You've heard the phrase, meditation practice.
OMing is a meditation practice. Sexy one. And not sexy in a way, because it's about being slow enough and awake enough to feel, as sensation, what is going on now.
and now
and now
and now
OM is a meditation practice.
Practice means you plug away and if you do well, great; if it's not so great, you keep plugging away.
How could you do it better?
And what is better in meditation?
Paying attention.
Being present.
For the strokee: being present to where the finger is stroking and to the sensation in her body.
For the stroker: being present to where the finger is stroking and to the sensation in his or her body.
This is seeminglya slam dunk, right, it's such a pleasurable place.
And yet, for the strokee, the temptation is to feel it's all "too much" and to check out, or to want to pull for climax, and to get involved in the idea of "too much" and not the real sensations.Or to wish her stroker were a little more this, a little less that. Or to maybe wish she hadn't said yes to this OM. Or to think she's not "really doing it right."
And so on.
For the stroker, good god, so many thought pathways to go down: am I doing it right? Where is the clitoris? What's the right stroke? Why isn't she responding? And more and more . ( With the great relationship ruiner: if the other one were just more of this , or less of that. Why can't they get this or that together?)
And it's a practice: come back to the moment, as you come back to breathing or sensing or emptiness in a meditation.
AND HERE'S MAYBE THE MOST IMPORTANT: WHEN YOU COME BACK TO THE PRESENT, DON'T ATTACK YOURSELF FOR HAVING LEFT IT
JUST ENJOY "COMING HOME"
Practice doesn't make perfect.
It makes awake.
Or, more correctly: it's practice in coming back to awake again and again and again.
This is what life is for. To wake up.
Practicing with a partner in the world of orgasm is a sweet path to waking up.
Perhaps it's for you to try.
Every Day.
Sex Every Day.
And each day "it" will be different, and all you have to do, is be there, be aware.
Pay attention.
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