Last Chapter: Principle 8--Save the world , in a happy, sexy, awake way

Principle #8: Save the World

Make a Huge Difference

While staying happy and sexy and learning and growing and delighting in every moment of the way.

The world is a mess.

Turn on the TV. Look at the papers.

Notice all the recent natural disasters brought about by climate change.

Witness the government officials ignorant of this.

Witness the poverty and racism and wars raging. 

Witness all the latest messes.

People are having a hard time being kind and fair and loving to each other.

The world is having a hard time being kind and fair to all its humans.

We as a species might as well be considered at war with Nature, which seems a bit crazy, since we ultimately spring from nature.

A mess.

A mess.

And what are we going to do?

Save the World Game #1

Think of one area you’d like to make a difference

Do any small step toward that today.

This is silly, and we often just plain believe the story we tell ourselves: “No time.”

And we can trust our email to bring us, almost instantly, an opportunity.

I rarely look at my email, and needed a break from a couple hours of writing.

So I opened it.

Move.On had an inspiring and wonderful video about the successes of progressive and good hearted people this year, and the work still to be done. They had a box to click to donate.

So I did.

Not much, and as it was part of hundreds of thousands of others, I do hope and believe that will be part of the world I’m trying to be a happy revolutionary in.

And, it’s time to bid you adieu.

We’ll play three more games and then you are off on the adventure of a lifetime.

Have more sex.

Be awake in the present.

Get healthier. (next book, raw plus smart eating plus love lust and enlightenment)

Stay horny.

Be happy.

Save the world.

How?

Love and Save the World Game #1:

What do you love?

How can you help more people experience that?

Talk, in four minute turns, about this

With your mate, with a friend, with a stranger.

This is about connecting.

And exploring.

The world is a mess.

Those who have “the answers” often make things worse. 

Those willing to listen and explore, often make things better.

Have fun.

Lust and Save the World Game #1

Have the clitoris stroking sex at least once a day.

Have some other kind of sex at least once a day, preferably in the early am.

When you rest, or fall back to sleep after this, feel:

Gratitude

and wonder:

What can I/ we do to create a more wonderful world for everyone.

See what happens if you explore from the state of connection and bliss.

This seems ridiculous in a way.

Good.

Silliness is next to godliness.

And this isn’t even silly.

It’s honoring the miracle of sexual pleasure with which God/ Nature/ the Universe made humans.

Go ahead.

You can expand this way.

Enlightenment and Saving the World Game #1

Meditate every day.

For 10-30 minutes.

Go into the awareness that is aware.

AWARE your thinking but doesn’t believe your thinking (or disbelieve, but just is aware of) 

AWARE of your feelings, but doesn’t believe your feelings (or disbelief, but just is aware of)

AWARE of your sensations, but doesn’t think they are a big deal, nor believe they are nothing. They are your body, right now.

No body = nobody. 

If you aren’t home to your body, you aren’t home to you.

And the key is

Smile and be AWARE

From here, either come out with an idea of how to create more good in the world.

Or come out refreshed

Or come out frustrated from having spent the time believing instead of awaring.

This is life.

Write for five minutes after meditation.

Don’t think about what you are going to write in meditation.

See what comes to you.

Good.

That’s it.

Time to do one or two or any of the games.

I’m going to go meditate for ten minutes and write for five.

Then take a walk and sense my arms and legs and love nature.

What are you going to do?

Passion, Purpose, Play, Presence.

Passion, Purpose, Play, Presence

Many relationships start in passion. Hallelujah!

This is fun, exhilarating, exciting, gives hope, floods the system with ocytocin, gets each person to realize they aren’t alone in the universe.

And more.

Presence happens. At least in the bed. They get our of their head. The moment feels good enough to be present.

Play happens. Silliness sneaks in, and games are played.

This is good.

And, then, sad face…. Passion fades.

There is not a purpose agreed to be present, and in the talking part of the relationship an inevitable shift takes place, from loving the other to ego function kicking back in.

In the love part, this other person is different and that’s fascinating. Like children, excited with the new and the unknown, when we are new lovers we are thrilled at the differences.

And then the ego function ( there being no such thing as “ego,” it’s just the pattern of conditioning wrapped around self-image and the me-me-me principle) kicks in and the different is wrong.

Ego function wants others to think, feel, act, smell, be like them. Eat like them. Be unhappy like them. Complain like them. Hate the same people they hate.

And so on.

 A boring way to live, to be sure, and it’s the lot of 99% of humanity.

Presence fades even from sex. Or maybe not, but sex becomes a relief valve, not a playground.

And purpose that never was there goes a couple of ways:

Arguing.

Creating harmony within boredom.

Creating some business together.

Having kids.

Kids gives a purpose and is the one area in life where many people can actually live more in love than in ego function.

So now the couple, though the passion is slipping and presence is there only in some of the slipping passion, at least has play time with the kids.

And they have a purpose. Kids are almost impossible, even the best ones, so the couple has to talk things through, listen to each other, discover solutions.

Many couples fight over how to raise children.

They don’t have a purpose of listening to another point of view.

Ah, here comes the divorce. ( Mine was that. Many years ago. Alas. We make mistakes. We learn)

And what would an awakened relationship be doing so that passion, purpose, play and presence could be there in the beginning, middle and end?

One, start from purpose and presence.

Notice all the exercises/ games in this book are about being present as you talk and present as you touch.

Start the sex in touch.

Start the foreplay in honest and present talk..

Two, have these purposes.

To be present. Always.

To be kind. Always.

To see any button being pushed as an opportunity to work on oneself.

Because, this is an overriding purpose: to learn unconditional love.

Which is a subset of enlightenment, and mutual enlightenment is a purpose of the awakened relationship.

And from that, awakened passion is an eyes open, slow, communicative, requesting and listening and not in a rush thing.

And it’s great.

And it gets better and better.

Play comes, kids or no, because life without being driven by the ego function can continually be fascinated by this very different being with whom intimacy is growing and growing and growing.

Fun.

If you’ve read the book this far and done the games, you are well on the way.

Keep it up.

Yes

What is a Life for?

What are you doing right now?

That is what a life is for.

And if it isn't "good enough"
what do you want all the little nows
to add up to?

And how wonderful do you want this little
now
to be,
even on a computer,
which we go to...

to communicate?
listen?
learn?
avoid?
find?
amuse?
distract?

practice being present?

all sorts of possibilities
are there not.

????


and what is a life for?

well,
you decide,
what would you like your life to be for?

good

Signing off and on the way to Orcas for the week of July 25-July 3

Doog is backwards good

good

Chri