335. July 27: Moshe, Osho, Katie, Gurdjieff and the Landmark thing


334. July 27: Anat's second Essential: Turn on the Learning Switch


333. July 20: Moshe and Osho and Gurdjieff and me:, and Katie: Living in the unknown
and the joy of being yourself


332. July 18: Shoulders with a brain and a purpose vs. "Range of Motion," a cool movement lesson in a chair


331. July 18: Rescue Remedy, for special needs children, possibly other "touchy" clients,
or : ourselves


330. July 15: first approximation, my new process, The Joy of Divorce


329. July 13: what to say instead of "how are you?"


328/ July 12: More thoughts on Movement with Attention, thought and feeling as part of it





327. July 11: Essential One from Anat's book: Movement with Attention

326/ July 9: The joy of life, one part: overcoming difficulties, another: sex
 








313, June 1:  Happy vs unhappy as tool for enlightenment now




302. May 2: Chapter 61 from the book A Movement Lesson Treat for those work at computers





296. April 6, Wednesday: "Swiss Army" knife movement for back: arch, twist, side bend and round: and increase clarity in ankles, hips, ribs, backs, necks, knees, feet, breathing, sleep better and MORE




288. March 2, Wed: Moshe's Contribution to Humanity: Wake up to Now, Life, Options


FEBRUARY 2011


287. Feb 27, Sunday: Movement Lesson for F, F, F and F

286. Feb 24, Thursday: Qigong part two, balance is not falling over, lengthening is reaching to heavens above and Earth below


285. Feb 23, Wednesday: Feeing, F...ing, Fighting and Feldenkrais, a beginning exploration


284. FEb 22, Tues:  A little made of qigong/ movement lesson, plus utube of Cheng man Ching tai chi beautiful form

283. Feb 16, Wed:  Eating and Waking, Hints from the Feldie "work"


282. FEb 14: Valentine's Day is about loving ourselves, mindfulness in the "tired zone."


281, Feb 12: Valentine's Extra:  Waking Up While Talking, or Toward Love with Listening, or the non-habitual is what we need if we are going to wake up


280. Feb 9: Cheng Man Ching doing Tai Chi, thoughts on this


279. Feb 2: Side bending lesson, section 41 from Tao of Now, for sale via internet silliness


JANUARY 2011


278. Jan 27: Transformation, not "fixing"


277. Jan 20: Organizing the Shoulders/ plus bonus: Grumpiness as one more Habit


276. Jan. 13: To "mess" around is to be human


275. January 7: The joy of learning: emotions as actions, too. E book for sale


274. Jan 6: First four games/ exercises/ meditations/ activities of 108 "Ways" Book


DECEMBER 2010


273. Dec 31  round and arch, a first lesson  at http://waking108.blogspot.com


272. Dec 24: the computer, even here we can wake and learn, or learn and wake


271. Dec, 22: tai chi and potency


270. Dec 21: the gift of learning in the now


269. Dec. 20: Rest and Life Potency, contradiction or living life for real?


268. Dec 16: The Mask of "Fitting in"  Why the work is necessary.


267. Dec 14: Ponderings on Anat Baniel

266. Dec 9: pain is...


265. Dec 5: EARing and Hearing and Memory and Attention


264. Dec 3: Warm wet and alive: Do not be good, via Mary Oliver poem


263. December 2: beyond the abs: what a real brain wants: a pelvis that goes all ways (think sex, think bringing an axe up and down, think throwing a baseball, serving a tennis serve)

262. December 2: a hearing, learning and enlightenment lesson




NOVEMBER 2010


261. Nov 25: thanks on the day of which


260. Nov 24: the power of "I don't know" (and a lesson still needs to tie to action,
that'll be another post, and has been past ones, look around, look around)


259. Nov 18: Cure vs Improvement, from the Case of Nora


258. Nov 9: Side to side, head, pelvis and ribs as a sweet happy team


257. Nov 5: Turning and learning again in a chair, sure, why not?


256. Nov. 1The importance of now, the scary thrill of transformation


OCTOBER 2010


255. Oct 16: Crazy, happy, wonderful: moving to Austin for the winter

SEPTMEBER 2010

254. sept 30: the love as we move in the now


253. September 1: How we learn is how we live, or why what we do is so easy


AUGUST 2010


252. Aug 20,  How to win or lose an argument, and the feet need to touch the ground to be grounded, duh? And we need to lose arguments with people we love, not so obvious, but elusively WAY true

251. Aug 17: Rolling to sit, some amazing possibilties in using our head (and rear ends)

250. August 17: The Feldenkrais Method, intro via the elusive obvious: learning, whole self, going slowly, "farting around"

249 Aug 16;  heading down, pelvising up

248. August 12: Head down in its spiral, butt up in its, and they are all one with our Us, and our spine 

247. August 10: Not knowing the next thing


246. August 9: To awake even though yapping, talking, writing

JULY 2010

245. July 29: Babies as our learning teachers. Learning means to learn


244. July 18: Freedom is the other side

243. July 17: Up and down with a slight twist

242. July 10: New Wine in New Skins: or what to do after the surgery

242. July 9: Thinking, walking: the power of variation and awakening

241. July 6, Be not good, there's more variety in doing "it" "wrong"

240. July 3: head and pelvis, two ends of an amazing stick

JUNE 2010

939. June 30Doing it right vs doing it better

938. June 29: "thinking" without words

237. June 25, Awaring our spine: a game for the day

236. JUne 22; Music and Feldie/ Anatie

235. June 14: mini lesson for shoulder and brain

234. June 13: What is the Feldenkrais Method, some variations on a theme

233. June 7: Tango as learning not "Doing it Right"

MAY 2010

232. May 19: anti aging, via improving folding, chair lesson

231. May 15: Easy standing lesson, hop hop on heels

230. May 12: Turning in sitting, some fun and learning

APRIL 2010

229. April 21: Learning and Spine joy

228. April 18: Toes and heels, a start, and meditate all day is a possibility

227. April 9: Loving the learning: toes and back and brain and yes

226. April 1: Anti-Aging and the Discovery gene rediscovered (not really about genes)

MARCH 2010

225. March 30: Rotation to the left in sitting, enjoy

224. March 9: acture, the reality of life = movement, good life = good movement = good acture

223. March 8: round and arch in standing

222. March 4: five lines, the God of learning, forward bend, actually hard/ simple

FEBRUARY 2010

221. feb 22: up and down and five lines

220. feb 20 sitting and side bending

219. Feb 3: twist while rising up from sitting with an arch and a nice meditation to boot

JANUARY 2010

218. Jan 22: head and back, arching and rounding in sitting

217. Jan 18: hopping in a couple of ways

216. jan 14: arch and rounding in a simple way

215, jan 10, belly out , belly in, 2 ways to breathe out

DECEMBER 2009

214: dec 27: down to up

213, dec 26, up to down, 4 points intro

212. dec 23: arch, round, breathing variations, in sitting

211. dec 14: lying on our side, using awareness, pelvis, hip, knee

210. December 1: Indications of activity at the sister/ mother blog, including movement lessons, all in the service of "waking up" to now

OCTOBER 2009

209. October 23: Benefits, of Anat Baniel/ Feldenkrais Method. good.

AUGUST 2009

208. August 15: Moti Nativ interview: Feldenkrais as awareness, real modern martial arts as spiritual and life learning

207. August 13. This is my life

206. August 7: Breathing, sensing, 5 lines

JULY 2009

205. July 15: the call of the heart, listened to, or not

204. july 2 the awakened life

203. july 1, how to get smarter: perceive differences

JUNE 2009

202. June 30: balancing the latest Feldyforum tempest in a teapot

201, June 23 what's the difference?

APRIL 2009

200. April 15, 2009: taxes and death

MARCH 2009

199. March 26 Thursday, How it Works, my take, part one: teamwork, hip bone connected to thigh bone and so on. Beginning lesson for parents of special needs children.

198. March 21: Spring into life, fitness in the world, not just the gym

197. March 18: Flexible Hearts

196. March 16, Mon, 2009: Update, Special Needs Children

195.March 13, Friday the: gravity and dance and sticks

194. March 3, wed, 2009: the Feldenkrais Method

FEBRUARY 2009

193. feb 18: Dancers, Musicians, Actors: get better no matter what level you're at

192. feb 14 sat valie day: Why Not be Happy?

191. feb 11 wed 2009: leaarning is fun, spelling is harder

190. Feb 4 WEd, 2009: new is now is learning if we let it


JANUARY 2009

189. Jan 28 Wednesday, Something like a resume

188. Jan 27 tues: Why came I to this work????

187, Jan 21, wed, 2009: travel learn heal love

186. Jan 15, 2009, wed, why move with awareness and learning?

185. Wednesday January 8, 2009: "Tucking the pelvis....hmmm"


DECEMBER 2008

184.Friday, dec 19: Who am I? Who are we all, really?

183, Wed dec 17, 2008: Sitting and butt elbow moving, fun

182.Dec 10: standing, learning, eyes, brain, feet, breathing easy

181. Dec. 6: What are feelings? What is thinking? The prison of our conditioning.


NOVEMBER 2008

180. Nov. 29 Saturday: Beginnings of an answer for Lynette

179. Nov. 28, friday; letter to Feldie forum, mysticism and whatnot, the Sufis,
Idries Shah, amazing books

178. November 26, Wednesday, 2008, Thanks g tomorrow: Sitting to Standing, a Learning Game, go slow, really discover

177. November 24, Monday: On back, arch, twist, send bend, flex, learn

176.November 22, Saturday: tuck, round then arch and extend and press forward into power and life

175. Nov. 19, Wed, 2008: arch and round, using back to move soil, using attention to build soul

174. November 13: five lines of our us, six shapes for our spines

173. November 7: Awakened Movement

172. skeleton, hallow ween, five lines

OCTOBER 2008

171. Oct 29: discovering movement lessons and learnings

170.Oct. 25, 2008: maximum instability, and what it means to be human

169. Oct. 23, 2008: weird ideas about "stability"

168. Oct 22: what's great, what's limiting about Yoga

167. Monday, October 20, 2008: Chris Movement Lesson #1. arching and chairs and fun

166. Sund,. Oct 12: Moshe, Gurdjieff, fun and learning in the "past"

165. Thurs. Oct 2: Mini cure for depression, and pains in the neck (both kinds)

SEPTEMBER 2008

164. Wed, sept 24: Executive Clarity: a bigger vision in healing and assisting

163. Mon, sept 22: knees please, learning and so on

162. wed, sept 17, 2008: learning to learn, fun and ease and yes

161/ Thurs sept 11, 2008: Sept 11 and the "enemy game"

160. Wed. Sept 3, 2008: Yoga Tai Chi and the Brain vs. ...

AUGUST 2008

159 Wed, aug 27, 2008: you are wonderful, what a wonderful thing, and...

158. Sunday, Aug. 17: stretching brains, not tight muscles

157. Wed. Aug. 13, 2008: Warriors and Poses, and Deeper Yoga possibilities

156. Wed, Aug. 6, 2008: Going Slowly, the gift of exploration

JULY 2008

155. Wed, July 23, 2008: The Seduction of Stretchng

154. Wed, July 16: Learning, Gravity and Rewiring the Brain

153. July 9: Joni Mitchell and the Possibilities of a life

152. July 4: freedom is ????

JUNE 2008

151. June 12: Brain plasticity made immediate and sex, vision, breathing all improved

MAY 2008

150. May 16: Learning and Loving and Sex and Health, a ramble, a short ramble

149. May 6: What is Good, and so on

APRIL 2008

148. April 19: vitality, chi, sex, variation, freedom, learning, and so on

147. April 15: the movement of life and God

146. April 9: Gurdjieff meditation, four of five lines


MARCH 2008

145: March 22: A Simple Start: hips and head

144. March 19: shoulders, the discovery channel

143. March 9: body and soul and neck and self hug and learning and loving ourselves

142. March 5: Shoulders, Yes

FEBRUARY 2008

141. Feb. 23: Organic learning and the Feldenkrais Method®

140. Feb. 19: hello again,
waking up with wake up Feldenkrais, and other stuff


139. Feb.11: Nikhila Mary Ludlow, Hand Lesson and talking about the Feldenkrais Method®

138. Feb. 3: five lines, five ringed circus called: NOW

JANUARY 2008

137. Jan. 8: Norman Doidge on Feldenkrais, or: Miracle, Yes, Yes!

136. Jan.5: Excerpt from Up, a book in progress



DECEMBER 2007

135. Dec. 31: A year of sweetness a year of...

134. Dec. 28: Meaning of Life in Three Layers: A Christmas Present to your Present

133. Dec. 18: 6 awareness days until Christmas

132. Dec. 11: Listening to Ourselves, Now, at the computer

131. Dec. 4: "Resistance" to the Feldenkrais Method (Mainly a post for practitioners) .
NOVEMEBER 2007

130. Nov. 24: What to do about our sleep?

129. Nov. 21: Learning and Becoming a Child again, sort of

128. Nov. 13: Pleasure, Ease and Learning: Group Lessons on Mondays and Wednesday

127. Nov. 12: Yoga in Feldie Land: Triangle

126. Nov. 10: Life is Real only when I am

125. Nov. 6 Moshe's high octane, body/mind/lust powered youth, via Deborah Elizabeth Lotus

124. Nov. 5 Monday Yoga, Feldie feet intro, fun
OCTOBER 2007

123. Oct. 31: Where are the Hip Joints???

122. Oct. 18: Stress, Learning and the Feldenkrais Method®

121. Oct. 16: Walking Again

120. Oct. 12: Walking, a miracle we usually take for granted

119. Oct. 11: Waking Up and Feldenkrais

118. Oct. 10: Weight Loss and Wake Up Feldenkrais

117. Oct. 6: Now Knowing: Food for a good life and a good Functional Integration Lesson
SEPTEMBER 2007

116. Sept. 28: Love, Remembering, Feldie Forum, parenting, whatnot

115. Sept. 19: Feldenkrais Method and therapy

114. Sept. 17: Take a Rest, Learn and Be Human

113, Sept. 12: Learning and Love

112. Sept. 11 The Real Terror

111. Sept. 5 Boring is as Boring Approaches
AUGUST 2007

110. Aug 29: New Life, Choice: Learning or Robot Upgrade

109. Aug 29: Feet on Ground, Eyes glued to Computer

108. Aug. 27: mindfulness, moving, healing

107. Aug. 22: Variety and Learning

106. Aug. 20: Health Backs, and the old choice:
Discovery vs. "Doing it Right"


105. Aug. 18: Happier Backs

104. Aug. 14: What Yoga and "yoga therapy" always misses...

103. Aug. 13 Yoga as if we had a
Brain, Heart and Spirit. 


102. Aug. 8: This Moment.
Or: Waking up,
in as well as through Feldenkrais


101. August 7: The Glories of Living and the Feldenkrais so called "Method"
JULY 2007

100. July 27: The Power of Feldenkrais Plus Ananda Yoga

99. July 14: yoga training, more learning, la la

98. July 4: Freedom
JUNE 2007

97. June 28: Letter to a Wonderful Parent of a Special Needs Child

96. June 18: One 11 minute "cure" for depression.

95. June 1: What is Possible? A life full of learning, change and transformation. And happiness.
MAY 2007

94. May 22: Human Beings: Designed to Learn

93. May 16: Learning, Play and Love

92. May 16: Nature, Big and Small, always amazing

91. May 2: Improve Your Brain, Get more Neurons, and Move Better: all in one process
APRIL 2007

90. April 25: Awareness and Attention 

89. April 18: Happiness Now? Heresy or Sanity? 

88. April 5: A Morning's Feast, an Introduction to Awareness Through Movement®

87. April 3: Rolfing and Feldenkrais

MARCH 2007

86. March 26: An Experiment in Learning and Fun, one rolling to sit lesson.

85. March 16: Slow Down

84. March 11: What is the Feldenkrais Method? And Wake Up Feldenkrais? New Version.

83. March 6: Going from -1 to +3 in ten minutes or less

82. March 2: The Glory of Being Human: Bones, Brains, Learning and Gravity: and, We can Change
FEBRUARY 2007

81. February 26: Learning to Turn, Learning to Learn

80. February 26: Watch the Baby 

79. February 25: Waking our Pelvis, Waking our Lives

78. February 21: Thinking and Non-Thinking, and : What Makes a Good Life???

77. Feb. 18: The Enemy Game

76. Feb. 15: The Joy of Improvement

75. February 12: To be Small or to Expand

74. February 9: Life and Love and the Really Good Lessons

73. February 7: The Waking up in Feldenkrais and in the Byron Katie Work, always from within

72. February 5: Porpoise of Life, 2: to Live

71. February 2: A Big Dream: Now and Nature and Love and Learning and Transformation, on the Earth
JANUARY 2007

70. Jan. 30: Lifting Rocks and Having a Good Time

69. Jan. 27: Change and The Anat Baniel Way

68. Jan. 24: Gurdjieff and Feldenkrais

67. Jan. 21: Jesus and Judo

66. Jan. 18: Feldenkrais and Love

65. Jan. 15: Martin Luther King, Racism, Corporatism, some Personal History

64. Jan. 12: Yoga and Feldenkrais 

63. Jan. 9: The Feldenkrais Method®, a winter presentation. 

62. Jan. 6: Cat and Cow, Yoga 3, Happiness, Mind and Body

61. Jan. 3: Doing "something" (for pelvis, spine, whole self and brain

60. Jan. 2: Doing "Nothing" is more than we might suspect
 



December 2006

59. Dec. 30: Life is Good. Now is Grand. We are...

58. Dec. 28: Posture and Acture. (Say What?)

57. Dec. 24: Christ-mas, Now Mass

56. Dec. 21: Nature's Flexibility and the Joys of Variation

55. Dec. 21 Sostice, Rain, December, Love...Ah

54. Dec. 18: Yoga as if We Had a Brain, Lesson 2, More Fun Forward Fold.

53. Dec. 15: The Delight of Life

52. Dec. 12: Yoga as if We Had A Brain, Lesson 1, Forward Fold

51. Dec. 9: Moving and Learning, the Miracle Continues

50. Dec. 8: When You Can't Do Any Old Lesson in Life, Options Useful and Less So

49. Dec. 6: Math as a Chance to Use our Brain in a New Way, the way it likes to work

48. Dec. 1: Feet, 2


Novemeber 2006

47. Nov. 22: Feet

46. Nov. 20: Feldie Fun, #5 Eyes and Tongue

45. Nov. 18: Raw Foods and Waking up

44. Nov. 16: Is it Right Yet?

43. Nov.13: Back and Shoulder and Neck Pain

42. Nov. 4: Undo Deficits, Enhance Excellence, Wake Up to the Present

October 2006
41. Oct. 31. Feldenkrais and Breathing and Grape Arbors

40.Oct. 30: Opening Two Habits: Side of Bed, Reading a Novel

39. Oct 25: Tai Chi And Feldenkrais:Two Goods make a Better.

38. Oct 24: Healing by Learning

37. Oct 22: Habits, Compulsions, Addictions

36. Oct 20: Oh shit, I'm alive

35. Oct 18. Feldenkrais and the Big Self in us All

34. Oct 17. Special Needs Children and the Joys of Transformation

33. Oct 14: Slave or Free??

32. Oct 12: Marlie, Yoga Teacher, Wonderful Person and so on

31. Oct 11: Awareness and Saving our Souls and the Earth (Is that all?)

30. Oct 9: Awareness and Unawareness

29. Oct 6: Awareness 3; Thich Nhat Hahn Meditation

28. Oct 5: The Morning Gurdjieff Meditation, Awareness, 2

27. Oct 4: Awareness, Part 1 (and Gurdjieff's "fantastic" idea)

26. Oct 3: The Big Picture, Pain and Beyond

25. Oct. 2: What is the Feldenkrais Method?

September 2006
24. Sept 30: Who's In Charge Here, (20 breaths: can we be aware that long?)

23. Sept 29: Byron Katie, WakeUp Feldenkrais and Happiness.

22. Sept 28: What is WakeUp Feldenkrais?

21. Sept 26: Presence is the End, Presence is the Means

20. Sept 21: Happiness, Slow and Fast

19. Sept 20: Slow Down, Lie Down and Learn

18. Sept 18: Feldenkrais and Happiness

17. Sept 16: Sitting to Standing, Again

16. Sept 14: Sitting to Standing and the Obvious, the Elusive

15. Sept 14: Feldie #3, a hard lesson, sort of

14. Sept 12: Waking Up

13. Sept 11: WakeUp Feldie Thts on 9-11

12. Sept 9: Let's Talk about Babies

11. Sept 8: Feldie Fun #2

10. Sept. 7: Change's Weird Requirement: We Have to Change (OhmyGod)

9. Sept 6: Awareness, Feldenkrais® and WakeUp Feldenkrais

8.5. Oldie but Goodie: Movement, Children, Living a Full Life.

8. Sept 4: Options and Habits

7.5. Another Oldie: Between the Ears, is where the "Problem" is.

7. Sept 1: Little Miss Sunshine and How We Learn from Crisis (sometimes)

August 2006
6. Aug 31: An Amazing Experiment: Happy Face, Happy Thoughts

5. Aug 30: Feldenkrais to Enhance and Deepen Yoga and Pilates

4. Aug. 29: Feldie Fun #1 

3. Aug 29: Who was Moshe Feldenkrais?

2. Aug 28: Feldenkrais and Learning

1. Aug 27: The Joy of Feldenkrais




60-135, INDEX OF POSTINGS 2007


1-59 INDEX OF POSTINGS, 2006