Week Three, Day Two: LOVE
Listening, listening, listening
Ask from presence
Listen from presence
Inside of Gratitude and Present Awareness
That’s all: that’s a lot
Here’s a fun game today. We are going to ask a question. The more it can be from curiosity the better.
For example: when you were ten, what was most important to you?
When you were twenty what was best in life and what was most confusing?
Or even, the Big Dreams questions: If we could make a huge difference in healing the Earth and/or healing Humanity, what would that be?
There is a set of “contentious” questions, that might not be so helpful.
Like: “Last night when you said that this and that was bothering you, did you ever look at that pattern as coming from your childhood?”
Even worse, “Why are you so grumpy all the time?”
So, you get the idea: leave aside slightly or not so slightly warfare questions.
Ask something that would be interesting for your mate to answer.
Ask something that would be interesting for you to hear.
And do it in presence.
Look each other in the eye.
Say gratitudes before asking.
Say three or four or five or more awarenesses in the present.
Take a deep breath.
Be quiet inside for awhile if no question comes to you.
Take another deep breath.
Ask the question.
Let them answer.
They, too say gratitudes and awarenesses before they get into the “meat” of the answer.
Why?
Because the framework of this game is curiosity inside of awareness and gratitude.
It’s patience.
We don’t have to rush anything.
The questions answerer has five minutes, including gratitudes and awarenesses to answer.
Then the switch. The one who answered, now takes a deep breath.
And says gratitudes
And says awarenesses.
And then asks a fun and deep question.
So there is always gratitude and awareness between the mental aspects.
And, hopefully the questions will evoke responses from the whole person.
So, just because we all love the games in bold print, here we go
Love Game #11:
Partner A:
Ask a question after gratitudes and awarenesses
Partner B:
Answer the question after gratitudes and awareness
Take five minutes to do both
Switch:
Partner B:
Ask a friendly and evocative question after gratitudes and awarenesses
Partner A:
Answer the question after gratitudes and awarenesses
Take five minutes to do both
In all the talking, and waiting to talk, and listening:
Follow your breathing
Connect to gravity
Connect to the inside now
Connect to the outside now.
Go back and forth a couple of times.
This can be a lot of fun on safe car drives.
It can be a relaxing way to spend an evening together.
Essentially you are treating your partner like a new friend, about whom you have easy going curiosity and good will.
This is good for us.
This can be new for us.
Give it a try not just today, but three or four times a week.
I know, I know, things to do are piling up.
Oh, well. They are nice things, and tomorrow, we’ll get a little more sexy, so that’s nice, too.
Summary of Week Three, Day Two: LOVE
Ask and answer friendly questions.
Start the asking and start the answering with
Gratitude
Awareness in the Present
Be in breath and sensing and noticing the now, as you speak and as you listen.
Enjoy this new way of being.
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