Liking first, then sex...... what is kin? What is kind? Slowing down. Slowing way down.

In relationship
sex is sweet
and sex is amazing
and often
sex
gets ahead of itself and has to carry the freight of the whole relationship.


too much.
too hard.

sex as sex
sex as om
sex as make out,

should come after solid connection

this is not "sex only with the special ONE that you are
exclusive with,"
though it can be that

it's more serious;

it's liking
liking
liking
the person with whom you are
OMing
sexing
making out

like
means trust

like means connection if
times get rough

liking means having communication
open
always

in a way it's bigger than what we usually call loving

and it's a lot of what's missing in what we usually call loving

in fact,
it is loving

but liking people

that's the glue

..
but not golf club liking
not beer buddy liking
but kin
liking

liking that you  burn to be around
that person
a lot

liking that they matter to you
a lot

liking that you really, really are curious
about them, them, them

kin

kin

kin

.....

kindness comes from kin
family
close group

skip OM, skip sex, skip making out 

until the person
and you
are
kin