If you would just have been different

Here's a sweet and funny and relentless
"fact" of life
to remember:

a 100% losing bet
is
that the past was different

Okay:
So it's split up time, separation,
divorce.
D I V O R C E
(remember the song)

and you've got the stories
torturing you:

We should have done better

We are a failure

I am a failure

He/She/ the other one
should have been different

And let's do something slightly different
than the usually
brilliant and powerful
Work of Byron Katie
( I Need your love, is that True?
is a book I haven't read,
and I'm sure it's brilliant, funny, and immensely helpful)















But let's play this game:
Mr Bad Guy/ Ms Awful has left,
or you have left them,
or you two have decided to end it,
or imploded

anyway:
the other is gone

And you have this story:
If just they had been like this.......

So, try this.
Imagine they were like ......

He's kind.
Or she's happy.
Or whatever.

And feel in you how that would make
you feel.

And now notice this is how you've made yourself
feel.

Get good at this:
make yourself feel just the way you'd feel if the
"One who should have been better,"
had been better.

Then you've got all the goodies
Inside,
and no
need to bitch and moan that they didn't do it
for you.

You can do it for yourself.

Right now.


Good,
have fun.