connection no matter what: sex every day, connect in talk land, too-- every day

things are going shitty:
connect

things are going great:
connect

you'd think the later would be obvious,
but it's often the take each other for granted time

magical belief: I  don't need to connect
it'll all take care of itself

a feeling of complacency

and then...
this sense of not really knowing each other,
but we might spoil the magic if we connected
and said the truth

and it might spoil the complacency
yes indeed,
hopefully it will,
and
 vulnerability
will open the way back
to discovering
what the real two people really want to
say
and
do
together

and guess what:
that's pretty important when things are good, shitty, medium
any
thing

so:
connect no matter what

do it for thirty days
pick someone
or a couple of people

and see what happens

happy and free? is this for you? You sure?

How free are you?
How could you be more free?

What would be the price?
What is the price of not paying the price?

How happy are you?
How could you be more happy?

What would be the price?
What is the price of not paying the price?
Good.

relaxation

often we are doing something along
the lines
of holding our breath

waiting for
"something bad to stop"
or
"something good to start."

a minor problem with this:
we miss the now

.......
the birds fly to their nests,
the sleep
or
to feed their babies

somewhere
or sometimes
they must make birdie love

else where do those eggs and
babies come from

and they are just
doing what they are doing
and that's good enough for them

......
we have long hard days,
sometimes

how can we lean into them
and breahte
and sense our bodies

and relax?

tenderness

sex is great

it's the fuel that carries humanity along
first to make the babies
and then
to power the joy
of life

sex can be rough and bumpy
and bump and grindy

and it can be tender

tender is good now and then
slow down,
exult in the other,
slow down
and let the touch
and
the look
ease out

no hurry
connect

and then
in the non sex times,
if there are any,
tender there, too

the other person is tired
or a little frazzled
or worried
or hurried

don't solve it

don't turn away

just reach out
touch

tender
a
little tenderness
makes the day
and the night

so much more the
sweet
yes
that they are meant to be

that you and I
(and all of us)
are meant to be
yes

the importance of love

sex is good>
love is good

people worry about OM sometimes:
what about the love?

and then you look around at most marriages,
most relationships:

hand holding
sex
companionship
maybe

love:
well,
when it's going well,
feels good,
things are going well in the world,
and it feels like love

notice that good sex in a relationship
seems one of the main fuels that have the "love" feeling going

and yet,
looking around: people are in their marriage,
or in their relationship,
they are doing okay,
sometimes up
sometimes down
and it's a mixed bag,
to say the least

the glue without the sex, is really this:
they don't have to worry about being alone

which doesn't really point to OM,
but it could
maybe even should:

OM is a way to fill up on
connection
OM is a way to not be alone
and not have to tie the blessed relationship knot,
which many
are afraid to tie

many would rather be alone
for vast periods,
waiting around for their "soul" mate
or at least "the one"

and if "the one" doesn't think
they are the special "one"
it won't work

so there's a lot of sifting,
a lot of waiting
a lot of feeling bad
and alone

now this has a couple of solutions:

one: learn to feel good alone,
which means,
really,
to meditate

and two:
learn to OM,
which means,
deeply,
to learn how to meditate with another,
with sex up and flowing

so when you're single
meditate and
OM

and when you have a partner,
meditate and
OM

and what's love got to do with it?

everything:
you find yourself in love
we find ourselves in love,

it's when we can be exactly who we are
and this is fine
or great
or fun
or charming

with the other person

there's more to it:
love is a pretty big
one
for
today

Chris