men should know: for a woman, everything is connected

her sex, her hair, her tummy, her food, her smile, the lightness of her glance,

the way you smell, the way she smells
what she thinks you think about her,
what she thinks her friends think about you
the way her mother thinks about her

how you touch her

the quality of your attention

it's all connected


and one thing can bring the trance of all things being equal
and what they always were:

you're attention

give it to her

say the truth,
about you
and
about her

be free
and watch
and
listen
and
wonder
and
ask questions
and
then
shut up and listen
and
then ask another one
and shut up
and
listen
and you don't have to understand, nor does she
but she has to be listened to

and you have to listen

it'll cut through anything
and
everything

good