crap to compost to soil to roses

I have a friend, who is a therapist,
who took affront at me talking of his own
particular psychological issues as "crap"

As, in, yeah, yeah, take that crap to
your therapist and deal with it

He said I had a lot of anger in my tone

This may or may not have been true

I love therapy
and have studied and practiced many kinds,
as well as having been in a Gurdjieff group
that heavily used the work of Freud

so heavily that one of the other former members,
Hameed Ali, went on to combine psychology and spiritual work
to form the highly successful Diamond Way school

and,
so what....

the point is,
friendship was what mattered
and I didn't want to be good

I wanted to call that stuff crap

in the coaching sense:

it's all good and fine
and are you going to talk to one or two or ten people
today
about your work
or
what you love
or
what is intriguing about them

which is to say...

friendship
and/ or a good coaching relationship
isn't built on not having any rough edges

it's not built on staying safe
and refusing to ruffle each other's feathers
( mine were briefly ruffled when he told me of
my latent hostility....

and then,
hey yeah,
I do have some latent hostility,
let's have some fun making it more overt

so the next ten minutes were crap this and crap
that.)


This may or may not make sense....

the point is...

friends
and coaching:

it's about having fun
being honest
egging each other on to
the life they really want

being honest with our own crap
being playful and accepting of their crap

having a hell of a good time
not knowing especially what we are doing
but good naturedly moving things along:

either in play
in love
in getting things done

in opening each other up
in exploring new and more authentic ways of relating


which is to say:

this is good news

your lover doesn't have to be just like you
your friend doesn't have to see eye to eye
your coach or coaching client can rub you the wrong way

welcome to planet earth

a bunch of imperfect numbskulls
moving forward in the three areas that really count:

love,
mindfulness
and happiness

( and happiness can often mean making
more money


good)