You can be right, or you can be happy, 2

ONE: CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY

This is something we can do.
Often when we've had good food, good fun, or good sex (or good work) this is easier.
And still, even in the "hard" times, the grumpy times, we can just say, "Screw it," to the voices and habits that want us to feel bad.

TWO: SEE THE THINKING LURKING BEHIND OUR UNHAPPINESS

Almost all unhappiness has a thinking behind it that is poisoned with either "should" or "shouldn't."

At it's simplest level, much of this has to do with the rough idea: "If so and so (usually the mate, or even more, the ex-mate) would just change/ shape up/ be different, then everything would be okay."

And the trick here is to explore what this does for you.

THREE: LEARNING IS NOTICING A DIFFERENCE THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE

This is a short game today.

It's question three of the work of Byron Katie.
How do you react when you hold this thinking.
Go ahead. Take a certain chair. Have it be the Belief chair.
Sit in it and believe the thought.

Notice: What are your feelings, and body sensations. Mull over: how do you live your life as a result of this?

Now, the difference.

Sit in another chair.
Ask yourself question #4 of the Byron Katie work: Who are what am I without that thought?
Feel and notice what life is like without that thought.

Keep learning:
Go back and forth between chair 3 and chair 4. Feel and notice the difference.

FOUR: YOU DON'T HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR STORY
Just keep learning the difference between believing it and not believing it.

Your life will make the change when you are ready.
You don't have to decide.
It will be decided from within.

FIVE: LEARN THE DIFFERENCE:
Who is creating the unhappiness: the other person and the way they need to shape up, or you, by believing this story?

SIX: ENJOY THE POWER OF THIS


Good.