Naked Make-Out

Week Two, Day Four: LUST

Concept # 11. We are mammals. Let’s get naked and touch.

We like to be naked.

We like our naked bodies to touch another naked body.

If you are too fat to enjoy this: eat raw for two months and lose weight easily. Eat raw fish and raw egg yolks from pasture raised eggs. That will be another book, and getting younger and healthier and lighter is easy.

If your partner is no fun to touch, touch them anyway.

You are married.

You are in relationship.

No naked = no lust.

You bought a book with Lust in the title.

You want more sex.

You want better sex.

You want great sex.

>>>>>> Get naked.

Three ways:

Lust Game #5: Sleep Together Naked.

Just do it.

One sleeps cold.

One sleeps hot.

So what.

Take off your clothes, both of you. The hot one keep the cold one warm.

It always works.

One of you has a body that realizes that it’s a 98.6 degree hot water bottle.

Make the other happy.

If you are both cold, hug tighter and put on an extra blanket.

Sill cold:

Hug even tighter and put on still another blanket.

And so on…..

Sooner or later, you WILL enjoy the right naked hug and the blankets will probably be too hot, and God only knows what other shenanigans you might get up to.

And you don’t have to have sex.

In fact, try not to.

But be naked.

And…. touch something all night. Even just your pinkies.

AND SPOONING IS RECOMMENDED.

You don’t know what spooning is?

Yes you do.

Okay. That’s the game, except it’s a life game, like gratitude journals, for the rest of your life.

Throw away your pajamas. No socks to bed. Do jumping jacks if need be, and keep hugging and adding the blankets.

Okay.

That was fun.

Now, we continue with the onerous assignments:

Lust Game #6: Ten Minute Naked Make-out

Take your clothes off first.

Decide if you need covers for warmth.

Bring the timer nearby.

Click the timer.

Start to make-out.

No rush.

No sex.

Until after the ten minutes.

And…. if you don’t have sex, that’s just fine.

And… keep making out.

For ten minutes.

Naked.

Try this once a day for a couple of weeks.

See what happens.

Lust Game #7: Ten Minute Naked Make-out plus “Now I am aware…”

Set the timer.

Be naked.

Start making out.

And take turns saying two to five things you are aware of as this goes on.

“Now I am aware of touching the back of your neck.”

“Now I am aware of where our thighs are rubbing each other.”

“Now I am aware of your hand touching my…..”

Why do this?

Find out.

Sex is not an escape.

It’s a deepening.

This will be immense for your WHOLE life, not just your life in bed.

hugs// Relationship 1

I had a Gurdjieff teacher once,
whose wisdom had a slightly biting edge
to it at times

he talked of the "California hug"
( he was from New York), as "bringing people
close enough
to stab them in the back."

it's funny
and we all know that one,
the hug that disguises an undercurrent of
competition and unspoken animosity

and still:
it's a try

sort of

but there are hugs,
in a relationship situation
that beat a thousand words

One:
when things are at some verbal impasse
and one or both the people want to say
"to hell with it"
and stomp away

try instead
a no talk
feel deep into the other person
hug
of three to five minutes

and if the message starts to leak ( or pour ) through
that
and there is more love wanting to come out underneath
the fighting words,
go lie down
and
hug
and talk in horizontal and hugging
position

see what happens then

(This just saved a beautiful relationship
with my darling, where we looked at the edge of
termination
and sprung back to the depths that I felt were there,
and she did too once the body's wisdom inside the silent
hug began to sing out to both of us)


And
Two:
(there could be a whole book of when and how to
hug
couldn't there?
For now though, just two, since they came up recently,
to great advantage in our relationship)

Say your relationship isn't in trouble,
but is "just" at loose ends
you want more to be happening
and it seems like it isn't
it seems like time to leave each other alone
for awhile
not out of trouble this time,
but out of a sense of "What do we really want to do?"

This is for an intimate relationship.
Don't go apart.
Don't go for entertainment.
Don't go for sex.
Do,
take off your clothes,
get under the covers,
and
hug.

Hug and talk.
Hug and sleep.
Hug and ....
you know the options.

Set it up as an hour date.

This often could be a substitute for going to the movies,
which is to distract the two of you from whatever is holding you apart.

Instead. Get naked.
Get close.

See what happens.
Don't demand anything.
Listen to and get to know each other.

You really have that hour to "waste."

It's about having a beautiful life
where love
is central.

The price you / I/ we need to pay:

some solid hug and wait and see time.

Try it.
You be delighted is my guess.