Who am I?

The central question in life
and one best faced before that last month before we
die

is.

who am, I?

what is this being alive thing?

Here's a quote I found on facebook,

A rabbi in Jerusalem was once giving a talk about relationships. 

He said, 

"When you're looking at the person you're with, 

the question shouldn't be, 

'Is this the person I could spend the rest of my life with?' 

Rather, the question should be, 

'Am I the person, 

when I'm with this person, 

that I could be with for the rest of my life?"

And, 

why does it have to be the rest of your life?

How about a half a year at a time?

Plants don't live forever and we don't think a California poppy is a failure

what of six months at a time,

to see what can blossom into beauty in that time

then again,
who am I?

who is the me
that I want to be

to live with me

and to love as many people
as possible
for the rest of my life?


ah, that might be worth asking,
sure
yes

why not?

Vulnearble

Vulnerable is another word for
real

we want to be real

we are afraid to be real

we want our deep close friends to be real

they are afraid to be real

ah, me, ah my ,
what's to be done?

talk slowly.

set it up so you listen
listen a lot

listen without thinking of what to say
in response

sometimes it's useful, at least I've found it very useful
to go back and forth with a timer

3 minutes each
4
5
6
7
building up as each takes a turn, talking while the other listens without interrupting
and both attempt to be present
be present to themselves
be present to the other

not just the words
but really present

and then there's this:

either in a turn of this time talk thing,
or just on your own,
start saying this,
"I'm afraid to say this....."
and then say it

see if the world ends

see if your friend leaves you

if they do, they don't really wan the real do

if they don't, they've been honored with your sharing what's the
real you
the vulnerable you

this is essential to
sex every day

extremely