This is day one of a twenty one day book:
Twenty One Days to Relationship Heaven.
It will be, as much as anything else, a manual of how to use
relationship "issues"
as a springboard for Enlightenment.
Sometimes it will be written in straight go-ahead sentences.
And sometimes,
not.
Here's the exercise/ game/ action/ meditation/ contemplation for the first day.
Sit down with a person with whom you wish to create greater love.
If you are divorced or have had a rocky separation, or even an "easy" separation, do this an imaginary other person, unless they will come join you on one or all of the twenty one days.
But do each day's game.
Here's today's:
Either sit across from each other, or sit across from an imaginary X.
Take turns saying this while looking into each others' eyes, or imagining looking into the eyes of the X.
"I am alive.
You are alive.
I am going to die someday.
You are going to die someday.
I love, honor and cherish you."
Pause between each phrase.
And if you have a complaint, or are angry at the one you are doing this with, so be it: say the words, "I love, honor and cherish you."
Even if you are going to get a divorce tomorrow, say the words.
Even if you got a divorce and they treated you horribly and you are bitter and wounded (which you won't be at the end of the 21 days), say the words. Whisper the words, but say them out loud, while looking into the other person's eyes, whether real eyes, or imaginary ones.
And, if you want to have a good relationship, and you are in a new one, after doing this "in the real world" with your present partner, do this in imaginary back and forth with your X. Even if the X was years ago.
And, if you are doing with with an imaginary X, have them say the words to you too:
"I am alive.
You are alive.
I am going to die someday.
You are going to die someday.
I love, honor and cherish you."
Imagine them looking into your eyes and saying this.
And for everyone, real person or imaginary:
go back and forth with this at least three times.
And it's fair, fine and maybe even recommended to do it one more time today,
just before you go to bed, or while in bed, before you go to sleep.
Or something else.
Good.
Twenty One Days to Relationship Heaven.
It will be, as much as anything else, a manual of how to use
relationship "issues"
as a springboard for Enlightenment.
Sometimes it will be written in straight go-ahead sentences.
And sometimes,
not.
Here's the exercise/ game/ action/ meditation/ contemplation for the first day.
Sit down with a person with whom you wish to create greater love.
If you are divorced or have had a rocky separation, or even an "easy" separation, do this an imaginary other person, unless they will come join you on one or all of the twenty one days.
But do each day's game.
Here's today's:
Either sit across from each other, or sit across from an imaginary X.
Take turns saying this while looking into each others' eyes, or imagining looking into the eyes of the X.
"I am alive.
You are alive.
I am going to die someday.
You are going to die someday.
I love, honor and cherish you."
Pause between each phrase.
And if you have a complaint, or are angry at the one you are doing this with, so be it: say the words, "I love, honor and cherish you."
Even if you are going to get a divorce tomorrow, say the words.
Even if you got a divorce and they treated you horribly and you are bitter and wounded (which you won't be at the end of the 21 days), say the words. Whisper the words, but say them out loud, while looking into the other person's eyes, whether real eyes, or imaginary ones.
And, if you want to have a good relationship, and you are in a new one, after doing this "in the real world" with your present partner, do this in imaginary back and forth with your X. Even if the X was years ago.
And, if you are doing with with an imaginary X, have them say the words to you too:
"I am alive.
You are alive.
I am going to die someday.
You are going to die someday.
I love, honor and cherish you."
Imagine them looking into your eyes and saying this.
And for everyone, real person or imaginary:
go back and forth with this at least three times.
And it's fair, fine and maybe even recommended to do it one more time today,
just before you go to bed, or while in bed, before you go to sleep.
Or something else.
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